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Ha! "Just relax" is proved to be complete and utter BOLLOCKS!

40 replies

MrsTittleMouse · 20/02/2013 20:14

How did I not find this before?

The official scientific paper is here (it's actually loads of individual studies pulled together to get the definitive result) -
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21345903

So now as well as being insensitive and fucking annoying, it's now also proved to be complete nonsense, and we can officially tell anyone who comes out with this bollocks to bugger off.

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Soph80 · 20/02/2013 20:17

Hell yes!!!! I love how people think they're telling you something you'd not heard a million times before!!!! x

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 20/02/2013 20:32

That phrase is surely grounds for a spot of ABH

It's always the couples that conceive at the drop of a hat that trot that one out as well.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 20/02/2013 21:23

"You're TRYING too hard!

"Just relax!"

"My mate's sister tried for a decade. They stopped worrying and guess what! They conceived!"u

"Get a referral to a fertility clinic. My cousin did and she fell while they were waiting. It's because they were relaxing."

"Oh do sod off."

Sunnywithshowers · 20/02/2013 21:24

Thanks for posting this :)

bugoven · 20/02/2013 21:43

Thank you Smile

Minshu · 20/02/2013 22:06

I luff you. I may be jailed soon as someone I stupidly confided in keeps spouting this at me!!!

twinklestar2 · 20/02/2013 23:46

I went to a fertility specialist today and he said stress and relaxing were only important so that you could have sex. Stressing does not stop sperm meeting egg.

DioneTheDiabolist · 20/02/2013 23:50

One of the most useless sentences in the English language. Up there with try not to worry about it.

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MrsTittleMouse · 21/02/2013 12:03

I know. I always felt that even if it was true, there's no point in telling anyone that, because no-one actually tries to be stressed FFS!

But it's not, so ner ner to those who spout this nonsense (including my old GP Angry).

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Bearface · 21/02/2013 14:00

I had this comment just the other day. Had to bite my tongue and nearly chewed it off. Are we living in the dark ages or something? Why are GPs still trotting out this crap? If it actually worked why don't they just sedate us all and then we will obviously all get upduffed won't we? Utter bollocks. Yes, and people are uttering bollocks if they say that to you.

Right climbed down off my very high horse now but still clinging to my sword - thanks for posting this OP.

gillian1986 · 21/02/2013 14:06

Starts reading

Blah blah

skips to conclusion

CONCLUSIONS: The findings of this meta-analysis should reassure women and doctors that emotional distress caused by fertility problems or other life events co-occurring with treatment will not compromise the chance of becoming pregnant.

AWESOME :-)

Sunnywithshowers · 21/02/2013 14:24

I wish I could have had that on a little card when we were TTC.

With a big FUCK OFF at the end for those proffering the 'helpful' just relax comments.

Bearface · 21/02/2013 14:27

You should make some Sunny - I'd buy them! Grin Can you just make sure that FUCK OFF is in much bigger letters than the rest of the message? Ta.

Sunnywithshowers · 21/02/2013 14:39

It would be my pleasure Bearface

highlove · 21/02/2013 16:15

Can I order some too Sunny?

highlove · 21/02/2013 16:17

And can you make the fuck off bit flash and stuff?

fairypangolin · 21/02/2013 19:25

My second favourite bit of advice is "be sure to enjoy the trying!" Usually accompanied by a coy simper. Yes, we're having so much fun TTC we just can't stop! It's like we've been on honeymoon for TWO YEARS!

That and my best friend who actually asked me in all seriousness if I had tried lying down with my feet up after sex. Yeah, no need for IVF that's all it takes! Silly me!

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 21/02/2013 19:41

Genuine LOL there, Fairy. Albeit a bitter laugh...

Sonics · 21/02/2013 20:09

YES!!! SmileSmile Brilliant!! Amazing!!

Thank you GrinSmileGrin

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 21/02/2013 20:15

"And can you make the fuck off bit flash and stuff?"

^ Funniest thing I've read all day. Thank you Grin

fairypangolin · 21/02/2013 20:38

ariel thanks, I'll take my bitter LOLs where I can get them. Smile

SomeDaySoon74 · 21/02/2013 20:39

This is the best thread ever! I can honestly say I reached the grand old age of 37 before starting TTC and every single mother I spoke to about how difficult it might be trying to get pg said they got pg first month of trying. Since then, 12 months and two failed babies later, everyone churns out the "just relax" bollox. I feel very empowered with my new shiny flashing "fuck off" sign Grin

Bearface · 21/02/2013 20:46

Let's make some badges.

Bearface · 21/02/2013 20:47

T-shirts and banners optional. I think you're onto a winner Sunny.

ILoveMyCats · 21/02/2013 20:57

Thanks for this. I really hate the 'enjoy trying' comments. Not every couple has a rampant sex life and there are valid and sometimes painful reasons for that!

I'm up for badges etc....