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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Eggcellent Egg Buddies: are you IVF cycling in June/July/August 2013? Then get your druggy arses over here for some pure fucking menkulling...

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juicypair · 27/05/2013 14:51

NokklingtonStStation, I couldn't find a new thread so I made this one, cock. Hope I did the right thing

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Fabuluce · 12/06/2013 19:11

Wow what a truly hideous thing to have to experience juicy :( too awful for the innocent kit and how awful that in doing the right thing that you were injured too. You do have to focus in you now of course, this is your time, but that's easier said then done when you're a hormonal and emotional baggage. I think you should concentrate on having a massive blubfest, really throw yourself into it and get it all cried out so that tomorrow you can wake up and think about you and the new life(s) you'll be bringing home inside you instead.

Tame - horrific time for you at the moment - am thinking of you.

Resp - ditto to everything Juice said - she's a wise ol bird! And I can't say it enough - give counselling a go. It doesn't matter what stage you are in your relationship - there are just times when you really can't connect and counselling really helps with that. Toasty the wonderhusb and I saw a counsellor very early on and it made such a difference then and now in how we communicate with each other.

I don't start downregging until 8th July so am feeling well behind everyone and am being a little stalkeresque as I can't join in on the druggy convos at the mo but I'm still sticking with you guys if you don't mind :)

Fabuluce · 12/06/2013 19:33

Ps - karbea - exciting!!!!

tametortie · 12/06/2013 19:40

buzzy- I've been ok today. Cried a lot and watched sex and the city.

Im pretty resigned, I just hate the drawn out process.

I have bled again this afternoon and im doubled up with cramps.

I wish I hadn't seen the scan yesterday. All looked ok but what I am feeling now is conflicting and its confusing me.

I just want it to be over, either way. Sad I feel like we are being tormented by being given hope and having it taken away again. The blood is scaring me.

my daughter came home from school after a sex education lesson yesterday with a hand out about working out her fertile time. I swear to God, if my 10 year old has kids before me.....

tametortie · 12/06/2013 19:41

Karbea- can't wait to hear how many eggs you get!! I love this bit!!!

Karbea · 12/06/2013 19:44

Tametortie it's so cruel you have to go through this, keep strong.

I think if I had a daughter I'd be encouraging her to think about starting a family much sooner than I did, I really wish I'd met my DH in my mid twenties rather than late 30s. Although 10 seems very young to learn about when she's fertile?

Karbea · 12/06/2013 19:45

Tametortie I actually feel really sick just thinking about the next stages, it's all getting pretty real now... But I can't wait either, they'll better be a good one in there!

tametortie · 12/06/2013 20:14

There will be and it will be the dominant follicle from which you would have ovulated naturally! Natural selection..

I have a tcoyf book for her when she is 16. I am going to teach her to take her temp (as a learning exercise- not so she chart fertility!) and teach her to read her body and respect it as a finely tuned system that can work for her or against her. It is absolutely the most fascinating amazing thing I ever did was learning charting- a brilliant skill that every woman should learn. Definitely something I will teach dd. The half hashed crap attempt the school have sent her is classic school boy- 28 day cycle, ovulate day 14. I soon put her straight over a bowl of rice krispies this morning. She was amazed and said I should let her teacher know that I have a 28 day cycle and ovulate on day 18 Hmm

Karbea · 12/06/2013 20:37

Haha! Yes mines 24-26 and ov anything from 11-14... Funnily enough we aren't all the same!

nobeer · 12/06/2013 20:40

Thanks for the welcomes. Ok, my story. I don't live in the UK anymore and I've been with DP for just over 3 years and we decided to start to TTC after we'd been together for a year. It felt like the right time, not too soon for us, and I'm not getting any younger (nearly 41)and we'd been through quite a bit as I'd been quite ill with something hideous called Stevens Johnson Syndrome (don't google it if you're eating).

Anyway, I started charting, temperature taking etc, but never really got the hang of it. But what I did notice was that I had very little cervical fluid, and none of the egg white stuff - probably due to damage caused by SJS. I also had spotting, so mentioned it to my GP who knew we were TTC and he referred me to a gynae in September. She bluntly told me that I'd never conceive naturally and I was too old for Assisted Conception so I'd have to go private. I was upset at the time, but not surprised. After charting I knew something wasn't right, and before we even started TTC we hardly ever used condoms.

Went to one clinic, but didn't really like them, can't tell you why, just didn't feel right. Then we tried another clinic where my friend told me their lab is really good. The lovely doctor I saw thought I might have a septum in my uterus. So they did a hysteroscopy to make sure and removed it. Now my uterus isn't divided in two we're starting the IVF!

Obviously I really hope it works, and not sure how many cycles we can afford if not! But I feel that we have to give it a try and hope for best. I feel really positive, which is nice as I was feeling quite apprehensive and stressy. So far so good!

Think that's about it!

tametortie · 12/06/2013 20:47

Hello nobeer Smile and good luck!!

wishwash · 12/06/2013 21:21

Hello everyone

juicy the story about the cat has really made me sad, I really don't know what I would do if I saw that! I get nervous if my DP gets too close to a field with a sheep in it. I hope your back is ok.

tame hang in there xx

I had a scan this morning and they think I'm over stimmed. I am so bloated after eating nothing but weetabix all day and very achey. They've halved my dose for tonight. I'm terrified they're gonna pull the plug on it Sad Sad

wishwash · 12/06/2013 21:31

Oh and welcome nobeer Smile

tametortie · 12/06/2013 21:31

Oh wish Sad did they say how many follicles you have? When do you trigger? X

mejust · 12/06/2013 21:31

oh wish did they have you on a high dose, what day you on now ? i hope by cutting the dose down they can control it,why didnt they give you metformin for your pcos it lowers the risk for you.

juicy i cant believe what happened to you today is your back ok? good job hubby was there.you have to concentrate on you now and try and be calm and relax.

tam thinking of you Flowers

hello nobeer

fab thats ok stick around and listen to us lot moan Smile

hello to buzz motor expat nokkie nook choco life and everyone else

mejust · 12/06/2013 21:33

oh my fucking god my jab hurt tonight

resipsa · 12/06/2013 21:41

Juicy hideous story. Hope you are OK physically and a night's sleep gives you some distance from such a negative experience.

Buzzy so pleased for you (and thanks for your PM, too). Well jealous too!

resipsa · 12/06/2013 21:44

Thanks to everyone who gave input about my DH "situation". Tonight he got in at 7, told me he hates coming home and went to bed at 8 without eating. Wonder if we're beyond hope!

wishwash · 12/06/2013 21:44

I was on 150 which isn't a very high dose considering 75 hardly did anything when I was going through previous fertility. I've heard no mention of metformin Sad

I have 19 follicles in my left which is the painful one, 9 of them are around the size of 12 and they're all showing signs of growing so they're trying to control the smaller ones without stopping the bigger ones.
My right ovary has around the same amount of follicles but only 5 are properly growing although I have a lot of 'less thans' in there.

I'm feeling a little short of breath too but am I just panicking with every twinge or should I be concerned? I do keep having sharp pains but this is the first time I've experienced this so am I being a worry wart??

I don't have another scan until Friday!

EuroShaggleton · 12/06/2013 21:47

Welcome nobeer. The more the merrier! It sounds like you've had a tough ride. I hope IVF works for you!

noks yep, I'm back on the IVF train. Toot toot! I predict I will carry on feeling relaxed until I hit EC at which point I will whig out and try to run away from the clinic again... Oh well, it's only one day and I know I can get through it.

Bloody hell joos the cat incident sounds absolutely awful.

buzz a heartbeat is amazing. I know you don't feel you are out of danger yet, but you are getting nearer every day!

Nearly there karbea!

tortie

wish what's the next step?

mejust sorry to hear the stabbing hurt. i found some days it hurt and bled much more than others - I wasn't doing anything different but I think some days I hit a little capillary.

resipsa · 12/06/2013 21:47

Final post for tonight - for those doing or who've done a DE cycle overseas, what was the primary motivation for going outside of the UK? Was it money, speed, anonymity or something else? TIA.

Wish hope you don't get bad news.

EuroShaggleton · 12/06/2013 21:52

wish x-posts. I see you have another scan on Friday.

res I'm sorry you and the hubby are having troubles.

buzzybee123 · 12/06/2013 21:56

res the cost was a big thing for us we only had one shot, I looked up clinics here at I think Care quoted £7000, we went to Reprofit in Brno paid all up including travel accommodation and spending £5,200, we also made a holiday out of it, if I had used Care I would have needed to travel as I am in the south, Reprofit are great, I have no complaints about them they have a good reputation, perhaps look at the FF, speed wasn't a big factor, I waited 5 months, I'm not fussed about knowing/not knowing about the donor, I plan to tell the baby when its older

wishwash · 12/06/2013 22:00

Euro I'm not entirely sure what the next step is. They've halved my dose for tonight but not sure what ill do tomorrow. I guess they'll phone me? They took my bloods but I haven't spoken to them about the results. I'm just scared that its all going on down there and it'll be to late to reverse it if its left until Friday.

They know what they're going surely? So I have to calm down. DP is worried too which isn't helping!

EuroShaggleton · 12/06/2013 22:09

It's a worrying time. I had some mild OHSS symptoms when I was on Letrozole. Confused It only lasted a day but I was very uncomfortable.

NookNook · 12/06/2013 22:09

Hello lovely ladies!

I've been lurking but stupidly busy with work so haven't managed to keep massively up to date.

Nobeer welcome!

Tame you are doing so well. What an absolutely shitty time you're having - the spotting must be a right headfuck. Why are our bodies such bastards? Keep us updated.

Life and Mejust glad you both survived the dildocam!

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