TTC after recent mc - thread 3. Handholding, naff jokes and the infamous Laura Ashley skirt.

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

Happy new thread! Here's hoping for lots of Christmas and new year bfp's, and long healthy pregnancies for everyone.

Hi Sally I totally agree- there is never a time where that question isn't going to be awkward, people just don't think. I was a bit bemused about a close family member (one of the very few I told) saying 'its about time too, everyone's been waiting for this'. I'm 26 this month, DP 31. Is it strange that we wanted to make sure we were a bit financially stable and ready in our relationship before TTC

Hi Fem so sorry to hear about your mc. Welcome to the thread though - everyone is lovely here.

I absolutely hate the 'at least you know you can get pg comment' also. I've had some v tactless comments that I've already vented about on here. This week I bumped into someone that had recently had a baby - I'd heard through another friend that him and his partner had gone through IVF and struggled to get pg. We chatted for a bit and then he asked me when I was going to start trying for a baby - I barely know him! I was surprised as I thought that him over everyone should know not to ask questions like that as you've no idea what a couple might be going through. Some people are just odd! I just wouldn't ask questions like that as I wouldn't want to offend.

chocolate thanks for the advice regarding cb moniters. I'm currently eyeing one up on ebay. It's payday and dh is away on a ski trip so while the cats away I may splash out....!

CD 6 here and still af. I think alot of people here have their af or are waiting for their 1st one so a few weeks off 2ww or poas??

Hi Fem - sorry that you are with us but welcome aboard.
When I was in your position last month (post the main event, but still feeling like a leaky dishmop?) I was googling away looking at stories of people getting BFP's straight after MC. So you have every chance.
Thinking back I can remember about a week in getting a sharp ovary pain, but as was still bleeding didn't think about it being a possible ovulation. DH hates DTD when there is blood about so no chance of anything happening so I didn't think about it. And the OPK's don't work until you get a BFN. I got mine about 2 weeks after the big bleed day.
Take care and properly rest - it really does take time to get your strength back so don't rush back to work.

AF has properly got me today so counting it as CD1.
Yorkie - this is the monitor I bought and these are the sticks - which have already arrived today!

Guest Watch - They've gone!!!! SIL/BIL at 10.30am (very emotional as they are flying back to NZ tomorrow). GP's at 12pm (grrr was supposed to be 11am but they wouldn't stop yakking and accepting cups of coffee). MIL and StepFIL finally left (not too bad as MIL made lunch and has been doing some tidying)
House feels awfully quiet now....

Must get back to work before next break

Hmmm well maybe I'm next to poas then? I'm on CD20 and so if I was at all regular I would be due around the 20th. I seem to have had an LH surge at the weekend, which is theoretically on time, so we'll see. Don't think we timed DTD well at all though, although did manage 2x around +ive OPK so there is a slight chance. I feel pretty calm about it either way this month particularly as getting pg right now would not be great in terms of moving to new job in Feb

Hope everyone's having a good Friday and those in limbo get some clarity very soon!

choc it must be strangely quiet at your house now... hope you can enjoy it and don't get a weird chaos withdrawal reaction...

Thanks Chocolate the dishmop comment made me laugh and just about sums it up! DP is the same when it comes to blood but we sometimes use a pot and syringe anyway if the happy ending is hard to come by so there are ways around that! My only worry is that I want to get a BFN before restarting as I would hate for leftover hormones to get my hopes up or to have any confusion... I'll give it a go, but to get a BFP straight away would be a bonus, I defo won't be banking on it but will still be outraged if AF comes

FX for Thunder and hoping chocolate is enjoying some peace!

OK; this thread keep showing up in AC. What's up with the infamous Laura Ashley skirt? I must know.

Hi all, I'm new here but have been a lurker for a while! Had an mc in July, my first pregnancy. Been TTC since November, we waited an extra couple of months as we moved house and I can only cope with so much stress! Were at it like bunnies over the Crimbo break, I OV'd on the 27th December. Very happy to say I got my BFP yesterday which makes me just shy of 4 weeks upduffed. Keeping everything crossed this one sticks

Does anyone know about what feels like bloomin loads lots of cm after ov? I'm on knicker watch now thinking af is going to show up as I'm a bit crampy and a bit...erm...juicy....

Really hoping she's not on her way. Damnit!

Congrats kilk and pre- one of our Lady's post mc af turned up with somewhat a vengeance unexpectedly to the point she had to change clothes but was stuck with a poor choice of shops, and had to go for a disgusting Laura Ashley skirt to get home in.

not going to tell you she took it back afterwards in case you work for LA

Thunder you sneak!

Welcome to Fem and Kilk (and congrats).

pretzel I'm not sure if you are joining or just curious (or a LA spy) but hi anyway.

chocolate thanks for the links. Will have a proper look later. Woo hoo on guests leaving and getting back to normality!

thunder lots of cm after ovulation could be a sign of a BFP. Do you usually get that after ovulation as the supposed norm is to dry up? I asked dr google who also mentioned this but also said (just to be bloody awkward) that it could be AF on its way as with every bloody other potential pg symptom! if its different then normal then it sounds hopeful though. Double fx for you!

Congrats kilk on your BFP and welcome to the thread!

Sorry to interrupt ladies. I dislike LA too just wanted to know what the thread title meant because I' really bored. Bye!

yorkie that's interesting. Unfortunately I'm totally not in tune with my body not sure what usually happens, so it could be a good/bad/normal sign. Hmmm not too useful then! I think this is the first cycle I'm really taking any notice of anything, and I clearly have a lot to learn!

Thunder I had 35 days between cycles and then another AF within 2 weeks after a normal cycle post MC. Its so unpredictable. Am now CD27 but still resisting the urge to POAS - it's like my personal version of worlds strongest man. Ha ha ha!

Hello ladies, another newbie here. MMC last Wednesday - started spotting Tuesday night, had 12 week scan booked for Wednesday anyway - started flooding as I was being scanned. Was referred straight to EPAU where I MC'ed & had to have ERPC & a blood transfusion. I guess if you're going to have a MC, the EPAU is probably the best place to do it.

It was my 4th MC, and follows one I had in Sept. We're planning to TTC again, but this time instead of trying straight away we're thinking perhaps it would be better to give my body a cycle or two to recover. I'm 40 and he's 46 next month, so I suspect our ages are not helping here - as does a family history of MC (my mother had 10 MC before she had me, youngest sister has had 8 MC, my DD1 has also had a MC).

Anyway, figured perhaps I belong here now for a bit.

Hey garden, yeah I had a 2 weeker, straight after mc, and so I was pleased to even get past cd11 this time and anazed and delighted to get positive on opk too so yeah I guess I just need to wait it out and see.

When does worlds strongest man poas then?

ark welcome to the thread but so sorry you're here, sounds like you've had a pretty tough time of it, particularly needing a blood transfusion on top of everything. What a lot of mc in your family as well. Have you got any other children or is this for #1? Hope you're taking time out to recover.

Hi Rose that sounds like a horrible experience. I hope your family's sad history means you have lots of support. Good luck when you are ready to try again.

Hey tins, how are you doing?

Thunder I'm not in tune with my body either particularly since mc and I definitely have alot to learn as well!

Rose welcome to the thread. So sorry to hear about your mc and everthing that you have been through. Sounds wise to give your body a rest for a bit particularly after having had a blood transfusion. Hope you've got lots of support around you.

chocolate I've caved in and purchased a cb moniter. Thx for the links you posted. I can't believe the price that some are trying to charge on ebay for them - some seem to be above retail price! I guess I'm supposed to wait until next cycle before I can start using it as I'm already on cd6 of this one.

Well my dh is off snowboarding this weekend and I am in the house grouting the bathroom - something is wrong there isn't it?!!

Thanks for the welcome - I do have 3 daughters already, aged 20 & 18 (from my first marriage - their dad died folliwing a motorbike accudent 6 years ago), plus DD3 is 5. DP and I were really hoping we could give her a sibling but it's not been going well. My mother has a theory that we can't carry boys to term, and I'm wondering if the tests will show there's something to it.

yorkie Yes there is definitely something wrong with that scenario? I hope you have put down the grout and are doing something more fun and indulgent now!

ark, that's so curious with your mum's theory. Will they be able to discover anything like that with the tests? So many mcs must be very hard so I'm not surprised you're having a bit of time out.

Hi Ark - sorry that you are on this thread, think I remember you from the July one ? Have your doctors been able to give you any reasons for the MC's?

Congrats Kilk - it's good to hear of good news

I am on Cd2 and OMG has been pretty much like MC again - been going through the super tampax in 20 mins. Finally got out of the house with 2 up there plus a nighttime towel. Have then been to a paint your own pot place with small soft play next to it. Shamed to say my DS was the horrid boy shouting and leaping about disturbing everyone. My friends DD was lovely and quiet, doing handprints. DS refused until I painted a tractor and then wanted to do them over the top which I refused as I am OCD about being neat

Now back on the sofa watching Endless Shaun the Sheep DvD's

Hi chocolateteabag - no, no reasons yet, though they do seem to be taking things seriously this time. They're going to do tests on the remains, including chromasomes & stuff, but apparently it could take 6-8 weeks for the results. They weren't sure if it was one embryo or two when they scanned - there were two fuzzy blobs, but the sonographer couldn't make it out clearly. If it turns out to have been a boy (or two?) then I guess I'll have to have karyotyping done to see if I'm a carrier of something that's fatal to boys - there are a few conditions like that but they're usually quite rare I think. My sister and mother have never had any tests done, so my sister is quite curious too, particularly as she wants to have a 4th child herself at some point.

I know that there's a very good chance that tests won't show anything at all and it may well just come down to "one of those things", but it's reassuring that they are doing tests now.

Part of me just wants to start trying again straight away - it was all going fine right up until Tuesday night, and I just want to still be pregnant, dammit!! - but I know that my hormones are all over the place right now and physically I need to recover. It's my 2nd ERPC so at least this time around I have a better idea of what to expect. And we're only in January, so I still have a good chance of having a baby to cuddle by Christmas.