Fabulous Fecund Over Forties TTC: fertile,prolific,fruitful and productive. Hand over the bfp's and hand them over now!!

[hopefulgum]

Starting the new thread for you wonderful ladies before I fly off into the sunset.

May this thread bring us the happy news we've all been waiting for.

AF again for me...
Today I'm also dealing with my daughter's tantrums .. ..

catchafox welcome! I never tested AMH but FSH seems ok, still I've been ttc for several months with no results.. I find ttc really menthally exhausting.. but I'm not ready to give up yet!
I'm now wondering wether to have a short holiday at the seaside with dd without dp at the end of august even if it's my fertile period..
I can't put my life on hold and especially dd's, but I'm so scared to miss the famous golden egg... .. and it's not easy to change the dates either.. Any wise suggestion from you ladies?

Hello everyone! Can I join in?

Had my DS 6 weeks before my 40th birthday and have desperately wanted to try for another ever since. My DH wasn't keen. It's taken me over 2 years to convince him and now, at last, we are TTC number 2. Feel excited that we're finally giving it a go but realise at 42 it might not happen. Had problems TTC DS. Hormone levels were fine but AMH test showed my ovarian reserve was extremely poor which ruled out IVF if we couldn't conceive on our own. Fell pregnant but had a MC at 12 weeks. Got pregnant again first cycle after MC and had my lovely boy 9 months later.

So... here we go again. My DH assumes all will be well ( despite our history) but I'm less convinced. Hoping this thread will provide lots of happy stories to keep my hopes up.

Hi to new ones!
The Amh an fsh results are quite misleading ( fortunately). Lots of crap result people get bfps. That is why my doc does not read much into them, and I believe her. My own are hopeless, yet I conceive often enough.

Hope our pregnant ladies have all only good news. I would definitely want an early scan, but of course I am the one who would think myself out of the woods if I saw a heartbeat. But that only because I have never miscarried a heartbeat. So I really get those who would not want a early scan. I feel like I would like to postpone testing, so I would not see chemicals. But I can not, since need to do support from early days....

Anyway, my chem turned out to be an honest chem, no leftovers from blighted ovum, so doc thinks it was just a new chemical. Did betas today, will hear results tomorrow and repeat in a week, to rule out diseases wich give pos hpts without pregnancy. Can you imagine a country exists where you get an appointment fot tomorrow, ask and get an ultrasound there and then, based on your talk and no doc tries to tell you their own version of things without thoroughly testing your own version first. And all for 53 euros, us incl. I love my native country and its medical system. My friends were all on holiday, so had to go to a random doc, and it was totally ok.

Good morning all.
Calibee it is nice to see you. It is great that you ovulated on your own, but a bummer there were no swimmers. But it is great, so that when you see DH you can get straight into ttc again. I hope the time moves quickly. I know it will be hard leaving your old life behind, but a new life with your DH will be wonderful.

Welcome to guthriegirl. I love your name as I have a son called Guthrie.

I hope you don't have to ttc for to long, but whatever the time, you will have great support on this thread.

mozzamummy, so sorry about AF. I understand your dilemma about taking dd to the seaside at fertile time, but like you say, you can't keep putting life on hold, and it may be just what you need.

I am having a day off today. Crazy, as I have just returned from holidays, but it seems I didn't escape the holiday without illness after all. I have a fresh headcold, nasty headache and gastro too! Not impressed. I plan to stay on the couch all day with some dvd's and the telly.

At least everyone else will be at school and work, so I can just be sick and relax.

Hello everyone, just back from a lovely week in the UK (even my Grandma's funeral was lovely in the end - a real celebration of a very full life, with loads of people there).

hopeful, poor you - hope you feel better soon.

Hello catchfox and guthriegirl, welcome.

Wow, calibee, your move is getting close now! I understand that you feel apprehensive about leaving everyone - but for a whole new life with your lovely DH I had to smile about your being excited in the 2WW even though your DH hadn't been around to DTD at the right time - I've done that too

jass, glad you've got some clarity at last and that things seem to be ok.

mozzarellamummy go on that holiday! Am sorry AF has got you.

jbrd I'm with you about wanting time to speed up. I'm 10.3 and the last 5 weeks have gone sooooo slowly. I've got my scan on Friday - am extremely nervous, so scared it's going to be dead. Trying not to think about it. Regarding early scans, I had one in both pregnancies because that's what happens here - when you find out you're pg you go to your gynae, who does an internal scan as a matter of course. Both times I've seen a heartbeat, but the second time it didn't reassure me at all as the first time I miscarried well after that.

My sister announced her pregnancy on Friday - I was at my mum's and DSis came straight from her scan to tell us the good news (she'd already told my mum at 5 weeks). I was dying to tell her I'm just behind her, but I kept quiet as I really don't want anyone to know until after the scan. It struck me, though, how it's so different for my DSis (she's nearly 39), never having had a miscarriage. She's had one easy, succesful pregnancy and has no reason to believe this will be any different. She's happy and confident, whilst I'm a doubting bag of nerves (not usual for me at all).

Meanwhile, we're getting married a week on Saturday!

Hello again and thanks for the welcome! Understand completely where you're coming from Morien. When I found out I was pregnant after my MC I had a brief moment of utter delight followed by a tsunami of anxiety. My pregnancy was, in hindsight, quite straightforward but I spent the whole time worried and convincing myself that I would stop feeling anxiety at 12 weeks, then 20, then 24 and so on. If I'm lucky enough to conceive again I know I'll be exactly the same too. Good luck with the scan and, of course, your wedding.

Morten, congratulations on wedding and of course the scan will be fabulous!
Reading about anxiety in pregnancy makes me think that if that is the way it's going to be after mc I am not sure I can do it. I was as Morien's sis - at 38, with my last successful pg, I told everyone at positive hpt. Did the same with my first mc, and had a lot of untelling to do after. Beurk! It was worse than actual mc then, since it was my first and I really thought it will happen in a few months time and I will walk happily away to sunset with the next pg. I remember disappointment, but no devastation at all then.

Calibee, hope your move will be smooth. And mozarellamummy, go for these holidays. It is never worth postponing life, unless you really did some procedures. But yet another cycle.... There will be next one.

Hello everyone.

I am feeling a lot better today, though not 100%, but will have to go to work as I have had two days off, any more time and I will need a doctor's certificate. I will see how things go today.

Morien how amazing that you and DS are having babies around the same time. So nice! And very exciting about your wedding so soon! Do you feel organised? I can't wait to hear all the details.

All this hoo-ha about the royal baby, and two days on the couch watching "Offspring" (a fabulous Aussie TV drama about an obstetrician and her family) has made me so broody. It is the pits being broody and having about 1% chance of getting preggers. I really thought that going on an overseas holiday I would embrace the idea of moving on to a different life,you know, being more free to travel, not having the responsibility of a small baby/child. I have tried to look at it that way, and even felt a bit of acceptance while away, but in all honesty, I still don't feel completely ready to move on to that next stage. Of course I don't get to make that decision ultimately, do I, as I can't control the fact that my body is older and less fertile?

I am not feeling bad about it, just noticing that my feelings towards having another child are still strongly in favour (and wishing things could be different).

I hope everyone else is doing okay. How are you feeling Jbrd? I hope this time isn't dragging too much.

How are the other pregnant ladies? Updates please....

mozzamummy, did you decide whether you will take DD to the seaside? It sounds like a lovely thing to do with her.

I will definitely go on that holiday, I still hope either me or DP can move a couple of days to meet during the fertile window.. It will be just around the anniversary of the loss of my baby so I know it will be hard anyway..
..probably I will also be freaking about school, I'll start to teach to 14 yrs old students in september.. I will have over 200 students, split in 9 classes.. how will I ever be able to remember thier names or surnames?? For now I'm reviewing physics and planning lessons..

I had a lovely dinner with DP yesterday night, leaving DD with grand parents.. it happens maybe once every two months and this time it was really nice.. I managed to control myself and didn't bother him with TTC issues ..
Diege, what about your rings?
Cali, happy to hear you again!
Jass, I'm happy you had such a good care.. In diffucult moments it's such a difference to have caring and professional people in front of you ..

A virtual pat to all the lovely bumps here!!!

mozzamummy, you will be surprised, eventually you will remember most of your students. 9 classes does seem a lot. A full time teacher here would have a maximum of about 6. At the moment I only teach 3 classes, the rest of my time I do personal tutoring to indigenous students. It is a great part of my job, very little lesson preparation, no discipline issues and usually one on one or small groups.

Yesterday I started teaching anatomy to my health Ed class, which is hilarious as I am an English teacher I really enjoy the Health classes though as I have always had an interest in it and I am learning too.

Your dinner with DP sounds nice. It is good to reconnect with our partners when we can.

I think I might be getting close to O time again. My DH will be enjoying extra sexual attention over the next few days. I am sad to admit that I don't really have much of an appetite when I am not close to fertile time. Anyway, I hope there's a decent egg and some good swimmers. I'd be so happy to get a bfp for a change. It has been too long.

Deige, did you get your rings off?

I was half way through a post and the computer just decided to shut my browser so now I'm having to start again.

Morien, I hope all is well at your scan, looking forward to reading about it. How lovely your Dsis is expecting too.

JBrd, I can understand why it feels like such a long time til September for you, I thought you were further along than you are. I'm sending you vibes that this is the sticky one.

Calibee, good to hear from you, I know it must be dragging for you, but it seems like your DH Canada posting is going quite quickly, our perceptions of time can be really strange though.

Isabeller, how nice to be able to tell people and get such positive reactions. I hope your pregnancy is as dull as possible from now on.

Gum, your holiday sounds lovely despite the sickness, sorry you didn't get away with it after all.

Congratulations on your BFP edamame, and good luck.

Any luck with the rings Diege? My fingers are ok, and I take my rings off at night anyway, as I sometimes get a rash under them (no idea why), but my ankles get very swollen, especially the right one, which I've sprained a few times in the past. I also think I may have some fluid on my right knee as I can't take my weight on it in a specific place, and occasionally forget if I'm getting up off the floor or something, which is really painful. Otherwise I'm feeling ok, though a bit lethargic probably due to heat. I finished work last week, I could have done this weekend but as DH is away with work, it just seemed easier to take leave. Work itself was fine, it was the walking 4-5 miles a day (not all at once) in the heat that I was starting to struggle with, and nothing'll get me on the tube when it's really hot. I'm 35 weeks now, so I think the next few weeks will fly by.

Hi jass, mozzarella, irish, notsoold and anyone I've missed, and welcome to the newbies, I hope your stay is short.

Back from the hospital - everything was fine

This morning I was so nervous I could hardly speak (DP gave up trying to distract me by talking to me and just kept squeezing my hand), and during the fairly long wait I was fighting back tears. When I got in there, all I wanted was for the sonographer to confirm that the baby was alive but instead he pointed out how wriggly it was (with hindsight, it wouldn't wriggle if it weren't alive ), and then he took the nuchal measurement and said it was absolutely fine (again, he wouldn't have bothered on a dead baby, presumably), and he was about to embark on further measurements when I could stand it no longer and gasped, 'but is his heart beating?', at which he laughed and said, 'not half!' I managed to croak that I'd had a MC last year, at which he patted my arm and immediately turned the sound up so we could hear the heartbeat. That was it - I burst into tears. When he'd finished he gave me another pat and said he couldn't see the least reason to be the tiniest bit worried.

Went to see the gynae afterwards just across the corridor, and he says the scan puts me a bit further along than I thought, almost 12 weeks instead of almost 11. And the other piece of good news is that there are in fact 2 places in Belgium, both in Brussels, which offer the Harmony test; he gave me their details and I've made an appointment for Wednesday morning. Same as it would have cost me in London, without the Eurostar fare

Anyway, how are the rest of you? I'm thinking maybe now I can go and join the 40+ pregnancy group (didn't feel ready before), but I won't be staying away from this lovely group, I don't think.

diege your rings are bothering me! Please tell us you've got them off...

sparkly I can't believe you're 35 weeks! Hope you enjoy your time off before the baby comes.

hopeful fingers crossed for that golden egg this time! You deserve it for sheer persistence apart from anything else.

How are you doing jbrd ?

Hello to everyone else!

Congratulations Morien. So pleased scan went well. I bet you're looking forward to sharing your news with your sister and other friends and family.

that's just great Morien - delighted for you!

Love to everyone. Been reading not much to say at the moment. My gynae was sure I didnt have a cyst (it was GP who suggested this). He gave me thorough internal and said nothing to worry about... We'll see... decided we need to put some effort into ttc or we might regret it later. Awaiting delivery of DHEA...

Morien, that is wonderful news. I am so pleased for you. 12 weeks already, wow, that seems to have flown. Yes, join the pregnancy group as you are PREGNANT!! But don't stay away, I always miss ladies who go off to the pregnancy thread and don't come back (I have seen so many leave,as I still wait patiently).

Hi, Sparkly, if you are on Mat leave, then you must be getting close to delivery. How many weeks are you now?

Isadorable, I hope the DHEA helps. I tried it for a while as I had heard great things about it affecting egg quality. I hope it works for you.

I think I am ovulating quite early (I am day 12 now) as I had egg white yesterday, and O pain last night (after DTD, which means it was good timing). I know I should go again tonight, but my DH will start asking questions after such a drought (about three weeks). We are going out to friends for dinner, so I will have a couple of drinks and perhaps it will all just fall into place? At least I have had a couple of goes at it at the right time.

It is the weekend here, and we are back into the being busy. DD has a netball game today and I will swim laps while she plays, then out to dinner tonight. Tomorrow we are out for lunch. Somewhere between all this I need to do the laundry, tidy up and finish unpacking.

Love to all.

Oops, sorry Sparkly, I see you are 35 weeks. Only 5 weeks to go!

Delurking....

Hi everyone!!!

Hopeful....oh my!! You are having a busy Saturday!!! I personally think that a drink sounds like a good idea!!! Xxx

Isadorable... Good news! No cyst!!! When can you go back tp ttc??? Xxx

Morien.....I second hopeful suggestion ...come and join the pregnancy thread. Well done!!! Xxx

Jbrd hello my lovely!! How are you doing???xxx

Sparkly 35 weeks...wow!!! Almost there!!! Xxx

Cali....how is everything going??xxx

Diege...what happened about the ring???? Xxx

Irish hope you ate ok

Lovely to read everyones's news and beaming positive thoughts to everyone ttc.

I'm very tired but feeling well. Rather a lot going on and the car died a death this morning, oh dear. Nuchal scan on Wednesday, wondering if I can cycle...

Hello! Lovely to catch up with everyone's news - morien what brilliant news, you must feel over the moon xx
isabeller I'm sure everything will be fine at the nuchal - more likely to be so than not. I can remember how anxious the wait is though xx
Gum I would say a few drinks at friends and then back for the business would seem very natural - plus as you say swimmers should be in place anyway ...
notsoold interesting about the borderline diabetes and concerns about a big baby. Concerns were also raised with me as after three 7 pounders dc4 was 9lb 11 - back to 7ib 12 with dc5 though, so not a forgone conclusion that your next will be bigger still. Is the nutritician plan you're on quite restrictive?
sparkly wow, your pregnancy has really flown! I don't blame you at all for starting leave now, especially with the prospect of an overheated commute on the tube. I am theoretically carrying on until 37 weeks but can't see myself completing the commute tbh - the work is fine, just to getting there and back on public transport!
Well, the rings....still on but no better. They don't hurt much, and the blood is getting through, so tempted just to see it out unless they seem to get worse. Not the most attractive sight in the world and certainly a talking point. 28 weeks on Tuesday and seeing consultant so will ask then.
Storm on the way here - yay!!!

Isabeller... Isn't the nuchal scan the one at 12 weeks??? If it is you will need a full bladder, won't you??? So if you just get to the hospital a lit earlier you can top up there. Xxx I offer my hand as I was a bag of nerves on the day!!!

Diege....very restrictive on the things I like... Fruit mainly and starchy things, and I am missing my baking....well:)

Good luck with the ring!!! Mine came out on the 8 week!!!

I will be nearly 14 weeks notsoold on Wednesday so right near the limit of when it can be done I think. I've got GTT in the morning then scan in the afternoon so I can check if I need a full bladder but can't remember it being mentioned before.

waves sleepily :)

Hello to all
So lovely to see all our pregnant ladies are coming along nicely.....although I expect the recent heat has been a killer.
So af due for me imminently. Its all very weird though, as since mc (January) I dont seem to get any symptoms of pms. I used to get seriously sore boobs, this month I have had absolutely nothing. I'm beginning to worry there is something else amiss. Any ideas anyone?
I'm still in this limbo land between moving...dh still in Canada (I haven't even spoken to him in over a week) however the end is in sight, just three weeks until he is home. I wonder if I will recognise him lol.

Oh...and I've now lost 2 stone. Maybe he won't recognise me hehe.

2 stone!!! That's fantastic, calibee, well done! Does your DH know? As for AF after MC, of course you could always get it checked out to give you some peace of mind, but that's pretty much what happened to me - it took ages for my cycle to be recognisable as my cycle again.

Isabeller all the best for your nuchal scan!

notsoold poor you with your restrictive diet - it'll be worth it, though

Wow calibee 2 stones is a sensational loss! Can I ask if you followed any particular eating plan?
Good luck with your scan isabeller. I was ok with an empty bladder with mine, but wouldn't have been if at NHS - depends on the machines they use I think . My nuchal was at 13 w 6 days which I think is the final day it's accurate - I was told to expect it to measure bigger than it would at say 12 weeks, simply because baby was bigger - worth bearing in mind.
Hi morien, how are you feeling?
Off to brave the cinema with the 4dcs at home (dc 5 cruelly left in nursery ). Will def need a lie down when I get home...
Love to all xxx