Anyone about to start/just started TTC number 2?

[mrsm22]

Hi ladies, I am 31 and have one DS already. After my DS I went back on the pill but have decided to stop the pill and start TTC baby number 2 and wondered if anyone was also just about to start trying or just started and we could follow each other and share as we go along. I literally have stopped my pill last week for the 7 day break, and am meant to start taking it again tomorrow but obviously won't be, so I am very literally just starting to try for number two but am very excited! That's why I thought it might be nice to go through it with other people who are also trying. I have heard some people say that after your first baby you are more fertile but I am not sure so I am really not sure how long it will take this time. Does it usually not take as long second time round? It has taken a lot for me to decide for definite that I'd like another as I had an awful time in labour with forceps and 3rd degree tears etc which really scared me and must admit I'm terrified of another scary birth experience.

Okay, have a scan on Thursday lunchtime. I think I will get a digital test on the way home.

Thank you for your support ladies. It is so great having you all to talk to. In RL I only told a few people I was pg, and have only seen one of them since the 'mc' so feel a bit in limbo right now.

But I'm obviously showing my anxiety on the outside too - one of my students (Year 9) has just asked me if I was sad as apparently I usually look really happy.

IBelieve - wishing you all the very best for Thursday lunch time. I will have my fingers and toes crossed for you. Xx
I've had a call back from my doctor, she has spoken to the hospital and they've said that my bleed at roughly 4 weeks is most likely implantation bleeding but also that it isn't a risk until after 12 weeks. Any bleeding after 12 weeks and I must have anti d. So fingers crossed for no more bleeding. I'm really excited and looking forward to my midwife appointment in two weeks. Still doesn't feel real.
How is everyone else? X

ah that's sweet what your student said IBelieve! Glad we can be here to help. So sorry to hear what you're going through, it must be awful, but I'm sure there will be a happy ending to it all. My mum had a god awful time when she was starting her (our) family, I won't go into the details here, but now she has 3 happy healthy children and 5 beautiful granddaughters!
Mrs I am still in shock for you! I can't believe how many people get pg so quickly after coming off the pill, it's no wonder drs prescribe it sometimes to help infertile couples!! It's so strange that all those messages you were writing on here and you were pg the whole time!! I'm sure everything will be fine in terms of the bleeding, you hear about all these women that (supposedly) keep having periods and they don't know they're pg. If they say no worries til after 12 weeks then you can stop worrying and enjoy!!
I'm feeling a bit meh today to be honest. I went to buy some chocolate earlier as I was just feeling a bit low. Babies do seem to be everywhere. I was in the co-op and they were talking about celebs that have just had babies, then some guys were talking about one of them that's expecting #2 in a couple of weeks. I just keep thinking about how awful it will be if it doesn't happen again this month. Just started my 2WW today and my optimism is kind of waning this month . Maybe it's just rainy afternoon syndrome.

Well, I've been doing lots of phoning round this morning. I have an early scan booked on 4th Nov to check baby isn't ectopic, got my flu jab booked, and found out my blood test results from a couple of weeks ago, so need to make an appointment to see the dr tomorrow about thyroid in pregnancy.

Mrs so glad the extra tests came back positive. Do you believe now? ;) You've skipped a bunch of the early waiting game too, so get your appointment with the midwives quite quickly :)

Ibelieve sorry there's still confusion about the mc/pg. Hopefully everything will become certain at your scan next week. I'm hoping for you that everything is going to be ok and you'll see a little heartbeat there - but understand how you wouldn't want to get your hopes up. Hugs.

Hello everyone else. Sorry, not much time to post. DS has started showing his temper and his boredom!

I had the same as windy with my ds. Completely thought it was p as more than spotting and was red and used tampax, drank on my bday etc! It then went away and I only took a test because it has been so short. It shouldn't be anything to worry about. They kept it on records and I did go for early scan but that was something I chose to do.
The implant bleed makes it even harder as u can't rely on just getting your af. It's in back of your mind going is this implant bleed blah blah! Lucy I'm with u. Kind of know I'm not pg and trying to get my head round moving on to next month. It's ridiculous as it's only been two months, and I want to appreciate my ds. We are lucky afterall! Weird q but if u do it at right times why doesn't it work?! I mean if u have eggs and sperm is it just nature and timing didn't quite match or egg wasn't good enough or just sheer luck? Prob silly but makes me feel better if I can make it logical!

Toothpaste, even if you do it at the right time you still only have a 25% chance of success. Which is why 3 people in their first month trying is so amazing! We'd have won loads of money at the bookies if we'd put a bet on that one, I'm sure.

And quite a few people will have a fertilised egg which then fails to implant. You'd then have a period at around the time you were expecting it and wouldn't know. Unless you did a test and had a faint line. This is called a chemical pregnancy.

It's all very hit and miss.

And don't give up til it's certain. Never say never!

Keeping my fingers crossed.

Of course am not symptom spotting again - have a rather round belly (though that could be down to birthday cake!) and am absolutely shattered (which could also be first day back at school after half term!).

I am driving dh crazy.

Will know Thursday one way or another and I'm okay with whatever comes our way. We'll get there at soem ooint I'm sure!

AM symptom spotting, not NOT symptom spotting! Ga!

IBelieve, have they not scanned you before. Good luck.

Good luck to you too, Stacks.

Here's to the next BFP. :-)

It does sound promising though, IBelieve. Though yours probably assuring yourself it can't possibly be, I'm sure. Really hope it's good news.

Good evening ladies,
Stacks - how many weeks do you think you are? And sorry if I've missed something, but why are you having an early scan to see if ectopic? Why would it be? The doctor thinks I'm 6 weeks already but it's hard to be precise isn't it?
Hungry - I wish we had all placed bets! I honestly can't believe I've had 3 BFP's. I never expected it to happen this quickly . I'm a massive worrier too so I will worry until I've had my 12 week scan. I just want to know everything is ok x

Hi Lucy - I'm sorry you're feeling a bit low. I was feeling a bit that way too so you never know.. You may already be pregnant too. You do right with the chocolate, it's good to treat and cheer yourself up. I hope it happens for every one of us by a xmas. xxx at the back of my mind I'm still a tiny bit worried about the bleed as not sure if it was implantation or due to intercourse or something worse but the doctor wouldn't let me have an early scan as she wasn't convinced it was anything to worry about . Fingers crossed she is right and just looking forward to meeting the midwife and inside just so happy. I am so glad I started this thread as I feel I've met some lovely people and made some great friends. We should all get together with our babies when we all get there! X
On another note, with events of today and yesterday I forgot to order our book number one. I am sorry and will order tomorrow. Is everyone still on for book club ?

Glad I've joined you all.on fb, good idea for adding stacks!

I'm not in book club but only because of raging time management issues meaning I know I'll fail, sorry. I used to be a seriously avid reader before ds but now with business to run vs small boy to run i'm scuppered.

Lucy I feel how you feel. Only 5 weeks TTC now but still no AF so not even sure if I can yet and am failing or what. Hoping for the same as mrsm, as was on the pill previously but I'm not feeling v positive..

Mrs I think I'm about 5 weeks, though not really sure. I have one blocked Fallopian tube (probably due to surgery a few years ago), and when I was pg with DS they rushed around to get me a scan ASAP. It meant I had to tell work at just 6 weeks last time, as I had a dr appointment, then a phone all in work from the dr, then the midwife, then the scan unit saying "come in right now!" I thought I'd see if they wanted to do the same this time. I'm not worried at all really, and the fact they didn't book me in for a couple of weeks means they're probably not worried either. I just need to look out for bad pains on just one side. I'm glad I'm getting an early scan though, it'll be nice and reassuring. There won't be anything to see though, just a little round thing and, hopefully, a heartbeat. :)

Stacks - I admire your positive attitude. It's exactly the way to be and I'm trying to he the same as the doctor was sure my bleed was nothing so I have to go with that. Will feel much happier when I've seen the midwife in two weeks. Have you seen yours then already? You, me and Donna could all be due at the same time. I think I'm about the same as you, 5 or 6 weeks. That would mean 12 week scan early December I think. If I remember back to bring pregnant with my DS, the midwife used to let you hear the heartbeat. I'll feel happy when I've heard that. How are you feeling, any sickness or just really tired like me? Xx
Utopian - I also hope you just fall pregnant after stopping the pill x

FFS, just lost a long post :-(

Try to recap:

Utopian, have you tested? You could be pregnant too!

I'm driving myself bonkers now after all you first month lot. I put do much pressure on myself when TTC. I'm now worried I'm not ovulating. I hope I am, but no positive OPK yet. :-(

We're going to DTD when DH gets back later on. It'll straddle today and tomorrow I reckon. Two birds and all that.

Mrs, I had an ectropian (sp) on my cervix and had 2 bleeds with DD. I'm sure yours was just implantation. Try not to worry. Xx

hungry yes, i've been testing once a fortnight using ICs (as they cost peanuts so thought might as well, until AF turns up.)
No go yet though. Ds took a couple of months but am just impatient..

I'm impressed with your restraint!

You may find you never have AF. The problem is knowing when to DTD though. :-/

How long do I not have to wee before it's concentrated enough for FMU? 6 hours is enough, isn't it?

Still no OPK smiley face, but my right ovary is aching. Maybe tomorrow. It used to be CD15/16 so I'm hopeful to see one soon. Though if I have another 34 day cycle it'll be due around CD20. Hmmm!

How's everyone today ? I'm sadly at work, I think I've been really quiet today so far and a bit in myself at work. It's mainly because I only found out two days ago about being pregnant and I can't say anything at work. I have told my mum yesterday but only mum and DH obviously know. It's hard because you want to shout it out x
Hungry - I'm sure you will be ovulating. I always thought you had to have a period to ovulate but that's not true. X

No, Hungry when I rang mw last week during bleed (at 6w) they basically told me to call back if bleeding got worse, but otherwise wait a week and then do a pg test.

No EPU here (not in the UK) so lucky I had already registered, otherwise I'd probably have had to go to my GP. With last mc I hadn't registered with mw yet and got an emergency appt with a GP who was not my GP and it was very weird. I didn't find him supportive in any way. So glad I will see the lovely mw team I had with DS this time.

I'm really struggling at work today. Can't switch off from it all and feel utterly wretched. I may cancel my last lesson of the day and go home early (otherwise I'm teaching till 16.30).

Sorry for me me me post ladies.

I just want it to be tomorrow already so i can move on with ttc (or if a miracle happens celebrate being pg).

IBelieve don't worry about mememe posts. It's what groups like this are for really. You can share stuff you wouldn't want to, or can't, chat to people in real life about.
Will you feel worse if you go home early and have no distraction, or better? I'd do whatever you feel you need to do really. When is your scan tomorrow?

Hope it goes all ok for you tommorow Ibelieve, will have everything crossed for you .
Hows everyone else doing? I hate having a longer cycle so even longer to wait if im going from last months cycle that was 37 days. SO im not due on till at least 31/10, had a few odd symtoms, but if AF is not due till next week still,would of been too early for anything! Dw lucy Ive felt exactly the same all this week! Hopefully we can be soon!

Hi IBelieve - What time is your scan tomorrow? Please let us know how it goes and remember that whatever the outcome (good or bad) that we are all here for you. Stacks is right, this is what we are here for and we have all developed a nice closeness on this thread. I apologise if I have seemed a bit me me me the last two days. To be honest I am just in a state of shcok. I want to go home from work (I finish at 5pm) and do another pregnancy test, just because I can't believe it can be true and I don't know why but everyone kept going on about my bleed saying to mention to the doctor etc that it has made me feel very worried and sad, and I should be happy about all of this. I shouldn't be getting stressed or upset but i am so worried now. I am in limbo as I don't see a midwife until weds 6th November. The doctor was sure my bleed was implantation so i am hoping it was just that. I wish you all the best for tomorrow if i don't manage to get back on here later and I am sure it might just be a good positive outcome for you. xxx
Apart from being unhappy at work, I am secretly very happy and cannot believe that i could be possibly 6 weeks already.

Kt - I hope it happens for everyone on this thread by xmas. It has been lucky so far. xx

Hi!
My DD is almost 3.5 have been ttc for last 5 months. Have not been on any contraception since I was pregnant with my DD. Am going to carry on for another 2/3 months then may think about going Dr's to check if things are ok! Xxxx