The Elderberry Pavlovas are pimping everyday – a lovely thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 7)

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Oh Cherry so sorry to hear that you've had bad news. Good that you're seeing someone quickly. I know nothing about this diagnosis but hope there is a way forward. .Take care.

Oh cherry so sorry to read your news, hugs!

Feel bad now whinging at my impending witch!

frog I've got this one.

cherry hope you're doing ok and managing to hold it together until Monday

Thanks guys, feeling a bit floored TBH, DP gutted too but being amazing. Just cuts to the quick to hear those words. Feeling numb but hoping all not lost :(

Evening. Can't remember who asked but my cycles are 35 days. Which means 2 less chances a year to get my BFP than those with a 28 dayer :(

Frog you might be in the short LP club or you might be O-ing late this cycle and your LP will be fine and AF will arrive later (which, without temps/OPK's would have got your hopes up). You could have o'd CD8/9 I guess but not convinced. However either way it's great that you'll have a cycle of temps/OPK's to give you info when if AF does arrive (and if you get your BFP who cares!)

cats such good news about your appointment. Hopefully you'll get to the bottom of this and get it sorted very very soon

cherry so so so sorry, that's awful news. However, if there is a positive it is that at least you know and can act upon it. Look after yourself and try not to worry this weekend until you know more from the next set of tests and appointments

Oh Cherry no.
What is the next step?

Merk how are you doing?

I'm OK Pip, with OK meaning i'm alright but not on top form iyswim. Will be better I think when it gets to shag week and I have a something to focus on

cherry which tests have they done so far?

Bloody hell, Cherry, what crap news to have to hear. It's just not fair. I really hope that your BUPA appointment and whatever follows will bring you options and possibilities.

Frog, definitely get a proper 2 decimal place BBT thermometer; as Barking said, the rounding up/down could be hiding a clearer pattern for you. Also, is it not possible to take your temperature at the same time? I take mine 45 mins before my 'get up' time and I fall straight back asleep. I appreciate though that once some people are awake, that's it. On the OPK front, it took me 3 or 4 months of using them to get my first positive! I've found that I need to do my test early/mid afternoon and I have to refrain from drinking anything after about 8am for my urine to then be concentrated enough! Keep trying and use 2-3 a day to start off with.

Bunny - how are you doing on that sofa? So sorry you're feeling bad.

cherry , I'm so sorry about your news. Very glad you're off to bupa so quickly and that the nhs is jumping into action as well. Hopefully you'll get some answers. Try to relax this weekend. Nothing more you can do. Write down any questions you both have so that they're not churning round your heads.

So sorry cherry and hope that Monday brings you more answers go easy on yourself til then; I know, easier said than done.

Thanks for all the help & tips guys. I'm still getting faint lines on the OPK whatever that means so I'm going to try & stay positive. Guess we just keep DTD as much as possible at all times until I've worked out when the optimal time is! Shag week will be renamed shag month. Every cloud & all that...

Sending more to merk, cherry,bunny & anyone else who needs them right now.

I'm sorry guys but I need to rant.
Just found out that an ex of dh that is good friends of ours, played her violin at our wedding and got engaged last year is 3 months pg.
On top of that, I asked dh to put my left over food on the table next to us so the dog didn't eat it and he bloody went and ate it himself. that was my lunch tomorrow!!!
And he seems to have finally got tired of the way I get upset every time I find out someone else is having a baby and we aren't. so he has gone out to the shed to get away from me and I am sitting on the sofa trying to stop the dog from eating his bandaged foot that he cut last night and trying not to cry, again. I'm so sick of this feeling.

Gah, Tally, I bloody hate pregnancy announcements - they have such a bad effect on me...much worse than getting AF each month, which is illogical when you think about it. I've had THREE pg announcements this week and they're all pretty close so I won't be able to get away from the big fat preggos them as they grow their bumps and whatnot.

I think my DH is FINALLY starting to get how hard it is for me to hear pregnancy announcements but it's taken (tries to count on fingers and runs out of space) a lot for him to 'click'!

tally so sorry you're feeling crap. Have some and cake! I'm tonight in a men are hopeless place, despite DH being lovely he has asked multiple times this week "what's wrong?"! I just don't think they 'get it', it doesn't connect with them in the same way and they don't seem to have have the ticking clock, the worry, the hormones etc. My DH wholeheartedly believes it will happen and it just needs time and cant seem to see the possibility that that might not be the case. Because of that nothing upsets him, he just thinks that that will be us soon. Wish i could do the same. Come join us on the sofa of pity

The sofa of pity is lovely and comfy, thank you.

Oh, can I join you? After the clear ov signs yesterday and what I think was ov pain today (cramps on one side), DH has not been able to finish the job. We dtd last night, this morn & just now. Nothing. It's so frustrating after all the stress & worry, going to GP etc. bah!

That sofa does look rather lovely . DP is another in the camp of it will happen at some point and rolls his eyes when I don't like hearing about another pg. However after 15 AF's even he seems to be a little less sure.

plumps not pumps. It's not inflatable....

cats honestly take a breath. If you have O'd then DTD is not going to change anything, it's too late anyway (sorry if that sounds harsh but may help you to de-stress).

I am finding sofa is much comfier with the addition of wine. Am home alone and reading childbirth threads and swinging between despair (it will never be my turn) and absolute excitement (my turn soon)! However am fascinated by all of it and am powerless to stop myself absorbing all the information I can find. Especially the big slagging off of my nearest hospital maternity unit (adds more arrows to bow for homebirthing argument with DH)!

Tally is Mr Tally looking after you?

Yes, DH doesn't seem to see the importance of timing.

My husband is one of those weirdo optimists too . God bless him but sometimes the relentless positivity grates, and I'd prefer to see him down in the dumps sometimes about it. At least I'd have company.

Vagiscan (vagicam?) test tomorrow. DH was talking about what a relaxing weekend we'll have...um might be a little hard, mate, what with the stranger poking a camera up there.

Are the technicians for this sort of thing women, or am I being a bit precious for caring?

Forgot to add the other day that I'm in Surrey too! Must be something in the water own here.

Yes, merk, I know it's too late. I had high hopes for yesterday as I had ewcm and pos opk, but a lot less cm today and the pain, so reckon we've missed the boat. Er, I think I've heard bad things about your local hospital (on the k2 bus), but you could choose to go to another one. I would like to go to st georges personally.

Surrey-ites unite! sid, I think the techs are women, but could be wrong. I'm booked in for one on 2nd April, so will be thinking of you and interested to hear about it.