We laugh in the face of OPKS and stomp on our thermometers! Don your customised shag capes, ladies; it's Just Shagging Thread 15

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Ladies, Fred title says it all; we are the ones who shag as much as our men can cope with in order to get upduffed without the stress of scientific whatnots!

Fred rules (copied from previous Fred)

1. Thou shalt shag as much as humanly possible in order to get upduffed.
2. Thou shalt not partake of OPKs, temping, or charting.
3. Thou shalt keep symptom spotting to a minimum.
4. Thou shalt share and with your fredmates where needed.

JSing lingo;

ERTD = Evil Red Tide of Dooooooommmmmmm. Or AF to most others.

Pant snot = Egg white cervical mucus.

Doing a kitten = Getting upduffed soon after joining (warning: may induce in other posters).

Viroid = This is you, dear poster. This is from the first JS thread when someone tried to type 'ladies' and it autocorrected to 'Viroids' - so there you go!

POAS = Pee On A Stick (of the pregnancy detecting kind, not from a tree). Also known as PIAR (Pee In A Ramekin - cos we're posh birds innit). Or PIATLH (Tea light holder) PIAWG (Wine glass) or anything else you care to pee in!

Shagging like something = JSing like a teenage nymphomaniac.

Giving a hooya = Giving a much needed slap to a fellow poster in danger of slipping into ttc obsession.

Contraband = Of COURSE none of us EVER partake of any silly OPKs or temp charting. They are Contraband.

The link to Part 14 is here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1674505-Out-with-the-OPKs-ban-the-body-temping-heres-Just-Shagging-thread-14

The link to the latest grads thread is here:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1699553-Shagged-Out-Viroids-7th-Thread-From-conception-to-birth-living-proof-that-JSing-really-does-work

Happy shagging shaggers!

Sounds rotten Frazzle Though a chilled out weekend sounds just the ticket - take it easy
I was planning on driving over to see my folks 2hrs away, but events conspired and I ended up staying at work til 6 instead of finishing at 3! So going to put my feet up tonite with the DH & travel tomorrow. Time for a glass of wine!

I was going to ask actually what the general opinions are on drinking whilst TTC? I was originally trying to follow NHS guidelines, which is no more than 2-3 units 2-3 times a week, until I figured out I can totally drink whilst AF is in town, and then stop once I've donned the cape again. But then I started thinking that til I've OV'd then I can't be even a little preggers, so just no drinking during the 2ww. But then my best pal was like, until the egg has implanted, surely it's not getting any input from you whether you drink or not?! So I am officially confused. I know lots of ladies have a 'drink til it's pink' attitude (ie. BFP) - what do you guys think?

Nessa apparently the baby doesn't get any nutrients from what you consume until 5 weeks so drink away Seriously though, when I had DS I didn't know I was pregnant and consumed rather a lot of alcohol before I got my BFP and he's perfect so I personally have no issue having a few drinks while TTC.

I think I'm a bit weird - am on this thread and a TTC after miscarriage thread, and I'm starting to feel like I'm the only person who doesn't find sex a chore!! Admittedly I tend to make less effort once in the 2ww but even then it's still pretty much EOD, prior to ov it's usually once a night!

Frazzle hope you're feeling better soon

I have to say me & my DH are very lazy when it comes to sex usually. We've been together nearly 8 years and we are very touchy-feely affectionate with each other, but it's not often that we actually bother with full on DTD. We'll go through spurts when we'll get it on and then go 'oh, this is rather fun, we'd forgotten it was!' and DTD a couple more times that week, and then it sort of gets forgotten about... silly huh? I reckon over the last few years we probably average once every two weeks maybe? I do think the more you do it, the more you want to do it!
But TTC has been fun actually because we're wanting to do it for the baby making, but the more we're doing it, the more it's fun for the sake of it too . We're on 6 nights out of the last 9 which is a record for us (since we first got together when it was more like 6 times a weekend AT LEAST).
And thanks for the boozing tip... I'm tending toward drinking in moderation really not being a big issue, but it does still give me a twinge of guilt even though I know biologically it shouldn't really be an issue! I know a lot of ladies say they went off it naturally after conceiving, like it was one of the first signs prior to a BFP!

I don't really drink anyway and can't speak from experience but I wouldn't stop drinking for TTC at all. I would imagine it can't really affect an egg until implanted anyway. Well, unless you are a serious drinker!

Loving RSI, I get them. Sex isn't as glam as they make out on TV! Mine usually involves conversations and cramps!

Hi ladies! We were definitely getting a bit lazy when it comes to sex too - totally with you, nessa, enjoying it more now for TTC as well as just for kicks! I wanted to put on a sparkly birthday shag cape last night, but was spotting and AF is here in full force today. that it's not our month, and that luteal phase is back to 9 days (that nice 10 day LP last month was a fluke, I guess). But mostly feeling good - my coworkers gift wrapped my entire office yesterday in hot pink paper and baked me cupcakes, and DH took me out for an amazing steak dinner with so it's hard to be bummed.

What's on for the weekend? Mine's going to be pretty low key too, frazzle - and that's fine by me!

Happy birthday to you Red!

Happy Birthday Red!

I would say I am defo still drinking while ttc but I have cut down and I am not doing any crazy wild nights out!

Sex for us has become a little bit of a chore for me I am ashamed to say. I enjoy it but it happens the same way every time . I try to spice it up but it's just not working. We used to be quite kinky I the beginning but now it's not at all. I think it's because I have out on weight. I really need to get back to shifting that!

Nothing much on in the quark house this weekend, just gardening and housework!

Hi and welcome to chaff. Hope you are all well!

Happy birthday red I hope the weather is looking good for you!

AF has ceased and desisted, gone, done one, foxtrot'd oscar'd, left and I am free of the wench!
Donning holiday inspired shag cape and on it like a car bonnet!
Oh has officially finished work, I've got one more shift to go, then we are freeeeeee!
This is my month! I can feel it... Ish
I hope the vit d we're all getting gets our friskiness going and right around the time it needs to!
C'mon girls.
Lets do this!

Happy birthday red! Get out in the sun!

Know what you mean about the errr... Quality of the shag. You just to mix it up a lot more but TTC seems more about logistics than passion. So long as it gets the job done though at this stage, then we can get back to being a bit different.

Just worked out this is cycle 10 in total. Double digits must be good luck, right?

hi, happy birthday red, and happy weekend all.

I am starting to feel better, hurrah! Still quite tired and some odd niggles but eating a lot more normally which is a relief.

Best of luck for this month minion and dulcet.

I've been reading the "Sperm meets Egg plan", I know there's another thread but it's really interesting and explains a few things to me.

I'm totally rubbish about "being in the mood" for dtd but will have to get on with it...just get so tired and would rather read a book some days. Yes, I did just say that! Luckily, my DH is v keen so at least it's not both of us.

Anyway, back to the tennis!

Yes, I was the last after MrsAVB - now 9+1, spending 80% of most days feeling sick and the other 20% weepy/murderous with rage. It's a joy.
I'm lurking cos I want to see you all get bfps and share the misery unparalleled joy of it all

Yay to your positivity Minion! We're on it like a car bonnet too at the moment! Happy shagging all

Yay for the feel good messages! Glad everyone's feeling positive vibes! I'm definitely feeling good, me & the DH have done all we can to get a BFP this month, now we're playing the waiting game. I give it a week before I start going gaga with symptom spotting, please have my hooyah ready & waiting

Happy birthday, Red! Glad you had a good time with

Humpy Humphrey - nice to hear from you. Sorry it's a bit poo for you with the sickness and rage but I'm sure it'll pass. And it'll be worth it in the end. Stay lurky.

Glad you're feeling better Frazz.

Well done everyone with their shag capes on. My EOD plan went right out the window as DH had sporty races this month and was training so hard that he was just too knackered. We did try one time and it just wouldn't play ball (so to speak!) We did manage to do it at the right time though so might have a chance. It's so hard though as life just gets in the way all the time. We both work long hours and feel shattered by the end of the day. We also leave for work early so it's difficult to fit it in. Just have to make more of an effort I guess. I am more than happy with it when it does happen though!

Went to the gym today and did gardening all afternoon so feeling happy with myself at least!

Thanks for the birthday love, ladies! Hi, Humpty! Sorry about the rage -- sounds lovely.

Good for you for getting to the gym, bear. It is hot here today but thinking maybe I'll make it out for a walk a little later when it cools down. We had an uncharacteristically late night last night -- stayed at our friends' place until after 2 a.m. and didn't get to bed until almost 4! So the cats are napping in the sun and so is DH.

Have any of your guys done the at-home sperm count fertility test? DH apparently has been doing loads of research on his own, and has been spouting wisdom such as, "We should do it in the morning!" and "No more jumping up to pee, lay down for awhile!" And, he made me buy this test.

I am really nervous for him to take it. If his sperm count is low, he's going to be miserable. If it is high, hooray, I guess I am the one who's broken! But really, I feel like any hormonal crap that's wrong with me is easier to fix than low sperm count, so that would be the ideal scenario. The test seems pretty complicated, involving mixing solutions? No easy pee sticks for him! Ha! It has to be done at least 48 hours after the last romp, but no more than 7 days later. So we primed the pump yesterday, so to speak and he'll be testing tomorrow. Fingers crossed.

Wow, that's kind of a scary step! I don't know why, but I feel like men folk are a lot more emotionally fragile when it comes to their 'performance' than us ladies are, though maybe that's just my ever-so-sensitive DH I think that finding out he had a low sperm count would depress him horribly! But, then as you say, it's worth eliminating all the options if you're concerned, and at least it's him pushing to try it rather than you! I didn't even know there was contraband available for the boys. Mantraband!

Haha. Mantraband!

Can't see mine doing it at all but if he is willing to give it a try why not? Just be ready with a hug and a plan if it isn't the result he wants.

I need to DTD this weekend but he's not playing. How to get what I need without begging...

lmao at mantraband nessa that's hilarious. I didn't realise they did them either. just dropped it into general conversation to dh and he's headed to dr google!

bear you are so good for going to the gym...I did an induction a few weeks back but haven't managed to make it part of my routine yet as things keep getting in the way. this week though I promise crosses fingers behind back

re the convo going on re sex and TTC, I have to be honest and say before TTC it was unusual for dh and I to manage more than once a month. I have a much higher sex drive than dh bit a few years back we just couldn't have sex as i had issues with it being too painful. I guess we learnt to live without it. so TTC has done wonders for our sex life! its one of the up sides to not having a bfp yet. it is nice to know I'm not the only one trying to find ways to spice it up and stop feeling like a nag with my eod plans. poor dh!

have really enjoyed the sun this weekend. wonder how long it will stay with us. think its due to rain Tuesday.

hi to Humpty sorry to hear uv been suffering. hopefully it will ease up soon.

belated happy birthday red glad u had fun.

dulcet get what u want with guilt....always works for me for anything!

Hello all.

Busy busy weekend for me, been at the inlaws so pretty shattered now [sleepy]

Happy bday red

Sorry not really read through but will have a proper catch up tomorrow

Still getting faint positive opk's

Positive OPK for me today, so guess I'm officially in shag week! Just happy to know its all working again following my miscarriage, will give up on the contraband next month. Cookie you can have LH all month, it's the surge that means you are ovulating, and that makes 2 equal lines on the pee stick can't you tell I've been doing my research before using them :)

Humpty sorry you're suffering, but glad to hear things are going well for you.

Happy belated birthday Red. Not sure my DH would be up for trying the mantraband, although I'm sure if I pushed him to it he would give it a go. Let us know how you get on, do you have to wait for results or is it instant?

Mantraband - love it, nessa!! You are so right, the menfolk are so sensitive about their performance -- anything that could jeopardize their "manhood," really. He's stepping up the TTC game considerably, I think because he wants to avoid going to an infertility specialist, which I've said we really must do if we aren't expecting by the end of the summer. (At that point we're 18 months off birth control and over a year of trying. Which is a bit nuts.) He was totally enamored by our friends' nearly-2-year-old last night. I think he just wants a spawn to watch cartoons with. So now it's sperm-sticks and EOD romps. Whatever gets him in his matching cape!

Rock - that's great news! Worth doing the OPK this month, you are forgiven . The mantraband is pretty instant - I think the test takes about a half hour total. You end up having to compare a test line to a control line, similar to some pregnancy tests. I'll give you guys a full report. Could be comical.

Hello

Busy weekend for me too seeing the outlaws and familia. Fell asleep when I was meant to go for a run. For two hours.

Red- you're brave. I wouldn't trust myself to mix the stuff properly for an SA test. Just remember that if DH has been ill at all in the last 2-3 months, it could affect your results significantly. Sperm take 3 months to make from start to finish just so you know. (You probably know that already though!) Good luck!

Hi to everyone else.

bear I know what you mean re: bravery. We are going to follow the instructions very carefully! Thankfully, we've both been pretty healthy since we had the plague in January. Hopefully whatever sperm went under construction three months ago are standing by ready to be counted!