Anyone about to start/just started TTC number 2?

[mrsm22]

Hi ladies, I am 31 and have one DS already. After my DS I went back on the pill but have decided to stop the pill and start TTC baby number 2 and wondered if anyone was also just about to start trying or just started and we could follow each other and share as we go along. I literally have stopped my pill last week for the 7 day break, and am meant to start taking it again tomorrow but obviously won't be, so I am very literally just starting to try for number two but am very excited! That's why I thought it might be nice to go through it with other people who are also trying. I have heard some people say that after your first baby you are more fertile but I am not sure so I am really not sure how long it will take this time. Does it usually not take as long second time round? It has taken a lot for me to decide for definite that I'd like another as I had an awful time in labour with forceps and 3rd degree tears etc which really scared me and must admit I'm terrified of another scary birth experience.

Morning all, how is everyone? I wanted to leave a message last night, but it wouldn't let me log in! So I'm onto day2 of AF, treated myself to a chocolate orange and bottle of wine last night and am quite enjoying not stressing over whether or not I'm pg at the moment! Feeling refreshed and positive for next month so I keep telling myself.
Are you normally quite regular stacks? Perhaps it is best to ignore what your app says and just go with how you feel?
Sorry you're all having trouble with sleep! It doesn't help when we're trying to keep healthy and fresh does it!! I think my DD is going through sep anxiety at the moment, she's been waking up 1-2 times a night crying for mummy, when I go in she's ok, just wants to know I'm there I think! I remember my HV telling me when DD was 8 months old that from about that age they no longed need night time feeds, they just want them. I would send DH in when she woke at night to calm her back to sleep, so she wouldn't see me and then want my milk! Very lucky to have such an understanding DH!
My friend, who's a GP ( and the only person that knows about us TTC!) has told me to DTD as much as possible before ovulation too, as the little guys can stick around waiting . Has any of you given in and told anyone about ttc yet? I'm finding it hard just relying on DH for support, and my GP friend has obviously seen it all before, so it's great to have this forum!!

Hello Ladies,

Sorry I haven't been on for a couple of days. How is everyone? I have just been catching up.

Lucyjojo - Great to see someone being so positive about TTC and i agree, I am with you for nxt month! We DTD last night and going to try every night until it happens.

Hungry - Sorry that you got AF, not long after me too. How is your DD?
And thr dizzyness will be lack of sleep. I am the same, walk round like a zombie most of the time.

Metalhead - So sorry about your BFN yesterday! How are you feeling? Join me and Lucyjo and Hungry for positive feelings about next month. Next month could be THE month!

Just a question, I thought after DTD that sperm hung around for 7 days. Is that not true?

Hi Mrs! Are you ok?

DD is good, thank you :-) playing on her gym mat as I type!

I'm ok about AF. Just glad things appear to be working and I'm not in limbo now. And 34 days is better than 17, so it's moving forwards.

I think 7 days is the absolute max. More likely to be 3-5. I only rely on 3.

And I hadn't thought about lack of sleep for the dizziness. D'oh!

Wow mrs everynight for dtd is enthusiastic! I'm not sure I could summon up that much energy!
I think I've heard 5 days, but I'm not sure. The apparent 'expert' advice is to dtd every 2/3 days so there is always sperm hanging around! so I guess 3 is a good number to work with like hungry says.
Next month will be THE month!!!! My bfp will fall on bonfire night, so real life fireworks for me!!

I hadn't spotted every night. That may actually be too much and you could run out of steam before OV. Every 2-3 days is fine, but you could up it to every night in your fertile window. That's what I'll be doing (and what worked last time).

Lucy, your BFP is on my birthday then! :-)

Stacks - af is due on Monday if my recent short cycles continue. Pretty much zero chance of bfp but that doesn't stop me symptom spotting

All those ladies who are staying so positive - how do you do it??? I don't know how I'm going to carry on with this for however long it will take without having a nervous breakdown!

I guess I've been feeling particularly down today because I had my friend round who's 3 months pregnant with her second. We started trying around the same time and joked that we'd be pregnancy pals, and obviously she was very lucky and fell the first month. I am really happy for her, but I can't help feel sad at the thought that we won't get to share all the pregnancy and baby bits together...

Might just have to crack open some wine tonight as I don't think there's any chance that I'm pregnant this month anymore.

Re: the sperm's lifespan, I agree that 7 days is an absolute max, 2-3 days is more likely.

Ah, Metalhead, that must be so hard for you :-(

How long have you been trying? 3 months? How long did it take you last time? First month is very lucky, and 6 is average. Not that that is any consolation. I took 5 cycles last time and went nigh on bonkers. And it'll only be worse a year later. :-/

ATruth, if you ovulate early you're still on with a shout. Do you use OPKs? As long as you have 10 clear days between OV and AF you can get pregnant.

Hungry yes this only cycle 3 for us, which I know is nothing, but last time I got pregnant my first 'proper' cycle after coming off the pill so this already feels like ages and makes me worry there is something wrong. Stupid, I know, but I've not yet found a way to relax and stop driving myself mad!

When you find it, let me know. I'm really hard on myself when TTC. I'm always impatient so TTC doesn't really go down too well with how my brain works!

Thanks Hungry. This is only the first month for us so I'll give it three before going to gp or trying opks. I have a long history or gynae problems so hope gp will investigate sooner rather than later if I ask.

Metal - I'm only so positive as it's only our first month and because dh has finally agreed. A second child being a possibility is a huge step forward for us so I'm excited just about that.

What a nice birthday to have hungry! Always a celebration, I was hoping my DD would be born on halloween, then hoping for bonfire night, then I was hoping for 11.11.11, but no, she was awkward and came slapbang in the middle!
Sorry metalhead, that's not so nice for you. Hopefully it's catching!! Definately crack open the wine. 1 or 2 glasses cannot hurt. I'll be starting cycle 4 next, which like you on cycle 3 isn't a lot really, but I also 'caught' first time near enough with my DD, and am now starting to worry something is wrong. To tell a secret I'm not usually a positive person, I always jump to the worst conclusions and am also very impatient. But this month I am adopting my Hs very own acronym -PMA, positive mental attitude! Maybe we should all promise to be super positive that it will happen this side of christmas, and who knows, maybe a PMA really will work for us all!!

It's really hard staying positive and relaxed about the whole thing, I'm actually not feeling too bad yet but it is only the first month for us. I got a BFN this morning, and feel ok about that too. I guess I had plenty practice waiting when TTC DS, so it'll hopefully take me a little while before I go mental.
I'm trying to look on the bright side of things - a June baby wouldn't be great timing, as there's a million June birthdays among family and friends already, plus my mum wants to take us to France next summer for a camping holiday.

A few glasses of wine sounds like a good idea, it's so important to relax sometimes while TTC. I hate the idea that not thinking about TTC literally helps you get pg quicker, however it is true that being more relaxed makes it seem like the wait isn't so long or so bad.

Hmm, that's all very zen and stuff. Probably just because I'm all snuggled up with my sleeping DS just now, so feeling pretty happy and relaxed.

Morning Ladies,

Hungry - I'm good thanks (actually naughtily at work while on here). Just wanted to check in and say hi to you al and that tonight after work I will be back on and catching up with everyone!
Metalhead - Sorry you are feeling a bit deflated with the TTC thing, I was hopeful that I would just fall first month but didn't. It is hard when you want something so much. But all good things do come...and it will for all of us. I am sure!
Stacks - Sorry about your BFN! I hope you are ok.

Lucyjo - Still positive, that's what we need to be!
Chat to you all tonight. So glad it is friday and i am then off work for 4 days, then back next week for only 2 days!

Hungry - What a great birthday on Bonfire Night! x

Good evening all! How is everyone? I'm so glad it's the weekend. Taking my DS for new shoes tomorrow to good old Clark's. Hoping to get him something nice and cute for winter, but every time we go the girls shoes are always much nicer and loads more choice.
Sorry I haven't been on here as much the last couple of days, just been tired after work weds and thurs and not really loving work.
My AF wasn't very heavy and didn't last long but still at least I had one. Hungry - I know you were disappointed to get AF too but like I think you said, we know we are hopefully in working order. Mine and yours might take a while to get back to something regular or more normal, me because of coming off the pill and you after not long having your DD.
Metalhead - are you feeling any more positive?

Ha mrs. I know exactly what you mean about the shoes. Ds always goes straight for the pink sparkly ones. BFN here too stacks so onwards we go. July/ aug/ Sept would all be good due dates for me. I'm a teacher so it's less disruptive to classes to leave at the end of term.

Anyone up to anything exciting this weekend?

Hi, I have just started too. I wasn't planning on quite so quickly as I have only just gone back to work after having my first DD. She is 1 next month. However, my age is a factor (33) and broodiness has taken over. I will only be starting this month but it didn't take long last time. Unfortunately I had a couple of mcs but it didn't take long to get pregnant again. I am 33 and my partner is 25 so I am a bit of a cougar;0)

ATruthuniversallyAcknowledged I am a teacher too but was flapping about a summer born! Not stopping me though.

Welcome MissB2

Yes, I look at ds and panic about him being a summer born, plus it's crap getting mat pay over the summer hols, but I also figure it's a year less childcare costs and the dc closer on school ages.

Knowing my history it wont go to plan though!

Welcome MissB2 - sorry, how is your age a factor? Didn't you say you are 33? I am just turned 32 a couple of weeks ago and think that's normal age to be TTC number 2. Most ladies on here are in their 30's.
ATruth - my DS likes all the pink and sparkly shoes too. Last time I took him for shoes he went up to a little girl and kissed her.

Haha. Do we share a son? Mine did exactly the same - then sprinted out of the shop as soon as we found a pair that fitted. He's either destined to be a shoplifter or he was scared we would force him back into the small ones.

Hi, I think I was just getting stressed that if I did want to have another I should do it sooner rather than later. Then again, I stress about everything!

I hope it does go to plan for you ! I have had summer borns that are more mature than the older ones anyway.