Anyone about to start/just started TTC number 2?

[mrsm22]

Hi ladies, I am 31 and have one DS already. After my DS I went back on the pill but have decided to stop the pill and start TTC baby number 2 and wondered if anyone was also just about to start trying or just started and we could follow each other and share as we go along. I literally have stopped my pill last week for the 7 day break, and am meant to start taking it again tomorrow but obviously won't be, so I am very literally just starting to try for number two but am very excited! That's why I thought it might be nice to go through it with other people who are also trying. I have heard some people say that after your first baby you are more fertile but I am not sure so I am really not sure how long it will take this time. Does it usually not take as long second time round? It has taken a lot for me to decide for definite that I'd like another as I had an awful time in labour with forceps and 3rd degree tears etc which really scared me and must admit I'm terrified of another scary birth experience.

Hopefully this club will turn into a expecting july/aug/sept 2014 thread soon!!
Hello toothpaste. Isn't it horrible that you get early pg symptoms but then end up getting your AF? There must have been some really weird bugs going around recently, or we are all just too stressed out about getting pg and focusing too hard on what our bodies are doing.
metalhead, it's lovely that your DH was understanding about it. I like the sound of your new DTD regime, I think I'm going to go for something similar.
Happy Anniversary hungry, hope you have a lovely time, and who knows it might be the big bright city lights that do it for you!
Mrs I think toddler shoes in general are pretty awful, is it just me? They are either very boyish and clumpy, or girly and sparkly, or completely ridiculously overpriced!!
I guess I must be the baby of the group...excuse the pun....I'm 27. I got married when I was 21 and have always known that I wanted children. There is 8 and 10 years respectively between me and my sister and brother, so I kind of feel like I grew up as an only child. I did want 4 (!) children originally, after having my DD I have gone down to 3!! I just really want a whole gaggle of small children running around! I regret not starting sooner too, my little girl is getting so grown up every day and I hate that I can't give her a sibling yet . 3 months of trying already feels a lifetime.

Sorry for you ATruth, do you think maybe it's just the pressure of TTC when you DTD that is putting him off for now? Sorry I'm rubbish at remembering what has been said before - how old is your DS? Maybe if you just keep going under the guise of DTD for fun, rather than with a purpose, which is of course the main reason any of us ever do it he will feel differently about it in a few days/weeks?
I bet Kendal is a lovely place to live! Does it get horribly busy in the summertime though? I live in North Wales, which isn't too dissimilar to the Lakes, and it gets so busy with tourists when it's sunny, it's such a pain trying to get anywhere to do anything! It has finally quietened down now though around here now that the sun has gone!

Thanks lucy, I have suggested we don't try, but dont try not to Iyswim. I should probably leave the thread if we're not properly ttc, but you all seem lovely and I want to hear your news so I'll stick around
Kendal is fab and not too bad over the summer. We do avoid central lakes over the summer though.

Oh, and ds is two. I'd really wanted dc close in age.

Your dd sounds adorable

No! Don't be silly! You can't leave us, you must stay! You know what will happen though - as soon as you stop trying it will happen! Maybe that's what your DH is doing? Reverse psychology? I'm not sure I've ever been to Kendal, I have a friend who is moving there soon though so perhaps I will be paying it a few visits next summer. (Strictly not as a tourist though of course!)
Thank you, she is adorable, if a bit of a handful at the moment, we are definately approaching the terrible twos, they are exhausting but wonderful aren't they!

Hi Donnas, I have never been there or to Blackpool actually. It's so nice to hear from you and that you still think of us. Please stay with us, you are part of our 'club' and it doesn't matter who conceives, no- one needs to disappear. I feel like we have all become friends and think this is a wonderful party. I can't think of what else to call it. Donna tell us about your exciting news, do you know how many weeks you are and when you'll have your first scan? How are you feeling? I know we are all very excited for you. xx
ATruth - Firstly, don't you dare leave us! You are one of us and that is that. No one knows what the future holds for anyone. Yes we are all TTC and all want to but no one knows who will, if we all will or when, but we all want the same thing at the end and we are all mums. You must stay no matter what. I agree our little boy's sound very similar. When was your DS two? Mine isn't til the end of December so I bet they are close in age and would play together well. Let's hope we can meet up at some point. I am so sorry that you are feeling upset and can understand why you would feel betrayed. Has your DH said why he feels this way suddenly? Do you have any idea what may have brought this on? I'm with Lucy, maybe it's the pressure. Although it is a joint thing TTC, I think it's us girls who always want it more and the men just go with it. I know my DH wants number 2 but he makes comments about how when DTD he is being used for baby making only etc, but I know/think he is only joking. I think you should talk to him if you're really unhappy about it and do want to be actively TTC but like Lucy says, if you are still sort of trying and just letting things happen I bet you will just get pregnant. When I was trying for my DS I was thinking about it every day at first and doing tests all the time but when I stopped thinking about it and was more relaxed I got pregnant and was 7 weeks when I found out. The day I tested it was a bit of a surprise to me. I'm a firm believer in that things happen when you don't expect it. Smile and carry on and keep DTD (maybe make it more fun - not saying it's not fun but more exciting and less about TTC), I think I must do that too! Here if u want to talk. xx

Hi Lucy - so you are the baby of our group. I think I'm somewhere in the middle then at just turned 32 a few weeks ago. Remind me how old your DD is? It's so hard to remember all the ages. My DS is starting with the tantrums a bit as he is approaching two at the end of the year, and is very self-willed. I know what you mean about the toddler shoes, the smaller one's for when they are younger are much nicer but even so, the girl's ones I saw today looked a lot nicer than the boy's. I did get some nice one's but it was difficult today as DS was very tired. I am one of two and there is 3 years between me and my sister. We always played together as kids and used to fight and when we were older we could also go out together. I am only on month 2 of TTC and I hate the waiting and the not knowing! I keep thinking 'I could be pregnant now' sort of thing and I don't really know when to expect another AF. Anyway you are in Wales. I went once as a child. I am in Leeds. I have been married two years. You got married very young, but that's nice. My DH was my very first boyfriend at the age of 5! Although we didn't stay together from 5!

yeah!
I'm doing ok got boob ache and I cry alot. Like every day today the Spar shop advert set me off! Got my booking appointment with mw on 8th November I should be just over 9 weeks then they will book my scan from there, seems like a decade away lol d
Lucy - I saw your posts in the June club I hope things turn around for you soon xx

I'd like to hear some updates too Donna!! I allowed myself the luxury the other day of fantasizing about getting a BFP..I remember how exciting it was. I think I was only just over 4 weeks pregnant when I found out, my cycles have always been pretty regular and I was a few days late. Although the weekend before we had a party planned so I did a test and it was negative...so I got very drunk. She's turned out fine though . I can't wait to get that feeling again, it's so exciting, so much to look forward to, being able to share your news with family and friends...and I am actually looking forward to being pregnant again, although it was quite uncomfortable last time. I hope you're right about things just happening when you don't expect....I have a few things planned for the next couple of weeks to hopefully take my mind off TTC if that's even possible.
My DD will be 2 on the 8th mrs. Not sure I'll do much of a party for her, probably just make her a cake and open a few presents with family.
Age 5! That's amazing!! And very sweet! How old were you when you got back together then? I was 17 when I met my husband, and we have been the best of friends ever since.

Hey everyone, sorry for lack of posts! I think I may of,ovulated this week, had really bad period cramps thurs night that I had to take some tablets got again. But I had the same cramps last week too so who knows! mrsm think I will probably be the baby of the group I'm only 22 but because of my PCOS didn't wanna hang around TTC! Hello to any newbies! . Happy anniversary to hungry hope your having a lovely time in London. I haven't been there in ages, trying to arrange a Xmas shopping trip sometime in Nov! Sorry AF got you metal. Fingers crossed for next month for you. Sorry if I've missed out anything, just quickly read through the pages I needed to catch up on!

Hi everyone. We has ds first birthday party yesterday. Chaotic fun! I think he enjoyed it though grandma fed him loads of chocolate cake!
Atruth that's tough. Sometimes I think best not to over talk it with the dh. Maybe u could compromise and say you will get properly trying in 6 months and just have casual time before (meaning u secretly trying to work out right times of course haha!). Yesterday when everyone was leaving and there was mess everywhere and ds was being naughty, dh was like sure u want another one?! And I found myself following him round the house afterwards saying u want another one though don't u until he got fed up and was like I was only joking! So I need to know when to stay quiet.
I'm 36 so maybe the granny of the group! Need to get on with it- ahhh!! I am so impatient once I want something! Hope it's raining less up north!

Morning all, and welcome to all the newbies!

ATruth sorry to hear about your DH's change of heart, that seems a bit mean. Do you know why he's changed his mind? A year seems a long time to wait. Try not to worry too much about the age gap though, I think it depends on the children's characters more than age if they get on or not, at least to a certain degree. We might well end up with a 5-year gap or more if it takes us ages to conceive, but I'm trying to look at the bigger picture and think even if they don't play together much as kids they can still be close when they get older.

We also bought some boots for DD yesterday - I just can't believe you have to fork out £30 for a pair of kids shoes!

Pleased to report that DD has slept through the last 3 nights without making a peep! It seems it was her duvet falling off that used to wake her up, and I've now tucked one side under the mattress so that seems to have sorted the problem.

Morning all. I'm pulling out the 'big guns' today to post. DH is sort is dealing with DS, so I've got a little bit of time and space to really catch up. I'm using the iPad to type and my phone to read back too :)

I grew up in London, but really don't like it there. I don't like the crowds, and tend to feel quite unsafe there. I grew up in a dodgy area though, we were also quite poor, so London just seemed really expensive! However, I'm off down there to visit my dad at he end of the month, and to meet my nephew for the first time. He's 7 months already, I'm such a bad auntie! We're there for a week, but I've no idea what to do, anyone have any ideas? DS is 9 months, so it's need to be suitable for him. We'd be travelling into London from Heathrow area each day too.

Metal so sorry AF got you, you can look forward to some excitingly quiet DDT while you're parents are visiting ;) Glad your dd has started sleeping through. Sleep is so important for TTC.

I've been to the Lakes a few times, it's such a beautiful area. It's a long way for us to travel down though, we're in Edinburgh. My sister is in Leicester, so we tend to camp at the Lakes when we meet up for holidays. Not been since DS was born though.

Tooth of course you can join, welcome! Sorry your first cycle gave you just misleading symptoms, it's so hard not to symptom spot and obsess about things. I try and remember that most of the 'early' pregnancy symptoms actually mean just within the first trimester. Before your bro you're unlikely to get many symptoms at all really (though I'm sure every time I need to pee more, and feel sick all the time) I try to tell myself to ignore everything till I get that BFP. Happy birthday to your DS too!

Happy anniversary Hungry, I hope you have a great time showing DD off. It's our 2nd anniversary on fireworks night, looking forward to it, but we've not planned anything yet. Might be the first time we leave DS with a sitter and go out for a meal together.

Hi donna how are you feeling? I hope early pregnancy is treating you well. That first bit is so surreal I found, having a big secret you can't tell anyone, but also sometimes wondering if it's all really real. I've never been to Blackpool at all, do you live round there?

ATruth sorry your DH has gone all chilly in the feet. It's quite common I think, and hopefully will pass quickly. Do you know why he's saying he wants to wait? There's a few reasons I've come across - they want to know they have some control - if he says stop, and you do, then he'll feel more comfortable knowing that it's his decision to start trying again (hopefully after only a short break). Or it could be he thinks TTC is making you sad/stressed and so wants to 'help' by stopping TTC to make you happy and 'normal' again (only a man could think this would work!). I hope you can find a solution soon, but please do stay around.

Lucy I used to want lots of children too. DH and I have agreed on just the 2 though so far. It's nice you're having your children young, you'll have so much more energy for them :) I'm 32, so not particularly old, still, I think I had more energy in my 20's, I could certainly deal with less sleep easier :) I lived in South Wales for a while, just in a little valley though, so no tourists there.

I'm one of 6 children, with a range of ages. An older sister who I never got on with till I moved out. She's 18m older, but I think the problem was always being stuck together, we shared a bedroom til I was 16 and moved out to live with my mum. Then I've 4 brothers, two 11 months apart, who were generally friends with each other, and two 4 years apart, who played together loads and are still great friends.

mrs I really don't enjoy the 'I could be pregnant now' bit of the cycle, too much stress! I'm with you on not knowing when to expect AF. I'm late just now if my cycle was a normal 28 days, but I've only had one AF since DS was born, so technically my last cycle was 18 months!

kt hope the 2ww goes by quick for you! Nice to hear from you again.

Right, DS and DH are going mental. Need to try and get him down for his nap again.

ATruth, have you managed to talk to your DH yet about why he's come to that decision? I hope YY manage to come to an agreement about carrying on TTC. But you're not allowed to leave us!

A Windermere meet would be lovely. :-)

Kt, I hope your 2WW goes quickly for you, and you get your BFP at the end.

Metal, yay to sleeping through for a few nights. Are you starting to feel the benefit of more sleep yourself? Can't wait to get to that stage!

Stacks, I've lived in London too and didn't overly enjoy it. I like to visit every now and then and that's about it. It was great showing DD off and she got loads of attention. The downside was the over stimulated, over tired baby I had to deal with in the hotel room!

And 5th Nov is busy on here with Stacks' anniversary, my birthday and Lucy's BFP!

Toothpaste, I'm 37 soon, so I reckon I beat you to grandma of the thread! :-/

Donna, good to hear from you. I hope you're not feeling too icky. Have you told many people yet?

If anybody is interested in a secret Facebook group then let me know and I can set it up. I'm a member of a few from last time and it's a good place to share photos etc. :-)

Hi everyone, hope you are all having a good weekend. It's wet and rainy here today unfortunately!
Kt - sorry yes you are the baby of our group, followed by Lucyjojo (unless I've missed anyone else out)?!

Hi Hungry - are you back now from London? How was it? I'm the same as you , I've never lived there and don't mind it to visit and for the shopping and shoes but find it a bit too busy and hectic. I'd rather live somewhere beautiful like the Lake District (I can dream), but we are in Leeds. I went to uni in York which was a nice place but have always lived here in Leeds. I think a meet up would be great at some point, we should try organise and see when and where is best for all. Tell more about this Facebook group, that sounds interesting and like it might be a good idea. The 5th November will be a nice few celebrations then and who knows, maybe another BFP somewhere for one of us. Are you doing anything nice for your bday Hungry? Do you normally combine it and go to a Bonfire? Can u ask anyone's thoughts, should you take a baby just under 2 to a bonfire or is that stupid? I'm not sure whether to try find a nice small local one or not bother?

Sorry Hungry , I meant to say London is good for the shows, not shoes !
Metalhead - Great news that you have finally got some sleep. My DS has not slept well the last two nights and yesterday I was really tired all day, even while out shoe shopping.
Donna - Really pleased for you and can't wait or you to update after you've seen the midwife and more excitingly, after you've had your first scan! How exciting! I'm so excited for you and also a little envious too! It sounds like you're feeling well which is great. I was always really grateful that I didn't have any sickness when pregnant with DS.

Thanks everyone, Atruth sorry that your DH has suddenly changed his mind, did he say a reason? My DH was like that at the beginning, wanted to wait till Dec to TTC, as was worried we wouldn’t be able to afford another DC, but after going through all the pros and cons, he came round to the idea of trying sooner thankfully, a year does seem to be a long time though, hopefully you can have a good chat about it, and I hope he changes his mind
hungry sounds like a good plan for facebook, count me in! mrs how are things with you? Today we are all having a PJ day at our home, too wet and horrible to go out! So cooking us a nice roast beef

Mrs, just on the train home. Almost there, thank god! DD has been so good all weekend. Very proud mummy.

I think London is probably good for shoes AND shows!

The secret FB group would be totally secret from all your friends. They wouldn't know you were a member or be able to see your posts. They do show on your feed but only you can see them.

If people PM me their real name / FB email address I'll get it set up. :-)

Kt, your day sounds lovely. I'm going to weld myself to the sofa when I get home!

What's everybody up to today?

Have just Pm’d you Hungry I agree about London being good for the shows. The last one I watched was the Lion King there, trouble was I was about 2 months pregnant and soo tired I fell asleep through pretty much most of it! Glad your DD was well behaved too for you. We’ve not attempted to go to London with DS yet!

Hi Hungry and Kt, I'm good thanks but fed up of this crap weather! Kt - that sounds perfect, a pj day indoors. We've done pretty much the same as too wet to go anywhere but thinking of going out for tea tonight just me , DH and DS but can never know how DS will behave as he gets bored and doesn't like to sit. I've nipped out and bought him some sticker books and stickers to take with. Thinking of going to TGI 's. Hungry - that's great about your DD behaving so well, she's only small as well! Hungry I will pm you too. What do you need ? I rarely go on Facebook but do have an account. By the way, I'm a bit worried about ATruth as she's not been on I don't think since last night when she said about her DH. x

Haha I love that mrs shoes not shows! Either does work well though! I have just got back from an autumn fair - wasn't so much of a fair as a trying to get people to buy overpriced homemade jam! Nice to get out though, I did have a slight (massive) toddler melt down on the way home though due to tiredness. She is now fast asleep and I am enjoying some P and Q; my H works weekends. We were thinking about going to London, my H really wants to go to the Natural History Museum, has anyone ever been? But we have been a bit put off by train prices, how did you find the trainride hungry? Glad you had a lovely weekend.
My DD slept all night last night, not a peep from her, so I woke up feeling so refreshed this morning! Going to jump back on the DTD wagon either tonight or tomorrow. Action plan is 3 times a week, probably more during fertile window, limit my intake of caffeine and probably vino too. Do lots of walking, and drink lots of water...so watch this space!! Oh and use conceive plus. Any other ideas from anyone!?
Hope everyone is having a lovely sunday, roast beef sounds delicious kt! Are you cooking up a pudding too?

Oh yes I will pm you too hungry, I'm the same as mrs though, I have an account but don't really use it.
Hmm...hopefully they are having a chat today about it or getting down to it!! ....where are you ATruth?

Lucy, that sounds like a very good plan :-) We're going to try the same really!

We got a good deal on the train prices as we bought 12 weeks in advance. We did upgrade both ways to first class both ways though. It was much nicer to do that. And it was a special occasion!

We had a few tears from DD when she was hungry / tired, but other than that she was great. Especially as she met about 8 new people all at once. I'm not sure she liked the travel cot much, but it was only 1 night!

For the FB group let me have your real name and the email address linked to the account. If you don't know the email address a description of your profile picture and your location, if I don't know it already, will work.

Back home and on the sofa now with the heating on. It's lovely. :-)

Sorry if I missed anything, but I'm on my phone and have no memory!!

lucy like your DTD plan, pretty much same as ours! We’ve both been so tired recently though due to slack of sleep from DS creeping into our bed! so am hoping he stays in his bed all night from now on! I didn’t make a pudding no, did say to DH though I wish I had at the time! A nice chocolate one of some sort would of gone down a treat! Although I did have a slice of a chocolate pudding yesterday,. We’ve put our heating on too now hungry, far too cold now, the weather is meant to get worse apparently lots of snow from Nov according to reports!

We have got the heating on today too, it has turned really cold. Kt - your Sunday dinner sounds yum, can we come join you? We are heading out for tea soon.
Lucyjojo - our DTD plan is pretty similar to yours, trying to DTD every day or every other (depending on tiredness) and drinking lots of water, healthy food, natural yoghurt and still taking my Pregnacare every morning which is just the folic acid and the multivitamin. I'm concerned about ATruth, Hopefully Lucyjojo is right and they are talking today about it. Right getting ready to go out so will pm you Hungry later on.
Kt - we have the problem of DS in our bed a lot!
By the way ladies, I counted up on the calendar and on Xmas day I will have been off the pill for exactly 16 weeks, so that's 4 months. Surely I might be pregnant by then? And all of us for that matter and our thread can continue. Would he great to all be pregnant together.