I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

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I thought I'd start the new thread and earn some brownie points with the posifrickintivity Gods...

Hi ladies. I couldn't remember if I'd updated or just dreamt it.

Was trying to wait for AF but got impatient and DTD. Think I was ovulating as EWCM was decidedly present. Not expecting anything but thought it wouldn't do any harm!

Looked at miscarriage association website and it said that you have no more or less chance miscarrying again if you don't have a period in between, which is something that was concerning me.

Sorry to hear about the ladies who are feeling shitty, and that some husbands/partners are struggling too. Mine is up and down - part of him is excited about trying again, part of him is still very sad. At least he is happy to talk about it I suppose.

The rose bush I bought for the lost baby is doing brilliantly! Lots of foliage and new buds.

Ariel that's what i saw and why we decided just to go for it - also couldn't be bothered to faff around with condoms, it seemed ridiculous.

Bfn here this morning but I knew it was a long shot. Not really expecting anything to happen for a while given how long it took first time round. And on the plus side it means I can have a glass of wine or two when I go out for lunch with DH and my best friend on Sunday! - my nice thing for this week. x

Sorry Birds, hope you enjoy your weekend

I have to stop myself POAS after my Wednesday fail. I have to go shopping for baby clothes for BF's nephew (1yo) at lunchtime so no doubt I'll be straight into Boots afterwards

ariel we planted a Monkey Puzzle tree in the garden on the EDD for our lost one....I had started referring to him or her as 'monkey' while I was pregnant so it seemed fitting. I like sitting by it (on the odd days when its not freezing or chucking it down with rain!) as it gives me a bit of comfort.

ah bugger birds. perhaps next week?
anyone else POAS today?? Come on folks....

ariel I think that's exactly right about no physical reason to wait for the first AF. We ttc that cycle but it didn't work for us

sex-fest started here last night and I feel really hopeful for this cycle. Please please please please please work this time...
Heading off on holidays tomorrow. 2 weeks in the sun, hurray! Hopefully the lovely weather and relaxation (can you relax when taking a not-quite-two year old on holidays?) will create an optimum implantation environment in my uterus.

tins thanks for the sensibility. I did make a slight exaggeration by saying that I'm the only one not pregnant from my NCT group. There is one other who isn't either, and I know that she had 2 MC before her DD. So that's a bit unfair isn't it? The rest of them are now having 2 pregnancies completely easily, and the one girl who deserves a good run the second time round is struggling to get pg again. Mother nature is a bitch.

Morning all. birds, it's not over until AF comes, like they always say. Besides, as we all know, cycle 0 is going to be a weird one.

I didn't have any good news either. Last night, I planned to jump DH for some BD because I have ewcm and we last DTD 2 nights ago. But DD woke up at 10pm and cried and cried. Took us till 11.30 to get her back to sleep. So ofc we didn't get to have any BD at all, and fell asleep very very tired. I'm hoping I haven't missed the window

At what stage do you join an NCT group? Just curious, looking forward to that part.

chips I signed up last time when I had my 20 week scan. They do get filled up quite quickly so you need to book as soon as possible. But because I was already an older mum (36 last time), I don't feel it's all real until after the second abnormality scan. You can sign up for the classes on the NCT website.

By the way, it's the same for nursery if you plan to go back to work. You need to sign up asap. There are huge waiting lists for the popular ones. I didn't get into my first choice until DD was 18mo. (It was the first September after I went back to work). The nurseries told me most spaces are freed up in September, and a smaller amount in Janurary. I was so happy with my timing originally when my first MC had a Sept due date. I thought I wouldn't have to stress so much like I was with my DD who was a Spring baby.

Ah yes, that would've been good timing. My perfect timing would be next September but I hadn't even considered nursery places, it's more to do with the maternity package I would get from work (If I conceive before December I will only get a small increase in SMP for 6 weeks, after December I would get 3 months full pay before going onto SMP). I hope it doesn't take that long but at least I have that in the back of mind.

I will be 36 in a couple of weeks so I guess I will be an older mum too, I hope the NCT group isn't full of 20 year olds.

chips I can't remember when I signed up for the NCT class, but it was deffo a while after my 12 week scan, and possibly even after the 20 week scan. I'm 34 and most of us are around the same age. One is 40, another 36 or so. The youngest is 25.
I don't know what I'd do without my NCT gang, they are wonderful (apart from all being preggo again!!!).

OLTT makes a good point about nurseries - sign up ASAP! I signed up as soon as I'd had the 12 week scan, and we only just managed to get a place for her at 8 months old. That was April last year, so a bit of an unconventional time I suppose.

OLTT I'm sure it'll be fine if you can dtd tonight. Or - here's a cunning plan - both sneak home at lunch for a quickie

Chips I was the youngest at my NCT group (was 27 when I had DS) the others were all early to mid 30's.

Happy Friday everyone,

Decided lack of BFPs today, hopefully it means we're going to have a bumper week in a couple of weeks

birds and chips you're not out yet!

Right I've informed DH things need to get going properly tonight and we will be heading straight for the bedroom once DS is down and he can then cook me dinner, I hope the pressure won't be too much!

I don't reckon I'm ovulating yet but judging by CM it's getting close, so am aiming for every couple of days. Yikes, feel knackered thinking about it!!

I was 31 when I had DS1 and I was the younger end of my NCT group. They won't all be 20. The classes tend to be when you are in the mid-30-weeks but they fill up fast, so you need to sign up early on but probably wait until you have a BFP Our classes were all in September and we have October and November babies.

BFN here :(

It's early days chips keep DTD!!

go guff go!
we're aiming for tonight as well - 2 nights in a row! Only because we are flying out tomorrow and won't arrive until late, and then will be sharing a room with DD... So it has to be tonight. Hope we can manage it. eeek the pressure.

oh no chips! We have lost the fertile friday mojo. Hope it comes back with a vengeance next week

Yes a disappointing fertile Friday. Hopefully that means we are due a flurry during the coming weeks. Only cd8 here so still got 4 weeks before poas. Using cbfm for the first time so hopefully I get a peak. Never really got on with internet opks.

ariel I just did the same thing. I was peeing on a stick just to see if I ovulated. Got poss yesterday and got so excited DTD. Then panicked that should have waited for one period after mc. Now think might as well do it tonight too. I am sure it won't be that easy to get a bfp this time. Don't mind a wait as long as its a sticky one

Is anyone else thinking its time to bring a bit of romance to the situation. I wanted to DTD last week and my DP said "oh are u ovulating" I said no just wanted to do it for fun. He said he was surprised an shocked.

lies i'm also on CD8 and will be using CBOPK - its going to be interesting this month, realised we haven't actually DTD since Christmas!!!! which is when I last got pregnant... eek!

Yes romance would be good .... your post made me laugh missp but there is always this big baby shaped elephant in the room even when I'm pretending we're just doing it for fun!

I said to DH last night that first AF had been and gone, time to start DTD soon and he got really cross! He asked me why I had to be so weird about it all ..... I thought oh no here we go again ... just what we were talking about up the thread a bit ...egg shells I'll be walking on again ...

to everyone - its a Friday night x Happy holidays aly

Sorry to hear no BFPs today. Hoping our lucky streak is back next week. As long as AF doesn't arrive on Thursday I'll be poas next Friday, keeping my fingers crossed!!!

Fingers crossed for you topslou xx

I did POAS today mostly just for fun as really there's not much chance but I live in hope, it was negative too.
Just wondering what ovulation pee sticks you all would recommend? Since I don't have a normal cycle the clear blue ones would work out v v expensive so any cheaper ones that work?

emki your right baby sized elephant is always about. Your DH probably just needs to get in the saddle again and then he will be rearing to go. My DP used to hate it when i demanded to DTD Now he has just accepted it for an easy life lol Our OH's must be as nervous as we are about another pregnancy.

Next pregnancy I am waiting till booking app to get excited. A BFP will make me smile but I won't think about possibly getting a baby at the end until I pass 12 weeks. I think that's the only thing that will get me sane.

Is anyone else poas on Friday 24th :-)).

Never mind chaps. Keep shagging, we will all get there!
I went all out for seduction yesterday. I spent the entire day texting DP with random words which were erotic but not the actual words IYSWIM! Getting more interesting as the day went on. It was really taxing on my poor brain, but I was getting quite into it. [Wink] I called him mid afternoon and asked if he got my text, and his phone was switched off all flipping day!

So I just pounced on him instead!