Anyone about to start/just started TTC number 2?

[mrsm22]

Hi ladies, I am 31 and have one DS already. After my DS I went back on the pill but have decided to stop the pill and start TTC baby number 2 and wondered if anyone was also just about to start trying or just started and we could follow each other and share as we go along. I literally have stopped my pill last week for the 7 day break, and am meant to start taking it again tomorrow but obviously won't be, so I am very literally just starting to try for number two but am very excited! That's why I thought it might be nice to go through it with other people who are also trying. I have heard some people say that after your first baby you are more fertile but I am not sure so I am really not sure how long it will take this time. Does it usually not take as long second time round? It has taken a lot for me to decide for definite that I'd like another as I had an awful time in labour with forceps and 3rd degree tears etc which really scared me and must admit I'm terrified of another scary birth experience.

12.30. I am going into work in the morning and leaving at 11.30 (work in a different city to the one I live in but not too far). I think in my heart of hearts I feel that it will be bad news since it was exactly the same as my last mc, but my body is sending me so many signals - extreme tiredness, rapidly expanding belly, nausea which may be anxiety rather than ms! All this could, of course just be because the pg hormones are lingering in my body.

I'll feel so relieved tomorrow whatever the outcome, because we'll be able to move on. I've felt much more emotional these last 3 days just not knowing and trying to second guess what's happening.

Couldn't help msyelf from trying a digital pg test yesterday. It was positive, but said 2-3 weeks, though I didn't do with FMU. Of course, this could also show falling hcg as everything leaves my system. Aaaaaaargh!

Wish I had a crystal ball (or a sonographer on speed dial!)

You haven't been me me me at all mrs. Try not to worry (I should take my own advice!).

I believe, We all have everything cross for you for tomorrow. This is a very special thread where noone judges or criticises. Think of us as a virtual shoulder to cry/lean on.
Big hugs xx

Mrs don't panic. Implantation bleeds are very common and if u has miscarried then u wouldn't be having positive tests now. It will all be fine.
I believe will be crossing everything for u tomorrow.
My sister is taking pg test this weekend so lots of intense pressure in my family as we are all waiting to find out her news. No-one knows me and my dh are also hoping for pg next week...though I want it for her more as she deserves it. I have had bit of cramping but that could be anything. One more week to wait so going to keep busy!! Anyone else expecting (dreading) af next week?

Hi tinker. Welcome!

Mrs, try not to worry. You should generally mention bleeding to your MW / GP when pregnant, that's all. And because you said you had AF I assumed it was quite heavy, maybe wrongly. You'll be fine. :-)

IBelieve, good luck tomorrow. I hope you can start to move on once you know where you stand. I'll keep my fingers crossed for good news.

Toothpaste, fx for your sister. I hope you get your BFP next week.

My ovaries seriously ache today. This is OV pain as I remember it. Hoping for my smiley face in the next day or so.

We've had a lovely day out with somebody I met on another TTC thread last year today. First time I'd driven with DD as DH normally drives so we are constantly faffing with the seat / mirrors.

DD was given Calpol earlier than usual tonight and has mostly been asleep since about 6.30.

I've told DH he needs to DTD when he gets back from work later. Hope he's not too tired.

Morning all. How are we today? I'm pretty tired after not a great night with DS. He's hust feeding for his nap now, I'm really hoping I can get a nap too. Unfortunately he only really sleeps for 45 mins at nap times, which isn't enough time for me to get any sleep. Dozing in a warm bed will have to suffice.

Thinking of you today IBelieve, let us know how things go. Is your DH going to the scan with you?

Mrs try not to worry. I'm sure everything is fine. We all know stories of people with bleeds that turned out badly, but I think I know more people for who everything was fine. Even people who bleed for the whole pregnancy or really heavily. Your pee stick can't lie this long after the bleed, there's a baby in there still. If you really are fining the stress too much, speak to your dr or find the direct line for your local pregnancy support unit. They should be happy to put your mind at rest with blood tests or a scan.

Hubgry did you use opks before? I know some women never get a true positive result, just a faint line or low readings. If you think this is ov pain, stick with dtd even if the pee sticks don't agree.

Hope your last week of the 2ww goes by quickly toothpaste, and good luck to your sister.

Welcome tinker.

Good luck today, IBelieve.

Stacks, yes I used OPKs last time and they were bang on. :-) It's why I like the digi ones as the smiley is impossible to misinterpret.

And I got my smiley today, as expected! Day 15 as per pre DD. Shame DH is too tired to, umm, finish the task in hand. The last time it worked properly was Monday.

I'm pissed off with him really. I have to hope that some of Monday's sperm are hanging around at this rate. Grrrr.

How're all our preggos feeling today?!

Good morning all,

Good Luck for 12.30 to IBelieve xxx

Tinker - Hello and Welcome! It can take anything up to a year (I was told when TTC with my DS) so I would give it a little longer, I know it is frutrating.

Hi Stacks - I went home from work last night and did another pg test and BFP so feeling more relaxed about it now. I think you always panic with any bleeding. I know the light bleed I had when wiping on the friday night was a show, i had exactly the same with DS but then I had more of a light bleed after intercourse on the monday night, but the doctor said it was either more of the show/implantation bleed or just caused by sex (which i had after sex when pregnant with my DS) so i have to just believe it is that. You can't get to see anyone or ask for scans or anything, it doesn't seem to work like that especially when you've not even seen your midwife yet and my doctor told me that you can't just contact the hospital or early pregnancy unit until you've seen your midwife and gotthat all sorted. It's only Weds 6th Nov that i see the midwife so it's not long. How are you feeling Stacks?

Toothpaste - Good luck to your sister x

Well, we just had successful DTD. :-) I'm happy again now!

Those of you pg or not, did you all tell your dh when/if you were oving? Not entirely sure if I am or not but haven't wanted to put pressure on dh as it doesn't seem very enticing.. Not sure if I'm being a bit silly though!

Hi everyone, sorry I haven't been back for a while, had a mad couple of weeks! And massive congratulations Mrs!

I'm currently stuck in 2ww hell! My cycles are always 24-26 days, which put me due Tuesday to Thursday of last week. Currently on CD33, still no AF, and no bloody BFP either! Haven't been tracking ovulation but remember the signs from when I had DS and today I'm 16dpo or thereabouts. I'm just so frustrated

Spoke to my docs today and I'm going in with a sample, if that comes back negative and there's still nothing after the weekend I'll be going back for blood tests. He did tell me he's know it take 3 weeks for tests to turn positive so there's still a glimmer of hope but the longer time goes on the less optimistic I feel, especially considering I was only 3 days late when I got my BFP last time.

At this point I feel like even AF would be preferable to this, at least then I'd know what was happening and could get cracked on with the next go!

Hi ladies, I posted on here when MrsM first started this thread. So sorry to have been absent for so long. Just wanted to say congratulations to those of you who're pg! I also got my BFP about a week and a half ago so I think this group is very good luck!

Good luck to you all. x

Utopian, yes my DH knows, partly because I moan how painful it is and partly because he knows I have OPKs and asks if we need to be DTD!

How frustrating, Mitsuru. I hope you get some answers soon. It's like our bodie know we're TTC so take the mick out of us by mucking about.

And congrats, pencils. Let's hope this thread continues to be lucky! Were you another first month success?!

Hi Mits - Thank you x I am really excited. My trousers are already starting to feel a bit tight. x

Hi Pencils - Congratulations to you! I wondered where you had gone to as you seemed to disappear. So we might well be due around the same time. xx

Thinking of you ibelieve hope you've had your scan and some good news. xxx

Hi everyone,

Unfortunately no baby, so bleeding last week was an mc. Mw did ultrasound then sent me onto gynaecologist for 2nd ultrasound and to get my blood checked.

Said to wait for next period before trying again.

It was what I was expecting and now glad we can move on.

Thanks again for all your support

I'm so sorry ibelieve, I didn't know what the chances we're for you, but soo hoped it'd be a happy ending for you. Still, you will get AF soon, then you will get pg and it'll be a lovely, heathy and very sticky bean!

I'm so sorry too, IBelieve. I really hoped it would be better news.

Let's hope AF comes quickly and you can start TTC again. Xx

Hi IBelieve - I am truly sorry to hear that and have been thinking about you this afternoon and wondering what the outcome. I hope you are ok and like everyone has said, feel free to share your feelings with us on here and hope we can all offer any kind of support. It won't be long til your next AF as Hungry and Stacks say and you can start again. Thinking of you xxx

Thanks ladies.

I really don't know what I would do without MN. I really feel better now that we can move on and think abiut hext month. Just have to wait for AF to put in an appearance. Last time it was 4 weeks after my mc (still have my ttc diaries for last time round!) so reckon I will be trying again at the end of November/beginning of December and hoping for a BFP mid December.

It's so different though, having a mc with a living, breathing, screaming, crying, laughing, snotty dc sitting next to you (for me anyway). It doesn't feel as raw and devastating as last time because I have proof in front of me that we can have dc. And last time it took us 18 whole months even to have a mc and then ds, whereas this time I've had a bfp within 3 months of starting to try, even if it didn2jd in mc this time.

Guess I should get my trainers on for the 15k I'm running in 3 weeks time eh? (Was hoping I'd be able to just eat cake, but bang goes my excuse!).

Good attitude I believe!! Goodluck xx

So sorry Ibelieve

I'm so glad you're feeling so strong though x

Sorry Ibelieve i hope your luck changes soon xxx

I'm so sorry Ibelieve, I so hoped you would get good news today. As you say, you have proof that you can get there, so keep on running ;-)
You sound like you have a great attitude x

Just reading the updates now Ibelieve. Sorry to hear your news. I'm glad we can be hear for you though, and you seem to be coping amazingly. You know where you're up to now and can put the past few weeks behind you. Here's to moving on and moving up! And putting the running shoes on!!

Sorry to hear your sad news ibelieve think your being incredibly brave! I hope that you get your BFP soon. X