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Rainbow babies. Remembering our angels, riding the rollercoaster and hoping for little rainbows and sunshine.

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Little9 · 31/01/2013 20:17

An angel in the book of life wrote down our babies births. And whispered as she closed the book...too beautiful for this earth.

Fingers crossed for rainbows and BFPs for everyone!

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Ellypoo · 09/04/2013 10:43

Kleine, am keeping absolutely everything crossed that the embryo implants my love, I hope the next couple of weeks pass v quickly for you.

Thinking of you all, I'm sorry to not reply to each of you individually.

Just 1 more sleep for me now, not looking forward to having to wait at the hospital from 7.30am until the section at 1.30pm but sure we'll be fine, just hope it goes quickly!

Love & best wishes to you all - will let you all know how it all goes xxx

fanjodisfunction · 09/04/2013 11:39

Well got a letter from the hospital my scan is tuesday afternoon, so just a week to wait.
Had some bad news today aswell a family friend has just had her 6th miscarriage this time it was a mmc, feel so sorry for them both.

poppet fx for you that its a sticky one.

elly thinking of you, can't wait to hear your news.

poglol · 09/04/2013 16:39

Hi guys, I'm sorry i Haven't posted for ages, but been so busy. I have read everything.

First, congrats to cheese, baby, lemon. I know you will be delighted and frightened. Take it easy, fingers crossed for you all.

fan good news about your scan, keep positive. rain box and green I'm thinking of you too. Always feel so happy for people's good news on here, fills us all with hope.

Some new people too. little star you seem to be going through it the same as me, time scale wise. I lost my DD at 3 days old in sept 12, she was starved of oxygen during the birth, and her brain was damaged. We had our inquest a couple of weeks ago, and it was natural causes. This has helped me in a way, as I have no need to feel angry at the hospital, at myself. It happened. No one knew it would happen, it just did. duckling i felt so bad for you reading your terrible story. It is so hard when you put your trust in professionals and the worst happens, to then have the anger and pain of figuring out where it went wrong to deal with on top of it all. I will never forget the moments after my child was born, supposed to be the happiest moment of your life, watching nurses trying to resusistate my child.

Your feelings are always OK, and this is a good place to express what you feel. I would like to say to you duckling please try to keep your partner close. They are the only one who loved your child like you did. You are going through so much at the moment, my thoughts are with you.

Jules you are new on here too, sorry to hear your story. let's keep fingers crossed for bfps for us all soon.

I've struggled to return to work, similar to little star . I also felt i had lost my confidence, which was hard as i have worked there for 10 years. I think it's great you can work from home for a while, this will help with building up the confidence in yourself to do the job before having to face everybody all day long. Unfortunately is not possible to work from home in my job, but i think it would have helped a lot. I also have considered moving on, but in the end i am lucky in that i love my job, and the hard bit of facing everybody would still be with me in a new place i guess. Also hoping for bfp asap, so don't want to start somewhere new!

I guess that doesn't help you much, but you are not the only one to feel like that.

Also quick hi to kleine hope its working and to ellypoo, will be thinking of you, good luck.

KleinePoppet · 09/04/2013 18:28

elly xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

fan so glad it's just a week until your scan.

Hi pogol. How are you doing? The inquest must have been very, very difficult...

Just wanted somewhere to roll my eyes... Two friends/acquaintances, let's call them A and B, got in touch the other day to say they're meeting up soon and would I like to come, if I felt up to it. I don't know them very well, but it was a nice email and I haven't seen them since having E, and so I replied to say I would do my best to come. And I've just had another email saying, great, we'll let you know where we can meet - it'll be somewhere convenient for Friend C (who I barely know) to come as well - because obviously she'll be bringing her baby. Her baby who was born just before E, about three weeks before Hmm From the email it's very, very clear that they haven't considered that I might find that hard. And you know what? It's not that they're being mean. They're not. But it's so tiring, isn't it? It's not even entered their minds that I might not be entirely comfortable hanging out with three people I don't know very well and one baby who is the same age as mine would be, if she hadn't died. So I will have to find a polite way of saying, um, sorry, that's really not my idea of a good time...

Wink
LittleStar0909 · 09/04/2013 18:39

Oh Kleine I think you've hit the nail on the head by saying it is tiring, people just don't think at all. I have no doubt you will find the right words though.

Poglol I imagine having an inquest was really tough for you, but it is good that you don't feel any anger. I also feel the same about a different job-hope to be pg soon so no point moving.

Elly will be thinking of you all day tomorrow and I hope you get a little bit of sleep tonight.

xxx

poglol · 09/04/2013 19:16

kleine just keep smiling, just keep smiling, grrrrrrr.

We went to a wedding last week. A supportive friend gave us a heads up the night before that one couple who were coming were expecting. So when i saw them straight away i said congratulations so they wouldn't feel awkward. She said, oh i feel terrible, the morning sickness is so bad.

What do you day to that? Grrrrrr

I just smilied. And avoided speaking to them for the rest of the day. You do get tired of people's reactions don't you?

KleinePoppet · 09/04/2013 19:41

poglol well done for not decking her DH (clearly you couldn't have hit her, but I'd've thought her husband would have been fair game Wink)
That reminds me of a friend who, four weeks after E died - and when she was about four months pg - came over and said that, despite the fact that she'd been so sick for the first few months, and then we'd lost E, luckily she didn't feel like a dampner had been put on her pregnancy Hmm Gotta love it, haven't you!!!

Whatevertheweather · 09/04/2013 22:43

Just wanted to pop by and send elly a huge squeeze for tonight and of course tomorrow. Can't wait to hear your news xxxxxx

greengoose · 10/04/2013 07:20

Really quick one to wish ELLY my best. So soon now! I can't wait to hear about your new arrival! Xxxxx

Will catch up properly later today....

fanjodisfunction · 10/04/2013 07:26

elly not long now, I hope it flies by and before you know it your snuggling with your little one.

KleinePoppet · 10/04/2013 08:19

Another one here hoping these last few hours pass as easily as possible, elly. In no time at all you'll be hearing those glorious cries... I'm so excited for you, and so much looking forward to hearing your news. Thinking of you and DH xxxx

LittleStar0909 · 10/04/2013 08:55

Morning Elly thinking of you this morning, you are almost there. Can't wait to hear your wonderful news. xxxx

RainboxFX · 10/04/2013 09:05

Checking in to send us all love, and especially Elly. Will be thinking about you extra hard today. x x

blizy · 10/04/2013 09:17

Elly, I hope the next few hours fly by for you. I am thinking of you today. X

lemonsherbet · 10/04/2013 12:20

Another one checking in for elly, not long now

greengoose · 11/04/2013 09:56

ELLY, I hope all is well. Sending you love. Xxx

KLEINE... I have everything tied in knots for you, I hope these days go quickly and there is good news at the end. X

Sorry not to check back properly. We are getting ready to go for 20wk scan. (11.30) Nobody has been able to take the boys, (bit upset about this, I thought my friends would have known that this is really important for us, and we only ask when we really get stuck). So they are coming, which basically means DP can't come in so I'll have to go in alone. Eeek.
The other hard bit is it is exactly to the date and minute the time I had my last scan with Merryn last year in London, when they decided she needed to be born ASAP. So not the easiest time. And my girls birthday tomorrow. I just want to stay in bed and cry. What if there is something wrong again?

LittleStar0909 · 11/04/2013 10:19

Hi Green didn't want to read and not post. The timing sucks for your scan but I have everything crossed that all will be well, please let us know. I have been thinking of you in the run up to Merryn's birthday tomorrow. Lots of good positive thoughts coming your way xx

LittleStar0909 · 11/04/2013 10:23

I typed that so quickly it didn't come out very well, I meant I am sending you good positive thoughts for the scan. Hand holding and hugs for both the scan and Merryn's birthday xx

fanjodisfunction · 11/04/2013 10:58

green I'm holding you hand, we are all there with you in spirit, it must be hard.

For everyone on here asking about elly she had a little girl yesterday afternoon. I shall let her fill you in when she able too. I'm sure some of you are anxiuos to know.

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 11/04/2013 12:14

Green, you won't be alone, we are all there with you, squeezing your hand tightly. Thinking of you and Merryn, and the heart-shaped stones of love. Xx

KleinePoppet · 11/04/2013 14:41

green what a horrible coincidence of timing. I'm hoping so much that you're now at home after a very successful scan... I know today will be such a hard day, so I won't say 'enjoying yourself' or 'relaxing', but at least, back home. Let us know how it went if you can, but completely understand that this is a very very hard week for you. Thinking of your Merryn and her beautiful little face. Lots of love xx

LittleStar0909 · 11/04/2013 16:22

Hi Green I hope your scan went well. I just wanted to say that I met with Kleine yesterday (we are friends in RL) and as I don't have a FB account at the mo and can't join the group she showed me a photo of Merryn, I hope you don't mind. I wanted to let you know (especially as it is her birthday tomorrow) that she is so beautiful, what a wonderful, very special girl. I am so sad that you will not be celebrating her birthday tomorrow as you had hoped you would be. We will all be thinking of you and Merryn xx

RainboxFX · 11/04/2013 18:04

Oh Green you poor thing. That is a cruel co-incidence. Also hoping you are now cuddled up at home after an event free scan. Will be thinking about you and Merryn, today and tomorrow. Sending love x

poglol · 11/04/2013 18:37

green thinking of you this pm, hope it all went well at your scan. Will think of you tomorrow too, will be an emotional day for you. Lots of hugs.

kleine Hope you doing OK too. Fingers crossed for you.

Thanks for the update fan. It is good to know she's OK. Must be such a relief for her.

Feeling a bit low again today. Back at work after a holiday and everyone looks expectantly to see if i have 'news'. I know they want it for me but feels like another disappointment somehow.

One day, one day.

Whatevertheweather · 11/04/2013 18:59

Oh green my lovely - how did it go? What a horrible coincidence and I'm so sorry no-one stepped up to watch your boys - wish one of us lived closer! Sending extra gentle hugs and thinking of you so much on the eve of beautiful Merryn's birthday xxx