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The Elderberry Pavlovas- All aboard the Berrycopter. Thread 14

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funkymonk · 03/09/2013 20:23

The smallprint - Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot) and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooh we are strict...please note your house may be at risk if you do not keep up repayments lol

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yorkiebilb · 14/09/2013 17:51

Oh barking that is just absolutely hideous! Life can be so cruel. You've done your duty now get the heck out of there and come and chat with us.

SidneyBristow · 14/09/2013 18:22

barking time to leave, sweetheart. You've done your best by your friends, now time to take care of yourself xx

Boodle9 · 14/09/2013 18:32

Bunny, The Palace of your Child?! That is hideous. What on earth was the website?!

Bunnygirlie · 14/09/2013 18:37

Now that boodle was the reaction I was looking for Grin Tee hee hee

Getting busier in here YAY

Boodle9 · 14/09/2013 18:47

Now it's term time again I'd better curb my mumsnet usage again, but I've spent all afternoon marking Maths and English books so I think I deserve the break! (I'm in denial about the fact that I've done no planning and I also have a load of management related stuff to get on with too.)

SidneyBristow · 14/09/2013 19:48

Well the Palace of my Child hasn't had much activity lately, don't think it's occupied at the moment and definitely hasn't been hosting any visits from DH so I'm adding my vote to the "what a gross euphemism" team!! Barf! Just call it a uterus or a womb like a normal person!!! Wink

Bunnygirlie · 14/09/2013 20:55

Tee hee hee, it was on an American website and they are a tad weird aren't they Wink

perhaps the next group should be The Elderberries and the eternal hunt to fill the Palace of the Child?!?

SidneyBristow · 14/09/2013 21:15

Omg should've known!! I'll just assume it was some kind of hippie dippie weirdo from California then! They are a bit weird! Grin

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funkymonk · 14/09/2013 21:53

Evening ladies. Just popping in to say g'day. Palace of the child indeed!!

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BlindKitty · 14/09/2013 21:56

barking omg, that seating arrangement is awful!!! I hope you've left and are home now in your pjs xxx

CharmingCats · 14/09/2013 22:24

Agree, barking , you've done your friend duty (personally, I'd have made excuses and not gone to either wedding). Now, do your you duty. Do whatever you feel the need to do to be kind to yourself.
Glad the donkey raised a smile. Left him like it over the weekend, so will post a pic on Monday for you. Have a mind to ferret out a table/chair for him and set him up with some breakfast and see if the chn notice.....
Well spent majority of the evening planning, marking and laminating. More marking tomorrow. Yay!
Distinct lack of ov signs now cd24, which is when I've had pos OPKs for the last 2 cycles. No changes in cm or pains. Could it be the stress of the new job?
Like the name for the next thread, btw. Palace?!

Boodle9 · 14/09/2013 22:53

Agree with that as a thread title! Grin

Charming, how is the new job going? Feeling your marking / planning pain. Don't do laminating though, ever! (I yearn for a minimalist classroom...)

Bunnygirlie · 14/09/2013 23:13

Just switched on Gavin and Stacey, guess what they are doing, TTC!!!!?!?!?

Boodle9 · 14/09/2013 23:31

I'd say switch it off, Bunny, but you'll probably just find something else with a TTC link. It seems to be everywhere at the moment in the shit sitcoms that I watch

barkingtreefrog · 15/09/2013 00:16

Finally home. It was hideous. Just after I'd collected myself enough to return in time for dinner, parents of 6 week old offer the baby out - DP says 'I'll have a hold' and takes the baby. I ran out of the room. He really didn't stop and think Sad . Seeing him holding that baby broke my heart. He came running out after me and kept apologising. He said he had planned to 'drink until it stops hurting'. I didn't want to leave early as I wanted him to have a fun evening but we were both feeling miserable. He's been a total rock but it really showed tonight how hard it has hit him as well. Sad

But it's over now and I don't have to be sociable again for a long time. It's our anniversary tomorrow but we've both got school work to do so can't even go out and do anything. I'm not really physically up to it anyway though to be honest.

Can someone please press fast forward and take me to a time when it doesn't hurt this badly?

BlindKitty · 15/09/2013 07:48

Oh hon, I REALLY wish I could but I guess only time will heal this one. Have you thought about counselling? Not that you're not ALWAYS welcome to talk to any of us xxx

barkingtreefrog · 15/09/2013 08:33

I might call the gp on Monday and ask about whether counselling is an option. I feel like I'm falling apart, it's like I got through the weddings and now I'm broken. DP's best mate getting pg was my worst nightmare and it looks like it just happened. This woman drinks like a fish but didn't touch a drop at either wedding, and she hasn't been at the pub recently even when her DH has, and previously she was always wherever he was. She's not been biking or running either for almost 3 months which is also unusual, and I wasn't the only one who noticed last night that she had a stomach (she's very skinny).
It could have been that we would have gone through our pg together, now I have to watch her bump grow while I mourn the one I lost. It's killing me.

Sorry, I probably need to take some time out or go elsewhere, don't want to fill this thread full of my misery every day.
Really struggling this morning Sad .

Bunnygirlie · 15/09/2013 08:56

Oh barking don't go, feel free to share with us, we all have some misery to share now and again, I know I have done lately.
It must be so so tough and these two social events and a possible new bump must be hell. Hugs x

ladybunnikins · 15/09/2013 08:57

Barking, it's OK to hate her and her pregnancy. Hope you've got an easy day planned. Maybe DH offered to hold the baby to save you having to do it?

BlindKitty · 15/09/2013 09:08

barking only go if you want to or think it will help. NO ONE wants you to go. We're all here for you x.

barkingtreefrog · 15/09/2013 09:18

Thanks Bunny. Lady he just didn't think (his own words) but I'm not angry at him, just our situation. Probable pg couple must have taken 2 or 3 months max to conceive, it was their wedding at the end of April (and I remember bitching about it on here as that was the first time I saw the twin bump, I thought it was painful enough then Sad ). It's our anniversary this morning and all I've done since I woke up is cry on him Sad .
Not even started my lesson planning for this week, or finished my last assignment for my uni course (tutor called to tell me I'd missed the deadline just as I got back from the scan confirming it was all over). If I don't get it in by the end of this week (they gave me an extension) I'll have to defer until Feb and this course has been 18 months of hell, I can't face prolonging it any further.

Life is so good for me in every other way but I got through an abusive marriage and a very difficult and lengthy divorce which took me over a year to recover from, then three years of chronic illness, before everything settled down to how it is now. After taking so long to get pg, why did it have to be taken away again just as I thought everything was finally good in my life? Wonderful man, just engaged, health returned and finally a new baby on the way. Seems so cruel Angry .

Now I really am feeling sorry for myself. I need to snap out of it somehow. Sorry for bringing down everyone's Sunday morning Sad .

barkingtreefrog · 15/09/2013 09:22

Thank you kitty. I want to avoid putting 100% of this on DP, he's grieving too Sad . It does help to come on here and rant. I know it's early days but everything feels so black, this is the worst day since it started happening, I've just been knocked sideways by the instadiffers especially as that was the person DP had confided in Sad .

Bunnygirlie · 15/09/2013 09:37

Oh barking I just wish you lived closer and I'd pop round with real Flowers and Cake x

BlindKitty · 15/09/2013 09:49

Guys.... I'm spotting Sad...

Bunnygirlie · 15/09/2013 09:57

kitty don't panic, it might be nothing x