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Anyone else want to join me in getting ready for ivf in 2013? Good egg buddies wanted!!!

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Karbea · 17/12/2012 18:26

Hello,

Dh and I have been trying for over 2 years and had one failed ivf (Icsi) attempt at the Argc last spring. We are going to go again in the new year.

I wondered if anyone else was planning to do the same? And whether anyone fancied joining me in 'princessing' (stolen from style & beauty :) ) for ivf?

I'm not sure what this means in terms of what I'll do, really hoping for some help in researching how to get the best eggs ever, and perhaps how to improve dh's little swimmers....

Anyone up for being a good egg buddy?

OP posts:
EuroShagmore · 17/02/2013 09:17

honty they got you there very early! We were told to arrive at 10, for a 10.30 EC. And that was more than enough waiting to send me completely mental.

delilah I am so sorry that you feel things are not going well. I hope you are wrong.

CaipirinhasAllRound · 17/02/2013 09:28

Fingers crossed for you Delilah, I hope everything turns out ok.

I'm out too I think. The tests have got paler and paler with a negative today (unless I squint really hard!) and I'm starting to feel crampy, although I've not had any spotting at all yet

Good luck everyone else

highlove · 17/02/2013 09:44

Delilah I really hope you are wrong. Will have my fingers and toes crossed for you.

Think it's time I joined properly, please. I start down-regging for my second ICSI cycle three weeks yesterday. Am split between feeling excited to get on with it but mostly a sense of dread about it not working again. Argh. Have had two close family members announce they are pregnant this week and it just feels like it really ramps the pressure up - if this doesn't work I'm really going to struggle with their pregnancies.

Anyway, lots of luck to those needing it today - Northey hope you get a bumper crop!

Northey · 17/02/2013 10:42

Oh no, caip, surely not? It is just so fucking cruel.

Good luck, highlove. When does the stimming bit start for you?

EuroShagmore · 17/02/2013 10:43

caip I'm sorry to hear that. How are you doing?

high good luck for your cycle!

keepitgoing · 17/02/2013 11:17

Oh caip and delilah, I'm so sorry.

north great news on your embys, one step at a time.

honty good luck, hope you get good numbers and quality! Poor you having to wait that long, and also MrHonty... When does he do his thing?

highlove hi and welcome! My sister announced her pg just as we started iui a few montgs back. V tough. I start in ten days so guess we'll be in it together.

HontyTont · 17/02/2013 14:49

Only 2 Sad

HontyTont · 17/02/2013 15:00

Embryologist said the 2 they got looked good....I'm clutching at straws

Even though there were 7 follicles the rest were "empty" something about stimming for too long and the follies not growing until a late stage. He said next time, if there is a next time, they would start me on growth hormone straight away to ensure growth and not too long stimming. The late follicle development could also be why I can't get pregnant naturally - apparently

It's not been a lucky day has it?

caip and delilah hang in there I really hope your not out yet

Xx

CaipirinhasAllRound · 17/02/2013 15:19

2 is still 2 honty - congrats

I've now started bleeding and have got killer period pain

Plan B is a holiday and I guess a frozen transfer in a few months
X

Northey · 17/02/2013 15:57

IOTO, hont. IOTO. euro had two as well, so she is a good omen for you.

caip, I just can't believe it :( I am so sorry.

EuroShagmore · 17/02/2013 16:22

honty I only had two (one really, as the other was immature and shouldn't really have been taken). IOTO.

It sounds like the cycle has helped diagnostically too, which can't be a bad thing. I'm extremely grateful that mine turned out the way it did of course, but I have been left wondering what the hell the problem was. I had always suspected it was an implantation problem or maybe a sperm quality ishoo, but apparently not. I was expecting the cycle to help diagnostically, but not expecting it to work. In fact the opposite happened!

EuroShagmore · 17/02/2013 16:24

caip I'm very sorry to hear that. Be nice to yourself over the next few days. There is so much pressure on these assisted cycles. It's hard at the end of any cycle, but harder on an AC one.

HontyTont · 17/02/2013 17:12

Ahhhh thanks girls you are an amazing support...

Euro you have given me much hope

Have had a sleep and feel more rational and normal now

Fancy a glass of wine seeing someone else is care taking my eggs! Good idea? Bad idea?

fairypangolin · 17/02/2013 17:17

caip I'm really sorry it's not working out. At least you have the frozen cycle although I know it must be brutal.

euro I feel a bit like you - I had thought this cycle would just be helpful diagnostically since no one has every been able to point to any issue that would be stoppping me from getting pregnant apart from my age (which in my defense is not THAT old). However now that it's gone swimmingly I still have no idea! Perhaps it was just 20 months of bad luck combined wit a bit of age slow down. Anyway I am not looking a gift horse in the mouth but if this one does not continue well then I will be left none the wiser.

hont good for you! I think a glass of wine would do absolutely no harm.

EuroShagmore · 17/02/2013 18:24

hont I think being happy and relaxed (as far as possible) is the best thing you can do at this stage. I was tipsy (two glasses on an empty stomach) on trigger shot day and had to get Mr Euro to prep it for me as I couldn't concentrate Blush. I also had one glass on the day between EC and ET and one glass a couple of days later (before any implantation would have been possible). I was trying to keep life as normal as possible for as long as possible and a glass or so once or twice a week is normal for me, and I find it very relaxing to go to the pub with friends and let off some steam, so for me it was the right thing to do. That is a very long-winded way of saying "get the corkscrew out"!.

HontyTont · 17/02/2013 20:21

I have turned my foof into a candle holder....Shock

Nokkie73 · 17/02/2013 20:22

Hi all

Do you mind if I join this thread ? You all seem like a nice group - I'm strangely impressed by the swearing and the honest chat is refreshing !

Been ttc since 2009. Sadly mc'd in July 2009 and had no luck since then. Got NHS funding, only for them to sod about and, in the interim, my oestradiol went a bit mental and they booted us out of the funding. Now self-funding (thanks, mum and dad) at Guys and started down regging yesterday. I know we may all be at different stages in this thread but any tips for coping with this crazy process would be very welcome.

Thanks

Noks x.

HontyTont · 17/02/2013 20:27

Thanks euro I didn't get the corkscrew out as was still feeling abut groggy from the sedation...and I want to got to work tomorrow...I will be doing tomorrow though, absolutely no doubt...either to celebrate one or 2 embryos or commiserate none!

Ah...what can you do!

HontyTont · 17/02/2013 20:38

Welcome Noks...sorry to hear about your MC and that your funding was pulled...thank god for loving parents!

Are you down regging on buserelin shots?

As euro pointed out to me its best to be as normal as possible and as happy and relaxed as you can be...sometimes it is easier said than done. I have found talking on the forum and not keeping it secret (I've not told everyone, but a few close friends and family and also a few a work) has made it all feel a bit more normal. They have all been very supportive. Also i have had a couple of drinks when the occasion has been appropriate and generally just been good to myself. I have stopped gym and have felt guilty about that...but it's taken the stress out of rushing home from work to make gym in time and then do my nightly shots on time.

I have just tried to make it as part of my life as possible. I did the same with my 3 previous IUIs but was better prepared and informed this time. And these lovely ladies on this chat have helped immensely

Good luck xxx

Northey · 17/02/2013 20:51

Hi nok. I did short protocol, so no experience of down regging. I really second the advice just to be as relaxed as possible. Unless you are habitually drinking 6 coffees/glasses of wine a day (in which case cut down!), I would aim to cut stress over anything else.

Nokkie73 · 17/02/2013 20:54

Cheers honty. I have told most of my good friends (support network is essential for me) and those at work who need to know, including some of those who sit with me...just in case they are wondering why I'm being even more strange than normal. The advice about the wine is most encouraging ! It used to be my bestest friend (along with Marlboro lights and the odd vodka, both of whom have now gone) but it's now only an occasional one. Bummer !

I'm DR'ing on nafarelin. One spray in each nostril twice a day. Scan on 1st March and then stims when they're happy the spray has done its thing. Am just pleased to be starting ivf after a long old wait.

How are you doing ?

Noks x

Nokkie73 · 17/02/2013 20:57

Thanks Northey !

Am trying to be quite zen about it all. Am having acupuncture and reflexology and have cut out caffeine completely, but am still going out and trying to be normal, wtf that means ! My mum shares the same philosophy as you guys. Quote 'well, the odd vodka never did you or your brother any harm'. Wink

How are you ?

Noks x

highlove · 17/02/2013 21:01

Caip I'm so sorry. It's just totally shit. Do look after yourself. And I hope planning an amazing holiday gives you a little bit of distraction.

Northey reckon I'll start stimming about two weeks or so after down-reg starts...so bit less than five weeks from now.

keep will be fab to have a cycle buddy. Am bloody dreading it at the moment - not the jabs or anything, just it not working again.

Noks yes thank god for parents - we're v lucky mine are helping with this cycle. Think they just don't know what to do and can't bear seeing me so unhappy. Did feel like I really had to manage their expectations...basically said you know you might actually just be pissing the money away and have absolutely nothing to show for it. Very gracious when someone's just offered to give you five grand. Grin

Nokkie73 · 17/02/2013 21:09

Hey highlove. Tell me about it - they didn't hesitate to help us which is so bloody lovely, it breaks your heart.

How are you feeling about the whole process ? Are you on the long protocol? Sorry to ask but I can't go back too far on this thread to check.

Noks x

HontyTont · 17/02/2013 21:18

Nok I'm ok after EC still a bit bummed at 2 eggs but IOTO.... Going to get an early night and throw myself into work tomorrow to keep my mind off the " have they fertilised" question

northey when did you say ET was? Tuesday? Doc said mine would most likely be Wednesday fucking fertilise I suppose they wont risk day 5 if there is only 2 at this stage

caip delilah how you doing?

Big hellos to everyone else xx