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Starting the new thread for you wonderful ladies before I fly off into the sunset.

May this thread bring us the happy news we've all been waiting for.

jass I felt complete panick reading about your little one. OMG. I think I have to admit that I am very frightened. Its been so long! I will probably also bribed the living lights out of DC to be!

Diege Hi hi! I love Breaking Bad! Haven't had much time to catch up but I am looking forward to it! Your life sounds very, very busy!

willitbe Hi! Happy to hear you're allowing yourself hope!

hopeful Sorry to hear AF arrived. I'm still waiting. 15dpo. Having weird side pains. Lots of PMS which could also be pg but I'm trying to wait until tomorrow morning (!) before testing. Last time AF came right after I bought a hpt.
Dreading a bfn.

To everyone else, HI! Wish you all a lovely Sunday. Its our off day so no dust or old anythings. Really looking forward to some tennis. Haven't watched any matches yet.

Hey tadpole I'm a tennis fan too . Haven't seen any matches yet though don't get Sky so no doubt they'll only show if Andy M makes it to the final... My favourite player if Rafa Nadael - sad I know!

nah,ci did not mean to scare anyone with my 4yo story! they all have their little tricks, it is just that I do not want to do bribing, want to do reasoning, and it does not want to work for some reason. heaven knows why. That kid is, on the other hand,easy at bed-times, and always has been - sleepswell and hasnever wet his bed since 13 months old, so he is not all bad. Is quite cuddlysometimes etc.

Mozarella, I read on corpus callosum and with amnio being good, it seems to go down into the group of problems that are only problems if we know too much. It is often nothing, just a peculiarity, and when it is something, doctors are still not sure why. Of course you must continue with pregancy, you haveso good chance of this beingan healthy child! i am sure it sill be healthy, and toy have just discovered something what is this child's peculiarity, not a problem really! All the best and please please try to enjoy this pregnancy now!

mozza, I am sorry that the results weren't as reassuring as you wanted.But it is great news that the amnio is all clear and I think you have made the right decision to continue the pregnancy. It is what I would have done too. I know you will worry until that precious little one is born and safely in your arms, but please, try to get some relaxation where you can.

Diege, I had forgotten it was triplets! What are the chances at 48 of getting pregnant with triplets? Bloody hell, it must be one in a billion! I can understand what a shock it would be for her DH, but at some point he'll just have to suck it up and get on with it,won't he? Men- sometimes I do wonder....

I have seen all the Breaking Bad series. It is great isn't it? I love it. It is so well written and directed. DH and I are now into "House of Cards" which was a bit more slow moving at the start, but we are right into now and can't wait for the next series.

Tadpole, your absence of AF is good news. I hope you get your bfp!

DS is going to be disappointed today, I promised we'd go to the beach this morning, but it is actually windy,cloudy and cold, and I'd rather not go. I guess we will find something else to do.

Mozza Sorry to hear that you had one worry replaced with another! I hope you'll manage to sail through the rest of your pregnancy - as you say, there isn't much you can do now. Wishing you lots of strength!

Yeah, the bribery - I think that no matter how hard you try, there comes a point where every parent gives in to that. I certainly have, and DS is only 2.5. But very strong-willed, and sometimes I just have to be careful which battles I pick, to be honest. I find myself shouting a lot more than I want to, but he knows exactly which buttons to push (and I, sadly, often let him push them).
Then on other times, he is so funny, lovely and sweet, makes my heart swell.

Hope you all had nice weekends. I had a 'domestic' day on Saturday, trying to get lots of things done, and actually managing for once. DH took DS swimming, which made a big difference. I even managed to bake some bread again, which I hadn't done for ages.
We took DS to see a panto for the first time ever yesterday - thinking that we might as well try it, if it doesn't work, we can always leave. It was quite a success, we managed to stay until the end, and DS didn't get too bad - considering there were quite a few stretches during the play where there was just a lot of talking and no 'action'.

10DPO today, and my temp took quite a dip today Not below coverline yet, but still... Plus, I'm feeling a bit crampy. I know , I know, you're not out until AF arrives, but not feeling very positive this morning. Sigh.

Second day of positive opk yesterday, SWI done on Sat, gearing up for tonight. I so do not feel like it. Esp. as saturday`s line was slightly stronger, am almost convinced Saturday was enough and OV was yesterday, so today might not be necessary... But I know it might not have been ,and it seems like good high LH, so..... FFS. I find 2ww easy compare to this vigil:-)

Ah jass sounds like you've done pretty well with your timing; I agree it is a minefield though, and even when things seem pretty certain there's always that 'what if'. Bet you dtd one more time
jbrd sounds like you had a great time at the panto. I've found that thinking 'we can always leave' has got me through so many situation with the dcs when they're little. I can't think of a time when I actually did leave, but just knowing it's an option really helps mentally I think. Sorry to hear you think af is on the way .
Gum you must tell me more about House of Cards. Am looking to line up the next box set (well, courtesy of Netflix) so any recommendations welcome. I do have to get back into Walking Dead - do you know if series 4 is the most recent? On Breaking Bad, we are up to middle of series 3 (the new meth lab under the laundry factory). Dh invariably stays up late to watch an extra episode, so meaning I need to catch up the next day before the next evening episode - jeez it's like having another job Hope you found something that pleased ds (and you!) other than a cold beach!
Am being called in to see Corrie - poor Hayley, I know I'm going to blub!

diege shhh (let's not speak loudly of those deliciously sexy and ridiculously young tennis players! )

On ttc front:
I kept quiet about the nausea last week 'cause I thought its just sever PMS. Then today it was so bad that I spent quite a bit of time (at least three times) in the bathroom. No puking, though (sorry if tmi).
When we got home at 8pm tonight I decided to use that ridiculously expensive test. I got a very BFN. Could it be because it was so late in the day?
But I'm 31dpo today. Never had to wait this long for AF. Now I'm afraid because my HCG levels were so low in June, that the hpt was also neg the day before my AF. Even the blood test levels were very low.
I'm going to risk making a fool of myself and ring the doc tomorrow.

Take care, ladies... Thinking of youse.

Tadpole, I don't think it is at all foolish to ring the doctor. It will help if you can know what is going on and a blood test is the best way to find out. And,yes, POAS at the end of the day may make a difference. Are you sure of ovulation day? Are you temping?

jass, good to hear that timing is good. I'd be going again if I were you, to be sure you'd covered all bases, though I know it can be hard to summon up the energy.

Diege, House of Cards is American, stars Kevin Spacey, and is very good. It's set in Washington and is based around the White House, but essentially is about human nature,and Kevin Spacey's character is very manipulative and really not very nice. I think it is probably a comment on politicians and all the manipulative behaviours that must go on,and it is compelling viewing. As for the Walking Dead, I think it is series four, and we are waiting patiently for the next installment - it's the half way break. I really love the series. I never thought I'd enjoy a show about Zombies, but I am hooked.

DS and I went into town and met up with my sister and her boys and took a long walk on the boardwalk near the beach in town. Then the kids ate hot chips while we had a cuppa. It was very nice, he was worn out and slept all the way home in the car!

DH and I had a last minute invite to dinner last night, which was nice, but I have been woken by DS (who wet his bed) at 5 am, after going to bed around 1 am, and I am feeling decidedly knackered. I guess it is a bit like having a baby! Though I know I can just take a nap sometime today.

Hope you have an answer soon Tadpole.

Mozzarella, after what you went through last year I think it would be almost impossible for you to actually ENJOY a pregnancy (I've found it hard enough and I'd 'only' had a MMC before), but I hope things get easier for you from here on in...

Tadpole, you never know! I had several BFNs before I got my BFP, and look at me now, 37+2 Fingers crossed!

hopeful that's where we're up to with The Walking Dead as well, and I'm just like you - how can I like a series about zombies???

It was my last day at work yesterday; I interviewed for the new job I told you about in the morning, and then had my annual appraisal with my boss in the afternoon (my boss had said that ML is a valid reason for not doing the appraisal but was unable to tell me whether that would effectively hold me back a year (in a huge organisation in which promotion is rarely merit-based, but based on length of service, that wouldn't be good) so I insisted we get it done). As for the interview, I don't know. I wasn't on top form, hardly having slept (find it so hard to get comfortable), and in addition I found some of the questions a bit odd - really general and vague, and then I was pulled up for not being specific enough in my answers And one woman asked several questions about 'in your recent experience [because I held a particular responsibility last year] how did you handle x?', and I'd answer, and she'd say, 'but that wouldn't work in this post! That's not what we're looking for!', leaving me to remain polite and charming (and knackered) but try to point out that she'd asked what I did in the past, not what I would do in the new post... So, not feeling terribly optimistic and feeling a bit bruised and like I made a fool of myself, but it'll pass.

Anyway, am trying to get my head round the fact that as of today I don't have to go to work for several months now if only those blasted workmen would finish. We've told them that several things will have to remain undone, as I really need them out of the house - they should be done by Friday, then I can get down to nesting...

Good morning everyone,

Sorry, I meant I'm 31 day in my cycle! I was so stressed after the BFN.
Woke up this morning, checked and still nothing. Went to the loo 15 minutes later and there she was, in all her beauty.

I don't temp, hopeful, but I usually have 'Mittleschmerz'. So I pretty much know when I'm ovulating.
I'm still going to ring the dr because its not normal for my cyles to keep getting longer.

I'm just so utterly disappointed. On the positive (I always need to do this not to lose my mind), we will hopefully move into the new house by end of Feb which will mean we'll be together in the fertile windows in future. January was the first month since last March that we didn't have to negotiate dates as we are both on extended leave to get the house ready.

Morien so very, very happy to get the feeling that you're very happy!

Jass I know your little one isn't just difficult! I remember getting so angry with DD when she was around five. I asked her to clean her room and she said 'I believe you wouldn't be so angry if I had a little sister!'
I must tell you, I could have flung her against the wall, that's how furious I was. But she caught me so off guard with her comment that I had to keep it together, leave her room to laugh!

Keep calm and try on!

tadpole so sorry about af Particularly cruel in the circumstances. One benefit of temping for you might be that the drop in temps does indicate af is pending, which can (for some) be helpful as while a drop in temps is so disappointing, it does at least give you some time to mentally adjust. Hopefully it will be your month next time though!

Morien can't believe you're 37 weeks !!! . You must be feeling very tired at work. It does sound to me like the interview questions and responses to your answers were deliberately provocative, and I'd say you handled yourself pretty well. Think how lovely it will be too when your builders have gone and you can relax!. Make the most of it

GUm I have told dh that House of Cards is our next series - it sounds fab . I too would have been turned off by anything 'zombie', though of course as you know the real 'walking dead' are very much the human cast, the relationships between which I find really interesting. The acting in that series is also fabulous, though I do wish I hadn't read the spoilers pretty early on... Your beach day sounded wonderful (mmm chips..). Hope you get that nap later today
Had about 3 hrs max sleep last night - ds2 woke at 1pm, took an hr to settle. I was then wide awake, then Laurie wakes up, wail from dd3....etc etc. Not feeling too bad just now We have the tongue tie appointment this afternoon for Laurie - fingers crossed we'll be reassured and they'll leave it be as it is very marginal.
Love to all xxx

Hi all, I'm new to this thread (and this board!) and I'm actually a bit premature. I had DD last February, 6 weeks shy of my 40th birthday and was being pretty sure that I only wanted one child - so had a coil put in last July.

Well here we are, a year later and I've changed my mind.... Going to docs to get referred for my coil to be removed this afternoon. Is it right that my fertility returns to normal straightaway? Hoping so. Am a bit cross with myself for ever getting the coil ...I could be pregnant by now...

Welcome to the thread, stow. It's never too early to join

Don't beat yourself up about changing you mind about having another, that's life! I found that having DS had a profound impact on my opinion about lots of things.
You never know what life will throw at you - I, for one, was convinced for ages (well, until I was about 38) that I never wanted any children at all

Welcome, stow!
Hope all goes well at the doc. JBrd is right. Don't beat yourself up.

Morien do you have everything for the baby already?
With working on the house I've taken to making things and I must admit I can't wait to discover the world of baby furniture! And I started knitting after twenty odd years. Making a scarf for DP 'cause he'll be proud of it no matter what it looks like!

willitbe How are things, lady?

Have a good evening, all!
xxx

Welcome , Stow! you only have had the coil for short time, this should help with fertility return. personally, my last DC is conceived in the first cycle after Mirena coil removal. But some ladies find they have to be more patient - you never know how it goes!

Thanks ladies! Well whaddya know, I went to get my referral and came out coil-free! Nurse just whipped it out! Hurrah!
DD was a bit of a shock, conceived on the pill after a bit of a stomach bug upset the absorption. I'm hoping the intervening nearly-two years haven't made much of a difference to my fertility. Off to buy OPKs tomorrow.
Good luck everyone waiting for BFPs!

yeah, i am in 2ww safely. No swi or s without i, thank you. Poor DH:-)))
I am weird in that i do not dread the two ww, I like them more than waiting for OV and preparing for shagfest, without telling the other half wh y I am so horny.....

Oooh, jass, I'm also in the 2ww. 12 DPO today and itching to poas... But want to wait until at least Friday. My temps are still quite high, although temping has been a bit erratic because I have been very sleep-deprived - DS has been waking a lot because of a bad cough.

Lucky you, jbrd! If i could wait to poas I think I would, to avoid all this line-squinting business! good luck for when you decide to give it a try!

Hi all, just checking in while sitting on the bed trying not to get hair dye all over the pillows. The grey has been creeping through for a while now so time to take action! Welcome stow hope your TTC journey is a short one.
I'm cd 11 today, not even a sniff of a second line on ov sticks but hopefully it'll come through in the next few days. Have started to dtd every other day though just to make sure we're covered. I've been a bit lazy for the last couple of months & only managed to dtd a couple of times around ov so am upping my game this month. This is DEFINITELY it - bfp arama!!

Soooo... It's a BFP. Here we go again...

I'm not even sure how I am feeling now. Relieved comes quite close. And scared. But mainly numb. Sadly, the idea of going through the waiting game for the couple of months holds nothing happy or exciting for me, sigh.

Ah well, today, I am pregnant

[grin ] Wow jbrd I understand how worried you must be but many congratulations!!! As you say, you are indeed pregnant and where you need to be to get your much deserved take home baby. Wishing you lots of positive, calming thought. Do you have a plan of action (sorry, can't remember if you're under dr's care etc) or a case of just taking one day at a time? A large for you xxx

Congrats JBrd. Today, you are pregnant .

Thanks for the welcome messages all. I think I'm CD12 today but according to the OPK no cigar just yet. I'll test again Sun but if nothing I suspect I've missed the boat this month. I can't complain, because 72 hours ago I still had a coil in!

Congratulations JBrd, join me on the emotional rollercoaster of early pregnancy!