maybe, love, have you tried giving him a little list, or sitting down with a cuppa and asking him to do x because you're feeling rough? These men of ours aren't always great at seeing that something needs doing for themselves iykwim. Sometimes they need it spelled out in black and white.
cups that sounds like a great protein plan! Sorry you had to hear that phrase though. For some reason, people seem to think that saying that makes everything so much better! (((hugs)))
I've had cycle problems from about the age of 13 or 14 maybe - one period every 6-9 months. This went on for years (until my op at age 24 to remove ovarian cyst). Even in my late teens I was convinced I would never be able to have children of my own. Then I had the cyst on my ovary (which they removed but stitched my bloody ovary into the wound). After this my cycles went to 28 days,regular as clockwork. A couple of years after that MrG and I met and rapidly decided to try for a family. At it like rabbits for a good couple of years but I was never even so much as a day late. I didn't test much in those days (if at all) and didn't track cycles other than noting down when my next one was due. If there was ever a time I could have got pg naturally, it was then, and it didn't happen.
I am now almost 37 years old and have had PCOS for 24 years and that endometrioma for goodness knows how long. Both of those things can have a huge impact on egg quality, especially when not treated for such a length of time. I now have one ovary written off, though the other appears to work ok.
Of the 8 eggs we got this time, 6 fertilised (fair enough) but all but one perished or rapidly declined by day 3. Paternal DNA doesn't tend to kick in until day 4 or so, which means that the failure of the embryos to develop further was the fault of the eggs rather than the sperm. The one remaining one was apparently perfect to look at, but it is quite possible to have a perfect looking embryo with genetic issues that mean it won't develop. As the others perished so quickly I can't help but assume that this one went the same way not long after transfer.
Added to that the unknowns of why I have never even had a chemical pregnancy in all our time of trying, something is happening to prevent a pregnancy occurring even before it can reach implantation. Whether that is solely down to egg quality, or a combination of that and immune issues, or other as yet unknown, unidentified issues, I've no way of knowing. But surely I should have at least had a late period even just once?
Sorry, that tale is boring as hell to read, but I do feel good for having got it out of my system. Thank you!