Fabulous Fecund Over Forties TTC: fertile,prolific,fruitful and productive. Hand over the bfp's and hand them over now!!

[hopefulgum]

Starting the new thread for you wonderful ladies before I fly off into the sunset.

May this thread bring us the happy news we've all been waiting for.

Sparkly, your words about naming dd and the who.e tricky situation of interaction difficulties reminded me of the story of my DC3, a child my husband did not want and I did. So I promised (to myself, n ot DH) if I get him/her, as i was pregnant and husband was acting up, if he is at least interested in naming it, I will not argue. I would have split up to keep that babe, so was not too worried about naming issue. He finally was interested, and he got his way,with a name I would have never ever ever considered. But it made them closer together and won me a few points on being reasonable about name business if unreasonable about baby business. After that we had DC4 with him voluntarily cooperating and he is now as sorry as me for leaving CH5 so late that it may be too late!

About the ugly name - well, I have got used to it. And my reaction to this name has softened. I still make all kind of nicknames out of it and seldom use it, but....I think it was worth it.

Irish, good to hear everything is as well as can be! I was rather worried for your silence, but hoping all was OK.

Jass, thank you for sharing your story of naming your DC3, definitely food for thought. The problem with DH's preferred name as I see it, is that it's too similar to DD1's name, & his middle name choice would mean they'd have exactly the same initials which I don't think we can do. We shall see.

bfn I'm afraid. I really felt hopeful this month but must just be a longer than average cycle. Hey ho, at least I can have a drink tonight when I go out with my sister. I think I may take a break from TTC for a while and clear my head of it all, as it is all consuming.

Arghh twominds so sory for the bfn - very cruel . Sorry too gum about af - seems like mother nature has been playing a few dirty tricks on here this month.
Ok here, section date scheduled for 14th October. I did suggest possible trial of labour with consultant but he said I would be mad and would most certainly 'bleed out' and need an EMCS anyway. Both my life and baby's would be at risk, and while there's a teeny chance all would end well, that's not a chance I want to take, especially when the only real issue (other than 'romantic' attachment to spontaneous childbirth which I have been lucky enough to experience anyway) is my concerns about recovery. So feeling ok now, and quite excited, though a little concerned I'll go before the 14th (when I will be 38 and 6 days - same as when I had ds1 )...Still, at least I will arrive knowing what's to be done, albeit in the middle of the night...
Irish excellent news about the scan, I'm so pleased for you. Are you able to relax even a tiny bit yet?
Sorry for rather brief post. ds2 has been ill (sickness bug) since Monday - better now but waking at 5am for last 2 nights which is a killer!

Hello ladies, good to see so much news on the thread.

I am so pleased for you Irish, that really is heartening news. I hope the next few weeks pass easily without too much anxiety.

Sparkly, it is lovely to hear from you. The naming thing is difficult. Dh and I had very different ideas about DS's name and as he wasn't all that keen on ttc him, I thought I'd let him choose. In the end though, I felt very reluctant to have his choice, and our children made the final decision anyway (which wasn't either of our choices). I think I'd probably be able to live with my DH's choice had it gone that way, mainly as a way to keep the peace. I hope you can work it out.

2minds, gosh, I am so sorry you got a BFN. I know how flippin' hard ttc is, and having our hopes raised, well, it is excruciating. However, despite the heartache month after month, I quietly accept it and tell myself it is about 1000 times better than the heartache of miscarriage. Until I had a miscariage I did not understand it. One of my friends had a miscarriage whilst I was ttc my son. It had been months (nothing compared to how long it is taking this time) and when I saw her (selfish, stupid woman that I am) I commented on how sorry I was, but at least she knew she could conceive, as I'd had no luck. How insensitive I was I now know that having a bfp, and the excitement and hope it brings, then loving your baby, no matter how tiny, makes it a terrible thing when it is taken away.

I used to think that if I persevered, I would eventually get my THB. But I do remember my friend, who is over 50 now, and had her last baby at 42, she went on to have three miscarriages, and has not yet had another baby. I know she is totally open to it, but I don't think she is actually ttc. However it does bring home the reality that I might never get my PLB (Precious Last Baby) after all.

Sparkly, I feel very priveliged to be in your dream, and to have aTHB. I hope you will add that you have psychic powers and often your dreams become reality?

Diege, the 14th!? OMG, that is not far away. I am so, so excited for you. I know you are probably feeling completely knackered and in need of a good rest, I do hope you can put your feet up before the baby comes.

Thanks for your reassuring words Jass, regarding the supplements and fertility doctors. I still feel, in my heart and head, that the natural route is the best for me. Last month I forgot to buy aspirin, so I will add that this time. But I am not sure it would help all that much. I honestly feel that it isn't hormones that are the problem, more likely poor eggs. I mean, I did get pregnant 18 cycles ago, when my periods were as light as they are now, and I think that loss was down to a dodgy egg that didn't develop.The isoflavones I have are from Red Clover, which I think is preferable to soy, so I'll take them this month and see what happens.

Despite the ugly AF turning up, and feeling despondent, I took myself out to the garden yesterday morning, and felt much better for it. I felt I accomplished something there, and then took the DC's to swimming. I did my laps, and felt totally refreshed and happy afterwards. Exercise is really helping me stay afloat ( nice mixed metaphor there, eh?), and feeling I have plenty to do in the garden and around the house is good too.

In the afternoon, DH and I went out and bought a beautiful new cooker for my kitchen, so I am now excited about painting the kitchen and cupboards to match my lovely new cream enamel stove

Hi Gum! It sounds like you had a very productive day yesterday - it's true that exercise and just accomplishing little things certainly brightens the mood. I think the natural route is certainly a good one for you; I don't think clomid would actually achieve something for you personally as you are obviously ovulating- I'm still convinced it's just a case of finding the good egg. Remember my colleague who is pregnant with the triplets at 48??? That was after one dtd at a 'safe' time of the month. She's just had her anomaly scan and 3 happy healthy baby girls by the looks of things!

I have been feeling a little down about the section (have had a few awful dreams based on last section where I felt the knife and had to have a general that itself had complications (both rare, not to panic people!) and going for a short walk/chatting to a friend perked me up. I have a trip to town planned for today to meet a friend from my old work - need to get C-section things - big knickers, peppermint oil capsules, plus some little presents from Laurie to the dcs...I must then truly focus on getting the playroom tidied tomorrow and am getting the black binsack bags ready for a purge of all unplayed with toys...Of course this must be highly secretive

Hi Diege. Yes, my mood is substantially better. It always is once the bleeding starts, it's a damned nuisance that PMS coincides with "Am I /aren't I/I really want to be: pregnant".

That is such amazing and wonderful news about your colleague who is having triplets. Blimey, I would be terrified if it were me - not of the pregnancy or complications (though those things would worry me) but three girls, all at once! Wow! I do hope she has some help, those first few months will be very difficult, but absolutely wonderful at the same time. What an amazing blessing.

I do remain hopeful that one day my ship will come in. Surely I have just one good egg in me? We seem to get timing right every month, so it must just be a matter of time?

I have worried that my lining is too thin because of the lightness of my period, but having done some research, the two don't necessarily go together. And my periods were much the same the last three times I got pregnant. And I know I didn't lose the first two due to a thin lining. Anyway, I started the red clover isoflavones today - 160mg until CD7, then 40mg CD8-12. I hope it will give my estrogen a boost, which will give me more EWCM, a big juicy egg and the result of an estrogen boost will give me a progesterone boost, and a nice healthy lining for the emby to snuggle into.

I am sorry that you are feeling a bit down about the C-section, but I do understand - especially after your last experience. I hope that the health professionals looking after you will be aware of those issues and make sure that it can't possibly happen again. Do you have some arnica? I have heard of that being recommended to help the healing after surgery - and vitamin E capsules too.

I know what you mean about being secretive with throwing out the kids' stuff. Charlie has mountains of drawings and paintings - and they are all gifts to his Mumma, which is very sweet, but they do have to be culled otherwise I'd be found under a big pile of them. So I have to be very surreptitious when I get them into the recycling

I had another lovely day yesterday. DH and DS2 came out and helped me in the garden. We have had a wet winter and spring so far, so the weeds are rampant. DS cut the grass for me and DH helped me tidy up alot of the over growth of trees and shrubs. It helped so much. I always feel like I've had a full body workout when I garden too. Then we went to the movies to see "Gravity" with Sandra Bullock and George Swooney...er, sorry, Clooney. I enjoyed it, DH had trouble suspending his disbelief. The cinematography was amazing, really beautiful, and a great suspenseful storyline, but there wasn't enough of George, and he mostly had a spacesuit on, so I couldn't get much of a look anyway

The sun is shining again today, and though I am a bit sore from gardening yesterday, I shall get back into it again.It keeps me off the internet, trawling for new ideas about ttc

Happy Sunday everyone, enjoy....

Hello Gum!!! It must be so nice spending time in the garden knowing the warmer weather is coming. It's a case of raking up autumn leaves and putting the outside furniture away here...The summer here was too hot for me though, although it would be nice to be pushing a baby in a pram on a warm day..On the baby-front I have packed some arnica tablet, though not sure what the recommended dosage is...I also have peppermint oil capsules for post-section wind and have ordered some horrendous tena lady pants which I hear come highly recommended as they'll come up over the scar and also rip off - the shame of it though..
Better get back to the ironing (uniforms) - dh has also sneaked a few shirts in . I hate ironing men's shirts!!!
Love to all xxx

Morning Diege (I think this thread has become ours!), Hello to anyone else out there reading[big wave].

Yes, being in the garden, with some sunshine is lovely. And it isn't just the humans enjoying the sun, I came upon a MASSIVE one of these near the vegie patch. Curled up, enjoying the sun. Bloody hell! Last year I had to pay a snake handler to remove one which kept coming back. We used to have a chicken house in the spot where they keep coming back to. I don't know why, the chickens have gone now, but the snakes keep coming back. Fortunately they are not venomous, however, they can give you a nasty bite. Basically, we just have to be careful in that part of the garden. It is all part of living in the bush - we are surrounded by trees on either side of our block of land.I am just a bit concerned that I might accidentally step on it - but it was huge, so it is unlikely that I won't see it. They are pretty snakes with black and yellow patterns.

Those Tena lady pants sound lovely, but who cares about the shame of it where comfort is involved? I think you do whatever it takes to be comfortable. Like you, my biggest concern about a C-section is the recovery. But I have had a few friends who have had C-sections and I am amazed at how soon they bounced back. Will you DH be able to take time off work to help you at home? It is so important to get the rest you need when recovering from surgery, and you simply must not be lifting anything heavy! Which I realise will be almost impossible unless you have help, what with a new baby and a toddler.

Today I have the usual swimming routine, but tomorrow I will be off for a couple of days alone.

I have been toying with the idea for a while, but I kept coming back to the idea that I had to get the kids to swimming lessons, and as DH made it clear when I booked them that he didn't want to do all that running around during his holidays, I felt I couldn't ask him to take over. Anyway, I decided that the swimming lessons aren't that important and the kids could miss a couple of lessons. DD1 will stay with DS at lessons tomorrow, and DH will pick them up, and then he will miss Weds,Thursday, but back for the last one on Friday.DD can keep going, as she can be left at the pool and picked up later.

So, I am going on a little trip to the city, to see my sister and her new fella in their new place. It will be so weird seeing her with the man who made her miserable for four years, but he's left his marriage now, so I hope this can be a fresh start and that she will be happy. It has become very messy with her Ex who is (understandably) very upset and angry, so seeing her own children is a bit tricky, especially as she is living 4-5 hours away from them. I could never be away from my kids, but that's the choice she made in the hope that she will find happiness.

Anyway, I am looking forward to having some kid free time and chilling out for myself (as much as one can in a busy city).

Wow Gum you have an exciting/stressful few days coming up. Is this the first time you have met your sister's dp? It must be very hard to live away from the children - I'm guessing they are teens/older? On the other hand, a break away for you sounds blissful .
Black and yellow snakes who bite sounds horrific! I remember the snake business last year - not sure you'd get me out there in the garden though I suppose they are quite self-contained and don't roam?? Hoping you have a lovely trip - you deserve it

Had the night from hell last night. Woke around 4ish with terrible contraction pain (but also needed to wee 3 times between 4 and 7 so might have been linked to that). Settled down this morning but not at all sure what to do if I go into labour (ie, if the placenta issue is urgent urgent, or just 'wait and see' and come in). I did ask of course at last appointment but a very vague response (just come in if you think it's proper labour )...On top of this my nearly 2 year old is waking earlier and earlier (4.30am today), usually screaming and getting very worked up. Now controlled crying has always worked well for my dcs and I would do it like a shot but 2 yr old is now sharing with 4 yr old and I'm worried 4 yr old will wake and be tired for school...
I'd really like to get this sorted asap!!! Have asked nursery to cut back on his nap today, so will see!
Hope everyone is ok - come and join the gum and diege show

Hi Diege and gum!
Diege hope you're feeling ok now,it must be a concern if you think you might go into labour spontaneously, can you get some clarification as to what you should do if contractions start up again? It doesn't help if your sleep is disturbed by your dcs too, I bet you'll be looking forwad to a rest in hospital after your CS, how long can you stay in for?! I've had friends who've had sections and there's a world of difference between an elective op like you'll have and an emergency section at the end of a prolonged labour, most people seem to recover very quickly,I'm sure you'll be fine.
gum that snake would freak me out if I came across it in the garden!
I hope you enjoy your minibreak though I suppose it will be a strange situation.I can't imagine living away from my dcs either. How old is the youngest? Can you still see your nephews and nieces? It sounds like a complicated situation but hopefully once the dust has settled she can find some peace and happiness.
Hello to everyone else!

Hey who's the gatecrasher Great to hear from you irish - presumably everything going well with the pregnancy?
Hopefully as you say irish planned section will be much easier than my emcs, which was also under GA which doesn't help I think. Really hoping I can last it out until the section date, not that I have much control! I have decided to ask if I can stay in the full 3 nights after the section - they do aim to kick you out earlier, but I can only ask!
Ds2 only had 1hr 20 mins for nap today at nursery, compared to the usual 2 hrs so will see if this has any effect whatsoever on his early waking...am tempted to see if ds1 will sleep through it. Can't believe ds2's timing!!!

Good Morning Diege,Irish and anyone else reading...

Irish, I trust the pregnancy is progressing well

Oh my goodness Diege, the sleep issues must be very difficult for you. I hope cutting back his afternoon nap helps. We had to do that with DS as he was staying up until after 10 on daycare days! Once we cut out the nap, it made all the difference (though we did have to deal with a super cranky boy at the end of the day)Are you able to get any rest during the day?

I hope your LO can wait til the planned CS, but babies do have a way of coming when they want to! If you are at all concerned, get yourself to the hospital asap.

I can't believe that you only get three days in the hospital. It wasn't that long ago that women stayed in for two weeks (which I wouldn't want to do) so they were really on the way to healing before being sent home. I think with 5 other children at home they will let you stay in three nights to get a rest. When I had DD2, a natural birth, we were moving house - she was born on the day of the move - it was the stuff of nightmares! The house wasn't properly finished, we'd built it ourselves, and on the day of moving, the floors were being polished and sealed. So all the furniture was being delivered onto the deck. We also didn't have a kitchen installed, that was coming in the next few days. Anyway, DD was supposed to be due two weeks after the moving day, and I honestly think the stress of the build and move had her come early. I'd had a threatened prem labour at 31 weeks, and had spent time on bedrest, but once I got to 36 weeks everything had settled (or so I thought). Anyway, when the midwives heard about the dramas, they let me stay in hospital for a full 5 days. It was great in terms of avoiding the chaos, but I just couldn't wait to get out of there. I did get a reasonable rest though.

I'll be off in a couple of hours for my little road trip. I am actually looking forward to the 5 hours alone in the car with just the radio or cds. How lovely. As for my sister's situation, it is strange, but I think having me meet the "other" man, who is now her partner, is really important to her. I am the only family member who has supported her through all of this. I didn't approve of her having an affair, but despite that I have always been here to listen and support her. I tried talking her out of being away from her kids but in the end, this is how she is choosing to live and although it is sad for the kids, she will still see them regularly. She has two boys 16 and 17, and two boys 6 and 7. Unfortunately her 7 year old has a few issues - ADHD and learning difficulties. I feel a bit heart-broken that he won't always have mum there to be on his side, but their dad is a good man and does what is best for the kids. I think he's being careful not to bad-mouth my sister in front of the kids, but I do think the split won't be amicable because her DH didn't really know about the affair (well he did find out early on and then thought it was over, when in fact it kept going) and although my sister was doing regular trips to the city where the O.M lived, he apparently didn't know. I question that, surely you would suspect if your wife kept going back to that city every couple of weeks, and her excuse was that she just loved that city and felt unhappy in the town where they lived??

Anyway, I know she misses the kids terribly, but her exH made it very clear that he wouldn't allow her to take the kids, and I think she realised what a struggle it would be to have custody, so she has decided to move on and have regular access. Her actual move is only a few weeks old, so not much has been sorted in that regard. Her partner is also having those kind of issues with his three kids, so between them they will be juggling 7 kids and access etc. Messy...

I am pleased I will have lunch with my DS1 tomorrow in the city. He is living and working up there. I know he is struggling a bit and misses us, so it will good to catch up with him.

If you have read this far without being bored witless, have a !

Sorry, I seem to have turned this thread into my journal. I didn't mean to do that. But if you are interested, here's some pictures from the garden I've been talking about...

Some of you other ladies better start posting on here, or else when Diege is off having her baby I will be talking to myself

Hello everyone!!!
Lurking and reading but not posting as I am just kinda of waiting....
Like diege yesterday I thought that things were going to happen but it didn't and today I phone mw to ask what I need to do if the contractions do becomes established as baby is breech and an elcs isbooked on the 18th October. I was told not to wait to long and to let them know....so now I am waiting..:)

Gum I was terrified by the snake in your garden as most of the ones we get near a house in my country are poisonous so my hats off for your self control!!!

Irish I will be readi g your post on the 16th regarding the next scan!!!

Gum I hope you have a great trip and driving and listening to radio/ cds sounds wonderful!!!

Xxxx to everyone else.....

Hello all, very exciting waiting for those babies. Hope you have a good trip gum.
Following Gum's very useful advice the other day which really focused my mind, I've tried to take a bit of control this month. So I have booked a drs appt to get my FSH tested, booked a course of acupunture which I started yesterday and bought some CoQ10. I was feeling all upbeat, but then...
Hmm. I seem to have missed my ovulation by being random and busy. I have some OPK sticks, but didn't start using them til yesterday which would have been day 9 of my cycle - this would normally be about 5 days before ovulation for me. I was also temping, but missed a day as I'd nobley lent our bedroom to houseguests over the weekend and forgotten to grab my thermometer. But yesterday my temp was already up (only missed testing for one day) and also the OPK stick (1st one I'd used) was positive. I didn't get any fertile mucus til today (sorry TMI). We did BD yesterday morning, but I think once your temp is up it's too late isn't it?
I am a bit frustrated on two levels - first we missed an opportunity when my DH was actually at home at the right time (he's a LH pilot) - we just didn't get our act together (due to hurricane like visit of relatives with 4 kids in our tiny 2 bed house, but I wasn't too fussed as I thought it was early), but also if I am ovulating early in the cycle, and out of whack with the fertile mucus I think that's a sign of age isn't it?
The acupunturist gave me a talking too about getting a move on - he was a bit negative about my age (42) and questioned why we'd had a break from TTC after my last mc (broken wrist and DH logistics).
So all a bit negative. I guess if I know I have missed the window this month I don't have to suffer the 2WW wondering and can just focus on other stuff...
Sorry this is long, but DH's attention span to this type of detail is rubbish! Thanks for listening,
Have a good day everyone...

Here I am.. gum have a beautiful time with your sister..relationships are sometimes very complex, my aunty was left just a month before the wedding by her DF who decided out of the blue to become priest..she then had two successive relationships with two men older than her who sadly died both of cancer, now she has an affair going on for over 15 years with a married man..he won't leave the family because his daughter has very serious anorexia..I think one can't blame them can't he?
diege I hope baby won't be too rushy..
I managed to speak to DP about my fears both about baby having anomalies and cvs..we still didn't make up our mind ..but I'm glad we didn't argue..actually both of us are scared to death something could go wrong again. .today I am having a scan, I hope the baby is still there. ..

Gosh good luck mozz with the scan xx
rainy sounds like your timing might be ok - might the temp be 'wrong' if the opk stick is only just positive? From memory you would ovulate 24 hrs or so after pos stick, though for me it was always pos the day of ovulatuion. I think you did well in the domestic circumstances!
Gum you'll be well on your way now! Enjoy!
notsoold I think I am nearly there with C-section acceptance. My hairdresser was booked in for a section as baby breach and it had indeed turned (revealed in scan in theatre). She was given the choice of what to do and decided to labour naturally. Must be tough when you are gowned up and mentally ready to go home!
I keep on thinking I should go for a private scan to check placenta again - just have a niggle that I've not had any spotting. Dr. Google tells me 99% of all placenta praevia will have spotting/bleeding by third trimester, but I guess I'm in the 1% Would just give me total acceptance to know again that C-section unavoidable (they won't scan again after 37 weeks for this on NHS). Dh thinks I'm nuts though!

gum your posts are never boring! Love the photos. Do you actually get lemons you can use from your lemon tree and what are "youngberries" ? We have a young labrador so would have no chance of growing anything remotely edible in our garden! She's destroying the buddleia at the moment and bringing it into the kitchen branch by branch.
It will be lovely to have a chance to see your DS when you're in the city. Does he get home to you much? Our DS is coming back for a visit this weekend, it seems ages since we've seen him.
rainy as diege said could your temp rise be a blip? Only a sustained rise in temp for 3 consecutive days confirms ovulation has occured and your opk can be pos before you ovulate so you could still be in with a chance.
diege I would be tempted to have a private scan if I was you, but then I am a bit addicted to private scans!
I went back today to have a peek at baby and all is well so far. Baby was very active and is measuring spot on for dates so is growing well. 11w3d today! The sonographer mentioned nuchal fold looked normal and my uterine haematoma is still there but has reduced in size since last week. I still don't dare relax fully but it's all seeming a bit more real.
Mozza hope your scan went well today xx
notsoold ,wow, you'll have your baby next week! Hope it all goes well for you.

Mozz fx for your scan xxx

Diege...I must say that if on the day the lo turned andthey induce me I will be disappointed as I had an induction before and it was very, very difficult. However what will be will be!!!I don't think you are nuts as a scan would be reasurring regarding the placenta previa wouldn't it??? Xxx

Irish wonderful news regarding lo!!!!do you have an nhs scan next week???

Gum...hope you are having an excellent time!!!

My scan was ok, dr let me hear the heartbeat.. Couldn't avoid thinking about last pregnancy..
I've almost made up my mind to have the cvs ..I hope this time I won't be theone with bad luck and that the procedure will be safe..if any problem should be detected I want time to think about it..
morien give us some news! Hope everything is ok..

Morning ladies

Great news on the scans Mozzerella and Irish. hope you can relax a little bit now. Irish I would love to have a dog but I work such long hours at the moment it wouldn't be fair to leave it alone for so long. Good luck diege and notsoold - not long to go now! Very exciting.

hopeful - sorry about BFN and AF coming - it sounded very positive for you . Your garden looks amazing! enjoy your time with your sister and seeing you DS. it sounds like your sis has been through a tough time - hope she finds some happiness/peace.

Rainy - what did your temp do today was it up again or was yesterday a blip?

It is 11DPO for me and I don't think I am going to get my BFP before starting IVF. Although my temp is up again today and my cervix is still high, I just feel like AF is around the corner (an odd feeling it is hard to describe)well that and a BFN I got on a test this morning!

I am really cross with my DP - all he has to do for IVF is get his blood tests done (HIV, HEP C, HEP B etc) and ultimately make his "contribution" on the day and he still hasn't had the tests done and we are due to start when I be my AF which will be in a couple of days. He keeps saying relax he will get it done and the results will be back in time - it is driving me nuts! . I have had scans, bloods, internal exams and will be having my (hopefully!) eggs removed from my body after pumping myself full of drugs and have them put back all he has to do is go to the doctors office once!! Aghhh (rant over)

Hello everyone! Sorry, haven't posted for a while but I keep on reading (did try to post the other day but it disappeared and I didn't have time to re-write).

mozzarella so glad your scan went well. That must be a relief. Good to hear all's well with you too, irish.

diege, notso I can't believe your babies are about to arrive (or that your DD is already over a month old, sparkly) - looking forward to hearing your happy news, and thinking of you both in the meanwhile.

green I hear you I remember getting really stressed by my DH's 'relaxed' approach to the tests he had to get done for the IUI which we never actually had He did go in the end though, and in good time - but I don't know why they make us hang on like this...

Just back from my 2nd trimester scan (as it's known here) - am 22 weeks and a bit. When we entered the room DH & the sonographer realised they knew each other from years back (this is such an incestuous community that this happens roughly once a week), which made things both nice and jolly, and initially frustrating (as in, 'can you 2 cut the reminiscing and show me the flaming baby?') Anyway, when he finally got round to it he took a nice long time over it and everything's absolutely fine And it's a little girl

As some of you may remember, I was the world's laziest TTC-er (apart from lots of DTD, which was far from lazy) and never temped or anything. But just before my BFP I decided I needed to be a bit more pro-active, and ordered a load of internet cheapie OPKs - which I never got round to using. You see, they're a lucky batch; it was just having them in the house that got me my BFP - and now I want to pass the luck on to one of you (haven't felt able to let them go till now, but told myself I would after the scan). Who wants them? I'll be in the UK next week so will happily post them from there if you PM me with your address...

Great news on your scan Mozza ! It's amazing to hear the little heart beat too. How many weeks are you now?
Morien how lovely to know it's a little girl and that everything is ok.
Green nice to hear from you,sorry about the BFN but 11 dpo is still early, you never know.If AF does arrive at least you're due to start your IVF,hope your DH gets himself organized with his bloods!
notsoold yes my NHS scan is next week. I relaxed a bit after the scan yesterday, today I'm starting to feel nervous again, roll on 12 weeks!

Hello! Morien great news and the scan and that all was well. Do you have any names lined up?
Irish I think you have permission to breath pretty easily now, but can understand totally how the anxiety clears and then comes back again. Exciting times though - great nuchal was looking good too xx
mozz congrats on your scan too - lovely news xx
Green fingers crossed for a bfp, but good to know you have the ivf all lined up if not. Your dp's attitude would be stressing me out big time
All fine here. The private scanning place I had my eye on is fully booked for the next few days which is a bit disappointing as I had decided to get one done re: the placenta. However, saw a lovely mw this afternoon (not my usual mrs sourface) and she has advised me to push for a scan just before the section. She said they had mobile scanners on the ward anyway to check for breech before section, so shouldn't be a problem. She said I may have to argue my case a bit, but I have no problem with that! I have my pre-op tomorrow anyway, so will mention in then.