Deck your halls & dress your trees, the BESH are gifting BFPs

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Doff your top hats, lean on your canes, 'tis a Victorian Christmas for the BESH. Baste those turkeys in Victoria & Albert style, and maintain a stiff upper lip when you fill in the BESHtionnaire to see if you are cynical stoic enough to win a Baybee.

I am trying not to see it as Last Chance Saloon. Because I know we can fund more rounds ourselves (running merrily through our equity - hey ho), and actually even though my remaining tube is a known failure and now scarred to boot, it is still actually there, and could do something all on its own, if it were in the mood for massive miracle ironidiff stories. But it does somehow feel like all or nothing.

By the way, bugsy, did you update us about result from your job interview??

The way I cope with the whole IVF thing is not to see it as One Big Thinh. I just allow myself to think about the little stage. Almost like the Tour de France, don't think about the whole race just concentrate on the stage. Yes, well that probably made very little sense

Afternoon BESH. How are all?

Work is horrendous. Apart from Monday and Friday I have been working 13hour days for approximately forever. So I slept for 16 hours on Monday, and after finishing work at 5 yesterday fell asleep at 7, mid meal out. . Slept 14 hours last night.

Maybe a sign of diffness? (ho ho)

Not wanting it to be all me me me, but anyone struggle to see how a baybee would fit in to your life? I'm not sure I can order one with an on/off switch for convenience..

Norf, I'm not at ivf yet, but, like Jeff am dealing with the injections as no big deal. Except I'm not, I'm freaking out, but I'm telling myself its all super cool, no stress, normality.

How're all others? I've missed so many pages I don't think I can catch up!

FSR (nice new name, btw- can I still use fsr?), are you pondering peeing on a fiver?

Euro. I think you said something very sensible I agreed muchly with, but can't remember what. I shall trawl back and see if I can remember so I can heartily pat you on the back.

Anyone else?

Oh feck it. It might have been rie. or someone else entirely Something about surviving the horrors of TTC I suspect.

Yeah, it won't have been me Sinky. I prefer saying insensible things. Like "wibble". :)

Norfy I am finding it helpful to have a plan after this cycle. We've decided to throw everything at it for the first half of this year, so probably natural IVF next cycle, our last IUI cycle that is already paid for after that to give our bank accounts a bit of a rest, then another IVF, and then maybe a cycle off (depends on how my head is doing) and then a third IVF cycle. If that lot hasn't done it, I think realistically we should move on to seriously considering adoption. So I don't have all my eggs in one basket fixated on this first IVF cycle iyswim. We need to think like this because the success rates of natural are lower, but I am finding it really helpful.

Well it certainly wasn't me. I never say sensible stuff.

This is my plan: take the cycles of IUI on offer (four). I then get one round of IVF, and if that fails we will think carefully because funds are a massive issue for us. I can see myself being childless, if that's relevant. I don't think we would do adoption. I don't think we would be accepted actually.

Why would you not be accepted, my well-educated, nicely-mannered, clean-living friend?

I think I remember lemondrizzlecake saying something profound and helpful a few pages ago.

Too old. Too busy. Too poor. To squalid in habits

Well that's all certainly true, you minging crone.

Actual LOL

What's everyone up to tonight? Am eating chocolate and looking up potential wedding readings.

I am stirring up feeling for a MN campaign. Join in if you like.

Looking on web for potential holidays. Need a Plan B if the stabbing doesn't work. I want sunshine in February. Any suggestions?

Madeira. That's where we want to go in Feb. Maybe we can go together, Jeff? The husbands would love that, I'm sure.

We got sunshine in early March in Fuerteventura jeffers. Hot enough to get a tan. The name means 'windy island' so liable to change but beauty with that was if it did rain it didn't stick around.

We are proper old and married tonight. MSB is still full of lurgy and doing dry January so we are sober, watching darts while I try to knit

Norfy, I am:

Looking at possible long weekends to see the Northern Lights in Feb/March.

Stroking the top of my new furry snow boots (bought with potential mini break in mind and in the hope that sods law will mean no London snow this winter).

Persuading a friend to buy the same money pit car I have. He is tempted and just needs pushing over the edge.

Watching a bizarre film called Grabbers, chosen by KFZK.

Drinking Christmas port. Hic.

Much fun Norf. Are you looking at the twinned roots thing from captain corelli? Most weddings seem too! (too rude? My 2013 resolution, if I did that sort of thing, is to be less needlessly rude)

I am drinking wine and trying to prepare for an interview a week on monday. Rock and roll eh?

I'm sort of thinking... i'm not sure this baybee hunting thing is for me. I think ive said this before, but the further along i go, and the more appointments I need to take time from work to attend.. I just can't see how a child would fit in. When I really think about things, I know I think ghj would be a brilliant dad. Me? I suspect i'd do better being a career type.

Too morose? Perhaps

Can I come too, jeff and rie? Or northern lights would also do. I just want something that isn't the nullness of the wether here.

I'd like to go to Granada. I bet that it's warm there in Feb.

Rie I reckon they'd get on, they can talk about surfing and stuff. We can drink copious amounts of wine and wail about baybees.

Faith my friend has a bar there - he's a drag queen, dresses up as Shirley Bassey amongst others.

I'm watching The Day After Tomorrow. It's making me nervous.

Euro - northern lights would be a-mazing. Norway?

Miami would be warm in Feb. I am just in from the cinema and dinner with a friend. HWCA is still at work. I have been alcohol and caffeine free for 5 days, and haven't yet killed anyone

sinks I think that sometimes too, but I know I would regret it bitterly when it was too late.

sink, then he can be the domestic caring sort, and you can keep all the big grown up financial and organisational stuff ticking along. I bet AMNH and I end up in those roles. Mostly because he wouldn't know a financial plan if it tapdanced on his testicles and if he hadn't met me would still be sitting in his flat share, playing PS2 in his pants.

Fuck, Jethro, don't watch that film! It scares me to death! But then you know I have naturaldisasterphobia.