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Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

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alyant79 · 22/08/2013 09:02

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

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Emki · 29/08/2013 13:49

Errr made ME giggle - I mean - !!!

OneLittleToddleTerror · 29/08/2013 14:03

emki that doens't sound right that you temp hasn't dropped since the luteal phase. It should be quite a clear difference. Basically a higher temperature during luteal phase, dropping to a lower level on the day of your AF (or just before). And it should stay low until you ovulated. I don't use an alarm to wake myself up, just taking the temp first thing I wake up. It's important you don't actually get up and go for a pee before taking your temp though. BBT is your rest temperature after all.

OneLittleToddleTerror · 29/08/2013 14:03

And grats badhairday. We seem to be getting a string of BFP atm!

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alyant79 · 29/08/2013 14:06

i knew it. She's here.

seaside and emki i DID test on tuesday because i was going to a boozy work do that night. But even if I hadn't done that test, I KNEW that i wasn't pg due to low temps (although secretly of course i was hoping for a bfp tomorrow).

emki my temp is always a bit erratic during the first 8-9 days of cycle but it is usually lower than the highest point of the luteal phase. It kind of gradually decreases down to a minimum just before i ovulate. But this was only my third cycle of temping.

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Badhairday76 · 29/08/2013 14:11

Thanks for the congrats, ladies. I'll feel better about having the blood tests back but then, who am I kidding? Will be a nervous wreck for at least the next 9 months even if a is okay.

Yes, I am a Secondary School English teacher and work on a boys comp in London. Am dreading going back but am now worrying far more about this pregnancy!

Emki · 29/08/2013 14:18

Ooh I'm also a teacher at a boys comp in London .... Dreading going back .... Eek!!

Yes I don't move (apart from arm reaching to get thermometer) however had to abort yesterday as needed a pee and didn't realise it was 5am - you need to be asleep for 3 hours before taking temp or sommink! Anyway will focus on taking temp properly from tomorrow morning - thanks for advice aly and oltt

Emki · 29/08/2013 14:22

badhair when I hot pg in jan after my first mc I was a total mess - so anxious - I think you get to tired or overwhelmed please take time off to rest - it's a stressful enough job as it is.

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alyant79 · 29/08/2013 14:31

emki if i get up at 5ish for a pee i still take my temp at 6:45/7am when i usually get up. I take the 3 hour rule to mean: don't take your temp after you've just lain down for a wee nap.
If i had to be just an hour before normal waking time i'd probably take temp then and also when i normally would to see what sort of a difference it makes. I have done that, and the early temp was lower.

my biggest prob is that i usually wake up thirsty, and sometimes i forget to take my temp before i have a drink. cold water in the mouth makes for a low temp!

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Original poster
alyant79 · 29/08/2013 14:31

oh one more thing emki - high temps on cd8: sure you're not pg??

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Emki · 29/08/2013 14:36

aly well AF arrived so didn't bother doing a test ... Ill look back at what temps were like this time last month ... And maybe POAS tomorrow because its Friday ... But really don't think I am it was proper AF in all her witcheness ...

Emki · 29/08/2013 14:38

aly thanks for info - that makes me feel better so will do that too - :)

Badhairday76 · 29/08/2013 14:43

Blimey! Am in Islington, Emki - where are you?

Emki · 29/08/2013 14:57

Ealing ...

Emki · 29/08/2013 16:01

I think I'm shuffling around too much before I take temp trying not to wake up ... Just took temp and its same as it is in morning ... Will be more focused for cd9

Sundance2007 · 29/08/2013 16:50

Congratulations badhair - please can I launch a haddock in your direction though?! Smile

This is going to be a good thread ladies, lots of drunken shags = lots of bfp. I'll probably get kicked off here by mn soon for inciting bad behaviour but as long as you keep up with your vitamins too it'll be fine I'm sure.

I knew this was coming but the level of fear and paranoia has become all consuming. No sore boobs yet, no nausea, the tiredness is not as bad as it was and I'm getting some occasional pains again. Today i am 6 weeks! Trying to stay positive but also just wish that if this is going to end up as a mc, it would hurry up so the damage can be limited. My gp's only has one midwife working at the mo, and I can't get a single appt until 13th sept-which was my edd first time round.
So - there will be lots if thumb twiddling for next couple of weeks but hopefully it will mean I can get in for a scan straight away.

Keeping fx for anyone POAS tmrw. X

Fancies40Winks · 29/08/2013 19:22

Hi everyone

Hope you don't mind me posting a question here. I had a mmc discovered at 9 weeks, my hcg was at 15k+ and not dropping 4 weeks ago. I had an erpc 3 weeks ago. Based on that does anyone have any experience of when ovulation might happen/af might come? I'm shattered and spotty and having little boob twinges so feeling premenstrual atm but surely it's far too early?
Thanks.

Congrats to the bfps on here and best of luck to everyone else.

Emki · 29/08/2013 20:11

Hello fancies there first seem to be a specific amount of time for AF to arrive after an erpc - on this thread there had been anything from 4 weeks to 11 weeks .. Sorry probably not what you hoping for . For me it took nearly 11 weeks but that might have been because I had a late mc before that one so body as taking a long time to recover .

Sorry you find yourself here but wish you all the luck x

Bezza2508 · 29/08/2013 20:34

Woohoo another thread BFP! Congrats badhairday.

Hi fancies. Sorry for your loss. I had a MMC at 12 weeks at the end of July and it took a while for my hormones to drop. I don't know the exact levels as I didn't have a blood test but it took 4 weeks to get a negative test and then a week later (5 weeks to the day after ERPC) AF arrived. So your AF may well arrive shortly. My AF has been awful but at least once its over with, we can think about trying again.

Emki · 29/08/2013 21:50

Sorry for all typos today !! Blinking phone and auto correcting and me not checking!!!

fod27 · 29/08/2013 21:57

Ooooo I'm a lecturer in FE in Staffordshire

ArkadyRose · 29/08/2013 23:14

Fancies Having had a couple of mmc at 6 weeks, one at 10 weeks & one at 12 weeks, it's been my experience that the later the mc occurs, the longer it takes for the first AF after to happen. The farther along you are, the higher the levels of hcg, so the longer it'll take for the levels to drop to zero.

I just got back from spending a couple of days in Sussex with friends and it seems today is ov day - right-sided mittelschmertz (it was on the left last month), masses of ewcm and just for fun and fancy I tried an opk this evening and got a very definite positive. So of course DP's asthma is playing up this evening and he's not feeling up to dtd! Sad On the other hand we've been dtd every other day since AF finished, including Saturday & Monday, and hopefully he'll be up for it tomorrow morning. We've decided to keep on dtd every couple of days until either AF arrives or I get a BFP (just in case I do ov twice as we suspect I did last cycle). I have good feelings for a Sept BFP!

ArkadyRose · 29/08/2013 23:16

Oh, and I got back to an email from a small brewery in Hackney who want to know if I'd be up for a mead-making collab - so I may be getting a job as professional mead-mazer to a brewery and able to sell my mead! Smile

fod27 · 29/08/2013 23:49

Good for you ark!! Fancy being paid to do something you enjoy xxxx

Penguinita · 30/08/2013 00:10

Great news about the BFPs! Here is a bucketload of fish slaps for everyone not following the rules!

Re the erratic temps - I did a little experiment the other day. I woke up at 5am whilst i had af (thinking there was a burglar in the house, neurotic mad woman, woke up DH too, he was not pleased!) and took my temp; it was about what i expected. Dozed for another couple of hours, took it again at my normal time and it had shot up a whole 0.8 degrees. So I think it really does make a difference whether you have been properly asleep or not.

I've also noticed that drinking the night before messes it up!

Bezza2508 · 30/08/2013 07:22

If I haven't been sleeping properly then my temp is all over the place penguin. Yesterday it was up at 36.8 after a rubbish sleep and today it's back down at 36.4. After I've been drinking its been known to go above 37!