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fat girls ttc??

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acsr1987 · 31/01/2013 10:11

is there any other fat girlies out there who like me are classes as obease? i.e. a bmi of over 30, just wanted someone to relate to! NO SKINNY MINNIES PLEASE lol

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ilovepowerhoop · 31/01/2013 19:26

I had 2 children (one now 6 and one now 9) when I was about 15½ stones. Never had problems conceiving - conceived within 3 months with dd and within 6 months with ds. With dd (first child) I had borderline gestational diabetes and had to monitor my blood sugars several times a day and be careful of what I was eating. I had no issues in my pregnancy with ds.

Bearface · 31/01/2013 19:40

Hi acsr, My friend is a larger lady and she didn't use contraception because she genuinely thought she was too overweight to get pregnant (doh - not the best method of contraception, but whatever!). Within a year she was pregnant with her first and had her second about two years later. She now has two lovely DDs. She had no issues in pregnancy at all. Hope this helps you. x

cupcake78 · 31/01/2013 19:48

I've been overweight all my life. Been pregnant 4 times, each time I fell first attempt.

I was told it would never happen, that I was too heavy etc.

WaynettaSlobsLover · 31/01/2013 19:48

It's important to start trying to eat healthily OP because obese mums have a lot more risks during pregnancy and childbirth to them and their babies. It's a hell of a lot harder to monitor a baby's heartbeat during labour and at antenatal appointments due to the extra fat around the abdomen. I'm not a 'skinny Minnie' but I'm personally looking to lose a few pounds to be a healthier mum.

porkypine · 31/01/2013 20:03

yes. me. always been overweight, no health issues because of it (yet, yes i know). i'm losing weight at the moment but realise if i waited ttc until i was a 'healthy' weight, i'd be waiting forever.

WaynettaSlobsLover · 31/01/2013 20:14

Well you can still eat healthily and do gentle exercise as you TTC, gets you in good habits for pregnancy and after the birth. It's very difficult to shift after you have a baby trust me on that. I'm size 12 up from size 8 and it doesn't sound like a big difference but the fat around the middle (the one that increases diabetes/hear disease risk) is a nightmare to get rid of. I've had two dc and am expecting my third...still got a horrible load of fat on my tum and know I'm in for a long hard slog to lose it after baby's born.

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acsr1987 · 31/01/2013 21:34

it took me 2 years to get pg with my ds and 2 months to get pg but mc at 9 weeks so trying again, im just so frustrated and im blaming my weight for how long its taking! i just want to get pg again after losing the last one im fucking desperate!!!!!
its nice to hear of other fat girls getting up the duff easy peasy makes me feel much better lol

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Natalieand · 01/02/2013 15:49

So glad to see this thread I was 17 stone when I fell wi my dd who is now two years and ttc number 2 but I weigh 20 stone now. Starting weight watchers next week through the nhs and doctor has said that I can stay on the we plan even when I do conceive xx

vicki2122 · 01/02/2013 16:03

Hi im having trouble conceiving i think maybe cos of my weight i weight 14 stone now Hmm

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acsr1987 · 02/02/2013 06:15

im just over 14 and a half stone and 5"7, ive got a real belly on me, probably from my boozey teen days! i had loads of tests done before i had ds, and wen i went to get the results i was so nervous! the doctor turned round and basically said to me "your too fat to get pregnant, im giving u 4 months to lose 2 stone then come back" so i started to diet and exercise and 3 months later just before i was due to go back i found out i was pregnant! i was about this weight when i got pg with ds and im hoping its enough to get pg for a 3rd time but keep this ones heart going until its out and safe!

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DolomitesDonkey · 02/02/2013 06:31

It is not "too difficult" to monitor fat women. We've put a rover on mars, filmed the titanic and split the atom.

Your size 20 stomach is no barrier to science or technology.

Vets can do ultrasounds to find cysts on the pancreas of a blue whale. Any doctor worth their salt will be able to find your baby. Don't let people bullshit and bully you with bollocks about ultrasounds. I take it all back of course if you turn up to your antenatal appointment wearing lead knickers.

andadietcoke · 02/02/2013 06:57

I've got a high BMI and have got pregnant twice since October - both on the first cycle. The first one didn't stick, and it's too early to be sure this pregnancy will, but I'm currently nearly 9 weeks with twins - apparently more common with a high BMI. Just a word of warning!!

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acsr1987 · 02/02/2013 08:22

LOL dolomites i was thinking the same, i had no problems with getting monitored with my ds and everything was always fine, only thing was that he was too wriggily (something that has continued and is now a hyperactive toddler) but no i dont think its harder to be monitored if your a chubster at all! and i got brilliant scan photos!

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Natalieand · 02/02/2013 08:26

As I said I was 17 stone when I caught in with dd number 1 and 19 by the end of the pregnancy I had a normal delivery just me my mum husband and my midwife in the room and I had no problems being monitored throughout midwife always found baby when listening for the heart at home and always found baby on scans even when I had an early one at9+6

bugoven · 02/02/2013 08:49

I've gained 2 stone while TTCBlush which has taken me from a size 12 to a 16. I have put so much pressure on myself to not smoke(gave up a year ago) not drink, not do anything risky (used to climb, cycle, do all sorts of crazy fun things) and now beating myself up for being a fatty as a result of change of lifestyle and probably some comfort eating.

I know of friends who have conceived while "in the obese category" but am dreading going for a fertility appointment and being told I'm too fat to be a mum after all the stress I've had and efforts I've made.
I have started walking loads and am noticing a little change in my shape already.
Considering all sorts of alternative therapies to help my cause (another new change as was previously an absolute atheist!).
Going to cheer myself up with a Brew and Biscuit. Oooooops.... he he X

Natalieand · 02/02/2013 08:54

I was referred for fertility treatment as 17 stone and told to loose weight or they wouldn't help so I thought right I need to do this quick as loss went on the slim fast milkshake plan and fell pregnant straight away cos I was so focused on loosing weight for this treatment and I never ended up needing it lol

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acsr1987 · 02/02/2013 09:12

i think it is good to get so into losing weight it sort of takes the immense pressure u put on urself ttc. but its hard and after months and months of BFN all u want is a big bar of galaxy and full sugar coke with a few vodkas thrown into the mix!
bugoven dont beat urself up, i know how hard the not smoking thing is, i had to stop when i got pg with ds in 2011 and i literally could not cope but i had to, i used to sneak into the shed to have cheaky drags, honestly dont know who i was kidding! dont smoke at all now and i promise u, stopping before u get pg is so much better than stopping before ur pg because u will literally will turn into a monster, plus ull have everyone guilting you about it all the time lol

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Natalieand · 02/02/2013 09:18

Couldn't agree more acsr1987 definitely gives you something to focus on instead of letting ttc consume you life which is easily done. Especially when everyone around u seems to be popping babies out or announcing their pregnancies

DolomitesDonkey · 02/02/2013 12:07

The thing is, if any of us found it that easy to get our weight under control, wouldn't we have done it years ago? Confused Who in their right mind says "oh I didn't notice I was fat until I TTC, that'll spur me in to action"?

Anyway, when I TTC #1 I had a BMI of 30 and my hair was falling out because I wasn't eating... my fertility doctors told me I was waaaaay unhealthy and to lose weight. The stress of the entire situation made me eat. It took 12 months to conceive #1 and about 6 for #2 although our timing was off then. I'm sure the "slowness" was down to my age and not my ovaries - who incidentally don't know how fat I am, nor do I suffer from any hormone altering Syndrome X disease.

My periods arrived every 27 days for 24 years before I got pregnant and at exactly 6 weeks after the birth of my first child. We suspect my husband had sperm ishoos because he ate so much sugar.

If we are "too fat to conceive" why do doctor's give us contraceptives? Wink

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acsr1987 · 02/02/2013 22:02

EXACTLY! but i dont think there is anything worse and disheartening than being told your too fat to get pregnant then u see someone coming out of iceland twice the size of u, smoking, pushing a pushchair and a hoard of other kids tottering behind them! we fat girls must stick together!

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bugoven · 02/02/2013 22:24

Aw thanks Smile
I like this thread, it's making me feel good bit still secretly hoping to find myself thin and pregnant soon Xx

LondonSuperTrooper · 02/02/2013 22:56

I like this thread!!! I'm actively TTC and trying to lose weight at the same time. My BMI has come down slightly but I still have a long way to go.

Is anyone trying to lose weight whilst TTC?

BeaWheesht · 02/02/2013 23:06

I lost a lot of weight when ttc - I don't see a reason not to tbh - I walked ALOT and ate small healthy meals. However I put it all back on between dc1&2 and was heavier than any of you here when I conceived dd (dc2).

My consultant told me at 15 weeks they wouldn't be able to hear the babies heartbeat because of my weight - I insisted they try and they found it instantly. She also insisted I WOULD have high blood pressure - I did, at 41 weeks for one appointment. Oh and she told me I'd have G Diabetes too and seemed pissed off when I didn't.

I ate healthily through pregnancy and didn't put any weight on and saw a dietician regularly.

Beig overweight isn't great anyways and even more so when pregnant BUT I don't think I deserved the way I was treated so please don't let yourself be treated like that - demand better care if need be. There were posters all over the antenatal clinic here about how they'd support and understand mothers with drug or drink addictions but fat mothers seemed to be the ones they could treat like crap.

Try and lose weight and get healthy yes but being berated about it does not help.

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acsr1987 · 03/02/2013 05:57

thats awful bea! im glad i wasnt treated like that, what a load of shit! in my leaflet i got before my first scan it said the bigger u are the less clearer the picture would be but i got amazing photos at 9 and 13 weeks! even better ones than my much skinnier friends! in fact the 13 week photo looks just like he does now... scary!
on the nhs website it says risks for obease mothers are as follows
miscarriage
gestational diabetes
high blood pressure and pre-eclampsia
blood clots
post-caesarean wound infection
genital and urine infections
haemorrhage after the birth
problems with breastfeeding
having a baby with an abnormally high birthweight
increased risk of induction and instrumental (ventouse or forceps)delivery
now i have had a mc but was told my weight had NOTHING to do with it, i also had to hav a section with son but that was because he was the wrong way round and as far as i can tell that can happen with ANYONE! he was a 9 pounder but was 2 weeks late so i think thats pretty fair, and the bigger the better i say! AND i bf for 12 and a half months and only stopped because i had to go into hospital so really.... its a load of shit!

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acsr1987 · 03/02/2013 19:17

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