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TRC 10+ months. Part 15...

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MuddyWellyNelly · 05/05/2013 15:55

New thread for the lovely 10+ers. 14 was awesome so another like that please!

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akuabadoll · 31/05/2013 13:13

hello lovelies, I still read here alot and follow all the trials. Wanted to send wishes for the newness diffed scanners today buzzy and critter

I see I missed buzzies which sounds good though I can understand you are worried. Yolk sac in the right place is good for pre 6 weeks, I don't want to comment on the measurements cause I'm not sure myself how much this means. 2 weeks till the next must seem very long.

While I'm here mad so sorry about the ball ache bleeding, I hate that is it isn't it period issue with AC, and your deal seems beyond unfair. rabbit get over here, I'll do you a bit of IVF, I'll throw in some hommos for lunch, 75 quid, seem fair? Good work on the ov euro

loves to all lemon mrsden nelly sweet pout sea gin sar joy all the neweer ladies too. I'll be back later to check on the critter's situation.

buzzybee123 · 31/05/2013 13:16

digi now says 2-3 weeks, its failing

akuabadoll · 31/05/2013 13:20

Cross post buzzy and nelly
buzzy these conception indictors are evil. I hope so much this is, in fact, going to be fine. x
nelly Shock at amazon.

EuroShaggleton · 31/05/2013 13:22

Oh buzz I really feel for you. If the EPU won't blood test you, can you get it done privately? I found the limbo the worst bit of the whole process - I just HAD to know whether it was failing or not. doll is right though - a yolk sac at 5 weeks is a good sign. x

nelly that made me laugh!

doll I hope you are doing ok. The pregnancy up I hadn't bothered to delete from my phone (just hide) updated itself and took upon itself to flash up its first ever alert yesterday, to say I was 19 weeks pregnant, which means you are that far along. How is everything going?

EuroShaggleton · 31/05/2013 13:28

up=app. Stoopid autocorrect.

App has now been deleted, btw. I really didn't need that on the way in to work more than once.

akuabadoll · 31/05/2013 14:12

euro it's nice of you to ask. Yes I'm 20 weeks next week. Not sure that I'm glowing but certainly feel better than the first tri. Of course the pregnancy is having to take second stage to the heating up of this horrible war and the amount to do at work as a consequence, the count down to leaving the job in a fit state for someone else to take it on (no word on replacement yet) and the consistent looking at watch with reference to nursery times for Little Doll. But this is life right? I'm due to finish work at the end of July and move mid August.

sarlat · 31/05/2013 14:14

Buzz - oh you poor thing, what a shitty thing to be going through. There is no clear evidence that this pregnancy is ending but i totally understand the fear and need to assume the worst. i think it is cruel to make you wait 2 weeks for a scan nor test your hcg levels. And if I were you I would be contacting epau /gp / whoever to explain how this is affecting you psychologically and push hard for more testing. I used the emotional turmoil reason to get my second early scan. You are such a strong, brave lady but this is unfair. I really feel for you. Please keep updating here.

Mad - crikey sorry for the mid cycle bleeding and confusion about when af begins. I wonder if it is a case of post ivf settlement. But I know that is no help when you just need to get on with round 2. I wonder if this is af due to the clots but I assure you another cyst has notsprung up in this short time. Maybe talk to the clinic. Could a scan help to determine where in your cycle you are by looking at the extent of follicular activity or a burst cyst which would indicate if you are indeed in af or not.

Rabbit - aaagghh the waiting game is the worst. I like your vision of iui being practice rounds with a bonus. Those of us with tilty wombs or bendy cervixs can run in to trouble with et so I think you plan is spot on to iron out any wrinkles. Any updates on the period shudder? I am 100% confident that yours and mads wombs will be baby houses long before there is any real talk of hysrerectomies. The thing with ac is its brill and it works but you cant have 12 goes at it a year like people usually do so the overall process can take longer and feel more draining. But you will get there.

Euro - what a relief about ovulation. Great news and round 2 here you come.

Den -so sorry for that a+announcement. Not helpful and it just feels so stabby in the heart. You hold on to that amazing mat leave package my lady. You will be needing it soon. You will have a much better second round, I promise. You two make good eggs and good embryos. The conditions and timmings just werent right last time.

Nelly - awwww so sorry you are in no mans land. Such highs and lows we go through don't we. Your photos were beautiful. And beautiful times will be yours again, I promise.

Lemon - ouch, the root canal sounds most unpleasant. I had a wisdom tooth out that was impacted a few years back and the pressure of the pulling made me nautious the next day. You have my sympathies. This sounds like a win win situation. Next week you will either get your tooth sorted or a bfp. A matter of time for you lemons.....a matter of time.

Pout - how are you my lovely? Just remind me, you have a beautiful embie waiting on ice? Hope you are managing to fill the time until you set sail the good ship fet. Yellow dog sounds intetesting. Did you ever find ink up the curtains?

Critter - sending you lots of positive thoughts and hope everything is going swimmingly with the scan. Will be looking out for your update.

Doll- was thinking about you recently. Hope you are well and the move went smoothly.

Gin- all the best for tomorrow sweetheart.

I am slightly less nautious thank fully although still have some yucky episodes so hoping things are calming down now. Everyone is right I should have pushed for meds but a combination of having the odd ok day which led me to think it was improving and my midwife saying to come back if I really need them meant I wasn't proactive. Totally my own fault but if it flares up again big time I wil get the meds.

Hello to all the lovely ladies I haven't name checked.

buzzybee123 · 31/05/2013 14:24

I don't really fit in here anymore sar I am no longer TTC we won't try naturally anymore as there is no point plus we are not living in the same city and there is no point in FET really, its time to move onto adoption which will be difficult as we are not in the same place

Poutintrout · 31/05/2013 14:37

buzzy I really don't know what to say other than we love you and would do anything to make this all okay and take away your stress right now. I know that you don't want to hear it but it isn't over. You have had a scan that showed a yolk that is only slightly smaller than it should be at this point. Please ignore those evil digi tests. I have read so much about how fecking awful they are and how inaccurate and the misery they cause when they are giving the wrong bloody dating. I too am aghast that the clinic won't give you another blood test. Can this be taken as a good sign do you think? That they think everything looks as it should.
As for your headache I know it seems like a bad omen but EVERY pregnancy is different. For some people headaches everyday is normal. I'm sure that all this stress won't be helping on the headache front. You get migraines anyway. The worrying will be a trigger for that. God I realise that I sound bossy when what I really probably ought to have just said is hand squeeze for you.

lemons Commiserations on the root canal. Yuk. I am dentist phobic and think you are so brave.

mad I can't believe you are getting such heavy mid cycle bleeding. That can't be right. Do you think there is any chance you might have ovulated so early and this is in fact a period? FWIW since the IVF I have, judging by my shorter cycle length, ovulated much, much earlier. In fact this month I am weighing up whether I ovulated yesterday on CD6 given the ovulation pain and EWCM. Have you heard back from the clinic yet?

sarlat Sorry that you are still sicky. I suppose at least you get some days respite from it....
Yes, one embie is on ice with the cycle monitoring delayed until next cycle and FET the cycle after. I actually feel quite okay about the little wait. I guess I like the security of feeling like it is the pipeline and aren't in a rush to deal with the possibility it might not work out.
Still avoiding looking at the curtains!

euro I got a pang of sadness for you at the app flashing up like that. Evil app.
Hurrah for ovulation though. IVF ahoy!

gin massive good luck for tomorrow. Do let us know how you get on.

mrsd and rabbits you did have me giggling at your DIY IVF package deal. Simples indeed! Consider me your second patient after rabbits.

doll sorry about work/moving hassles. It is great that you seem to be doing so well in your pregnancy & it is so nice to hear your news.

Love and waves to everyone

EuroShaggleton · 31/05/2013 14:37

doll that sounds like a lot on your plate! Not long now until the move though. And that will be amazing. Have you figured out which country you will give birth in yet? When we last spoke you were thinking about travelling for it I think.

rabbitonthemoon · 31/05/2013 14:41

Buzzy of course you fit in lovely, I think this thread is a lot more than a ttc forum, we've known each other a long time and I'm glad it's becoming a place where people stay, pregnant, not yet pregnant and all other bits of the spectrum. I'm so sorry you are going through all this worry. I know the digi must be freaking you out but I'm sure there is variability according to your wee and at 5 weeks 2-3 sounds right? Could it be that one embryo didn't make it but had been pushing up the hcg?

doll lovely to see you, I've been thinking of you often, in a non creepy way! Things sound frenetic and I'm glad you are doing OK.

sar yay to less puking. The glow is coming! No period here. It's is statistically highly improbable ill get a natural bfp now so not thinking in That Way. I am pleased about the lack of spotting though and that will do me nicely Smile

euro Hmm about the stoopid app. Hope it didn't wind you too much.

rabbitonthemoon · 31/05/2013 14:43

Pout yes get in line! I have purchased a nice fancy dress surgical scrubs kit for den. And some framed photos of fertility willies for the waiting area.

Oh yes buzzy my best friends main preg gripe was bad heads.

buzzybee123 · 31/05/2013 14:53

rabbit this is exactly what happened last time, I felt sick had a headache and then all the symptoms stopped, Kayla has been very odd around me again which makes me think things are not right, according to EPAU, that now I have a sac there is no point in having a beta test as it would be inconclusive and they think a scan next week will be still to early, she did say I could go back on Monday but I just don't see the point if they won't do anything,

akuabadoll · 31/05/2013 14:55

oh rabbit not too busy to fit in a bit of IVF, book that ticket you know you want to. Grin
euro I want to stay put if I can, the psychological factor of being 'at home' even if I have only lived there for 5 mins means alot. I have to judge if that's viable once there, I think and hope so. If not Bangkok.

akuabadoll · 31/05/2013 14:58

buzzy why did she say you could go back on Monday if they have no plans to rescan or do bloods? Confused Keep going. x

Poutintrout · 31/05/2013 15:05

buzzy Did the clinic give you any opinion on what they think? Did you tell them about the loss of symptoms and digi stick?

buzzybee123 · 31/05/2013 15:07

I suppose to offer a bit of emotional support, if I sat and cried enough they might give me a blood test but then I wonder if it will help or just make things worse, yeah I told them but they ant to wait for the next scan to be sure

buzzybee123 · 31/05/2013 15:09

the digi has never lied to me before

CritterPants · 31/05/2013 15:17

Oh buzzy I am so sorry you're going through this stress, I wish you could get some good news. A yolk sac is good and they are so tiny at this stage that surely it's hard to tell what the measurements are? I have everything crossed for you and am wishing you lots and lots and lots of luck and love.

So much sadness and worry here today, I am so sorry. I was just chatting to a sweet colleague of mine who'd had two D and Cs after a miscarriage where they didn't get everything the first time, and she was so unhappy and frightened, I just wish that this whole process wasn't so bloody hard. Why is it so difficult for us to bring our children into the world? It's so unfair.

pout I thought of you today as I nuked my egg for my homemade egg muffin.

doll it sounds like you have so much going on. I would be exhausted! Very cool that you're moving somewhere else interesting but I can imagine doing your job that you barely have the time to think, you must be constantly rushed off your feet.

euro sorry about the app - what a kick in the stomach. Sad

nelly I gave my copy of TCOYF away - figured I had absorbed all the info anyway, might as well give it to someone else who was going the au naturel old school conception route!

rabbit I think your plan sounds like a great one and is a very good way of approaching it. An IUI bonus round sounds like a game show. Are you still sewing?

sar sounds like you've had a rotten time of things - I am so glad you're a tiny bit better and that things seem to be settling down.

gin thinking of you for tomorrow. Sending lots and lots of positive thoughts your way.

Well I feel a bit of a turd for posting this when so many of us are suffering. But I had my scan this morning and everything looks 'perfect' for 6 and 1. Saw a yolk sac and a very, very tiny embryo. I couldn't see a heartbeat as it was so incredibly small but the doctor assured me it was there and MrC saw it - he said it was like an old computer cursor blinking on and off. I have to go back again next week because apparently my ovaries are still 'huge' and 'impressively overstimulated' and there's lots of fluid in my abdomen that's leaked out from the OHSS still. Which explains why I've had pain there and why I feel so bloated and indigestiony, which is a relief. He says next week he'll expect it to have gone down a bit. Huge love to everyone, and fellow early bird buzzy I am so hoping you get some reassurance soon.

Poutintrout · 31/05/2013 15:22

buzz I so want to be able to say something massively insightful and ultimately comforting but it seems that you might just have to wait it out and see what happens at your next scan. I know that it will feel like an age away & it is yet another lashing with the shitty end of the TTC stick. Try and hold on & like doll says keep going. Your instincts could be totally wrong on this & we will all be willing that to be the case. Thinking of you.

buzzybee123 · 31/05/2013 15:26

critter you should be able to share your good news,

akuabadoll · 31/05/2013 15:27

lovely news critter and great that they are keeping and eye on those massive ovaries of yours. My guess is when this bloating goes down there may well be preggo bloating to deal with but keep stuffing the nuked eggs down Grin

Poutintrout · 31/05/2013 15:28

critter as always light and shade on this thread! I am thrilled for you that your scan went so well. I am also relieved for you that you have some answers about the continued tenderness around your ovaries. Smile at the little blinking cursor
How cathartic to give away TCOYF. Never mind absorbing the info, I bet you could probably recite it verbatim in your sleep!
I will probably think of you next time I nuke (and probably explode) my McMuffin-esque egg too!

rabbits Grin at den's costume. Really hope you didn't go to Ann Summers for it.

rabbitonthemoon · 31/05/2013 15:44

Critter that is brilliant news Smile at a little flashing led. So happy for you.

Pout I would find scrubs the biggest libido killer ever!!

Buzzy, hang on in there. Is Barry home tonight?

EuroShaggleton · 31/05/2013 16:09

critter I'm thrilled for you. Am grinning away here. :)