Anyone else going to start ttc next month?

[Coffee1Sugar]

Anyone like to join me on this journey of conception?! Going to start in May to ttc no 2

Anyone else suspect a troll?!

Coffee I've been thinking that from first post but didn't wan to come across if mean/paraniod if I was wrong!

Well I think that makes at least 3 of us, I didn't want to seem cynical though. In really bad taste too - in these threads and the pregnancy ones that follow people reveal some very personal things. Most trolls confine themselves to the AIBU and chat pages...

Oo Catherine - got your message hun my damn laptop won't let me click to respond but I'm with you!

Ignoring the hairy of hand....

Can I join? DH and I are 'officially trying' as soon as AF goes (hopefully Sunday), after ditchin the condoms in March. March and April were mental busy with work and visitors so I discounted them!

So.....
MortifiedAdams, ttc #2,

I apologise. if my words hurt anyone as it is not my intention as I do not suppose your words were meant to hurt me but they have non the less. If the troll bit was intended for me then I am very hurt and upset. Golden hand shake you are very wrong I have never trolled anything in my life. I think it is a mean and disgusting thing to do and being accused of it really hurts. Why do you see me as troll is it because I am not in happy relationship like you so I do not have the right to ttc. .

This is a subject that is very close to my heart and for people who are going through the same thing to mock how I feel in little cliques then I am very disapointed. If it was meant for me at least aim it at me and not to each other I left all that behind in school as you both should have as well. Also internet accsess costs me a lot of money so I would certainly not be here if I was not serious.
Coffee 1 sugar my reply was beyond resaonable to you after you posted a rather hurtful and judgemental remark while it may well not have been intentional but it hurt all the same. You asked me a question which I was not obliged to answer but I did and yet for some reason I am seen as troll.
I will be honest dome of my messages have been quite confusing my cycle is up the wall and even I an confused by it all so I do not expect you to understand but it is not for either of you play judge and jury.
I am 37 years of age I have better things to do with my hard pressed time than to make up crazy stories about trying for a baby. What would I have to gain about making up such stories. After previously suffering a miscarriage and already having a beautiful daughter I would never make light of such a delicate subject. I am not ashamed to admit I am crying while writing this. I have been feeling very emotional anyway. I feel as if you ave both decided to pass judgement on me when I feel you have absolutly no right to. O.k so you have both made a decision seemingly for whatever reason not to like me. Why I don't know and nor should I care but being human I do so. but these comments are not going to make me go away as I have every much right to be here as you both do and to share my feelings. If after all my moaning and ranting it was not meant for me then I am heartily sorry and I will be a women hold my hands up and say I was wrong. Like a previously mentioned I am not here to make enemies. I though we were here to offer support. x

I would like to also say to Mushi mushi and 1 Catherine 1 thankyou both for your kind and encouraging words It means a lot that there are people on her who do not dislike me. xxxx

Hi Adams

Well day 3 of first post-mirena removal withdrawal but I'd hardly call it a "bleed", all together probably filled no more than 1 tampax purple light tampon . Even so as soon as it completely tails off, dp wont know what hit him

Hmm. C99, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. I don't think there's anything wrong at all with ttc as a single woman but it sounds slightly odd when you then say that if there's any chance you might be pregnant you can't have sex because your body is no longer your own. It sounds a little.....anti women? You're a woman, not an incubator.

I can tell when I'm ovulating because I start to get very very subtle cramps, like really subtle period pains but on one side only, for a couple of hours. Then a little later I get really sharp stabbing pains for a few hours. Most of the time it's only a minor annoyance but sometimes it gets quite bad and I need painkillers and a hot water bottle. I don't think this is usual though. It's called mittelschmerz. It's annoying but one advantage is I don't have to bother with temping or checking cervical mucus or anything.

Well hello ladies been away for a while hectic renovating my new house!!? What's going on? What does troll meant ? No BFP this month for me AF due early next week X

According to my period app - crap I actually have one of those! I'm due to ovulate 21st May, when should I start really going nuts with the bonking, around 18th?!

Yea 18th onwards!! I'm due AF in 4 days so end of the month is my lucky time hehe x

I have the same app and ovulate then too. Im just planning on DTD every other day for the whole month - worked like a charm with DD.

I'm sure I'm supposed to be ovulating, and plenty (too much!!) of EWCM but the OPK is still -ve... Am I just missing the lh surge??

So frustrating as I'm usually v in sync with my system, but had weird almost OV like pains on Sunday (too early) and its totally thrown me!

also, big welcome to the newbies, and congrats to latest BFPs

well I had the smallest amount of EWCM yesterday. hubby got back from his work trip late last night and I had a banging headache but thought we'd better dtd just incase!

still got negative opks and don't ovulate for a few days yet but am paranoid about every twinge in my lower back!

trying to dtd at least 3 times a week just to be sure - I think dh is loving it!

mushi interesting what you said about your smear, I'm always met with comments about how hard my cervix is to find on smears, I think it's fairly common though. it's definitely lead to some prolonged appointments for me in the past!

Hello! Any room for a newbie? DH and I are both 33 and have just started ttc#1 this month. Really wish we had started earlier...

We're both quite sensible/cautious, DH especially so and were waiting for the right time... but as we all know that doesn't exist! I've been trying to persuade DH to get cracking for the past couple of years and finally had a massive tantrum put my foot down last month and so here we are. DH is convinced we're going to get upduffed quickly but we shall see on 28 May

Currently in fertile window according to App and I'm pretty regular so going with that for the time being, tho might get OPKs next month if nothing happens as I'm a bit control freaky. Also clueless when it comes to CM.

So that's me..

Mushi totally agree with previous advice to request the same nurse and take something sweet along with you. Hope it goes ok. Will be thinking of you...

Morning all, i'm awaiting AF to start on the 15th, then due to ovulate between 23rd - 28th (according to app) but I have bought some ovulation sticks :)

How's everyone else doing?

Welcome Monstamio and good luck for the 28th :)

C99 - I just think that the man should have a choice in the matter as it's unfair. Have you thought about trying dating agencies? you may find someone of a similar age wanting children? Or a sperm bank could help you.

x

Hi Mushi Mushi Thankyou for your reply. It is very much appriciated. However I would not say I was anti women not wanting to make love because I could be pregnant. I do agree with what you say I am a women and not an incubator. However as you also said on a previous post it is my body so it is also my right to choose not to make love for the time being. It's tourturing going without it though! However if I am not pregnant I will certainly get back to trying creating my georgeous little miracle. xx

Hi CristaBell. Thankyou for your reply. How do I put this with out making me sound like the most terrible being alive. None of the men that I sleep with know I am ttc. xx

C99 - what will you tell your child when she/he notices her daddy isn't around?

And what if the man has any genetic illnesses or chronic conditions you're unaware of which could put a child together at risk? Or a rare blood group?

Coffee I couldn't agree more. That's a very dangerous game to play health wise for you and baby. Wow

Actually I have a whole host of scenarios Im wondering what you'd do about C99:

As above, 1) what will you tell your child?
2) what if the man has genetic conditions, rare blood groups, chronic illnesses?
3) what if the man is infertile?
4) what if the man has HIV or hepatitis or any other std?
5) what if he actually wants kids but is none the wiser that a child of his has been born?
6) who is going to be registered as the father on the birth certificate?
7) you won't be able to claim maintenance for the child if he doesn't know he has a child
8) if you're sleeping with more than one guy, how will you know who is the "sperm donor"?
9) why not avoid all the above and head for a sperm bank or better still, wait until you've met someone?

Hey brand new to Mumsnet, had to google all the acronyms! Well pretty much just decided to TTC starting tmw! Took my last mini-pill today, finishing the pack was on pill type birth control for 10 yrs. Expecting it to take a few months to settle.

Stats 29 DH 30, will await AF's arrival in a few days!

Hope you don't mind another newbie on the thread!

Of course we don't GnomieGrace. Welcome to the thread and to mumsnet. Mumsnet has its own guide to commonly used acronyms here.

Thank-you Catherine!