Anyone about to start/just started TTC number 2?

[mrsm22]

Hi ladies, I am 31 and have one DS already. After my DS I went back on the pill but have decided to stop the pill and start TTC baby number 2 and wondered if anyone was also just about to start trying or just started and we could follow each other and share as we go along. I literally have stopped my pill last week for the 7 day break, and am meant to start taking it again tomorrow but obviously won't be, so I am very literally just starting to try for number two but am very excited! That's why I thought it might be nice to go through it with other people who are also trying. I have heard some people say that after your first baby you are more fertile but I am not sure so I am really not sure how long it will take this time. Does it usually not take as long second time round? It has taken a lot for me to decide for definite that I'd like another as I had an awful time in labour with forceps and 3rd degree tears etc which really scared me and must admit I'm terrified of another scary birth experience.

Hi Miss B2, welcome along! At least you won't have to be back in work long before you can leave again! You're very considerate you and ATruth trying to have your babies to accommodate the school !
I was hoping for a spring baby as we have lots of family birthdays over the summer months, but I guess we will just have another one to add now!
Good luck with the shoe shopping mrs, if it all goes badly you could just try and get him measured and then buy them online! I find they have a better selection online but then we only have half a clarks store-it's shared with another shoe shop. My DD is awful for shoe shopping, she hates having her feet measured and hates trying shoes on. I had such a job buying her latest pair, so I hope they last her all winter long, I think I'd prefer shoplifting to going through that again!

If you buy online at Clarks the code BDAY will get you 20% off for the next few days, I think.

My AF isn't too heavy either, though it has been achey.

Welcome to Miss. And 33 isn't that old. I was almost 36 when I conceived DD and will be 37 next month. Time is really against me! I was hoping to make the most of post pregnancy fertility, but it looks like I may have missed that boat. :-/

We're off to London tomorrow for our wedding anniversary. It'll be interesting travelling with DD, but I'm sure it'll be fine

I love the idea of little boys in sparkly pink shoes. :-)

I'm still feeling sick and dizzy. Think I need more sleep! One day.

Bed once DD has dropped off after her bedtime feed. Up early to catch the train. Boo!

Come teach up in Scotland, the admission timings are all different here. I don't really understand it yet head in the sand but my DS as a Christmas baby will actually be on the edge of the admission ages, summer babies are some of the oldest in the year here?

I've been so incredibly tired the last few days, even though DS has slept well. I've also felt quite nauseous, however I just got a bfn so fairly sure there's no 'good' reason for it. Ah well, off to bed now.

Welcome missb2.

I'm not good enough to teach in Scotland apparently. Tried to a few years ago but the registration process is very complicated - especially if you're English

Hi Hungry - how exciting going to London for your anniversary! How long have you been married? It was 2 years for us in August just gone. We had just booked our wedding and then found out I was pregnant with DS, pregnant bride I was but just a small bump. I hope you have a great time in London, make sure you fill us in. And I really don't think you've missed the boat for post fertility. I've always been told that for the next 12 months after having you baby, you are very fertile. It's just that how long it takes with your first is never an indication for the second. I wish I hadn't gone back on the pill after DS but didn't like the other options such as coil. I'm wondering if the pill will delay getting pregnant for me BUT it's now only my second month of trying so I'm not going to panic just yet and it's early days for you too. Thanks for the code for the shoes, I'm going to try take DS into Clark's as I need him measuring and like to see him try shoes on.
Last time he kissed a girl who turned out to be only a day older than him and when he tried on the first pair of shoes he ran out of the shop with them on and I had to chase after him. I'm going with my DM as DH is working. It's not good that you still feel sick and dizzy. Try and relax while you're away. I know it's hard, I don't get a lot of sleep and have headaches and dizziness a lot.
Lucyjojo - a spring baby would be nice for me too especially as my DS was nearly an Xmas day baby. How likely is a spring baby do you think? If we/I/ any of us conceives in say November we would be looking at August time.

Lucyjojo - just re read your post and realised you said you would have liked a spring baby (misread as tired). A summer baby would be nice too. My family has plenty of winter birthdays , all between November and January so an August or September baby would be ideal. I really thought that by starting to try in September that being pregnant by December would be easily achievable but when someone said to me today at work that it's only ten weeks until Xmas , it made me think that actually ten weeks isn't long at all. I think I will be quite sad if the year ends and I'm still TTC. I'm hoping this thread brings us all good look.

ATruth - we might share a son! My DS did a runner last time we went shoe shopping, he ran straight out if the ship with the shoes on his feet. Luckily those were the pair I decided to buy. He was also armed with a Thomas tank brolly that he grabbed on his way out of the shop!

Mrs, it's our first anniversary :-)

It's a year ago today I found out I was pregnant too! Then our anniversary on Sunday.

I hope I'm still very fertile. Not getting pregnant this time just makes me think I'm not. We shall see.

If I get pregnant this cycle my due date is mid to late July. I'd prefer to not have a younger baby in the year, but any baby would be good.

You could always choose shoes in the shop and buy online :-)

It really does sound like you and ATruth share a son, doesn't it?

Right, sleep now. See how long DD sleeps for tonight. :-)

Goodnight Hungry, I hope you get some sleep x

mrsm I think you really shouldn't worry about getting pregnant after coming off the pill, before I had DD I had been on it for well over a decade and then I conceived the second month!

I had a massive meltdown this morning, started crying in front of DH and telling him how stressed I've been and how worried I am that there might be something wrong with me. He was wonderful and tried to reassure me, and after a movie and some wine tonight I am feeling a bit better now.

I think I have to try and remember that a few months ago I was still determined never to have another baby, and remember the positives of only having one. (Which might work right up until my next 2ww...)

Have decided to try and stick with a new dtd regime next cycle: fri, sun and tue/wed unless the OPKs say otherwise - hopefully that will prove less stressful!

Sympathies metal, I swore all through my twenties I'd never have children at all, then meeting dh changed my mind.. Now we're trying for dc2 I want it sorted At Once! I keep worrying because dh was an only (not by his parents choice) and hated it, it's only been about a month for us since coming off the pill but i'm kicking myself for not stopping earlier. Having said that I was just like you for ds - been on it for years and then pg in second month TTC..

hungry happy anniversary! We're going to London too to pick up keys for our flat - where are you going?

Thanks, utopian :-)

We're staying around the Euston area as it'll be easier than navigating the Tube with DD. Can't wait to see all our friends.

How exciting to pick up your flat keys. Where is it?

I didn't meet DH til I was 31 and hadn't really wanted kids until we got engaged. Now I want a hoard of them! Or 2, anyway.

So jealous of you both going to London this weekend. I lived there in my 20s and much as I love the Lakes I still pine aafter the big city from time to time.

We have that brolly mrsm - bought after ds stole it

Well, AF got me this morning as expected. At least she turned up a day early to put me out of my misery.

According to my app the next fertile window will be during the week my parents are staying with us, so we'll have to pretend we're teenagers again and try not to make any noise while shagging!

Where in the Lakes are you, ATruth? We're in the north west and coming up to Windermere the weekend after my birthday.

Metalhead, sorry AF got you. Can't beat a bit of teenage-style sex when the parents are nearby! :-)

Hi i wondered whether i can join this group? i am in the same boat as in have a year old son and now just starting the terrifying rollercoaster of TTC#2! im in my second month. first month i did the opk (no messing!) and so we hit the right days. i had incredible nausea and need to wee regularly a week later so was very convinced i was pg but then got AF about 4 days early.... bit sad but have dusted myself off and moved on for round 2....the sharing with others really helps i find especially as like some of you, im only chatting with dh on it (and he isnt that keen to talk about it too much!).
my cycle is so much longer since having my DS - this adds to the frustration and the pressure as O time comes round.....goodluck all x

Hello ladies,
Hungry - I hope you're having a lovely time in London and DD is enjoying herself too. I've not been to London for a long time. Are you going to see a show while you're there or are you visiting people?
Hi Metalhead - I'm sorry you go AF but maybe that also explains why you felt emotional last night, I'm always emotional around AF time! It sounds like you have a DH who is very understanding and supportive which is nice. Thank you also for what you said about the pill, that's encouraging for me if you conceived so quickly after coming off the pill . I was on it also for a decade , maybe 12 years and then stopped to try for my DS and it took me 7 months. I know that's not overly long but I'd love this time to be quicker!
ATruth - wow you love on the lakes, my favourite place in the world! We got married at Langdale Chase Hotel in Windermere 2 years ago. Not sure if you know that hotel? It's right overlooking lake Windermere and really beautiful. I love the Peter Rabbit shops. I often say to DH how much I would love to live in the lakes but don't think we could afford it. We are in sunny Leeds.

ATruth - taking my DS for shoes after lunch, will let you know if he darts out of the shop this time and if he tried to take a brolly! Sorry my last post was meant to say, wow you live in the Lakes!
Hi Utopian - I feel the same as you, I wish I has stopped the pill a few months ago too! When did you come off the pill again? I was beginning of September (4th) so just into my second month. Have you had AF yet?
Toothpaste - hello and welcome! Of course you can join our club! I am also just into my second month of trying and my DS is 21 months. Praying to get pregnant by Xmas, I think we all are on here !

Oh Hungry - Nearly forgot, Happy Anniversary! x

We're seeing people who came to our wedding who haven't met DD yet :-)

I bet your wedding was lovely, mrs. We love Windermere and go quite often. It's only about 95 mins or so from where we are and most of that is getting to / through Preston!

Hi Toothpaste. Welcome to the mad house!

Hi Hungry - that sounds really nice , it will be lovely to show off your DD then. Yes we love Windermere too, it's over 2 hours drive for us. We haven't been since we've had my DS but I would love to take him one day when he's a bit older and take him to the World of Peter Rabbit museum .

I've literally juet got back from Windermere

I sat looking out of the windows at soft play thinking "yeah, I live here" [smug]

How about ttc no2 meet up?

Hi ATruth - lucky you spending the day in Windermere, I'm very envious! Absolutely love it there. Do you actually live in Windermere? Well I took my DS for new shoes but he's been really tired all day and out of sorts so it was a bit of a nightmare. Took him to Clark's and he's now a size 6 and a half F, he has got some nice new shoes today, but is it me or are the boy's shoes just pretty awful as the sizes get bigger? Basically in a few months when he's a size 7, the choice is awful and thru tend to look more like big ugly boats rather than nice cute boy's shoes! I think a meet up would be really nice, where would we do it? Do you work ATruth or are you a SAHM?
By the way, I was thinking about this earlier and even if/when I do conceive with number 2 ( if it ever happens), I'm not going to leave our little club like the others who have conceived. I will defo stay aboard and can keep up with everyone (I might be the last one).

mrsm ive joined a new group but I miss you guys . Feel like your all my luck charms lol can I please stay too? xx hope everyone is well amd hqvinf a good weekend.
Im off to Ribby Hall near Blackpool next week have any of you guy's been? xx

We live in kendal mrsm - we used to say the same as you ('never afford it...') but then a job came up and everything fell into place. We still spend a lot of time saying "we live here!" Our ds sound v. Similar. Same size feet and everything. We ended up with rather dull boots.

Windermere for the meet up?

I'm actually feeling quite low tonight. Dh is having cold feet and wants to wait a year before ttc. That would most likely mean a five year gap between dc which is totally opposite to what I wanted. I feel really upset. Betrayed almost.