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TTC after recent mc - thread 3. Handholding, naff jokes and the infamous Laura Ashley skirt.

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JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 13/12/2012 10:09

Happy new thread! Here's hoping for lots of Christmas and new year bfp's, and long healthy pregnancies for everyone. Smile

OP posts:
yorkiebilb · 15/01/2013 22:45

Thanks so much for the advice everyone, will keep ttc then. It's all so confusing this ttc after mc not knowing if or when your body is back to normal. I wish it could be a bit more considerate and send some kind of green flag sign to say yep we're ready to go again down here!!Grin

NotSpartacus you're not mean. I don't begrudge Kate Middleton or anyone else getting pg, just wish it wasn't constantly rammed down our throats by the bloody press! Hope you're not waiting much longer without knowing what's going on.

chocolate loving the PMA! & thunder I still have my fx here for you!

Night all and thanks again for the advice.

Thunderthunderthundercats · 16/01/2013 09:39

notspart are you going to poas? I hear you on the grumpy about that stuff, and the iPad typing for that matter. Saw a bluetooth iPad keyboard on groupon today- half price! Just in case you're interested.

My ironic moment of the day- I walk my dog the same route most mornings and only just clocked today the van I must pass every morning with the initials HPT in huge red writing. Its not helping my resolve!! But I'm staying strong!

lexib · 16/01/2013 13:29

Bodicea, glad I'm not alone in the crazy boat!
How much is everyone here monitoring their bodies? Swear I've been aching in the way I did before, when we were expecting. But then I'm pretty sure I could imagine my way to feeling that. And too, how early can i poas? The ov tests aren't offering much, but then I should (if 28 days is right) only be half way through.
Started him on the man pregnacare thing this morning, that did feel good [smile combined with dtd as much as we are it makes my fingers cross a bit

chocolateteabag · 16/01/2013 13:59

Day 3 of working from home due to snow/ice and have just agreed with my manager that I'll stay home for the rest of the week. Not so good for my internet shopping and mn habit!
I'm not technically snowed in - but DH has just managed to drive our 4x4 off the drive into the garden (we live on a hill)

Thundercatsarego · 16/01/2013 14:00

Welcome to my world, choc, which is why I'm on here all the bloody time!

GardenWorm · 16/01/2013 15:42

Cant decide but think I'm going to poas this weekend, CD32 today.....and pretty soon other half is going to wonder where AF is and when he does he will want to know! Aaaaaaargh!

IBelieveInPink · 16/01/2013 16:58

Omfg garden. Please can I have some of your willpower in 2 weeks time when I will have peed on the best part of £30 by being impatient and testing too early?!

Bakingtins · 16/01/2013 17:47

Good luck Garden

Thundercatsarego · 16/01/2013 18:01

How have you been feeling, garden?

Chuckled at pink's omfg

littlepinkfizz · 16/01/2013 18:09

I second pinks reaction!

Do you feel you are pregnant garden?

I'm amazed at your willpower!

yorkiebilb · 16/01/2013 19:36

Ooh fingers crossed for garden and thunder now!

JBrd · 16/01/2013 19:46

Wow, garden, that is willpower indeed! How many days are you over?

Agree with yorkie that it would be great to get some sort of signal from you body when it's starting to go back to normal again. Physically, I feel fine, even thinking of starting to exercise again (I really miss it), but it's been less than a week since my ERPC... The bleeding has stopped, but pg test is still positive (but line is getting weaker), so I reckon it'll be a while until everything is back to normal.

Emotionally, it's still a bit of a rollercoaster... Have good days and bad days. Yesterday was a not so good day - culminating in me bursting into tears when they played 'Rule the World' by Take That on the radio. I mean wtf?!?
But I think it had more to do with the fact that I'd been thinking about work a lot, reading and answering work emails - I am very unhappy with my current job, really need to do something about that. It's definitively not helping with the recovery...

I also told DH that he needs to cut back drinking, start taking vitamins and start exercising! He is one of these enviable people who stay really fit without having to do any significant excercise (he does none at the moment, whereas I have to go to the gym 3 times/week to keep on top of it!), but he does like his wine way too much and too often.

And my week off work to recover is not so relaxing anymore - DS had a bad norovirus/stomach bug/whatever attack yesterday and puked about every half hour between 4.30 to 10.30pm. Completely fine again today, but he can't go back to the cm until Friday. Little bugger knew I had a manicure booked for today that I was really looking forward to! And had planned to do some therapeutic baking, as well as start working on my CV.
Now I'm hoping that some of my friends will take pity on me and meet up tomorrow, DH is away on a business trip (typical!) and I'm slightly starved for adult conversation.

GardenWorm · 16/01/2013 21:37

LOL! or should that be LOFL! Grin

Normal cycle is 28 days so 4 over (although been far from norm since the last MC), I can feel lots going on but in the back of my mind I just keep thinking even if I am pregnant I'll have yet another miscarriage, and really I'm so over the MC thing. Enough now womb, ENOUGH!

Also I don't want to bloody line Clear Blues pockets again - there is one in the house, it's gonna be THE ONE! So expensive and the screen dies after a day - Pah!

Oh and if it is a BFP - I'll have to pretend I've got the trots for the next however many weeks at work cause I'll be in and out of that toilet on knicker watch....

So many reasons to resist Smile

Bodicea · 16/01/2013 23:09

garden do you, and everyone else for that matter, know that you can get clear blue and first response a lot cheaper on amazon? As well as the host of real cheapies. I've stocked up on a loads so when day comes I don't have to spend a fortun at nearest chemist/ supermarket. I know I will be checking every few days!! Definitely worth doing.

JanieLovesHerThreeLeggedCat · 16/01/2013 23:17

I bought 10 pg tests on eBay earlier for about £2! Just cheapo ones. At least then I won't be too out of pocket if I crazily poas everyday or twice a day like a crazy woman towards the end of next week!

littlepinkfizz · 17/01/2013 09:04

Didn't know you could get frer on amazon bodicea Thsnks for the info!x

Thundercatsarego · 17/01/2013 09:08

Good advice bodicea, I hadn't thought of amazon for tests. janie can totally see the appeal of the cheapies too!

I'm finding myself on a bit of a rollercoaster here- swinging between thinking about testing tomorrow to not doing it til next week to just feeling frightened! Can someone slap me please?

JanieLovesHerThreeLeggedCat · 17/01/2013 11:10

I think if I get a BFP on the cheapies next week then ill maybe treat myself to a posh one :). Have an aching lower back since last night, don't think I've ever had a sore back before and I'm not a very good patient! Couldn't stop myself from asking dr google about early pg symptoms but trying not to get excited...

IBelieveInPink · 17/01/2013 12:16

Eeek test test test! I am useless sorry. Need to ask Garden for some willpower!

I tested this morning and got a negative (Yaay). So body is back to normal and as of last night am back on the horse. Or DH as I like to call him :) teehee.

2 weeks time I will not be pleased to see a negative. But will be freaking out either way!

JanieLovesHerThreeLeggedCat · 17/01/2013 12:29

Yay for ibelieve it's the last negative test you'll want to see for a long time Grin

I have no tests at home so so I'm going to wait fur the eBay ones to come in the post. thunder I think you should totally poas ...like NOW!!!

yorkiebilb · 17/01/2013 12:31

Pink ahh glad you got your negative!

Thunder I'm miss impatient so I'm probably not the best person to ask! I reckon decide on a date and then give your test to your oh until then. That way you're not giving your self additional stress wondering on the best time to poas.

fx Janie

Thundercatsarego · 17/01/2013 13:18

I love all these bad influences for poas- I'm exactly the same. Stopped in at my local sainsburys and all you can get there are cbs - no frer. So picked up a sainsburys digi- worth doing now or shall I wait? It says is effective from the day af is due (so do the cbs). Last time I had a mega strong positive on a FRER on day 29 and a 2-3 weeks on a digi the day after. I'm on day 26 now. To pee or not to pee. That really is the question.

shellshock7 · 17/01/2013 13:24

Hi everyone...I am defiitely a POAS-er daily from about 4 days before AF due Blush. I buy the internet cheapies and then do a proper test if I get a line.

I joined a few weeks ago now after my MC but havent really been posting as nothing was really happening but I've had my AF post MC and am gonna start DTD this weekend to TTC (CD10 on Sat) so thought now something positive is happening I'd join in Smile

Feeling very apprehensive about this, when I was last pregnant I tried to be so positive (I spent the whole pregancy with DS in a panic mode) and that didn't work out, so after two MC I know any pregancy is going to be very hard to cope with, but yet I just want to be pregnant.

I returned to work after maternity leave last week and was so happy when I thought I was returning pregnant (leaving DS is hard!) so it was tough coming back under these circumstances. Hopeful for some good news soon..and for everyone else here Smile

shellshock7 · 17/01/2013 13:25

how long is your cycle *thunder8?

Thundercatsarego · 17/01/2013 13:35

Hi shell, good news that you are able to feel positive and proactive again but totally understand your apprehension, especially after two mc.

Cycle- I think it used to be between 28-32 days but I really have no idea what's going on now as its first cycle after mmc.