The Elderberry Pavlovas are pimping everyday – a lovely thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 7)

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Newbies very welcome provided they meet the entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, must have a special pot, NO instadiffers) and bring a bouquet of sausages when they join!

thanks merk. Mr has come back in and given me a hug and apologised for not coping with my mood as calmly as I deal with his. Its a good sign. we might be up to snuggling tonight. maybe.
How are you today?

Sid, I had two females when I had the dildocam, but my letter very specifically said that it could be male or female staff. I understand how you feel but it's better than a smear, in my experience at least, as they're busy staring at the screen, not at your bits you.

I don't live near any of you...but I do live in an area with artificially fluoridated water, which I hate. If I want fluoride I'll get it in my mouthwash, thanks muchly.

boodle your clue as to where you live is so cryptic my brain melted!
cats where is st George's? Read about it on a thread tonight but as I'm not from these parts I have no idea! I think there is a midwife led unit at the other hospital which I have read good reviews of but in all honesty I just hate hospitals so home would be my choice
tally its normal and natural to worry. However once its done you will forget all about it. Man or woman they've seen it before. Doesn't help you feel better but just keep that as your mantra in your head. Have you got a list of questions ready? Make sure you let us know how it goes
On a side note, as we have recently resurrected the baby name discussion(clearly its all now gone quiet) my DH wants his 'family' name as a first name for a boy. It's a lovely name now I've got used to it (although not one that can be shortened which I struggle with as am a lazy name person and shorten every name, even to just an initial if needs be). However I feel a bit short changed (didn't really want to change my surname after wedding as last child in our family with it and now it's gone) that potential (not yet conceived) baby would have first name and surname relating to DH's family and nothing from mine. Nephew already has my family 'boy' names so can't use them. It sounds really childish (because it is ) but I can't get past feeling its bit fair! Ah well, by the time I actually have a baby we will probably be so old we won't even remember these names anymore!

a bit un*fair!

Does the dildocam actually look like any kind of 'dildo'???

Baby name discussions already Crikey!

yes, it really does.

Morning berries! Yes I know it is indecently early for a Saturday, but got a text message from a friend about an hour ago announcing the birth of her baby boy, and sleep is now impossible. I think it has suddenly hit me that actually it might never happen for me, and that is very hard to deal with.

I haven't posted on here for a while because I've had a horrific couple of weeks at work, but I have been lurking and keeping up with everyone's news, and I'm so so sorry for you both merk and cherry. I just hope that this thread is done with the bad news now and the universe will start smiling at us berries again. And I'd be quite happy for it to start by giving me my period back. I can't believe I'm hoping for it after wishing it away for so many months, but it is currently CD52 for me and I can't stand not even being able to console myself with thoughts of this cycle being the one. I have never had a cycle longer than 5 weeks before, so I presume I must have completely missed my period this time. Come back period, I'm sorry I treated you so badly before, please forgive me!

P.S. I'm also in the south-west bunny. What lovely weather we are having at the moment!

Hi haycorn and sorry for baby news and disappearing period. Make room on the sofa, I'm watching f1 qualifying!

My alarm went off to take my temperature at 7 and I didn't get back to sleep . Annoying, because I don't usually bother setting the alarm at weekends if it's beginning or end of cycle and not going to give me any useful information about Ov but I forgot to turn it off!!!

Sorry your period has gone AWOL hay. My mate (who has been ttc 17 months and has her FC appointment the day before mine) has the opposite problem, she's had what seems to be one continuous period for the last 5 cycles. So annoying. And expensive for her! These things run like clockwork for years and years and then when we need all the mechanics working at their best they break down under the pressure. Rubbish.

A 5-month period? Blimey. Come on bodies, surely it would be far easier just to work normally than to come up with all these cruel ways to torture us.

Ugh haycorn I know what you mean, in 2 months time I will be getting the same text. She reminded me earlier this week that in 9 weeks time her FOURTH will be here!!!
Sorry to hear about your vanishing AF, nightmare, have you seen the doc? And yes lovely snow this morn I wish it would feck off!

FB status from my best friend yesterday reminding everyone that its her last Friday at work for a year. She starts her maternity leave next week. Obvs I'm really happy for her but it just seems so unfair. I recently remembered a conversation we had on a girlie hols about 5 yrs ago when I said I was desperate to have kids & she said she wasn't that bothered .

Had a row with DP last night about how I'm getting too obsessed with TTC & I need to relax & just let it happen. What is it with men & their laid back approach to this?

CD18 today & biggest temp shift this month to highest ever. I either just missed O or it was last nights curry & alcohol. If it was O then v unlikely to get a BFP this time as we haven't DTD for the last 4 days.

I know frog how can they be so laid back? Ever since we made the decision to try its been the only thing on my mind, it can drive you crazy and when OH is all it'll happen one day luv you can have a meltdown, don't they care?!?!?

Early birds berries all round. Was up early for acu, which I'm getting used to. Was thinking, what do you think about starting berry off shoot thread to support cherry, in case our chat here is a bit much for her, but she still wants to drop in for a chat?
merk, st georges is in tooting. Not a million miles away & their midwife led unit has v good rep. I think, when the time comes, you should have a tour of all of them and go with gut feel. In a previous job, I went to your local hospital labour ward to meet the head midwife. She was lovely. Bit disconcerting having a meeting about parenting programmes surrounded by screaming women. Personally, I've had treatment at st George's for pericarditis and I've been to their a&e and both times I've felt very impressed by staff and facilities. It's a massive teaching hospital, so you do get lots students....my mate trained there & loved it. Our local hospital also has midwife led centre, but I know someone who is suing them, so I'm not convinced either.
TMI alert here. After my second wee of the day this morning (I.e. not first), I got a great glob of cm when I wiped. It was very very stretchy, but creamy in colour. Is this anything to get excited about, or could it be by product of our dtd last night (no jiz expelled)??

haycorn- I feel your pain re the absent af. What were your previous cycles like? We're you ill around ov? Could it have been delayed?

It's 10DPO here and no spotting. Clearly one good thing to come of the lap and dye is it stopped the spotting.

How are you feeling Merk and Cherry?

Oh and Cats, you need to do the Pipbin patented method for telling lady emissions from gentleman contributions.
Squash the questionable matter between toilet paper, if it sinks into the paper it is leftovers if it is all stretchy when you separate the paper again then it is yours.

I second pip cats only EWCM will stretch. It's a good sign for you!

Ooooh. It was stretchy! Just as well we dtd successfully straight after. That'll be within 48 hours of pos opk and about 18 hours after ov pain. Probably a bit late, but I don't care as I'm too pleased to be seeing ewcm! This is the only place where that sounds normal.
I have resolved never to use hormonal contraception again. It's evil.

I remember some talk of bad skin after the pill. Any advice on ttc friendly stuff that works? Not supposed to use retinol, I know, but my forehead has reverted to its teenage self and my chin is disgusting.

Sorry about the diagnosis cherry, please keep us posted.

Bfn this morning. I was starting to get my hopes up as 3 months since oh had cut back on drinking (and one month since giving it up completely). Plus I had the hsg. No 2013 baby for me now, I won't have one till I'm 35 now as its my birthday in jan. I started this process when I was 32. Very depressing.

V good sign cats!

A 5 month period for your friend barking - eeek. In terms of expense has she tried a mooncup? I used to think it was a v hippy thing but something made me try one & now I love it. No forgetting to put that spare tampax in your bag.

I love my mooncup. I've been using them for about ten years now.

As for spots, my skin brews out when AF is visiting and when I ov, so I've nearly always got bad skin.
I have just changed to using stuff from Lush. I got their Herbalism face scrub and a face pack called something like calamity, it had blueberries in anyway, that I remember. It has made a difference.