TTC after recent mc - thread 3. Handholding, naff jokes and the infamous Laura Ashley skirt.

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

Happy new thread! Here's hoping for lots of Christmas and new year bfp's, and long healthy pregnancies for everyone.

Continuing the feeling sorry for self theme...AF arrived today on CD 3 Zillion or whatever it bloody well is! Knew there was a reason to not poas but then did so anyway just to check there wasn't a BFP and another MC. How crazy am I? (it was a BFN btw)! Losing it.....aaaargh!

Hi everyone,
Garden worm sorry you got af, you are not going crazy!!! And thunder apologies for encouraging the stick peeing. We just all get so exited!!!!!

I am very proud of myself today as I did my first day back in antenatal scanning babies and managed to hold it together. They had been keeping me doing general ultrasound scanning abdomens etc. until I was ready. Luckily it was all good news which made it a bit easier for me. Still not plucked up the courage to work in epau as that is where I found out my own had no heart beat but think I will be ok in a couple of weeks. Anyway go me!

Oh garden I'm so sorry af got you. You were right to follow your instincts but I really did get positive vibes for you for a while there. Nature and our bodies are so cruel.

bodicea that is so brave of you- I'm in awe. I don't think I could do it. Then again it would be a bit weird to put me, a top secret scientist in charge of a scanner anyway well done- do you feel like its done any healing?

Bodicea having read yours I now feel guilty for feeling sorry for self - you are HARD CORE, I need to get over myself ;o) I think a vino will sort me out...

Thunder I was fairly optimistic too but HA! She caught me out again! Biatch!

Actually it was quite healing. I had a woman that had 3 mc''s and did her 12 week scan which was fine. Lots of tears of joy, nearly started then. and a woman whose first baby had died very young. Again normal 12 week scan - cue me giving her zillions of pics and more tissues
Put my problems into perspective. I will have my moment too And so will all you guys xx

I think you've done so well bodicea, but yeah I can see that having this positive view of how it can work out must be a positive thing.

if I do ever get to that point I want to be scanned by you!

@ Bodicea - Lovely x

I was just thinking that about scans - I'd feel compelled to get the words Bodicea and Garden Worm into the conversation just in case...Cue the multi agency at risk register! Lol!

Will keep my ears peeled when scanning for any name drops! Thanks guys. For the record I think this has made be a better sonographer. Not that I didn't feel for people before. But until its happened to you can't really understand just how horrendous it really Is. Now I can can fully empathise with my pts. Until last year I never even had a tv scan so although I always Said it didn't hurt I actually had no real idea!!
Mind you I've always been a bugger for giving out free pics when anyone pulls at my heart strings

Sorry its not good news garden, enjoy that vino

Wow bodicea you are very brave!

Although maybe it is a good way to move on, after the MMC I have never enjoyed a scan...make myself ill before them with worry...even the one at 41 weeks with DS!

Hi again everyone, struggling to keep up as so many posts since I last logged on. But read them all now. I'm in awe of you too bodicea, what a job to go back to. But I can see that it actually helps to see others who have been through similar and had successful pgs in the end.

Floweroct - just before the last week of bleeding I had pains, bloating and felt really ill, then the bleeding got heavier and I felt ok again. I wondered if it was af at the time - epu didn't seem concerned just told me to call back if any signs of infection. A week later the bleeding stopped, and I got a negative pg test at the same time (hooray!). I didn't have an erpc though. I'd call the epu to see what they say.

So here I am, mc finally over, wondering what happens next. I am throwing my energies (what little is left after dd's done with me anyway!) into sorting out the house, mending things, planning changes to the garden etc. I'm thinking of all sorts of ways to tempt fate, things to plan that I couldn't do while pg... But you can't tempt fate can you? Oh yes and helping out best friend who is suffering from pretty bad morning sickness, not as hard as I thought and secretly hoping it brings me some good karma.. Anything else I can do?!

Apart from dtd. Obviously!

Hey diy sounds like that's definitely a good start!

I caved and poas today - not fmu but a shiney bloomin expensive FRER. Bfn. If I was around 12 dpo as thought, this means I'm out. And if I O'd later then I'm out too as dtd very much lacking. Oh well, onwards to next cycle...

Hey all, been away from mn for a few days so just reading to catch up. Ou boiler is broken at the moment and it's blooming freezing in our flat. DTD last night but was a debaucle to start off with as both of us were so cold we didn't want to place a hand on each other!! Cue screams and shouts of get your hands off me, they're freezing. A comedy moment!

Bodicea wow, you really do put into perspective the whole going back to work after a mc worry. Glad you can see positive in that it helps you emphasise with your patients more as a result.

Garden so sorry af arrived.

DIY Think you're keeping yourself busy enough, can't really suggest anything else...like the tempting fate idea...sounds like something I'd do myself.

Thunder sorry to hear you got a bfn. Do you know when you definitely ovulated?

Thanks DIY

Sorry about the bfn thunder but you never know!

So did a test this morning hoping to finally get my bfn. Did an Internet cheapie and nothing came up in the three minutes (when I did this last week there was a definite faint line within the 3 minutes). So it days wait 5-10 to confirm -ve so I did, within this time a faint colourless line appeared could this be an evap line, oh I so want a bfn!

Aw thunder I'm sorry to hear about the bfn :( but it's not over til af the bitch arrives. Fingers still crossed for you x

Sorry thunder but I got a BFN till I was 2 days late last time so there's still hope

yorkie sounds like fun

flower fingers crossed for BFN tomorrow

So back on track TTC for me tonight (TIM?!) have to say I'm not really in the mood either! Oh well, we DTD last time trying when I had pulled something in my neck and couldn't move without pain cos the time was right, so no way a bit of lethargy will hold me back

Hi all. I've been following the thread for a while. I'm in the same boat as thunder and a couple of others. I had an erpc 6 weeks ago and no af since. Would like to conceive again ASAP. Not sure where exactly I am at the min- on account of af not having arrived yet. I did a test today- negative as I expected. If af would appear at least it would give me an idea of where in my cycle I am. It's very frustrating!

Evening all
CD1 for me, so I can happily report that my uterus does not appear to be broken (and thanks for allowing my whinging. Chocolate, you made me laugh). I haven't been so happy to see my period since I was 22!

Well done for getting back to scanning, Bodicea, and I'm glad going back has been a positive thing.
Sorry about the BFN Thunder.
Hello mrspeacock, welcome.
Yorkie, you are clearly a hardier soul than me, I would have checked into the Premier Inn if my boiler was broken!

So given my advanced age and unituber status, I have decided to give nature a helping hand and dug out my ancient trusty Boots Digital Fertility Monitor (a thermometer with a memory). Only problem is, after 7 years of use or being shoved into my sock drawer it seems to have died. I can't say I blame it, really. i'm a bit tired too. But I am determined to use science to get me upduffed, so do any of you use a monitor of any sort? Would you recommend it?

Notspartacus glad your uterus isn't broken!

Got my bfn this morning - did a little dance this morning! All spotting seems to have stopped so I'm now going to do opks and get right back on it :) Never want to see a bfn again now!

Hope everyone's having a good weekend?

Hi all, congrats to those who got BFNs/af and wanted them, and thanks for the kind words re mine.

Welcome peacock, and sorry for your confusing af enigma- hope you get an answer soon.

yorkie - no I don't know when or even if I ovulated- how would I know that? I got some cramps after +Iive on opk but don't know anything for sure.

shellshock did you get bfn on a FRER or another kind of test before you got your bfp?

Hi everyone, just thought I'd bob in to say hi. thunder the first time I got a bfn on an FRER several times, and didn't get a faint positive on an FRER until two days after AF was due... As everyone is very fond of saying, it's not over until AF arrives.

Hope you're all doing well. I'm somewhere between 6+3 and 6+6 and still neurotic. Booking in appointment on 30th Jan, and if I get that far I'm planning on having a private early scan.

Hey anda! Good to see you and really good to hear you're ticking along towards that booking in appointment. Baby steps. Thanks for the FRER info too, I don't want to get my hopes up or anything but that is reassuring in a way.

Hi thunder no sorry, it was just an Internet cheapie.

Weird dream last night...I dreamt that I had posted what I wrote here on Facebook....when I woke up I was like, shit everyone knows me and DH were DTD last night, the shame! Took me a min or two to work out it was a dream ha ha

Good to hear you uterus is ok Notspartacus - but bummer that it's AF that has arrived.

I am on CD10 today - CB Fertility Monitor is still showing low though so not into the "fertile" zone yet which makes me a bit as on a 28 day cycle I should be ov'ing in 4 days. But when i took the pee stick out, the second line was there so maybe it's on it's way. Will be jumping DH tonight anyway just for the practise (feel that it's needed since after having DS we have got so out of the habit)
I guess I shouldn't really expect to be back on a regular 28 day cycle already - but gives me something to obsess think about.

It's sooo cold here - keep looking at the forecasts hopeing they'll change and it won't be snowing through the night/morning. I could really do with going up to my office tomorrow if just for a decent coffee and chat but looks like I'll be stuck at home again. I am sitting typing with a duvet wrapped round me.

Yorkie can emphathise with you on the boiler front - ours was off over Christmas. Hope you have a fire/plenty of electric heaters/hot water bottles?

hi Mrs Peacock - hope you get AF soon (IFYKWIM) but equally hope you are DTD just in case you catch a late ov? It's really frustrating when you just want to get on with it.