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TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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WillSantaComeAgain · 02/04/2013 13:49

Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

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Mummytothearkbuilder · 29/04/2013 14:50

Wow tins - amazing news!! Massive congrats!!!!! Xxx

BirdsDoIt · 29/04/2013 15:04

Sneakily checking mumsnet on phone from work - and yay! Am glad I did! tins that's wonderful news! Congratulations and keeping all fingers crossed for you!

Fingers crossed for a 2014 baby for all of us...maybe January is a bit optimistic for me personally as i haven't had even had first af yet but as someone said, a year away from now would be a lovely time to have a baby...

sapphire good luck with your run! I'm very excited that I think we've found a great holiday for July which wouldn't have to be binned if by a miracle I do get pregnant in the next few months - a swimtrek holiday somewhere in the sun - so am going to have to start doing some swimming training to prep for 4km of swimming a day! Eek! But really pleased to have that to focus on actually, to keep myself busy and active.

fod book that dirty weekend away this week! x

Ps sorry for exclamation mark overdose

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 29/04/2013 15:13

Emki this should be 3rd AF. I POAS this morning, and there may have been a faint line.PSE again! If AF doesnt kick in, I will do my last 1st response tomorrow morning. TBH I think Im just kidding myself, and this is just a WTF cycle. The nausea and stuff I put down to 5:2. I refuse to hav

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 29/04/2013 15:19

...have even the slightest whiff of optimism, so the only way is up!

BakingTins That is FANTASTIC! I am really pleased for you. As Thunder says, take each day as it comes. Dont worry about tomorrow, or next week, just aim for the end of each day. We are all here for you, holding your hand really tightly! {{hug}}

Emki · 29/04/2013 18:22

Bakingtins this is very exciting xxxxx

saggy everything crossed for you xxxx

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 29/04/2013 18:25

Well I PO my last FR. BFN. I give up. It's just a WTF cycle. It can WTFOFF now.

Emki · 29/04/2013 18:38

Oh saggy! Rubbish! Just rubbish!!! Rubbish!!! Rubbish rubbish rubbish rubbish rubbish! Xxx

fod27 · 29/04/2013 19:42

tins!!!!! fandabbydozey!!!!!!! Dead chuffed for you huni, as my AF has arrived in bucket loads! You can have my posifrickintivity I won't be needing it for a couple of weeks
BDI I'm on it ;)

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 29/04/2013 21:12

"fandabbydozy" made me PMSL! Grin it sums the situation up perfectly though! Wink

fod27 · 29/04/2013 21:29

I aim to please :)

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 29/04/2013 22:37

You will forever look like Wee Jimmy Cranky in my head now Fod! Grin

Thundercatsarego · 30/04/2013 08:00

saggy, arse.

Not saying youve got a saggy arse, but that this wtf is totally crap you poor thing. Time to treat yourself a bit?

Morning everyone else, how's it going? The sun is out- hooray!

End of rather pointless post.

Sal1977 · 30/04/2013 08:35

AF #1 has just about left the building with my boot up her arse so let the shagathon commence can't really be arsed but hey ho!!

Plymouth is looking glorious this morning, where do you lovely lot reside? X

Sal1977 · 30/04/2013 08:46

In other news, I am SO F*cking ANGRY!!!!

I've been doing that 5:2 diet for a week and a half and not lost an ounce!!!! I've been so hungry all week, walking to work, started a new job where I'm on my feet rather than my big fat arse all day and NADA!

I get married in 6 weeks and I'm nearly a stone heavier than I was when I fell pregnant with no pissing baby or bump to show for it.

I could honestly ball my eyes out, what a waste of time!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 30/04/2013 08:57

Do you feel or look thinner though? My fat bits don't look much smaller but definitely feel squishier! Have you been eating more on normal days? The principle is good, if you eat 4000+ less calories a week, something has to happen! Also, I know I'm daft, but I don't ever weigh myself. Weight can fluctuate a lot in the course of a day. When I was a compulsive weigher years ago, there could be 2 or 3 pounds difference in a day! Try it for another couple of weeks, don't weigh and just see if your clothes get looser. Maybe measure bust, waist, hips and thighs instead of using the scales and see if you are shrinking. Also, if you are exercising, you may be building muscle, which weighs more than fat.

Thundercatsarego · 30/04/2013 08:58

Oh sal that sucks. Same happened to me after mc, it's like another slap in the face isn't it? It must just be hormones so you can't beat yourself up about it.

On other news- married in 6 weeks?! That is so lovely and exciting! Are you nervous/stressed about it?

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 30/04/2013 09:00

Can you tell I have done a LOT of diets! Grin
On a less cheerful note, I have to get out of bed now and go find out what AF is playing at today. Went back to nothing yesterday. Confused

OneLittleToddleTerror · 30/04/2013 09:11

sal I know how you feel about the weight gain. I managed to gain a whooping 5kg in my 12 weeks before mc. (Google says it's 0.8 stones). DH is being really nice and told me it's the pregnancy hormone that makes me eat all day. And because there's no baby to take the calories off me to grow, it's all gone to my tum and bum. And if it takes 8 weeks to gain that 5kg, then it'll take 8 weeks to return to before. I've heard really good results with the 5:2 diet. Hopefully it'll work for you as well.

No good news from me today.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 30/04/2013 09:14

CHRIST! Don't say that! It's taken me 17 years to get this fat! Confused Sad Grin

alyant79 · 30/04/2013 09:17

oh my goodness tins, good work you! Awesome super-sperm/egg ability on display Grin

sal give it a bit more time, a week and a bit isn't very long. Also as saggy points out, muscle weighs more than fat. I bet you LOOK slimmer.

I'm feeling a bit down today, even though logically i didn't want to get pg this month. It doesn't make any sense, but I can't help feeling that I've failed Sad. With both my previous pregnancies we got pg on the first go... Why not this time? Stupid fucking miscarriage.

alyant79 · 30/04/2013 09:20

OLTT I had exactly the same: I put on about 4kg in the 12 weeks until mmc diagnosed. I didn't lose anything in the first 4 weeks, which I think was because it turned out that I STILL had retained products. But as soon as they were gone the weight just fell off (despite copious amounts of comfort eating). Still probably carrying an extra 1kg but that's not too bad.

GuffSmuggler · 30/04/2013 09:31

Oooo that is exciting tins, hoping for a strong line soon - report back ASAP! That is just what this thread needs some more BFPs to keep everyone going.

Agree with the rants about weight gain and having nothing to show for it, I was ignorantly eating "for 2" for 12 sodding weeks and now need to lose it. Gahhhh!

Well the good news here is that my first AF has showed up since the ERPC. This will be the one and only time in the foreseeable future I will be pleased to see it. Hopefully that means my malfunctioning body is working again.

I'm not ready to go down the OPK route yet I don't think, so just going to work out the potential ov dates this month and shag away.....

Hope everyone else is feeling a bit better today x

Mummytothearkbuilder · 30/04/2013 10:18

Morning ladies!!

I too have gained a good half a stone since finding out I was pregnant and then the miscarriage happening. Problem is i am a classic comfort eater so if I feel down I reach for the chocolate - I am trying really hard to watch what I am eating and do more exercise.

I am due AF tomorrow but there are no signs of her yet - there are also no signs of pregnancy either so I don't know what to think. I have had back ache on and off since 7dpo (ish) and I have tons of white cm ( sorry for tmi). I did POAS yesterday and bfn but hubby said that its probably too early :-( even though AF doesn't feel like she arriving I equally don't feel pregnant :-( I'm worried its a long wtf cycle xx

alyant79 · 30/04/2013 10:26

mummy i really hope that you are pg! That would be exciting.

Great news guff

birds!!!!! i just looked up swim trek holidays and they look AMAZING! I soooo want to do one. Not practical with an almost 2 yo though Sad.
I am sooooooooo jealous
We are thinking of doing a cycle tour somewhere in France: DD can get pulled behind us in a bike trailer. Also something that won't have to be cancelled if i get pg

littlemisswednesday · 30/04/2013 10:40

alyant79 I felt EXACTLY the same way when I didn't conceive again straightaway. We got pg on the first go last year - I knew we were lucky but naively thought if it had happened once it would happen again. Nope - and even though I knew I wasn't emotionally ready to be pg again so soon I still felt like a complete failure.

It's been 6 months now and I only just feel like I'm starting to get back to normal physically....we had a go without any 'planning' for the first couple of months and have then been using the OPKs for about three months....I finally got a positive line on Sunday to say that at LAST I appear to be ovulating this month, so am feeling pretty positive this week :). Honestly, I was so excited it was ridiculous. Although I know it doesn't necessarily mean that much, but to me I think it helps feel like my insides might be functioning OK! How has my life now started to be governed so much by weeing on sticks??

I too piled on the weight last year before the mc and am about a stone heavier now than a year ago.....bootcamp+spinning+roller derby seem to be starting to help though (although my aching legs do NOT agree!).