The Elderberry Pavlovas, sausage bouquets, one giant sofa and the Gü pots of destiny! (thread 9)

[Bunnygirlie]

Come on ladies, this is the one! Time for some BFPs!

The smallprint- Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, must have a special pot, NO instadiffers)

congratulations frog!

cramping already here!! very early as af not due til Tue. pah!

frog that's understandable that your dp wants to be cautious until the 12 week scan. Telling your mum for support is a good thing though

Yorkiebilb - 35, cycle 9. Mmc Dec. awaiting DH swimmers test results and going to get blood tests done next week.

Morning all,

frog that is fantastic news. Don't feel anything bad about posting that on here, we are all thrilled for you. And ready to follow closely in your footsteps. And yes things may go wrong but today they are right, and that is the way to approach it.

How are you doing merk? Did you follow up about that clinic?

Oo spoke to my doc and she's increased my thyroxine dose a bit to get my levels lower. She said if we weren't ttc she would happily leave me where I am now but she knows we are aiming to get them lower to conceive/for pg. good eh? I like it when they are thoughtful/sensitive and look at the bigger picture.

Oh and bunny am I being a total numpty? Is reflexology not on your feet?!

Thanks thunder. Great news about your doc. There are some good'uns out there then.
When I do tell people I will of course try to be super sensitive to those who may be upset having been there & seen what the berries go through. Most of my instadiffing friends have kids already but I have 1 friend who's only got 1 ovary after she had to have the other removed due to a cyst & although shes never said I think she must be TTC as she's been married 3 years this year & is 37. I will try & tell her on her own before she finds out from anyone else.

Thunder - yes feet, I was just wondering why they might change lol

thunder glad to hear your doc is listening and is going to up your levels. You're nearly there!

bunny because didn't your reflexologist tell you you were about to ovulate? I was thinking something must show up on your feet for her to know this?!

frog that is sweet of you to think about others with your news. In my bitter and twisted mind I would say don't announce by putting a scan photo on fb. I certainly won't be doing that when if it happens for me!

frog I know it might seem like a cop out but maybe text your friend instead when you want to tell people. I have this fear that someone is going to tell me they are pregnant in person and it will be written all over my face how sad, upset and envious I am. I will then be racked with guilt that I can't be more happy for my friend and what a bitter & twisted person I have become! If you text her she can read it, deal with it in her own time, have a good cry if need be and then respond positively. Maybe not the best way I know but would save both of you some stress.

thunder there are 'areas' on your feet that correspond to the rest of your body. they can target areas of concern. I don't know how they actually tell what's going on tho! sometimes bits feel 'crunchy' or 'crackly' they can work those bits out!

yorkie I totally agree. I would much rather get a text or email so my reaction is not being watched. If someone acts sensitively and even explains that's what they're doing then I appreciate that. Well I would if anyone ever did!

Dinner last week with family- my brother (two instadiff 'happy accident' children) asks the room- so It's best to have children when you are young?

Thanks then.

puppy yeah that's what I was thinking. Do the 'ovary' bits of your feet get puffy or hot or sonething?!

Oh thunder bloody insensitive brothers!

Oh thunder totally agree! I still cringe about the way that we told people last time - announced it at our post-wedding party, when looking back there was definitely at least one couple there who were ttc (and still are to the best of my knowledge) and whispers we did actually post a scan on FB. I would never be so thoughtless again, but I suppose it's something you don't consider until you've experienced it from the other side.. at the time it was just great news that we thought everyone would want to share

Frog I think it's lovely that you're considering other people's feelings, and I second the motion to not announce it with a FB scan post ! yorkie's suggestion to text your friend sounds good to me, then if it does upset her she has time to put her brave face on x

Thunder - brothers! Bah!

List so far!

Bunny - 33, married, cycle 12, just started getting bloods, hubby getting tests too,heading into shag week,
Barkingtreefrog - 33, cycle 17, short LP, hsg next cycle then scan then back to fc for clomid if no further problems found. Hopefully popping the pills by July so due a BFP then and an April baby .
Happylass - 35, cycle 9. AF due 8th May. Very little hope this cycle. On the look out for a sympathetic GP to refer me
Tallyra - 33, married, TTC for 3-4 years, 3mmc with HG. Appt to see fc/gynae 11June for initial consult. tntc until then angry
GooseyD - 38, nearly 2 yrs TTC (following 2 yrs 'not TTA' and head in sand), all tests normal but only 7 day LP, hsg on Tuesday eeek then seeing FC on Sat
Yorkiebilb - 35, cycle 9. Mmc Dec. awaiting DH swimmers test results and going to get blood tests done next week.
MrsB00Mbastic - 31, married, TTC 1 year, mmc last Aug. Appt with gynae clinic 21 June, awaiting abdo scan, jizz test and hycosy. Wonky bloods. Possibly PCOS..?

morning from me and my bloodworm. I have found myself a local reflexologist who specialises in sub fertility. Emailed her for an appointment as she only takes calls on weekdays. The acupuncture has not worked for me on several levels, so I don't really want to continue with it. Apart from the fact that it has not regulated my cycles, I don't find it relaxing and I don't really like the therapist. Also, reflex is cheaper and I loved a taster session I had a while back. So there! Also considering options for the acne. I've read it can get worse during pg (if I get there!) due to the hormones and extra blood flow. and, in certain lights, I definitely have the beginnings of a corner 'tache. Great.

frog, bless you for being so thoughtful. Remember though, you are allowed to be happy too!
Boom (just typed boob!), I'd forgotten about your quest for a pcos diagnosis and the blood worm vs scan saga. FFS! Have you been seeing different docs, or is it the same one? I have many of the symptoms so am convinced I have some form of it. My bloods were all taken on the same day as I was still in my crazy 107 day cycle, so all it showed were high estrogen levels and LH surge as I had managed to ov that day. I have to have a day 21 prog test, but surely it should be 7 days before af due, which will not be cd 21 for me. I have absolutely no way of knowing when that would be. Been reading about diet and lifestyle stuff too....
A berry upthread asked about organising a jizz test for OH and how to go about it...I'd like to know that too, please. Does he just need to go to GP?
merks Really good to see you again and hear that you'll soon be away from the nutbar and back on mn. Did you ever get to the clinic etc? Good luck with shag week.
thunder your brother sounds great fun! Glad I'm an only child.

Please could you add me to the list? I keep losing the bold bits:

charmingcats - 32, married. ttc since August 2013, cycle 5 of unknown length. Cysty scan, 'normal' bloodworm. Possibly PCOS..?

Bunny - 33, married, cycle 12, just started getting bloods, hubby getting tests too,heading into shag week,
Barkingtreefrog - 33, cycle 17, short LP, hsg next cycle then scan then back to fc for clomid if no further problems found. Hopefully popping the pills by July so due a BFP then and an April baby .
Happylass - 35, cycle 9. AF due 8th May. Very little hope this cycle. On the look out for a sympathetic GP to refer me
Tallyra - 33, married, TTC for 3-4 years, 3mmc with HG. Appt to see fc/gynae 11June for initial consult. tntc until then angry
GooseyD - 38, nearly 2 yrs TTC (following 2 yrs 'not TTA' and head in sand), all tests normal but only 7 day LP, hsg on Tuesday eeek then seeing FC on Sat
Yorkiebilb - 35, cycle 9. Mmc Dec. awaiting DH swimmers test results and going to get blood tests done next week.
MrsB00Mbastic - 31, married, TTC 1 year, mmc last Aug. Appt with gynae clinic 21 June, awaiting abdo scan, jizz test and hycosy. Wonky bloods. Possibly PCOS..?
charmingcats - 32, married. ttc since August 2013, cycle 5 of unknown length. Cysty scan, 'normal' bloodworm. Possibly PCOS..?

Charming that was me asking about the jizz test! The doctor at the clinic phoned me and told me to get one, but DH and I are at different docs. So god knows where she's sent the letter saying he needs one, or how he goes about it. He's convinced there's a 'porn room' at the GP that he can go and crack one out in haha!

This is the same problem I had with the bloodworms, convinced they were all taken on the wrong days. Doctors seem a bit clueless when you don't have a nice neat 28 day cycle!

Re taches, I also found a gorgeous under-the-chin hair growth yesterday. Proper witchy! Argh!

I'm supposed to be writing an essay today. Which is why I'm on here constantly, until work at 3 anyway!

Frog I second the feeling above that you're entitled to be happy. In fact I think you should be extra, extra happy bc of all you've been through to get to where you are!

AF arrived here today, no surprise since I'd done a couple of tests recently. Trying the mooncup out this cycle. Haven't had sex in 2 weeks and not likely to anytime soon as DH and I have just had a spat about how he's traded our child-free ov weekend, all for, get this, nothing apart from just being 'helpful'. It didn't cross his mind to check the dates with me. I'm beyond disgusted.

Thunder about your thyroid, has your consultant told you what the optimal range is for ttc for TSH? Mine is .75 and I'm not sure if that's good, or if it ought to be between 1.0 and 2.0?

Bajas sorry AF showed up at yours! Wasn't due here til Mon but I guess the temptation to ruin my weekend was too great.

Bunny - 33, married, cycle 12, just started getting bloods, hubby getting tests too,heading into shag week,
Barkingtreefrog - 33, cycle 17, short LP, hsg next cycle then scan then back to fc for clomid if no further problems found. Hopefully popping the pills by July so due a BFP then and an April baby .
Happylass - 35, cycle 9. AF due 8th May. Very little hope this cycle. On the look out for a sympathetic GP to refer me
Tallyra - 33, married, TTC for 3-4 years, 3mmc with HG. Appt to see fc/gynae 11June for initial consult. tntc until then angry
GooseyD - 38, nearly 2 yrs TTC (following 2 yrs 'not TTA' and head in sand), all tests normal but only 7 day LP, hsg on Tuesday eeek then seeing FC on Sat
Yorkiebilb - 35, cycle 9. Mmc Dec. awaiting DH swimmers test results and going to get blood tests done next week.
MrsB00Mbastic - 31, married, TTC 1 year, mmc last Aug. Appt with gynae clinic 21 June, awaiting abdo scan, jizz test and hycosy. Wonky bloods. Possibly PCOS..?
charmingcats - 32, married. ttc since August 2013, cycle 5 of unknown length. Cysty scan, 'normal' bloodworm. Possibly PCOS..?
SidneyBristow - 38, married, ttc since July 2012, cycle 11. All tests so far show everything's normal

Hi sid, 0.75 is great. I'm aiming to get between 0.5-2 so look at you nice and low!

frog YES BE HAPPY!

boom don't cringe- we just live and learn and that is a good message in that the clumsy people who upset us aren't nasty, they are just a bit clumsy because they don't know.

Afternoon charming and charming's worm

Just had embarrassing meltdown in town, trying desperately not to cry while paying for a coffee. I experimented by telling my friend (who has two kids) when she said something I found a little insensitive (in this case marvelling at how few kids were potentially going to be on my wedding list - nearly a third of the guests thank you very much) and she got really upset - I am definitely going back to keeping it to myself!!

Charming and Boom - my DF got a letter from the GP with numbers for a couple of different clinic/hospital options which he called round to get first appointment he could (about a two month wait!). He went in and used 'the porn room' at clinic - but I know others who have had to produce at home as no place at their clinic which meant then rushing in with sample kept close to the body to keep it at body temp - and if you get held up it's all a waste of time as has to be within a certain timeframe.

sid that af got you and that your next chance will be scuppered by sc duties. Was DH just not thinking? I know it doesn't really help and isn't a truly valid excuse when you've spoken about how stressed you are by ttc, but maybe it just didn't occur to him and he's not trying to make things difficult. I do understand that you'd like him to be considering ttc as much as you are, but I think they don't really connect the dots in terms of checking dates and that certain dates will be good for dtd and therefore bad for having guests. Surely it's time for some now....

Sid that is totally crap that you've lost your child free ov weekend - grrr. As in he's going away or the SC are staying? I used to use a mooncup until started TTC in earnest and then decided I was doing quite enough grappling around down there what with pots of pee and charting cervical changes (which I've completely given up on now!)

goosey so sorry about your meltdown and your friend. What did she actually say? Will she calm down? Is it worth sending her a text or email to explain why you said what you did and that you had no intention of upsetting her, but wnted to let her know that you're finding things hard at the moment?
Thanks for the info about the jizz test. I may do a touch of googling....