TTC 10+ months Part 13

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A very friendly and supportive thread for those taking way longer than they had ever expected to make a baby.

Morning all,

Last day of half term around here and I am doing absolutely nothing this morning. Meeting MrM for a fancy lunch later. Tis snowing here which always puts me in a good mood as long as I don't have to drive so there will hopefully be happy tipsy posts from me later tonight.

joy I didn't do anything exciting when I was away for the year. I came to the realisation that I was spending every evening on mumsnet and I was bloody miserable so decided that if I stopped posting I might be able to give it a rest and not think about TTC every waking minute. Not long after I stopped was when I got really ill and had the surgery. I think I was in limbo for a while after that, constantly waiting for the next appointment and the next test or scan. It wasn't until we got the date for the proper lap with the specialist consultant that I felt we were moving in the right direction and that I could maybe come back and speak to people without it being all consuming in a really negative way. I also felt like i would need all the support i can get for ivf. For all of you I wish that I had come back to find only a grads thread. Will be thinking of you tomorrow xx

rabbit that is incredibly frustrating. For someone who Pre injections bled during every cycle I totally understand how much it can mess with your head. I would probably cave and test, but I have done that before and then not trusted the result so it didn't really ease my mind at all . I'm sending some chocolates your way - shops are overflowing with them in anticipation of valentine's day. I am so not into valentine's [miserable cow emoticon]. Oh and I have always been madness. From looking back at old thread, I arrived on about day 4 which is rather sad. I hope that your rabbit is feeling better today.

euro I am thinking of you right now. Hopefully results soon. doll you can't be far off either. Sending sticky thoughts.

Big waves to everyone else. I should really go and get myself organised or I shall be going to my fancy lunch in a fleece dressing gown .

rabbit sorry the menkulling continues. You are being very restrained. A positive OPK is however a good sign one way or the other - either it is picking up HCG, or it means you are about to ov in your next cycle and everything is happening as it should.

I didn't realise quite how into yoga you are! I have done it on and off over the years, but never to that level. I like the relaxing kinds best. My gym offers ashtanga and I was doing those classes last year until they had a stand in teacher for a few weeks I couldn't stand. I dropped out and never went back. I am thinking about giving pilates a go instead. I started last year but haven't kept it up.

joy thanks for your comforting words. I don't blame you for having enough of the drugs.

sea and nelly sorry for the arrival of AF.

Oops, hit send too soon.

Madness I have wondered whether spending too much time on fertility boards is healthy, but from this one I have learned so much and had some incredible support. I considered trying to give it up for Lent, but I knew I would fail!

I had blood taken this morning, so now I am just waiting for the result. . I did another pish stick this morning and got a slightly darker line than the last two days. The cramps are ongoing, but seem to be quite common around the time your period is due, so I will just continue to think sticky thoughts and try to pass the time until the clinic calls later.

euro it's all about the teacher I think. If I don't like them I don't tend to stick with them, but I'm lucky in that I have some amazing ones. How do you feel today?

madness did you get bleeding throughout you cycle? Your day sounds very lovely indeed.

My rabbit is in a bad way he's in the vet being given some meds. If they work great but hell be on them forever, if not we have to let him go. 2013 come on, get your act together.

The clinic was clearly having an efficient morning. They had told me the results would be given around 3.30-5pm. They just called. It's positive. I'm over hurdle #1. And a little shellshocked.

Get in euro!!!! And breathe. You are pregnant

Ah Euro brilliant, brilliant news. Really thrilled for you :)

I did a long post before and lost it. Oh well. Nothing exciting.

Lots of tights hugs and hand holds for those having a really shitty time. xxx

YES! euro Yes siree. In your FACE multiple negative cycles. [goes back to chanting sticky chants in the corner]

sea I am sorry it didn't work out. This time. With the focus on this time.

Flying visit from me to say massive congratulations to euro. I'm thrilled for you.

And I'm thinking of you joy, hoping that tomorrow brings a much deserved miracle.

Still lurking and reading - often thinking about all you lovely ladies

euro Oh gosh, you are diffed. Does it feel a bit more real yet? Ohhh, remembers that it is Valentines Day tomorrow and what lovely timing for you and MrEuro. The three of you celebrating

Like someone said upthread, from the light to the shade, joycep I am thinking of you. Friday must feel like an age away.

seaview I am also so sorry that your IUI cycle didn't work out for you this time It is crumby and unfair and I can imagine how shitty you must be feeling.

rabbits Sending you & your bunny lots of love. It is awful when our furry friends are ill, they are so much more than just pets. I am keeping my fingers crossed that all will be okay.
As for your strange temps and opk and bleeding it does sound really strange. Have you thought about going to your GP or phoning your gynae? It is probably better (assuming that they will ultimately want to investigate this) that they do the tests while all this funny business is going on. Also with all that blood you will start to feel really run down and ill. BTW I second 2013 getting it bloody act together!

Also mean't to say how much I giggled at the MILs thinking that they could stand in for other halves at the fertility clinics I know that my MIL thinks that she is the bloody authority on everything and has superhuman powers but Jeez I think even she would know that this area would be beyond her capabilities!

Yay to fancy lunches, boo to Valentines Day - I too am a misery on that front and have bought MrP the most pathetic token of cheapy chocolates. I intended on just slipping them into his work bag for him to find but it looks like he's working from home tomorrow so I will have to do the whole grand gesture of handing them over. Drats. He will also probably forget which will secretly give me the hump or go overboard with nice flowers making me feel bad for my miserly offering Whoever thought of Valentines day????

Pout I was just thinking the same thing to catch the hormones while they are being bad! But no gp apt til weds as its half term and I'm not dying enough apparently. Ha to valentines! You are so right, you can't win. Hate refused to acknowledged valentines in our early days. One very grumpy valentines put paid to that and now I do get a nice card, though it was never discussed! And sometimes a treat.

Hare

We're not really big Vally's Day people either. Mr Euro will get a box of posh chocs and a card. I'll probably get the same.

Oh God I doctors surgeries where you almost have to anticipate being ill to get a ruddy appointment. Either that or tell some harridan of a receptionist all your personal business in the hope she will take pity on you. Do you not have an open surgery in the morning or anything where you can start queuing up at 4.30am and might be seen by midday ?

[grin} at hate

euro you have given MrEuro the best vallies present so don't have to worry on that front.

To be fair, he did contribute to it.

I must admit to having a little chuckle over the V day stuff. Last year I had a melt down and mega strop that Mr P hadn't even bothered to get me a card. I got him a card and a token present (some jazz record that he'd wanted for ages I seem to remember). He then started to protest that he does nice stuff for me every day and that it's not all about the big gestures. Well, this prompted V day 2012 mega melt down. He then said, with panicked look in his eyes "I'll take you out for dinner" to which I responded, "where, everywhere will be bloody booked up. I'd have rather you'd cooked my favourite meal and got me a nice bottle of wine" (v. spoilt given that I get cooked for by him every night). Once out of the flat and calmer he proceeded to walk me toward Wagamama's (we used to live upstairs) at which point I got really angry and burst into tears (clues in the nickname really). Anyway, we ended up having a really rubbish meal and nasty wine in Carluccios - usually we like it in there but I think they were overly busy and we just picked a rubbish wine.

This year, I've booked a meal in a restaurant we both really like, have another LP under the bed and a card on my desk for him. I can't help but get involved. I lurve V day. Just the old romantic in me :) So I guess if I want it, I have to sort it. And it's a nice excuse to get dressed up and get out of the in laws - esp as we've been so busy lately. I digress. We both had a small chuckle this morning when a reminder popped up our diary this morning (that I obvs set for him in a foul and sarcastic mood last year) and he has now hot footed to town to take back a fabric sample and to randomly talk to the sofa people. I wonder if he is swinging by a card shop - or finding me a small present - I bet even with the reminder he forgets! And he does have a point about the small things every day... Maybe it's just that I'm rubbish at small things everyday and feel vindicated by planning the events more each year...

Hey ho.

Euro he did do his part but remember you will be the one carrying over the next 8 months. I would start with the expectation of posh chocs / rewards now

Thank you all for the welcome, it is great to have somewhere to talk about some of this ttc lark as we have told no one in RL, and sometimes I want to scream!

Nelly - Sorry for spotting and random cycles, they are so frustrating particularly when as you say on every other thread you would deffo be pregnant as a result of those symptoms. I have caved recently as after having a cone biopsy I have suddenly started spotting on day 17 of my cycle, so this must be implantation bleeding right?? (sarcastic tone said at self) I have wasted good money on tests the last three cycles (this HAS to stop!). Your hobbies sound intriguing!

Critter - thanks for the advice, we actually just had a total curve ball thrown at us, I was ready for a bit of a fight about not wanting Chlomid, with NICE guidelines and all but it turns out after last SA was fine this one came back enitrely different, and the long and the short of it is we are straight on to IVF. I am pretty shocked, I havent even had an HSG or lap or anything the consultant said it wont be necessary as the SA was so bad.... Well given we are in the middle of spending twice my annual salary on building works (we have committed to the contract) this is pretty devastating news, there is no cash atm and the NHS list in my area is 3 years... brilliant.

Gin - I often think about the amount of wasted time I spend trapped on/waiting for a train,. It never fails to amaze me..Also wine drinking and gin are also two of my 'hobbies' we go to france to bring back wine every year from the Loire and Bordeux...yum dribble might have to crack a bottle this evening actually!

Buzzy - I am so jealous of people who love what they do! I am with you on the money on pee sticks and vits, having bought a CBFM in december I am a bit galled to find out that it was essentially a waste of time!

Euro - BLOODY FANTASTIC NEWS!

Rabbit - I hope that you feel less soon...totally get the pregnancy announcement from particular friends feelings, the only ttc meltdown I have had in front of DP was after a particular couple announced. I think he was genuinely shocked that I was at all bothered, but the 3 hour non stop sobfest (self indulgent) was a totally new one to him. Is your temp still up? like the dexter description.

Sea - I am sorry, that's really crap, I hope you feel less blue in time. I can only imagine how much worse it is when you raise your hopes of IUI only for AF to still arrive.

Madness - Ohh that sounds lovely enjoy your lunch!

Valenitnes day = political nightmare. DP does pretty well, funny card, small gift etc, but we dont go out for dinner, rubbish service and food and the waiters all resenting you - urgh - it is not for me. (I am not an old romantic!!ha)

SUre I have missed lots of you off, but I am off to go and research mild IVF (which is apparently what I should have. sigh really didnt think we would get here so fast)

One more quick one as I know some of you are at create/chose another route. My NHS consultant is the consultant there (or one of them dont know how that works) and has said I should go to their open day / get a free consultation - what made you choose / not choose create? Only if you have a sec to answer, no worries if not!

euro So happy for you. I actually teared up reading your post this morning.

ten I am sorry you're going straight on to IVF. It's a big thing to get your head around - it'll have taken me over six months in between my doc recommending it and me actually doing it by the time I start the process (I worked out that I should start taking the pill on April 1st. I'm sorry there's the financial stress as well. That is shit. We are here to hand hold.

joy Thinking of you. No words really - apart from that I hope you can have some peace soon. It must be exhausting, this level of stress. I too loved your description of you and Roy as 1920s couple who never row. Come on universe, sort it out!

princess love the Carluccio's tale, we've all had those evenings where everything goes wrong - it's great that the two of you laugh about it! Sorry about the inlaws. You seriously must have the patience of a saint.

lady you must be nearly due now?

pout add me to the Valentine's haters. I will get MrC a card though. I'm actually out tomorrow night so he'll be dining alone - hmm, maybe I can get him some nice book or something after work today.

rabbit how stressful with the crazy bleeding. Great that you're going to see the GP and get some answers. I haven't done yoga for ages but miss it. Less the keeping fit element and more all that lovely stretching. And it was great for my 'guns' - gave me lovely strong shoulders. I used to do jivamukti yoga in London, loads of chanting. I once realised Neve Campbell was on the mat next to me .

madness hope you're enjoying your tipsy lunch - I have given up booze for Lent so have one on me!

sea I am sorry this round hasn't worked. Forgive me if you've already said, but are you thinking of IVF after a few more IUI rounds?

doll hope you are ok. Not long now.

Waves to everyone else. If you google image 'critter pants' you'll get lots of delightful images of the embroidered trews in question. Imagine a pair of men's chinos with tiny lobsters all over them . Best combined with a bow tie. Fabbo!

Hello all, I'm behind due to lots of work and life changing planning which we are fucking up really badly and I'm loosing sleep over, total mess.

joy I hope you are ok, I'm so sorry you are going through this nightmare.

euro great news on the bloods, I didn't doubt it though. Is there reason to after a positive HPT or is it just a matter of getting it confirmed in a non-pee manner?

critter loving the critter pants story, I wondered about your username before. Thanks for the more-than-TTC idea rabbit much enjoyed.

Gin I have become allergic to cats in recent years, I make visiting my parents place a pain these days. I grew up with them and was fine, then it just appeared.

sorry you have been in the tent rabbit thanks to you and nelly for the votes to let me hang around As for the cycle craziness for the two of you, the devils work indeed. I hope you find some answers.

sea I'm so sorry to hear it didn't work out this time.

ten welcome back

My stats....Me and Ken have been married for 15 years He and the child Little Doll (who is 3) are gorgeous exotic types and I am a lily white Brit. We both work with people affected by armed conflict, live in crazy places and get to fly in helicopters n that. Little Doll does potatoes prints. I stopped taking the pill when I was 29, I'm 40 now. We have been amazingly crap at making babies and avoided AC until IVF last November which failed. Just cycled again and am pregnant

Quick YAY for euro here as well.

Thinking of you joy.

Sorry the IUI failed sea, although it is to be expected. Try to cope and carry on. IUI has fairly shitty stats but can work.

Sorry about the bloody tent rabbit. I would have peed on something by now. Hope all settles down soon (and that you'll feel something moving).

As to O-sticks versus P-sticks LH and HCG are very similar. O-sticks recognise both. The reason why P-sticks are more expensive is because they target the bit specifically where LH and HCG are different.

Tail waves am going to try a new type of yoga on my way home today :)

doll did you just slip in that you too are preggers?!!!!!! Congratulations

What!!!!????!!! You sneaked that in there very quietly doll. Massive congratulations.

congrats doll

doll you are one cool cucumber lady very exciting

critter love the pants, only in America

euro great news congrats

rabbit sorry to hear about bunny :( Its is so hard as they are like family, no advice on the bleeding but I don't ovulate at the same time each month, and if your temps are high

sea so sorry that it didn't work this time, I felt sad after I had mine, I also had 4 eggs so couldn't understand why it would fail, big hugs

nelly sorry about AF

joy I will be thinking of you tomorrow

ten my therory is if I have to work then I want to enjoy it most of the time, I work and live in the same area so I get to see the fruits of labour alot I have quite liked my CBFM and should have stuck with just that but in a desperate hour I got the smiley face one and the cheapie internet ones

Valentines Day to me is a big made up con, we are romantic in a sickly vomming way but I don't need a made up day to tell me when to appreciate my husband Barry and I do lots for each other during the year and I object to having to pay twice as much for stuff that I don't really want, we make each other a card and we will go out for dinner but not tomorrow night, we plan to go on Saturday.

Well CD18 and CBFM says 3 bars but no smiley face and no line on IC which is what happened last month two more weeks and I can call Brno and get on with things.

Kayla is acting like a kitty possessed, sh keeps jumping into the air like a spring lamb and now likes to sit on the back of a dining room chair trying to catch her tail