September bus (PART 3!) Boy we're a chatty lot

[DisneyDiva87]

BFPs so far
NannyPlumForPM
mrsmummytobe
BushPrincess

3 BFPs

Awaiting BFPs
JellyBeanDavey ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 1st
JosiePosiePuddingAndPie ttc#2, cycle2, bfp 1st
PinkHat1 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 1st
Justhayley ttc#2 cycle 5 (months 10) BFP 2nd
clareyfarey ttc#1, cycle 3, bfp 3rd
Widget88: TTC #1, Cycle3, BFP 4th
Hendricks ttc#3, cycle2, bfp 5th
Chubbykitty ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 5th
VickyVix ttc#1, cycle1, bfp 5th
Bloumermaid Ttc #1 cycle? BFP 6th
RaRaZ ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 7th
mama31 ttc#2, cycle1, bfp 7th
Positivementakattitude ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 7th
Nulanoo ttc#1, cycle1, bfp 8th
Gingerandcocoa ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 9th
GinandStripes ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 9th
Purplegeekygirl ttc#2, cycle13, bfp 9th
Flame40s ttc#3, cycle2, bfp 9th
Dontsqueezetheteabag ttc#1, cycle1, bfp 10th
MrsHende TTC #2 Cycle 11(!) BFP 10th
ScienceGeekGirl TTC #1 cycle 6 BFP 10th
Englishteacher78 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 11th
Owlie84 ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 11th
Jaykay987 ttc#1, cycle1, bfp 17th
KillashandraRee ttc#2, cycle4, bfp 13th
blamber ttc#1 cycle1, bfp 13th
CoffeeGuzzler ttc#1, cycle1, bfp 14th
Refoca ttc#2, cycle1, bfp 14th
Toffeecrispyum ttc#2, cycle1, bfp 14th
Charleslingus ttc#3, cycle3, bfp 15th
SoMuchFruit ttc#2, cycle2 bfp 15th
Snoozysleeper ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 16th
panicmechanic ttc#2, cycle10, bfp 17th
Mistyautumn ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 18th
Italianwilking84 ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 18th
Worried ttc#2, cycle18, bfp 19th
Spirael TTC#2 Cycle 1 BFP 19th
Choccywoccydodah ttc#2 cycle 1 BFP 20th
coco808 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 21st
Cupcake1985 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 21st
Fox82 ttc#1, cycle10, bfp 21st
dutchss ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 21st
chattychattyboomba ttc#?, cycle2, bfp 22nd
PinkHat1 ttc#1, cycle3, bfp 22nd
Purplegeekygirl ttc#2 cycle 14 bfp due 22nd
Bambi27 ttc#2, cycle10, bfp 24th
crazylady2013 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp 24th
Choccywoccydodah ttc#2, cycle1, bfp 24th
onelifeonechance ttc#1, cycle 3, bfp 24th
NottaLotta ttc#1 c3 bfp 24th
Pocopearl ttc 2 cycle 1 bfp 25th
ImaginaryHat ttc#1 cycle5 bfp 25th
ExactlyWhat ttc#3 cycle1, bfp 25th
Leezl, ttc#1, cycle 2, bfp 25th
Wispaxmas ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 25th
cheesysmile ttc#1, cycle 3, bfp 26th
Greenface ttc #1, cycle 2, BFP due 26th
fifi669 ttc#2, cycle6, bfp 28th
Daisychain44 ttc#2, cycle7, bfp 28th
Monkette ttc#?, cycle?, bfp 28th
MrsB2013 ttc #1 cycle 2 bfp 28th
mama31 ttc#2, cycle 3, bfp 28th
gillywillywoo ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 29th
DisneyDiva87 ttc#1, cycle4, bfp 29th
Armylovin ttc #2 cycle 8 bfp due 30th
Lucyfluff TTC#4, cycle 2, BFP 30th
Willows tree ttc#2, cycle1, bfp?
Theborrower ttc#2, cycle2, bfp?
M33r ttc#1, cycle9, bfp?
Seatfor5 ttc#4, cycle5, bfp?
internationallove985 ttc#?, cycle?, bfp?
ThoraNomiki ttc#2, cycle3, bfp?
onefunkymama ttc#3, cycle?, bfp?
Rockyroller123 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp?
VJONES1985 ttc#1, cycle2, bfp?
BlueC2 ttc#?, cycle?, bfp?
Lulubelle26 ttc#1 cycle3, bfp ?
DuPainDuVinDuFromage ttc#2, cycle 1, bfp?
Pencilsandprams ttc#2, on cycle 4 bfp?
onefunkymama, TTC #3 Cycle 5 bfp ?

I'm hanging on Coffee. You got anything to report?

I have a really boring body. No symptoms or spotting or anything. If I'm really paying attention, there are some twinges and cramps in lower abdomen...but maybe I've always been having them just never noticed. Trying not to poas. Have a feeling that period would deal a softer blow than a bfn.

Woo! finally got a positive when poas!! Sadly, it's just an OPK, so not nearly as exciting as the other kind. I will be thoroughly tiring out H tonight and tomorrow, though. And then the dreaded wait...

coffee, are you going to poas a on Saturday or keep waiting?

I'm feeling a bit light headed, is that a symptom of ovulation?

wispa I'm going to keep waiting so help me god. I'll probably eat my words though. Congrats on the + opk. I was so happy when I got mine.

I'm feeling really shit today... Want to cry!

Everyone I know got pregnant within a year of getting married.

DH and I got married last December and Im starting to feel really down and feel like its not going to happen for us.... Not any time soon anyway

I know compared to some people we haven't been trying long.
And we have only been properly trying for the last 4 cycles... But I just feel down.......

Had what I think was a chemical pregnancy last month... And all I've got to show since coming off the pill is spots and weight gain.

I want it to be my turn and yet in the mean time more and more people I know are announcing they're pregnant and its still not me.

Not having a great day.

disney it could be

Also had the strangest dream that I had poas and it was positive, felt really realistic too

So tempted to test tomorrow now ( 10dpo)

I think that's why I haven't been on mumsnet as much this cycle... I just can't cope with talking about ttc and babies all the time cos its just not happening for me as quickly as I'd hoped.

My sister used OPKs the first month of ttc and got pregnant straight away... Twice!
Same goes for my sister in law.

I just feel like a bit of a failure

I know exactly how you feel gilly, just popped in to offer you a hand hold really. It has very quickly stopped being exciting and started to be stressful and upsetting, even though it is still early days.

I don't have a ton of advice, just to let you know you're not alone in feeling like this and I find even though it's horrible to have one of those days where you feel despondent, I often find positivity will return and hold on to the knowledge that it will happen for you. I hope you will be feeling more positive soon.

My friend has just told me she is going to start ttc, whilst I'm so excited about potentially being pg together, I'm so scared if she will fall first and I will be left behind. I know it's not a competition but it would break me a little bit I think.

Hope tomorrow is a better day, be kind to yourself.

Thank you

My best friend is getting married in October and I had a dream the other day that she announced she was pregnant at Christmas and I felt so sad (in my dream) that she was pregnant before me. Sounds so silly really

A woman in work came up to me last week and told me she's 16 weeks pregnant... I tried to be happy for her (I am happy for her!) but inside I was just thinking "why not me?"'

She only got married 16 weeks ago(!) and she was all "oh well it's so unexpected... A honeymoon baby... We weren't even trying or even thinking about having a baby!"

She got married months after me and she's already 4 months pregnant! I'm still trying and not getting anywhere. It's not fair.

I'm definitely having a bad day because I'm crying now!

Ah gilly I think I cross-posted with you, it's entirely understandable .. I have a friend who conceived first cycle so I thought it would be easy but it's tough emotionally when you get your hopes up I hope you feel better soon!!

aw gilly-willy-woo. don't cry hun x

Everyone has bad days :)

I've been in a right grump since af arrived last week, still hacked off but trying to look on the bright side.

I seem to have missed 2 BFP - well done ladies :)

I think it's normal to feel like that Gilly.

It is difficult when people seem to fall left right and centre. I went to a wedding early September. Everyone we spoke to expects a pregnancy announcement from the couple by Christmas. All I could think was she'll be lucky....quickly followed by (guiltily) we got married 9 months before so it's not fair if she gets pregnant first.

Yes I know it's not a race, but sometimes it can feel like it! It's difficult to to compare ourselves to those around us.

We're in this together Gilly

I've been married 5 years and it took me 4 and a half to convince hubby that it was the right time to start TTC and now I'm on cycle 4 too and he isn't really showing any enthusiasm so I feel like I'm trying to do it all on my own (I wish that's all I needed!).

I felt really crap about it all a couple of cycles ago, with everything else going on I got a bit snowed under with stress and had a bit of a breakdown but it passed and how you feel now will pass too. It is hard to hear about other people getting pregnant before you and that's ok so don't make yourself feel worse about it. Besides, all this is irrelevant because September is our month Gilly, I feel it in me waters (fingers crossed). Ride that DH like you're John Wayne Gilly We're here for the crap days too. Take that glum feeling and turn it right round to determination to DTD.

Have some that always makes me feel better even if it does just make me fatter.

p.s. it wouldn't hurt to tell your best friend how you are feeling so if she does get a bfp before you she knows to break it to you gently and also she won't expect you to jump all over the place and will be prepared for you not appearing happy for her.

Hugs to those who are down and who AF got

I'm also feeling unreasonably peed off as DP has just been given much needed work for a night survey on Fri night. Should have been tomorrow night but the weather is against them. So he's not going to be here Thurs as he needs to help his parents out or Fri now, and not back till late on Sat. And when do I ov? Yep. Friday Got another flashing smiley today and whilst we have dtd on both flashing days, he won't be here to cover the fixed smiley, or do SMEP. So cycle 14 will end like the previous 13 with bloody no pun intended AF. Feeling very dejected as whilst I know my body and his are working fine, we're old (40) and the chances of it happening are diminishing.

Hugs all round for everyone, it sounds like there are a lot of us battling with emotions today.

xxx

BFN- again.... oh well, another month of DTD like crazy coming up

purple just DTD as much as possible between now and then and do it in the morning before you go to work. The sperm can survive a few days so make sure you have some up there to meet the egg when it's released

Thanks disney no time to dtd tomorrow morning as I need to be up at 6am and he's SO not a morning person...! Ho hum. 3 days running up to ov and the day after ov isn't out out out is it? Am so unreasonably annoyed as the work should have happened last week but got cancelled. Everyone pray for very heavy rain in Bangor on Fri please

What we all need is a nice BFP to cheer everyone up!

Not sure why - but on here that makes me hopeful, and I might catch their luck! (whereas in RL is makes it seem like someone just stole my luck )

Do it tonight then and keep fingers, toes and legs crossed! Then do it again as soon as he gets home again.

Hi all, just caught up after a few days off...

I can totally empathise with the conflict between feeling excited that someone you're close to may conceive at the same time as you, and hoping you'll be first. My younger sis is now ttc in a more relaxed way than me, but doesn't have post-pill craziness to deal with (and they dtd 2-3 times a day -I kid you not). Also dh's bro is getting married on Sat, and they're planning on ttc from Oct (she is also pill-free, knows her cycles well and is 7 years younger than me).

I was feeling really rubbish about it all, then was chatting to my sis when she mentioned she was 2 days late. I persuaded her to POAS there and then, and while waiting for the result I realised that actually I'd be so excited if she was pg. Hopefully I'll conceive in the next 6 months, and that's not a huge difference in the long run.

It was bfn, and I was actually a little disappointed for her. Maybe I've grown as a person!

It's easy to let your emotions get you down, but sometimes a look at the bigger picture can be helpful. When we've all got bouncing babies this ttc frustration will seem miles behind us - so we just need to hang on in there (and console ourselves with when necessary).

Btw on most days that feeling of competition is still stronger than my new rational outlook so I'm not saying I'm some sort of saint - I'd still give anything to be the first!

Yes - I read they can live up to 7 days, so don't worry geekygirl

My H is the other side of the world and he wont be back until after I have O and he leaves again before the next one, so I'm really hacked off. I think the next time he will be home for my fertile week is Nov - seems like ages away to me!!! :(