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BFP on 2 home tests but BFN at Dr's?

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MrsAnderson22 · 25/06/2013 14:26

hi, I tested positive yesterday afternoon at home. I went to the walk in centre last night as I was worried about severe pains in my shoulder I've had for 2 days now. today is the 3rd day. I know this can be a symptom of ectopic preg, and you are more susceptible to ectopics with coil removal, I had mine removed in march. so at the walk in centre they did a test, it was bfn but showed blood in my urine! nurse said I could be about to have AF.....I still haven't, I tested again this morning using a first response test and the line was clearer! so 2 home bfp and 1 bfn from nurse. blood in urine and painful shoulder. any advice?

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WillSingForCake · 25/06/2013 14:32

When was your period due? If its early days it may just be that the tests you're using at home are more sensitive than the ones at the medical centre. Did they test you for a urinary infection? Could explain blood in urine.

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MrsAnderson22 · 25/06/2013 14:35

hi, my period was only due yesterday but is NEVER late so I tested quite early :/ I am hoping the shoulder pain is muscular due to staying in a strange bed (hotel) at the weekend. the blood in urine is UTI and bfn was because nurse tested at 9.30pm last night!

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StrawberrytallCAKE · 25/06/2013 14:40

Is the pain in your shoulder still there? I would go back to the drs to confirm pregnancy and a&e if it gets worse or you have other pains.

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MrsAnderson22 · 25/06/2013 14:47

yes the pain is still there, I also have a temperature according to the nurse! the pain in my shoulder is like a burning sensation, I can lift my arm above my head front ways but if I try to touch my back it's agony!

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WillSingForCake · 25/06/2013 14:58

Have they given you antibiotics for the UTI? I would say you're most definitely pregnant, and you should go to the GP to get the shoulder looked at.

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MrsAnderson22 · 25/06/2013 15:02

no she didnt give antibiotics, didn't even confirm a UTI! she just said I had tested neg for pregnancy but had blood in my urine which means I might be about to have my period, I don't believe this as I've no other AF symptoms and tested positive twice at home. 2 different times of the day and 2 different makes of test.

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RaRaZ · 25/06/2013 17:06

WHERE in your shoulder is the pain? Tends to the tip (where the outside of your shoulder becomes your arm) if ectopic. You may also have pelvic pain (usually on one side only) if ectopic. If you're worried, I'd call EPU/EPAC for advice - ectopics are dangerous if left. Hopefully it's nothing, but definitely worth getting further advice I think.

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MrsAnderson22 · 25/06/2013 17:32

it is on the tip of my shoulder which is why I am worried. but I have no other pains which I'd imagine I would have by now since shoulder tip pain normally occurs once internal bleeding has began. I thought id have gad cramps or somethig :/

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WillSingForCake · 25/06/2013 17:35

Go to GPs tmrw - if you are pregnant (which looks likely!) then you need to get that possible UTI sorted straight away in case it spreads to your kidneys.

RaRaZ · 25/06/2013 17:57

Not always - it's one of those weird, inexplicable things. No-one's 100% sure why shoulder tip pain occurs, other than it's something to do with pressure. Are you having any other symptoms? There are a lot of POSSIBLE ectopic pg symtoms, such as one-sided abdo pain, D&V, vaginal bleeding, etc - but bear in mind that some people have none. Hopefully you're ok, but get it checked out asap for your own sake. I'd call EPAC personally.

Blood in urine could be a lot of things. You'd normally expect other symptoms too if it was part of a UTI though - but, like everything, not always. Do you get a lot of UTIs? Any burning/stinging when you urinate? Urinating more frequently? Struggling to pass urine? Pain in lower abdomen or flanks?

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MrsAnderson22 · 26/06/2013 12:50

hi everyone! right, I went to a&e last night as I couldn't stop worrying! this is what was happened-

I had bloods drawn, they showed I had an infection in my body somewhere, it also showed positive for pregnancy but with a very low hormone level of 30! so much be very very early stages doc said! I gave a urine sample, that showed blood and protein but not enough to be concerned, I was given paracetamol for my shoulder and antibiotics for the infection which will treat chest and urine as a precaution. I have to now wait 2 weeks to take another pregnancy test (which will be number 5!) if it's positive I have to see my gp and get referred to epu for monitoring of hormone levels, if my period comes in the next 2 weeks I've had a bio chemical pregnancy according to the doc :( x

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MrsAnderson22 · 26/06/2013 12:55

(following on from last post) oh and the chances of it being ectopic are miniscule as they'd expect higher hormone levels but they're not ruling it out. a scan wouldn't show anything at this stage x

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RaRaZ · 26/06/2013 13:04

Oh thank goodness you went - I'm really relieved you got checked out! I'm glad ectopic has been more-or-less ruled out :-) Fingers crossed the pg continues as normal. Are you feeling a bit better now?

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MrsAnderson22 · 26/06/2013 13:33

my shoulder is feeling a little better, I can move it around more! I am a little crampy though :/ not sure if that's normal, my last pregnancy was almost 10 years ago.

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RaRaZ · 26/06/2013 14:05

Good on the shoulder :-) I wouldn't worry about the cramps as long as they're fairly mild - plenty of people get them as it's usually not a problem; can be to do with the ligaments stretching or implantation etc. Mine were agonising for weeks actually, and there was apparently nothing wrong whatsoever. Obviously if you get any bleeding or the cramps become bad or you just feel like there's something wrong, you're probably best to go get it checked out again. Bit fingers crossed! :-)

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MrsAnderson22 · 26/06/2013 14:32

thank you so much for all of your advice! My cramps are not bad at all, a little dull ache with the odd twinge but very bearable! no blood or discharge what so ever so keeping my everything crossed :) x

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Vikkijayne2507 · 27/06/2013 21:18

Hope all goes well

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MrsAnderson22 · 28/06/2013 12:38

UPDATE:
since yesterday I have had no cramping at all and no pain in my shoulder!! hoping that's a positive sign.....I'm also feeling very nauseous in the morning, which I can only think is a good sign too :) can't stomach my much loved black coffee either!

This pregnancy does feel a lot different from my last 2! I never had morning sickness or any other symptoms with my other 2 :/ maybe it's because my body is older and different. I am 29 now but had my other very young....

My DD is 12 (not with her 'dad' anymore) no symptoms, I was 16.
My DS is 9 (married his Dad in September) no symptoms, I was 20.

is there any truth in the rumours re: sex with morning sickess? I know I have 1 of each but can different dads be a factor in how I would carry a little girl?

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RaRaZ · 28/06/2013 12:44

Perfect timing, Mrs Anderson - I was wondering whether to post and bug you to let us know how you're doing. Glad you're feeling better - that's got to be a good sign! Haha, coffee seems to be the first thing a lot of people go off. I know I did. Can you still stand the smell? I could barely cope with DP being in the same room as me after he'd drunk a cup - I'd make him go brush his teeth!

I think the important thing to remember is that every pg is different. Not helpful, I know, but you can't really work it out, especially when there's such a gap since you're last child. I mean...do you eat exactly the same diet/take the same exercise/have the same health problems or lack of them/cope with pain and discomfort in the same way/sleep for the same length of time/have the same level of stress in your daily life/etc etc? Anything can change how your body responds to things.

I think the only thing that could perhaps help you to work out the likelihood of having a boy v a girl would be to look at DP's family as the 'deciding' chromosome comes from the man. Is he the only man with six sisters, or does he have two brothers, for example? Has he fathered any children aside from your DS? If he has brothers, what have they had?

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MrsAnderson22 · 28/06/2013 12:52

hi :) thanks for the quick response haha!

my DP only has a (half)sister that we know of, he has no contact with his biological dad. DP has fathered a son who is 15 now :/ so that's 2 sons, I am hoping to give him a daughter this time but will be over the moon with whatever sex it is as we have been ttc for a while now :)

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RaRaZ · 28/06/2013 13:03

Welcome lol.

Will you find out or keep it a surprise? I suppose in some way he's father to your DD anyway, no? I'm sure he'll be delighted whatever you have :-)

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MrsAnderson22 · 28/06/2013 13:13

definitely want to find out :) its more practical with getting things ready lol. he is the most amazing dad to my DD, she has special needs and is physically disabled, although she is 12 she has only been registered disabled since 6 years old. everything with her was 'normal' until then, she then deteriorated rapidly and has a genetic disorder which has affected her vision, hearing and she has lost the use of her arms :( she is now in a wheelchair. my husband doesn't treat her any different to our son, takes care of all of her personal hygiene needs if I am not there and doesn't bat an eyelid :) we will cherish whatever comes along.

her 'dad' (sperm donor!!!!) was a very violent man, I ran away from my whole family to escape him, moving from scotland to england, so I have no family down here what so ever, DD daughtet doesn't know he exists and as far as she is concerned DH is her dad, he's been with her since she was 18 months old. and until she asks otherwise, she'll always think of him as dad.

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RaRaZ · 28/06/2013 14:52

Oh wow, that sounds wonderful - I think you've got yourself a really good man there Mrs Anderson . I'm sorry for what happened with your daughter - that must have been very difficult. But you sound like a fantastic mam and you obviously have a wonderful partner and family - sounds like you're all brilliant together. I'm sure your two children will be really excited for the arrival of the new baby :-)

That sounds awful :-( What a terrible thing to go through so young. You were very brave to keep your baby in those circumstances, I think. Well done you for getting through it so well and having such a wonderful family.

StrawberrytallCAKE · 28/06/2013 19:51

Oh mrsanderson so pleased for you and how lovely your dh sounds.

My dh has 3 brothers who have had only sons (bar one) and I have 2 dds so I'm not sure about the gender thing Grin.

RaRaZ · 28/06/2013 20:03

Oh really, Strawberry ? That's interesting, I thought that normally worked! I'm expecting boys when DP finally gets me up the duff lol - but mebbies not then!