TTC after recent mc - thread 3. Handholding, naff jokes and the infamous Laura Ashley skirt.

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

Happy new thread! Here's hoping for lots of Christmas and new year bfp's, and long healthy pregnancies for everyone.

Technically yes. I think so. Chem pregnancy ( from doctor google) is the earliest form of mc, where it is too early for anything to have shown up on scans- counted as before 5 weeks. As I was 5 weeks exactly, yes, I think it is still counted as that. Especially as my hormone levels weren't really going up.

Is just a little more worrying now that there has been 2 in a row. 1 I could write off as just one of those things. 2 makes me worry a little more :(

Thanks yorkie yes at the moment, still am, but am going to try and think of this as just a late af. It doesn't feel like that emotionally, but physically it must be the same, or very similar.

I suppose one blessing in terms of ttc is that there wasnt so much time for all those changes to happen in your body so it should be quicker to recover from it?

Perhaps it just needed a bit more time to have built itself back up enough to support a pregnancy, instead of the two being linked? I'm trying to say the positive side but not sure if I'm totally failing! I'm really sorry, whatever's going on it totally sucks.

I can completely understand your worry and frustration but it could just as easily be a case that you've been unlucky a second time and go on to have a successful pg next. I've just googled and it says with chemical pregnancies physical recovery is relatively quick - hopefully the bleeding will end quickly and you can get on with ttc.

Sorry for the quick post. Am on my phone and not that easy to see! I just wanted to say hi to the newbies and sorry you find yourself here. Ibelieve: so sorry you are going thorough this. I like you have had 2 mc last year. It really is soul destroying isn't it. It maybe worth speaking to your gp so all on records.

ibip so sorry to hear. Sometimes I wish we could resist the urge to poas and try to convince ourselves it's just a late AF.....I agree with lucky13 get it recorded with your Dr as most will not start doing any tests until you have had 3 mc's.

Hi thundercats AF arrived with a vengeance today, after one day of bleeding on 1st Jan then almost a week of nothing. Guess I count this as CD1 and put the last week down to another WTF cycle or a bean that failed to implant properly. I ov'd really early this cycle but it's ended up a few days longer than normal.
pink I'm sorry to hear your news. I would think that as it was very early it won't take long to get hormone levels back to normal and you should be able to try this cycle. Still though.

tins thank you for the update- It's good she came in the end so you know where you are but I was hoping for better news for you at the same time!

garden and lucky thanks. Most definitely will be going to docs. I want to try and see if they will do any tests this time. I know probably not, but just want to ask the question. That way I will have done all I can.

baking that sucks. I was kinda hopeful for you too.

I am seeing this as a new start to the new year. Time to get healthy, and hopefully happy things will start for all of us soon. Not quite sure how I am still being optomistic, but there we go.

ibip, optimism is definitely a good thing! How are you doing now?

I just got a second line on my cheapy opks- so it looks like I might ovulate this cycle, which means I might actually be getting back to normal Hooray!

Still pretty heartbroken. But am allowing myself today to sulk, then getting on with things tomorrow.

Yay to being back to normal! Get to it!!! :)

ibip sulking is equally therapeutic (and deserved). Take the time you need though before brazening it out.

Yeah sulking definitely therapeutic, particularly if you really go for it. Perhaps a cheeky too?

How are you, anda?

Oh yes, definitely

thunder I'm okay. For some reason feel like something isn't quite right but no bleeding yet and no real cramping. 5 weeks tomorrow by LMP but only 17dpo. Last time I mc'ed at 21dpo I think. To be honest will be happier to get to work tomorrow and keep busy rather than spending the day moping around the house googling

Oh dear anda I'm sorry that you're not feeling quite right. No bleeding and no cramping is definitely a good thing so yes taking your mind off it is a good thing to do rather than worrying and googling. This will probably pass and all will be fine. I'm staying positive and sending you positive vibes x

Thank you! I think it's because this time I had lots of symptoms (and last time I really didn't) and they've been fading since yesterday morning. Google says symptoms come and go, so trying to hold on to that, but had a bit of a weird wet knicker situation this morning. Might have been loads of watery CM though or something else - but was really very odd.

Hmm that is strange indeed. Don't forget there's loads of changes going on in your bod at the moment so weird stuff is going to be going on.

I know. I've accepted that what will be will be and there's nothing I can do to change it, so fingers crossed!

That's a good way to be, keep with that one and try not to listen to the worry if you can- it won't change anything eh? Look after yourself.

Hope you're okay Pink - you're entitled to mope but loving the positivity!

My first AF has finally arrived after my mmc so I feel like I can start to move on now and hopefully start ttc again. The build up to it has been a lot more painful than normal. I was awake most of last night with weird stomach aches not helped by the flat below us playing loud music all night! I finally stormed down at 7 this morning in a rage - the guy soon realised not to mess with a woman about to get her AF and quickly apologised

pink I've just had my second MC, was 5.5 weeks and had to go have a scan to check no problems so you may feel you should go to GP and see what they suggest?

If you don't see anyone, they said to me to wait to TTC again until I have a proper AF and I specifically asked whether I need to worry now having had 2 (I have had DS inbetween) and was told no, I have just been really unlucky this time (first was a MMC at 10 weeks so diff ball game!) and chances are as good next time, hope that reassures you a little bit. Hole you're doin ok

yorkie good news about af, bad news about noisy neighbours though- surprised they didn't get an earful a lot earlier than 7am!

Thanks thunder I did try earplugs till about 5 and lots of banging on the floor first - tbh I wasn't sure who I was going to encounter and was pretty sure they must be on something other than alcohol to be still going crazy at 7. Anger took over the fear in the end!

anda fingers crossed it is all going well. It is so hard not to worry about every little twinge.
Blimey yorkie you must have the patience of a saint to not complain until the morning! Both my kids have had high temps and been up in the night this week and I am like a bear with a sore head if my sleep is disturbed. I hope he apologised with a large box of chocolates!

Tbh it took a bit of time to find which flat it was first as it's quite a big block of flats...picture me creeping around corridors in my checked pyjama bottoms and white fluffy slippers! I'm not sure he was in any state to think about chocolates baking but he was apologetic in the end when he finally answered the door after 100 bell rings!

Anyway, just wanted to say good luck to everyone for 2013 ttc! Let's do this!