Anyone about to start/just started TTC number 2?

[mrsm22]

Hi ladies, I am 31 and have one DS already. After my DS I went back on the pill but have decided to stop the pill and start TTC baby number 2 and wondered if anyone was also just about to start trying or just started and we could follow each other and share as we go along. I literally have stopped my pill last week for the 7 day break, and am meant to start taking it again tomorrow but obviously won't be, so I am very literally just starting to try for number two but am very excited! That's why I thought it might be nice to go through it with other people who are also trying. I have heard some people say that after your first baby you are more fertile but I am not sure so I am really not sure how long it will take this time. Does it usually not take as long second time round? It has taken a lot for me to decide for definite that I'd like another as I had an awful time in labour with forceps and 3rd degree tears etc which really scared me and must admit I'm terrified of another scary birth experience.

Yeah hopefully they are having a big chat mrs! Have a lovely meal out, are you still going to TGI’s? I’ve not been there in years! We usually go to Nandos now if we go out, as DH obsessed with chicken! Sorry ours is all gone! I was very hungry, and love a good roast on a Sunday! Fingers crossed for us all that we are by then! Would of been lovely to share some good news with family and friends around Xmas/new year time!

Hi Kt, I love a roast dinner too. We were going to go to TGI's as the kids menu is really good and my DH loves a burger. Anyway not quite as exciting but DH decided he didn't want to go out so we've ended up with fish and chips (not my fave ) but my DS likes a fish out of the batter and a few chips. My DH works Friday night and Saturday night so Sunday's and Monday's are like our weekend and we often go out for a meal or get a takeaway on a Sunday. I've never been to nando's. Is it all spicy or is some of it normal chicken. My DS loves chicken x

Sorry for worrying you ladies. I'm fine. Just doing bath/bed but will post properly later x

Hi ATruth - thank goodness you are ok. Have been thinking about you today. x I'm getting my DS ready for bed and going to watch Corrie at 8pm once DS is hopefully asleep. How's things ATruth? Have you spoken any more to DH?

Sorry for worrying you mrsm. I'm fine. I think my DS is older than yours - he was 2 in August, but they do sound very similar so if we manage that Windermere meet up they would probably fight over umbrellas

stacks and metal - it's not so much that DH has got cold feet, it's more that they were never warm! He'd only very recently agreed to have another so he thinks I am putting too much pressure to have one now. I have promised to back off, but explained all my reasons for wanting one - and for not wanting to wait.

Hungry - we did manage to talk, and I think he's softening slightly to my pov, but I should definitely just back off for a while. He'll be much better if he thinks this was all his idea! I'd definitely be up for an fb group if you can show us how to do it privately. Hotels are no fun at all with babies are they?!

Lucy - glad you're getting some sleep. DS has finally, finally started sleeping through reasonably consistently and it makes soooo much difference to my energy levels and general wellbeing.

We had a lovely day despite our difference of opinion. Met two different couples who are both expecting No2 though - how to torture myself! We knew about one of them - she's virtually ready to pop - but with the other couple it was a bit of a shock when they announced it. While I was soo happy for them, I was feeling a bit "when will it be myyyyy turn?" inside. On the plus side, with both sets of friends, DH snuck in "what will it be like when there's four of them running around?" and smiled when I said "where's the fourth coming from?"

Haha that's brilliant ATruth! Turning it back on him! Glad you sorted it out between you, I must admit I've been wary of my DH turning around to me and saying back off a bit! He think's I'm mad for wanting it now and for thinking there's a problem because it hasn't happened. It's hard hearing other peoples news isn't it, I just heard about someone I know having #2, they're all snuggled up cuddling their new born baby now, and you do kind of feel like when is it going to be me!!!!
I don't think I've ever been to a Nandos, I like Frankie and Bennies, but the nearest one to us is about an hour away. I am rather partial to a KFC sometimes though I just love their chicken!! My DH also works friday and saturday nights mrs,(and thursday and sunday nights) so the weekend totally isn't a weekend for us! I quite like having our weekend during the middle of the week though, it's not as busy everywhere!
I also have switched the heating on, been trying to hold out for as long as possible! Some snow would be quite exciting before christmas I think...it will be so nice this year to see DD playing in the snow, she wasn't walking when we had it last year.

ATruth, I'm glad you've talked and now seem to have a good understanding of what the other wants and where you're up to. I hope you get to TTC soon.

And with a secret group on FB, nobody can see that you're a member or that you're posting there apart from other group members. I'm a member of 3 others - all MN based - so know they work :-) The posts will show in your feed, but only you can see them.

I'm glad we're home now. I'm tired and want my own bed. DTD starts tonight too. Yay! (Yawn!)

Our heating is also on. Brrrrrrr.

Good morning all,
ATruth - also really glad you and DH have talked. I think you should carry on as you are, don't call it actively trying but know that you still sort of are and if you talk less about wanting a baby and he will think sex is more about fun and the enjoyment than just trying to conceive. You know what men are like! Your DS is a bit older than mine, he will be two at end of December. They do sound as though they'd get along. How are you feeling anyway?
Lucy - my DH works Tuesday night, Friday night and Saturday night. You just hVe to get used to it, don't you? I've never been a fan of him working Saturday night but it comes with the job.
I've had two bad nights with DS now, he won't seem to go bVk in his own bed but wants to sleep with us, bear hugging me all night (which is really nice) but difficult to sleep properly and err anything else. Any suggestions?
Hungry - Bet you're glad to he home now but glad you had a good weeks d. When are you planning to do the Facebook thing and set it up? Will be really good. I hope Donna will join it too.
Donna - how are you?
Metal- how are you?

Morning! The group is ready to go with just me and KT as lonely members! :-)

I've not had PMs from anyone else (that MN has told me about!) so send me your details if you'd like to join. :-)

Might try for more sleep now. If I can!

Glad you and DH talked things through ATruth. Hopefully he'll relax a bit if you just stop talking about ttc for a while (without actually stopping to try...)

Hungry glad you had a lovely time for your anniversary. DH and I had our third anniversary this year and had our first night away without DD since she was born - it was bliss!

I probably won't join the FB group if that's ok as I'm a bit paranoid about giving away personal info and photos etc. on the Internet. I hope that doesn't offend anyone!

I'm feeling much more positive again mrsm, CD2 today and I'm convinced this wil be our month! (positive thinking and all that...) Just waiting for AF to bugger off so we can back to dtd. Mind you, by the time the 2ww comes around I'll probably be a nervous wreck again. But to take my mind off things I applied for a new job yesterday! It's more to test the waters really as I don't think I could actually take the job (too far away and full-time), but it's a slightly different role to what I've done in the past and I'm just curious to see whether I can get an interview.

Hi Metalhead - that's great that you've applied for an exciting new job. Are you just part time now? I wouldn't be able to go back full time I struggle now do one 3 days a week and really miss my DS those 3 days. Let us know if you get an interview Metal and good luck. Are you happy in your existing job or just fancy a change?
Hungry - I think me and Lucyjojo will make another 2 members. I think Lucy said she wanted to join and I just need to reactivity my account which I think I did last night. What happens then, do we just get an invite to the group? I'm happy to share info and photo 'a etc with you ladies but understand Metal that you don't and that's fine x

Hi Metal! No worries about FB, it's not for everyone. :-)

Good luck with the application. Always interesting to test waters with these things!

Mrs, you need to PM me your real name / email address / description of your profile picture. I'll then send you a friend request. Once you've accepted me I'll add you to the group. :-)

We're just back from swimming and DD has zonked on my lap. I'll have to move her so I can get a drink though!

It's chucking it down here. I doubt I'll be going for any walks later on. Boo!

How is everyone tonight? Have you all buggered off to fb? I've pmed you my details Hungry.

My af was due today but hasn't shown up. Lots of cramping and a bfn though so I imagine it will arrive tomorrow. Dh was muttering something about needing a bigger car earlier. Looking hopeful again...

I'm still here! Not much to report though.

That sounds promising about the car ATruth, hopefully means your DH is getting used to the idea of a second.

mrs I work 3 days a week too and couldn't really afford to go full time unless I got a lot more money as we'd need a second car then to get DD to nursery on Thursdays when my DH works away. I really don't like my current job though and don't want to be doing this for the rest of my life, so just putting some feelers out. Got an email yesterday saying if I haven't been contacted within 5 working days I haven't got an interview, so we shall see.

Morning all!
ATruth - Good news about DH, I think it's sounding more positive. Sorry AF got you and for your BFN. I haven't buggered off to FB yet, I don't use it much but I'm happy to go on for our group. I hope we are all still going to go on here though as I prefer Mumsnet to Facebook. Will he jive for us all to see pics of our babies etc x
Hungry - once DH has gone to work and my DS us having his morning sleep I will get the FB thing sorted out and will pm you if I have any probs.
Metal - let's see what happens then if you hear about the job. Will you still work when you have 2 DC do you think?

That's the plan mrsm, though I'm sure the logistics of nursery drop off plus school run will be mind-boggling. But I'm not cut out to be a SAHM, towards the end of my year off with DD I was so ready to go back to work!

I also like to have the independence of earning my own money, and even though in the beginning there wasn't much left over after nursery fees it is enough that we'd miss it if I didn't earn anything. Plus I never really got much satisfaction from being a mum (probably because I don't think I'm very good at it), and work does give me at least a little bit of that.

That sounds promising, ATruth. Keeping my fingers crossed for you. :-)

Metalhead, I'm sure you're a great mum. I bet we all have doubts about our 'skills' as a parent, but it doesn't mean we aren't good at it!

I've been awake a lot of the night with teething DD and feel rotten. Ah well, she's asleep now, which is good.

We won't disappear to FB, it's just nice to have for photos. Including scan photos etc :-) So we will need it soon!

Metalhead - I bet you are a fantastic mum and you certainly come across as one to me on here! Hungry is right , we all doing ourselves. I'll be honest, there are many things I'd do differently next time such as the making baby stay in own bed instead like I have done with my DS. I don't think my DS will go back in his own bed now until he's talking properly and I can take him shopping and ask him to choose a nice big boys bed! Also things like eating, my DS gets down from the table now and last night I was chasing him round the lounge with spoonfuls of his tea. But we all learn x
Hungry - I'm excited about the FB thing. I'll be going on at lunch time and am I looking for you and adding you as a friend ?

Hi all. I'd like to join a fb group, but I don't think pm works on the mobile website. Metal some other mn people I'm on fb with just create a fake fb profile for the groups. Your 'real' name could be Mrs Metal Head :)

Not much to report from me really, just trying to get DS to nap.

I think I maybe saw the tiniest hint of a bit of a second line on an ic this morning. However it was hours after taking the test (distracted by breakfasting DS), so I'm not going to get my hopes up.

Stacks, I've sent a pm for you to respond to. I'm on the mobile site and it does work for me. :-)

Mrs, I've sent you a friend request. Good to see FB being an arse as usual though!

I still feel exhausted. I'm hoping DD has a lovely long nap now so I can join in. After DTD, ha ha! The things you gave to do with a DH who's working at night!

Afternoon all, just put DD down for her afternoon nap again.
hungry keep meaning to get around to the pm-ing you! Will do it soon as I've written this!!
Stacks I am excited for you! Let us know asap what comes next!!!
Any AF developments ATruth? Wouldn't it be funny if you got your BFP this month after everything your DH has been saying!! Glad he's back on board though, it's probably just what we all need really; our OH telling us they don't want to ttc anymore - maybe it would take the pressure off and then we would actually fall pg.
Metalhead of course you are a good mum. Your DC is fed,watered and cared for - that's the best we can do sometimes!! I feel guilty for doing so many things I said I wouldn't do when I was pregnant, like feeding her custard and toast for dinner (not together!), or letting her watch tv. But she's happy and healthy so I guess that's all that matters really. Chasing your DS around the room with a spoon made me laugh mrs!
I hope we don't all disappear to FB too! We need to keep this thread going! If we post pictures of our kids in our secret group, will anyone else on FB be able to see them? My DH doesn't like the idea of pictures of our DD on FB.
So we got down to it last night, after eating chinese takeaway and some cider, so not quite sticking with my healthy eating plan, but it's early days!! has anyone else whose used conceive plus found it makes the experience more...err..enjoyable!?

Hi Hungry - I've accepted your friend request and I think I commented, if it worked! Has it worked, am I on now? My DH works nights too, he starts at 2pm til 10pm but usually works later than 10pm especially on a fri and sat night. I'm sat on the floor with DS, we have just built a train track and we are playing with his little trains going round with a movie in the background. Back to work for me tomorrow, gutted! No updates from me re baby making apart from we DTD this morning as I was too tired last night and fell asleep with DS.
Metal - shame you won't join us on FB. Why not have a look at what Stacks said but no pressure x

Lucy, I've sent you a friend request.

And no, only members can know we are members and see what we post. :-)

I've got another headache and feel sick and dizzy again. This sleep deprivation thing is a total bugger.

I love the idea of you chasing your DS, mrs!

ATruth, you're next to POAS. Can we have another live POAS thread tomorrow please?!

Hi Lucyjojo - get yourself on our FB group! And yes our thread continues, FB is just an extra thing where we can share pics if we want to and just make it a bit more personal but this is the main thing and will continue daily! We will all have to meet up once we have babies as I'm convinced it will happen around the same time for all of us! Oh and following my DS around the room with his dinner on a spoon is a regular occurrence in our house!