Excellent egg buddies - for all who are IVFing in July/August/Sept

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Over here ladies!

Massive congrats to NookNook!! Great start to the new thread.

I'm 8dp5dt. I need to hold out till tomorrow morning as I know that will give me the true result. Then I have all weekend to get over it and get back to normal and work on Monday morning.

Well Twink there is no point in testing wee at this time of the day, you know that. Just think what you ave been through to get his far, it's worth waiting just a few hours more isn't it.

I'll wait. Feeling incredibly negative about it today though. Gosh I'm a mess, why do you lot put up with me?!

Because seeing someone else in a mess lets all of us know that we are normal when we get in a mess.
I'm sure we have all cried this week at the sight of the RB, whatever our thoughts on him and the royal family are, because we want that for us. I have found it very hard because I took my last pill the day of the wedding. I should be sat at home with my baby in my arms right now. Only someone who has been through the pain of TTCing knows what that feels like.
It can take over your entire life, and when you get to the stage of IVF then it pretty much has. Many of us don't have people who understand IRL but we all understand here.
Stay strong Twink there is nothing you can do now that will change the outcome tomorrow. It's hard to know how to feel, if you convince yourself it hasn't worked then you won't be disappointed but then you will have a day of feeling miserable.

Twinks, would it help to try and think of a few things that would be worse than a negative tomorrow? Getting a little perspective (despite thinking that there is nothing in the world worse than this cycle not working) will prepare you for tomorrow. I know that 'terror'. We spent six thousand pounds and flew overseas. It was a loan from my dad which will take two years to repay and we knew we would never, ever get another stab at this. Whenever that terror took hold where I told myself that my life is over if this isn't a BFP I had to stop and take a look at the absurdity of that belief.

It's hard, it's really hard not to think that it is this or nothing. Have a little faith and do try to stay rational x

...please don't think I am speaking from some privileged position 'cos I'm pregnant. What I'm trying to say is that we had a lot to lose if this didn't work. Would we be paying six thousand pounds back over two years without a baby to show for it? I told myself at times that that would be the worst thing to have to deal with ever: in debt to my dad and no baby. So I know how that panic feels.

Twinks lovely, did you manage to get through to a counsellor in the end? I think you could really so with some support there, but in the meantime have a hair stroke from me. I know you are struggling at the mo and we need to find something to help your mojo find its way home again. I really really recommend going out and having a good march about on the fresh air then come back and watch the funniest film/programme you know of and laugh uproariously throughout it. It's good for you and for the embie too :) I have a default programme for when I need a laugh - did anyone see the Brit TV series Coupling? It was kind of like a Brit version of friends I guess - some moments of pure comedy genius that have me literally crying with laughter. That's what we want for you - doubled up hysterical crying with laughter - you'll feel heaps better.

Nobeer..........crap... was yesterday your birthday?????

Oh congratulations Pram so glad you got pg in the end. Hurrah for that! Do keep in touch.

Thanks pip for your lovely message and for understanding. It's hard not to look at others who have what you want without feeling sad, esp if markers in your life correspond with theirs. They got married a couple of weeks after us so I know how you feel. I broke down the day she announced she was pregnant. I remember feeling utter, utter despair and immense sadness. And I had to have sex that night because it was the right time of the month :(

Pramela - its hard of thinking of something worse when you have put everything into it, isnt it? Although OH said last night we'd keep on going and going till we got our baby. I think I've put so much pressure on myself for this to work. After all, why wouldn't it? I thought all we needed was a helping hand. But now its close to OTD I'm feeling so negative about it and wondering how I will cope.

fab - I have contacted the hospital AGAIN. They've said they'll get someone to call me back today but considering they close at 5pm, I'm not holding out much hope.

I keep feeling twinges and thinking I have symptoms, then have to slap myself and tell myself its the progesterone.

Twink If, and I repeat if, the result is not the one you want, do you get another shot?

Get one frozen transfer but its grade 4BB so not as good as the grade 4AB I had put back this time.

twinks we 'put up with you' because we care and we are all here to support each other, we wouldn't have it any other way and we will all be willing you on tomo for when you test. I don't know if that helps you, but it always helps me enormously at all the difficult stages of this process to know we are all rooting for each other

prammy you're back! Can't wait to hear all about the scan tomorrow

pip hope it goes well tomorrow

fab aren't you and nobeer nearly birthday buddies?

good luck for your weigh in tomorrow, pip.

Aw twinks, I think pip and choco have summed it up pretty well, so I won't repeat what they've said. And totally agree with Prammy, it's such a fucking massive gamble and I don't even buy lottery tickets! What will be will be, and we'll be here to celebrate or commiserate when you do your test tomorrow. You've got plenty of hands to hold here if you need them.

Sweetheart, I know how you feel, I really do, I was you but joos is right (how annoying), it's not your everything if the result is not what you want. The build up for you to this point has been so intense that it feels like it, I know, but you WILL cope whatever the outcome.

Holding that hand tightly (but not the one you might wee on, obvs).

Yeah the gamble thing is a bugger. I don't buy lottery tickets either. I like a sure thing yet here I am still contemplating a DE cycle at £8,000...

And yes, it was my bday yesterday! It was quiet, but nice. Had a couple of friends over for dinner, another couldn't make it due to babysitting issues so she came over for lunch with her little boy to help out with the leftovers. He asked me why I didn't have any more toys, and I said because I haven't got any children. He replied, yes you have! You've got DP! That explains why whenever he comes round he runs into all the rooms looking for DP, he's looking for his playdate while mummy and Auntie Nobeer can have a chat.

Happy belated birthday. 21?

reps everytime I see an advert for the lottery on TV here, my mind just starts spinning on how many cycles the jackpot could pay for! But I never buy a ticket!

Right I know you all think I'm mad but I just tested and it was negative. Not even a whiff of a second line. I knew it. I've had this feeling for so long now that it's never going to happen for me. I should stop this madness and start thinking of ways to cope.

Ahem, yes 21. Again.

oh twinks sweetheart. I'm so sorry. I've never done a pregnancy test before, so don't know if it's worth doing another in the morning? In the meantime, find some daft old comedies on TV/youtube/boxsets to distract yourself. Big hugs.

Twinks now, you can't draw a conclusion from the lack of line now. You know that it really needs to be FMU.
Do you know what is stopping you from conceiving naturally?

Male factor - OHs results are borderline. Everything with me is fine.

Oh Twinks lovely. Are you using cheaply test too? They can be so variable. I say test first thing tomorrow. Your wee would've been so dilute, especially if you are drinking lots. Have you something nice planned tonight?