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The Elderberry Pavlovas, sausage bouquets, one giant sofa and the Gü pots of destiny! (thread 9)

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Bunnygirlie · 21/04/2013 22:56

Come on ladies, this is the one! Time for some BFPs!

The smallprint- Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, must have a special pot, NO instadiffers)

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Tallyra · 26/04/2013 16:27

definitely one mixed up head here... there is no cure! there might be pre-emptive stuff that works to slow down and reduce the severity, which is basically cyclizine (antiemetic antihistamine) and vitamin b6, so I'm going to try that as soon as I get the bfp. They tried almost everything with me, including steroids but I don't think anything worked very well. steroids were the last ditch attempt but I mc soon after so that is both worrying that it might have caused it and that there wasn't enough time on them to see if it worked. I don't think they caused it but my head still tells me it might have had something to do with it...Sad

Thundercatsarego · 26/04/2013 16:40

Mmm that's so difficult. And very understandable because one looks for all the possible reasons for mc.

Do I remember rightly that you're waiting for a bit now- sorry if I've got that confused...

Tallyra · 26/04/2013 16:47

Yes. I don't really want to, but waiting for gynae appt at hospital so as I know the getting duffed isn't a problem, we've got to be careful ad I want to make sure there's no easily found reason before it happens again.

Thundercatsarego · 26/04/2013 17:04

Oh yeah I remember-another headf*ck for you. Similar to me and my thyroid only I am lucky enough to know the name of this problem at least. Do you have an appointment date yet?

Wimwom · 26/04/2013 17:57

tally it sounds such a difficult position you are in. But you're doing the right thing by being as prepared as you possibly can be. We all need mixing up in here with our range of issues!

boom identical quads!!! Can you imagine the chaos.....

Am back on the sofa for wine and chocolate - though think I can come out from under the pity quilt and tentatively put my feet up on the pouffe of possibility. Ovaries might be on their last legs here - but I just need a few quality eggs, surely that's not too much to ask?!

BlindKitty · 26/04/2013 20:00

bunny don't say you've left it too late! I'm 33 too!!!

barking YES, you're right! I drove all the way home wondering what the f* it meant haha!

Re my mate and are bikini bump, I don't think I can tell her. Its her first pregnancy and she just wants to tell the world, just wish seeing it didn't make a little bit of me die each time Sad

Anyway, need to buy a bikini myself tomorrow (might even post a picture of my muffin top on fb haha), anyone seen any nice ones in the shops?

Cate555 · 26/04/2013 21:35

Ok so I obviously have the look of an old barron lady. Came home to a dripping pipe - called my old plumber who is about 70. He spontaniously proceeds to tell me he and his wife were married 13 years with no children when she received a "very strong relic" and apparently conceived instantly!!!??? Where is the relic? I asked "Oh she had to pass that on" - very strange, he did if the pipe though. Confused

BlindKitty · 26/04/2013 21:54

Cate ah thats where I'm going wrong!

Cate555 · 26/04/2013 22:18

Ha ha Kitty if you find one pass it onto me

Thundercatsarego · 26/04/2013 22:36
Cate555 · 26/04/2013 22:57

Oh Cats too funny Grin

barkingtreefrog · 27/04/2013 00:35

I selflessly offered to open the floodgates thunder but trying beat me to it. I'm on my vit B6 this cycle though so you never know, cycle 17 could be my cycle!! Have to dtd to get pg though, and I ordered DP to the spare room when he gets home tonight as he got very drunk and decided to head out to 'be wingman' to one of his very drunk mates when I was ready to drive home at 11.45. He promised he'd stick to 2 or 3 pints unless it was a 'special occasion.' He's not seen this mate in a while as he moved away last year. His definition of a 'special occasion' and mine apparently differ quite markedly. Angry

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Bunnygirlie · 27/04/2013 01:53

Just got in so missed everything tonight, will catch up when i get up tomorrow! Too many Wines drunk, time for bed x

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Thundercatsarego · 27/04/2013 07:53

Oh yeah I remember barking, although I reckon that we need a regular berry 'wingman' to start the surge through the floodgates after trying so you still have a job to do. Not good about your DH at this point though- shall I write him a strongly worded note on behalf of the berries?

Good on you bunny, hope you had a good time!

BlindKitty · 27/04/2013 08:47

thunder hell yeh we need a BFP! Its bound to be me hahahahaha

Going for lunch today with someone I met on last hol. DH wants to drive which means I'll be tempted by the vino...

barkingtreefrog · 27/04/2013 09:18

I was talking to a friend last night who is going though a difficult time in her 12 year relationship - marriage and babies came up and he's 'not sure' but 'definitely not in the next couple of years'. I'm sorry but when you've been together that long and you're both in your 30's you really should know.... They are now living separately but are still together (that's a long story).
Anyway, she was saying the same about married people as we do about pg women - two of our mutual friends went round to see her this week and all they did was talk about their weddings!! At least when pg women flaunt their bumps they can't actually help it, and when they talk about babies they don't necessarily know others around them are ttc, but you'd think people would have more tact than to talk endlessly about weddings with someone who is going through a really bad time in their relationship!!

Thundercatsarego · 27/04/2013 09:29

barking that is tough for your friend. Although has it not come up before?! I always think its best to make sure you're not on totally different pages about this sort of important stuff fairly early on, but then maybe I am totally a over-controlling witch at times! I would be really hurt if I were her about the marriage bit too- why not for a couple of years? They've already devoted 12years of their lives together but he is not ready to make a formal commitment? Er hello?

Does she want me to write a strongly worded letter as well?

kitty boozey lunch sounds great! Tricky with what to do afterwards- for me it's either sleep or push on through with the wine and it usually ends up being the latter

barkingtreefrog · 27/04/2013 10:00

I would say the same now, but only after bitter experience... My ex didn't want kids but it was never a clear 'no' and when we got together it was 'nothing serious' as both of us were recently out of relationships and not looking to jump into another and he lived 200 miles away from me etc etc, so whether he wanted kids or not didn't matter, it was just a short term thing for a bit of fun. Didn't work out very well and it certainly didn't end up fun, but that's a whole other story. Angry Angry Angry Angry

I can't imagine the conversation hasn't come up with them before, but all our friends are currently getting married and having babies, so I guess it's suddenly taken on a new urgency and importance. Her DP is ridiculously laid back so I imagine he's just been saying 'one day' for years, but now it's time to bite the bullet he's not actually sure.

Anyway, off on a bike ride, see you later!! Grin

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Bunnygirlie · 27/04/2013 10:14

Morning! So what did I miss? Anything exciting?

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MrsB00Mbastic · 27/04/2013 10:23

barking yups! I suppose people just don't realise how hurtful it is. I know I've probably been guilty on both counts: thoughtless wedding chat to singletons and thoughtless pg announcements to ttc-ers. So I understand how easy it is to accidentally be cruel - hopefully I've learnt my lesson the bloody hard way Grrr at your DP and his drunken shenanigans btw!

Thunder yes! We need to storm the Witch's castle, lower the drawbridge and release the eggs! errr, anyone coming? We could find ancient fertility relics on the way?? Anyone?

Frogcatcher · 27/04/2013 11:15

My DP also been a drunken nightmare a couple of times this week so sympathy barking. At least I'm in 2ww now so don't care as much beyond trying to save the swimmers from being pickled for when in case I need them in 3m time. He's really stressed out too so just being a nightmare generally. I told him I was thinking of booking on a yoga retreat next weekend as he's working which shook him a bit. Btw berries do you think that will be ok as it's a detox one too & it's going to be 11-14DPO (FF gave me crosshairs on cd14) so I cld be early pg but won't know? Reckon it will stop me stressing pre AF anyway.

Seriously if its not my month this cycle then there's something wrong as I Ov'd on cd14 & we DTD on cd10, 12 & 14 - I just don't think we're ever gonna manage better than that!

Tallyra · 27/04/2013 11:42

Frog, As you're not stuffing bad stuff in, I can't see what problems a detox would have. if you are duffed, all the better for having a 'clean out' I'd say! every time I've MCD I've always been told that nothing I did was the cause of it. Don't stress about it Wink

PuppyMummy · 27/04/2013 11:51

morning all. just checking in! cd 15 here so into the 2ww. af due tues 7th May.

having a lazy sat so far but got cleaning to do later!

hope u all have a good day

Thundercatsarego · 27/04/2013 12:39

Oh yeah barking that is quite a common situation and it's not like you can really pin someone down to whether they want kids or not when you are just starting out. There has to be a point though where it is raised and people have to think carefully about what they really do want. Very sad when it doesn't work out as a result.

boom I'm with you!

frog great effort, fx you will be up there in the battle charge.

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