Brooking NO ARGUMENT that those BFPs are on the way

[SweetieTime]

Not started a new Fred before but hope it is successful for us as we are going to get our BFPs, either by traditional rat smacking activities or using the power of medical science.

Ladies I do declare WE WILL GET THERE - FACT !!!

D'oh, I mean 'the month before ivf'

keep did you get to speak to DSis before she left or did it remain closed topic? Good luck for this afternoon, lie back think of England & you will be fine

Beedle so sorry to hear af got you, she is officially a biatch

Solars i haven't seen any more baby makers listed either. It did have the feel of a series. There was a series on BBC northern Ireland that I recorded but it was very sad & almost depressing as none of the couples got preggers throughout the 4 or 5 episodes. not sure if it was the clinic or what.

I'm back. I guess it was OK, only without dh there I found it hard and didn't ask all the right things. Am I doing the right thing in having ivf now? I have no job, ffs.

Re my sister, in the end I did talk about the treatment, she was sweet and v interested. I asked questions re the pregnancy where necessary, and she barely mentioned it, or the baby. That in itself made me sad, is she not excited as it's no 2 and so easily won, is she hiding things and our relationship ruined. Neither are great options. We did not talk about the fact that I am insanely jealous and irrationally angry about her pregnancy and its timing. That would be untake-backable. In all, it wasn't as bad as I'd feared, and was great to see her and my niece. But it was also exhausting, both from there being a 2yo around, and from all the everything. I am sad that I am glad they've gone. Does that make sense?

Thanks for listening...

oh keep. I think ur sis is just trying to be sensitive about the situation but maybe going the wrong way about it. I would feel that sitting there talking about my pregnancy would be like rubbing your nose in it and completely the wrong thing to do.
I totally understand the feelings you have about it all, we can't help the way we feel.
what happened at ur appointment?

Was a scan to see ovarian reserve (he said normal, at 4 on each side, but Google seems to show that a bit low), amh and STD blood tests, and discussion of the cycle.

I know you're right really, face, am sure it was hard for her too am a bit short on sympathy though

keep you poor thing. It must be so difficult for your sis too, I wouldn't want to discuss my pregnancy with someone struggling and going down the intervention route. She is probably really excited but feels guilty and doesn't want to rub it in. With regards to timing of ivf, is there ever a good time? We have often spoken about the things we would never have considered if we had easily got diffed. It just gives you more time to mental about everything and every little detail. Take it easy and try not to Google, we all know it just causes too much confusion & worry.

Sorry about AF Beedle

That is strange about the Baby Makers show as just seemed there would be more Sweetie and at the Northern Ireland show too.

Keep it's all so tricky isn't it. She may have found it all awkward and not known how to handle stuff. My sil has been a little like that too and my brother hasn't even talked to me at all about their pregnancy, which is very sad. They're probably not wanting to stick it in my face. I don't feel jealous or angry about it but I do feel quite let down in terms of how they have handled telling me. My brother has always been the person I'm most closest to in the family as well and with the other pregnancies they'd told me when they'd even started trying and most things. I guess I could speak to them more in depth about how I'm feeling but to be honest for the first time I'm just thinking of myself at the moment and making sure my feelings are being looked after. You're going through an almost recurrent grieving process month by month, even more so with assisted conception, you've been through 2 iui's, you're onto the next one and maybe on to IVF, that's a lot to deal with. At the moment all you can do with your sister is keep it on a level that as you say doesn't become un-takebackable. Just acknowledge it is just very sad for both of you, this awkwardness will pass especially when you get that bfp.

I honestly can't remember how long I have to take aspirin for. Am on so many drugs that I now just take whatever I'm told to when I'm told to.

Keep - I think it is hard for pregnant women when they're hanging with someone having trouble. Having said that, it's hard on the one having trouble too. I remember reading some booklet given by my clinic - Coping with infertility? I think it was called - that really people should understand if you don't want to do a bunch of baby focused activities (like christening). Not sure if that's helpful or not.

I have some news. I'm not meant to test until Weds but cracked this morning - and I got a positive! I am not going to get too excited until Weds though. I've Googled (dangerous I know) and it says that the reason for making you wait 16 days after transfer is so the HCG from the egg release injection is out of your system. However, I used a frozen blastocyst so I'm hoping that means it really is good news. But I'm not going to get too excited. Or start investigating tandem buggies.

CruCru congratulations!!! It can't be the hcg shot if you hadn't injected it. How many days after ET are you?

Thanks Solars. I'm on day 11 I think (yes that would make sense as day 16 is Wednesday).

cru that's fab news, fingers crossed it´s a sticky one Is this your 2nd IVF now?

Oh Cru that's amazing news!! How exciting. Bet Wednesday can't come soon enough for you!

Keep I'm sorry you are having such a tough time of it at the moment. It's such a difficult situation. I'm pleased that your scan came back normal and that you get to go drug free for a few weeks.

Beedle sorry AF got you. She's on he way here too. Feels like my stomach is a balloon!! I have no problem with AF coming at the moment, I always expect her. But why oh why does it have to be painful? There must be some crazy biological reasoning behind it. I think it's to encourage us to procreate

Hi Beedles - yes it is. I had IVF in 2010 to have DS.

cru amazing news!!!! Look forward to getting proper confirmation on Weednesday xxx

Bugger not sure why I added all those kisses! Please don't ban me to netmums!!

That's cool, it's nice to be able to tell someone. Think DH disapproved of the early testing.

oh cru that is amazing news, congratulations!!! If you haven't had to take a HCG trigger shot, there can only possibly be one reason for your test to show positive - you're diffed

sparks not sure if it was intentional, but I'm loving you turning cru's POAS day into weednesday We'll let you off on all the kisses, but only because you're a crazy preggo woman hahaha

keep I don't think it's even possible for there to be a 'right thing' for a pg person to do around a longterm ttcer, it's a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. It sounds like you and your sister handled it the best way you could under the circumstances. At least you were both able to make the most of the time you had together before she went back, and nothing was said from either side that would make picking up your relationship difficult in the future. Well done on going on your own to the appointment, it must have been so hard. An excellent decision on just taking the trigger, no more heat rash

beedle will that bloody AF woman never learn? So sorry she turned up for you. Hopefully she will overhear some talk of your forthcoming IVF and it will scare her off for good. I'm obviously being a bit slow today because it took me a long time to realise what you meant about not forgetting your cycle day this month

Guess what arrived in the post today? My op appointment letter! About bloody time and all. I'm a bit and as it's booked for the afternoon of Monday 18th Feb. I'd so convinced myself that they wouldn't be able to do it that soon, with not having had the letter yet. I'm now hoping that ov is delayed by a few days, as MrG and I got a bit busy yesterday evening and AF won't have had time to arrive by the 18th...

Right, best dash, need to post back my pre-op assessment questionnaire while it's stopped raining.

geek completely accidentally, but a rather awesome one!! Thanks for letting me off! I'd be lost if my brookers shunned me!!!

Yay for appt letter coming through

Geek well done on finally getting that op date confirmed, yay!

Maybe when I was so so, so much younger I would get quite painful periods too, I wish I'd listened to my body and procreated then but then of course I wouldn't have been with MrS

Have a lovely weekend all x

Geek - good news!

Oh Geek that is the best news! So happy for you

Wowee cru that's amazing news!! If seems to agree with you.

geek, there's another brooking victory - the 18th that's no time! So happy!! Do you have a pre-op appointment?

Thanks sweetie solars geek, I think you're right that there's no right answer. Had a bit of a cry on Skype to dh last night, who was as always immensely practical. Nice, but not always what you want, eh? Anyway, am feeling better today and am going to do nothing all day as v tired, what with visitors and illness.

solars I'm sorry you're finding it hard with your brother and sil. I think in a way being forced to spend a chunk of time together was good, as we couldn't just ignore it, iykwim. You must definitely put your feelings first, but that doesn't necessarily mean keeping quiet if you'd rather they spoke about the pg then you could say that?

sweetie wise words. Yes, I don't have a job, but equally I'd go mad not doing anything about getting pregnant these next six months. You're right about it all, we can't plan. I am naturally a bit of a planner which is one reason I'm finding all this so hard.

Does anyone else feel that the whole getting pregnant thing seems removed from actually having a baby? I'm so obsessed with that bfp I think I've almost forgotten what it'd lead to!

maybe any news on your results and dates? I sometimes have horrendously painful, though light, periods. Once I was at a work meeting and went pale, sweaty and dizzy, but couldn't work up the energy to excuse myself. I then had to lie in my car for two hours and then drive two hours home at 40mph. The pain for me only lasts about four hours now, then it's minor, and I always love the feeling of no pain afterwards, it's such a relief! But when I was younger it was a full day. That'll be just one more reason to rejoice when you get pregnant! My mum and various nurses have told me periods are much less painful once you've had a baby, as well is it just in comparison to labour..

Watch it sparkly, darling... BTW I hear twinkle is no longer an UBB! How exciting! Time flies.

I've just realized it's Feb - when are the Triple Whammiers due?

geek I'm actually going to brook that you ov today, then get your bfp on the 18th! :)

Morning ladies!
Great news cru and geek!
keep Im due 24th but have appt on Mon for growth scan and the docs are keen for babyOlives to be evicted prior to due date so I am trying the old wives tricks to assist - even rat smacking (which is no easy thing when you are whale sized! ) I believe the other 2 are due on 21st - very exciting! Sorry you are feeling down at the mo, I remember well how soul destroying and grueling the TTC process can be and Im sure the assisted route makes it even harder. Its completely natural to just concentrate on achieving the elusive BFP - once you have you get a good few months to get your head round an actual baby coming! I started trying for this one in June 2009 and I still don't feel particularly prepared and ready for it!
Lots of luck with the IVF cycle. And that applies to all of you lovely brookers!