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Anyone about to start/just started TTC number 2?

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mrsm22 · 03/09/2013 20:35

Hi ladies, I am 31 and have one DS already. After my DS I went back on the pill but have decided to stop the pill and start TTC baby number 2 and wondered if anyone was also just about to start trying or just started and we could follow each other and share as we go along. I literally have stopped my pill last week for the 7 day break, and am meant to start taking it again tomorrow but obviously won't be, so I am very literally just starting to try for number two but am very excited! That's why I thought it might be nice to go through it with other people who are also trying. I have heard some people say that after your first baby you are more fertile but I am not sure so I am really not sure how long it will take this time. Does it usually not take as long second time round? It has taken a lot for me to decide for definite that I'd like another as I had an awful time in labour with forceps and 3rd degree tears etc which really scared me and must admit I'm terrified of another scary birth experience.

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donnas1984 · 30/09/2013 08:27

Ok peeps so further to last nights update AF did not show through the night. This morning I wiped and had clear discharge streaked with blood slightly more than last night (but still miniscule)... could it be implantation bleeding? I never had it with dd? fx!

SoMuchFruit · 30/09/2013 08:32

Morning all, hello Atruth and Mitsuru

Hope everyone had a nice w/e. Busy here but still making time to DTD eod. Think I ov'd Fri/Sat. Not sure though. Will keep dtd just in case.

I quite liked being pregnant. I was pretty sicky from about 4wks until about 25wks then it went, literally overnight. After that it was fine bar some pain from a fibroid (that I didn't know I had!) so I enjoyed it.

SoMuchFruit · 30/09/2013 08:33

That sounds like it might be promising Donnas! FX for you.

Metalhead · 30/09/2013 09:41

Morning ladies, and welcome to the newbies!

donnas that sounds very promising! With DD I had a little bit of blood, thought AF had arrived and two days later got my BFP, so fx for you. I'd say if you don't start bleeding more heavily today you're definitely in with a chance Smile

I'm actually not looking forward to being pregnant at all, I hated it the first time round Sad. I felt really sick all day from around 7 weeks til 12 weeks, and just really resented all the restrictions that come with it (what not to eat, what not to do) as well as feeling like a beached whale towards the end. And that was without any real health problems! The only thing I did enjoy was feeling the baby move.

HungryHorace · 30/09/2013 11:07

That's really promising, Donna. :-) Fingers firmly crossed.

I didn't mind pregnancy, neither loves nor hated it, but agree that the movements are the best bits.

I was sick til about week 17 and had slight bleeds at 20 and 24 weeks which were caused by a sore bit on my cervix, apparently. Scary at the time though.

My uterus has ached all weekend. It felt a bit like AF is coming, but it hasn't so far.

I'm not really meant to get pregnant for a year due to having an EMCS, but I read up on the risks and they're not huge. It does worry me a bit as to whether my body can cope with it. We shall see, I suppose. :-/

mrsm22 · 30/09/2013 11:11

Welcome A Truth! Have you just literally come off any contraception i.e pill or implant? My DS will be 2 on 28th December.
Hungry- if you want cheap but good pregnancy tests try Tesco. I got a packet of 2, tesco own brand for £3.50! Can't beat that. I bought them last weekend and I used them why trying to conceive with my DS. I got a BFP with one of those. I think the Clearblue ones are good as they can tell you how many weeks you are etc but I am sticking with Tesco. Cheap and good! Our DS is not with us every night but like Kt says , lately he is creeping in with us and I am soft. If we DTD on a morning we put DS in his bedroom to play, it's only a quickie though as all you have time for. Is it true that you should lie with legs on the air to help the swimmers get to where they need to go?

Betternotbitter - glad you both got broody at the weekend. Did you have lots of cuddles with the new baby?

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Stacks · 30/09/2013 11:39

Sorry I've been AWOL for a while, we're now in our first 2ww I think. I've no real idea though, as I've only had one AF since having DS.

Welcome to the new people, and good luck to everyone. I hope to keep up a bit better now. :)

HungryHorace · 30/09/2013 16:05

Mrs, I've never done the legs thing, but I try to DTD at night and remain horizontal for a while! I've heard that it's unnecessary as a sperm which is going to make it will do so whatever. I'm not sure though, but that's TTC for you...we just want to give ourselves the best chance.

I've got internet cheapies on the way. Just need to hold out now. Think I'll test at the end of the week. My BFP last time was on a First Response Early Result test. And a CB digi the day after (2 days before our wedding!).

And we only have quickies too. Sex for a purpose!

donnas1984 · 30/09/2013 21:37

Have spoken to dh tonight and we have decided that if I still don't have Af by the weekend we'll test! Lucky i ordered a bumper pack from AmazonWink Have been running to the loo all day to check! (saddoBlush)
My issue is I have no idea when af would be due ive not had a natural period since jan 2011! back then I was a 28 day cycle, got my implant out almost 4 weeks ago - seems like months ago!

Is anyone else in limbo atm?

donnas1984 · 30/09/2013 21:38

hungry and mrsm
dh and I dont know anything other than quickies ha! x

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 30/09/2013 23:00

That sounds promising Donna Grin I had period symptoms and a teeny amount of blood with both of my pregnancies.

We've just been using condoms (and knackeredness-induced abstinence) so no big hormone rush or anything. I'm still BFing though so hoping that won't cause problems.

mrsm22 · 01/10/2013 11:39

Good morning ladies, how is everyone today ?
Welcome back to Stacks!
Well it will be 4 weeks tomorrow that I stopped taking the pill and I've not had any period like symptoms or anything. I'd be really happy to get AF soon. I also don't know how long to leave it without taking a pregnancy test. If I haven't had AF in 4 more weeks (so that would be 8 weeks off the pill) do you think I should take a test then ? Would like to do it sooner but hate the disappointment ! I really thought as soon as I came off the pill that I'd fall pregnant, I thought if your body had done it once that it would be quicker next time round. I know it's only 4 weeks but it feels like ages and I know I'll be really disappointed if I'm not pregnant by crimbo, but I suspect we all will be if that's the case. Let's hope not.
I loved pregnancy because I felt fine apart from very tired all the way through (and I'm still always tired now). I loved it when I had my baby bump showing. Whenever I had a bath, he would start to really kick and you'd see it and he also always came alive at bed time.
Donna - any developments with you? I had a bit of bleeding one night before bed ( actually thought it was AF) but it was a 'show' and I had no more bleeding through the night. I was pregnant with my DS!

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HungryHorace · 01/10/2013 11:42

My Days is asking if I'm pregnant today as I only had a 17 day cycle last time, so it thinks I'm 7 days' late starting AF!

I'm symptom spotting like mad. I need to calm down! First month up duffs rarely happen, especially at my age!

HungryHorace · 01/10/2013 11:44

It's great that we're all so impatient. I'm in such good company.

How do people without a resource like this cope with TTC?!

mrsm22 · 01/10/2013 12:23

Good question Hungry!

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Metalhead · 01/10/2013 12:44

Hi mrsm, I'm sure you could take a test soon if you wanted to as technically you could be pregnant by now if you assume a normal 4-week cycle. However, I understand you don't want to get lots of BFNs - first cycle ttc I wasted about 5 sticks as I was convinced I was preggers! Maybe wait another couple of weeks and then test?

I had awful cramping yesterday, which I assume was ov-related as I had my positive opk on Saturday. Always thought these cramps came before ovulation but looks like I was wrong there, which might explain why we weren't successful the last 2 cycles! Anyway we dtd Sat, Sun and Mon and will keep it up every other day for the next week, so hopefully this will be our month.

Metalhead · 01/10/2013 12:46

Hungry I think mad symptom spotting is very common first cycle! After that you learn to rein it in a bit (though cant say I'm not doing it at all anymore... just being a bit more realistic!)

mrsm22 · 01/10/2013 13:03

Thanks Metalhead , I think I will give it another couple of weeks. I doubt I'll be able to wait much longer ! Yes, fingers crossed this will be your month! x

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donnas1984 · 01/10/2013 13:18

okok Im so impatient! I got a faint BFP Shock omg could it be true! I will do another test tomorrow to confirm. but a lines a line right???

Metalhead · 01/10/2013 13:36

Oh wow, huge congratulations donnas! A line is definitely a line! Smile

HungryHorace · 01/10/2013 13:44

Wow! Well done, Donna :-) I hope you bring us luck!!

Stacks · 01/10/2013 14:41

I loved being pregnant, I wasn't sick at all, just had nausea for the first couple of months. I also never got particularly big or uncomfortable - I was still going out for walks when I was overdue, could walk a couple of miles with just a bit of hip discomfort.
However I hated having to be induced, my body just didn't seem to want to give birth. I ended up on the hormone drip, but when they stopped it everything stopped - absolutely nothing natural about my birth experience in the end. I wanted a water birth with just gas and air, instead I had an epidural and emergency csection. :(

Truth I'm sure you said, but how old is your DC? I'm still bf too, my DS is 9m and I only just got my first AF. Hoping it'll be quick and easy getting pg this time!

mrsm I'm not sure how I'm going to time testing if I don't get AF! There's no guarantee our cycles will be at all predicable, so how do you know when you're late?! I think I'll probably wait as long as I can, then start testing one day a week, probably weekends. Not too much disappointment, but not too much second guessing either I hope.

donnas yep, a line is a line. You can't get a false positive! It'll be very early days, but right now, you are pregnant. Congratulations!

Hungry it's soo hard not to symptom spot, and so unfortunate that most early pg symptoms are also pre-AF symptoms. As long as you don't go mental with it, it can be fun to indulge in some symptom spotting :) I'm not letting myself think about it too much, or I know I'll get super impatient. I am taking my bbt each day though, to try and spot ovulation so I can stop making the effort to dtd when tired so I know when to expect AF next.

Metal trying to spot ovulation is almost as bad as symptom spotting pg for me. I try and just dtd eod as long as I can, and ignore when ovulation might be - at least until my temp change shows it happened and I can relax.

BetterNotBitter · 01/10/2013 18:21

Yay for donnas!!!!!!!! Congratulations!! (Touching wood and hoping for a less faint, definite line next time you test)

mrs if I were you I don't think I could wait another 4 weeks to test....maybe 2?! But I know what you mean about not wanting a negative. Do you have ovulation sticks? What about testing those every week until then, to try and work out where your cycle could be? And yes, we had lots of cuddles, and an awful lot of pacing the floor with him to try and put him off feeding for a while (he's feeding every 20mins as is very colicky and unsettled and already using mum as a pacifier so she's shattered bless her)

stacks it really is annoying how early preg symptoms are the same as AF, annoying and abit cruel! What a horrible shame about your first birth, how do you feel about the next time round?

metalhead I totally agree that the first cycle is the worst for symptom spotting. (I say, even though I've only had one cycle so can't really compare yet) Due to begin ovulating at the end of this week but feel a lot more relaxed about it than I did last month. Will probably do full circle if I'm not pregnant 5 or 6 cycles in though!

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 01/10/2013 18:49

A line is a line Grin

Stacks - DS is 2 but I got af back when he was 6mo.

donnas1984 · 01/10/2013 19:34

Thanks everyoneSmile

feeling slightly disheartened as I came home from work and poas again and the line was practically invisible. I know you're meant to test with fmu I was just so excited! maybe tomorrow with be stonger. good luck everyone as windy said this is a lucky thread!! Grin

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