The big fat posifrickintivity, but only on a friday thread - TTC after MC and not lose your head

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Ladies - a brand new lovely shiny thread for us to fill! Enjoy x

Hi Beans - I totally understand why you want an early scan, especially when you'll be abroad at the same stage of your mc. Not going to say it's the right thing to tell a fib to get a scan, but you are not a bad person and you won't be the first or the last to do it. However if it gives you comfort to have the scan and therefore relaxes you - arguably that is a medical benefit of the scan. Hope it is good news

Thunder - if no one replies, try General Health but just add you've posted on other boards. Maybe worth trying that group as could be more people with Thyroid probs who aren't ttc-ing currently but can still advise?

Lol Thunder I've been here for a while and I'm sociable in real life. Ill speak to anyone me! And given the fact that I can't keep a secret to save my life, I don't post anything I wouldn't in real life because loads of people know my NN!

Thunder I haven't had a positive yet. The OPKS came in the post on CD13 and nothing's happened yet. There could have possibly have been the faintest of invisible lines on CD13, so I've got fingers crossed I've missed it.

Post in Chat. It gets by far the most traffic.

Have they had no lines since you started sag? I always had a line, just a faint one until it suddenly went dark one night.

Arse, I knew it might take a while to get sorted re thyroid but I didnt realise I was looking down the barrel of a year. Damnit. I think I might hang about til af next week and then I'm not sure whether MN is the right place to be for a bit.

beans you're not a bad person at all....sometimes the anxiety just gets too much. Now I have lost 4 and one was mmc I get automatic early scans but if not id be lying if i said i woudn't be tempted to do the same as you! Now all I need is the bfp!

No line at all. The tests come up a bit streaky so I wonder if they are just crap.

Hmm streaky doesn't sound great tbh. Are they amazon ones? buy a cbdigiOPK!

eBay. There is NO WAY I would spend that much money, and DP would think I'd lost the plot! He already thinks I'm a bit bonkers! I'm up and down like a roller coaster, and trying to do SMEP! The poor bloke looks like a chewed up rag! I'm trying really hard not to make him think I'm obsessed! obsessed? Moi?

beans I thought about doing that last time and wish I had. My empty sac would have been picked up so much earlier.
Still naughty but fully understandable

thunder I don't know what response you got on that other thread but 1 year would totally suck. Perhaps that is worst case scenario?

How many times is too many to do an OPK test?
Hangs head in shame- husband caught me and thinks I am mad-
I am getting a line that is getting darker.

Beans- I don't blame you for wanting the scan- hope all will be ok.

Hope you don't have to wait a year Thunder- who said that, seems a very long time.

Thunder this is second hand info but a v good friend had an overactive thryoid and had radioactive iodine in order to be able to TTC (the thyroid suppressing drugs are bad for baby) then because that makes you underactive was put on thyroxine. She had to wait a year after the radioactive treatment then each time she was pregnant had to have regular thyroid monitoring because her dose needed adjusting. Once it was sorted she had 2 normal pregnancies
I haven't seen the response about waiting a year, but the thyroid supplement drugs are very safe. When we use them in animals we expect them to be stable within a month of starting treatment!

Thunder, pm me If you want I've been on most thyroid drugs and had radio active iodine treatment, off to read the rest of the posts!!

Gotta question: tomorrow is 5 weeks post medical mc, 1 week post extra erpc. Today my boobs have been really sore - like when I was preggo. Anyone else had that?
What could it be? Think it could be ovulation symptom? I don't really know what those symptoms are except for ewcm.

Hi ladies, new to the boards and time to say hi I think.

I found out at 13 weeks (New year's eve....) I had had a mmc at 7 weeks, then had managed mc which resulted in complications. It was awful but I had so few pregnancy symptoms I can look back and say that deep down I knew something wasn't right. So much so that when they told us at the scan I almost wasn't surprised. Month off work, and now cannot wait for my next BFP. We'd just started to tell everyone our good news too.

On my second cycle of TTC and AF due in 6 days, fingers crossed she never shows up...

I was so naive and thought it would happen straight away last month (as it did for a friend of mine who had had a similar exp.) but no such luck, and was devestated. Did a couple of tests 5/6 days before AF was due which was a waste of money! This month I have been slightly more relaxed about it, only slightly though and do not intend to test until 3/4 days late, so just over a week away now.

Good luck to all the ladies who are waiting to test at the mo.

xx

Hi tins, how are you doing my lovely? Thank you for the info- I don't like the waiting around bit, that's my problem. Hope I respond as quickly as your animals and then I'm back in the game.

Thank you too, mrs, I may well drop you a line. I'm just firing out questions on the thread at the mo.

Hi vocal, so sorry about your mc, but you are very welcome to chat/rant/be scared here. I trust you have familiarised yourself with our Friday system?

Hi thunder both my mother and aunt have a under active thyroid...is yours over or under? I shall do some research for you (well mither them lots) so glad to see some good news on here too

Also we ttc last night however there was slight bleeding after...what should I do? Carry in regardless? Hold off or contact the dr?
(secretly hoping you tell me to ttc anyway....I know I'm impatient and naughty)

Hi again, I didn't know about the Friday system but do now! This Friday I will be 1 day pre AF, too early to test? What do you recon?

Hi ladies!! Hope you all had good weekends - I haven't been on today and there has been so much to catch up on - I love a chatty thread!!

I need some advice as I am lying here trying to sleep and driving myself crazy!! So.......on Thursday I had a faint second line on the opk - I know it generally means negative but I summoned DH and we DTD, on Friday the line was darker than the control line (hooray!!) and we DTD, we also DTD on Saturday night and I thought we should on Sunday night too however it did not happen - we tried and tired and I used all my womanly charm (some of which I didn't know I had in me!!) but it didn't happen - have I missed the boat???? I am reading conflicting things all over the web and need some proper advice from lovely knowledgable mumsnetters xx

Mummy I don't think so, not dissimilar to me and I got a BFP x

Hi mummy the positive opk means you're about to release an egg. They say the day after is the most important to dtd but sometimes ovulation is delayed. I would dtd again today/ tomorrow for good measure? Hope that helps.

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! bfn! Bfn! Bfn finally!!!

Not to worry fod press on I say!

Welcome vocal. How about testing Friday with an ultra cheapie?

Oooops I just danced around the house singing bfn bfn and woke up my DD

Think it's time I joined you, if that's OK. Might only be in sporadically - not a huge MNer - but could do with being accompanied a bit on this journey.

I had a mc, then dc1, then 2 mcs in consecutive cycles, then dc2, then 4.5 years of largely calendar-method contraception, which brings us up to last spring, when I miscounted my days and got pg. Was but actually quite thrilled. Only to have a mmc, discovered at 9 weeks. I was so upset I think I was grieving for all four mcs at once. My gynae (I'm not in the UK) thought I should have tests. The genetic stuff was inconclusive but the blood tests shoeed up Factor V Leiden and something else I can't remember the name of - something you can usually balance out with increased folic acid. After waiting a few months just to stop feeling devastated and then to get the test results, we started ttc at the beginning of this year. I've always got pg immediately or almost immediately before, and now this is the third (arguably fourth, we took a risk before Christmas) cycle of nothing. Wondering whether my fertility has changed - I still have regular cycles etc., but I've just turned 36 and it's several years since I was last successfully pg - and thinking my next step, if it doesn't work this month, is monitoring ovulation.

I appreciate how phenomenally lucky I am to have my two dc but I always assumed, right from when dc2 was born, that another one would be coming along one day, and the idea that it might not happen is a hard one to get my head around. So hope I can pop on here and vent occasionally.

Good luck to all of us

yay for BFNs when you want one, aly. Only BFPs from now on, please.

Mummy sounds ok to me, normally you ovulate in the 24 hours post LH surge and those swimmers can be active up to 5 days. I agree with Z that if you can DTD today I would, but all is by no means lost. Fingers crossed for a week on Friday!

Hi to Newbies - the thread is moving so fast at the mo I can't keep up.

thunder have you spoken to your doctor about when you can TTC? I would get yourself retested a month after starting and then any dose adjustments needed are not taking too long. My friend's experience is it needs to be you driving the process and hassling for tests.

I'm ok most of the time. Have told the practice manager and the partners at work but said I don't want to talk about it. My boss took me aside yesterday and said "I'm not going to labour it (un fortunate choice of words) I just wanted to say I'm sorry" and that was enough for the tears to come. In some ways I feel like I ought to feel worse - like it's disloyal to the baby that I've coped so well this time when I was such a mess after the first couple. Partly because I've stopped assuming a BFP will result in a baby

However, onwards and upwards, right? I just need to get to first AF then can have some of the tests done about 6 weeks post MC.