TTC after recent mc - thread 3. Handholding, naff jokes and the infamous Laura Ashley skirt.

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

Happy new thread! Here's hoping for lots of Christmas and new year bfp's, and long healthy pregnancies for everyone.

Sorry about af bump, that's rubbish but also your reaction might answer your question about whether you want to be ttc again or not? As long as the disappointment isn't too much of a knock when you've so much else to deal with at the mo.

Hello and welcome to the newbies.

What's the update, tins? I've gone back to a variation on the previous name for now, but will be keeping a close eye out for the lucky ones.

Hi all, sorry to some of you who will see the same thing posted many places, but I'm mid panic!!
So, i should be 4+6 today. Is my second pregnancy after a mmc at 8 weeks in October. Thought I would reassure myself by doing another cb digi test, so I can see the weeks going up and keep myself sane.
I did another test this morning. With fmu and everything, just to make sure. And it still says 1-2 weeks. Surely by now I should be at least 2-3 if not an early 3+? Okay 3+ would be a bit much, but definitely a 2-3, by at least 4 days?!
I phoned the doctors this morning, and they won't see me til I am 6 weeks. Just told me to wait it out.
Would be interested to hear anyone else's experience of this. Good or bad, I just want to know where I am really. Thank you.

And hello to the newbies. So sorry to see you here. Everyone is so lovely and helpful though, is a good place to be in a sad situation if that makes sense.

Hello to the new people - sorry you find yourselves here.

Sorry about af bump - I know how you feel, the first couple of cycles I sobbed when AF came which completely surprised me.

pink - I didn't try a CBdigi till 5+6 last time but got a 2-3 then (and there was nothing wrong at that point!) so that sounds similar? Everyone has different hCG levels and they're only an estimate - even the instructions say the conception indicator is only 92% accurate. I know it's really worrying though.

CD26. Not symptom spotting NO NO NO I am not.

Posted this in another thread already but seeking advice...Had a very turbulent few months and very nervous newbie. I had a suspected ectopic miscarriage in November with first pregnancy at 7 weeks. Then found out my sister was also pregnant and our due dates would have been only a few days apart. She has now also miscarried so trying to help her through it.

We're now TTC again as doctors told us there was no need to wait. After a very over-indulgent Christmas consuming everything you're not supposed to - excess alcohol, mouldy cheese and pate think I could be pregnant again. We conceived first month of trying last time and think it could have happened again. Preparing to take a test this evening and bricking it - reassurance and support needed.

Hi all. Happy New year. Some familiar faces on here and lots of newbies it seems. I was on this thread a few months back as BabyJames. Fancied a new name. Here's hoping that the new year and a name change brings with it lots of luck and babies for us all. I've not been around for a while as I turned a little crazy with the TTC following 2 MC in a row in Aug and early October. I have had a totally relaxed month this cycle without OPK's, Charting or coming on the Mumsnet boards. It has been nice enjoying Christmas which is when I think I ovulated around. I am now starting to feel that crazyness return!!! So I'm around 9 days post ovulation and after buying 4 pregnancy tests this morning I POAS and surprise surprise BFN :( I also have a gut feeling that the evil witch is on her way.

Baubles - so hard to try not to symptom spot isn't it! I had loads of symptoms last month then AF arrived 2 days early!

Here for hand holding LCR. I eat and drank everything over Christmas as I have resisted and held back for a good few months now and didn't help get me up duffed!

Sorry your back at Cycle day 1 BumpKitty. Truly sucks :( Treats for you tonight.

Hi everyone else I will have a read back through the thread now.

Hello all
If we name change - can someone please explain how to do it as I am still in a post Christmas brain freeze (work has been hell today)

LCR77 - do you know when you ovulated (ish)? And which test are you using?
IBiP - I found CB Digi's really crap - only got a BFP on 14DPO last time, but could have been my HCG levels as didn't get an early BFP with DS either. They are just little programmes looking at intensity levels of the coloured line on the strip - so much to go wrong or be misread. I would test again in a couple of days.

Lucky13 hold back on the POAS! that way madness lies, esp before 14 DPO. I have no idea if or when I have ov'd since natural MC on 12 Dec - so will not try a POAS until at least end of the month just watch how soon I cave on that one

In laws have now arranged for SIL's little boy to be christened this weekend. In our village church. And after party at our house. This is becauseDH's parents are divorced and would be awkward at FIL's house.
YAY! I now have everyone staying at my house until Thursday - cue rictus grin - I am being such a grump but have not had DH or DS to myself since 20th of Dec and reeeeaaalllly just want to get the house sorted and have a chill.
Ooh I have such big things to worry about - feel free to me

sorry LCR77 meant to write a bit more - don't worry about overindulging - nothing reaches the little one directly until much later on. Guidance on folic acid etc is to make sure it's in you when your body gets the egg ready for ovulation.
Do let us know how you get on

Thanks for the welcome, so glad I've found this thread. It's like a weight off my shoulders being able to share all this stuff. Sorry to those who got af, it sucks and I hope nobody here has to wait too long. I am so keen to get 'back to normal' but still flipping bleeding, 3 weeks and counting now, it's mine and dp's anniversary tomorrow and was hoping this rubbish business would all be over by then.

Chocolate: You name change up top on MyMumsnet. I hear what your saying about needing a chill. That sounds full on!

Diy: Hi there and welcome. 3 weeks bleeding sounds draining both physically and emotionally. Make sure you keep your iron levels up. Sorry to hear of your loss and that it is going to be your anniversary :( Do you have plans? Some quality time together maybe a nice distraction.

I have banished the HPT to the drawer. Got a feeling I wont need them now anyway. I hate all this waiting. Waiting for bleeding to stop, waiting to try again, the 2 week wait, then if by some minor miricle wait and wait and wait to see if will be ok this time around. All so flipping consuming!

Hear hear, couldn't have put it better.
We are both so knackered that we've made no plans, all we both want is about a week of sleep (dd is waking a few times a night at the mo and rather highly strung in the day). May get a takeaway... ah the romance!

Chocolateteabag good luck, sounds like hard work.

Hey, happy new year.
Been away a few days.Hi to all the newbies. Little name change for a new year - even though I was already a B - added an A at the end to make me queen of the icini people and a kick ass strong woman. Hoping it might bring me some luck!
Formally known as Bodice.
Well 2012 has been tough. Two miscarriages in the space of 6 months plus parents splitting up in the thick of it. But I did get to marry the love of my life earlier in the year so it hasn't been all bad.
Looking forward to a better 2013. The decision whether to try straight after ERCP has been made for us by us both being ill and not in the mood so no more agonising. Sat on couch now with sinusitis. Hoping AF will come soon so we can get going again.

Right will read back thread now and get to know where everyone is up to xxxxx

Noticed a theme of putting on weight here. Glad it is not just me. I have put on almost a stone since wedding day. Some I blame on general laziness and gorging but I think the MCs are to blame too. They are!!!!
Gonna get back on the exercise wagon as soon as I can brush off this evil cold. I am actually craving healthy things at the mo as well!

Please can someone explain the name change thing to this clueless newbie? (Is there supposed to be a 'b' in it? And why?) ta!

Bodicea wishing you lots if luck for 2013, sounds like you're due some.

Thanks diyqueen I just read back on your history and I am sorry for your loss. It must have been horrible being in over Christmas.
I hope you have a BFP super quick this time x here is to 2013 - it's gonna be lucky for us.
As for name changes. A lot of people started there names with a B but I am not sure why as not been here from the start. Perhaps an original can explain. I happened to have a b already but fancied a change xx

The Bs were because we had a BFP spree in November/December and by coincidence (or some higher intervention) everyone's names began with B, hence the mass name change.

Hi from an old B! Just seeing how everyone's going.
I'm ten weeks something today and still finding plenty to agonise over, but that's just me. Scan on the 16th although I did get a peek at a heartbeat after some bleeding a few weeks ago... Maybe I was still here then?
Happy new year everyone (despite obvious non-happy occurrences) I hope 2013 is kind to us all. No doubt you'll find a lucky naming pattern shortly and fingers crossed it sweeps envy one up and away into healthy worry-free (like that will ever happen for us now) pregnancies!

That's good news BrieMonster, and I think all of us would still be agonising if we were in the same situation. Not too long until your scan - honest!!!
Slight tangent; anyone else noticed a lack of folic acid in supermarkets? Just had to by pregnancy vits (which rubs salt in) as the second one I've tried in last few days has none. Grrrrr....

Another unfortunate newbie here! Had a mmc before Xmas, had my dating scan at what should have been 11 weeks but only showing 6. Had erpc just over 2 weeks ago, had taken us over a year to get this far and it's our first so it's heartbreaking thinking we have to start all over again! I have pcos which doesn't help! I'm still bleeding and still showing bfp so need those to go away and we can start again!

Good luck to those that have bfps and fingers crossed its good to see some good news and hopefully the rest of us wl be shortly behind you x

Floweroct I'm so sorry for your loss, and I feel the same about having to start all over again. I'm very lucky to have dd (21mo), but she took 18mo to conceive. The one I just miscarried took 6 months, couldn't believe our luck as we have some fertility issues too. I hope next time is quicker for you and works out well. Mmc must have been an awful shock, I can't imagine that. Started bleeding on 14 dec here at about 8 weeks, in hospital Xmas eve and Xmas morning with suspected ectopic but thankfully it wasn't. Crappest Christmas ever. Still bleeding too and stiill having blood tests til hcg is 0, not there yet - hope it's all over soon for both of us x

thanks for your words of support it does help especially as I can't talk to anyone else aside from my partner just yet.

After a dud Boots test last night (the control line was very faint) I waited till this morning and came up with a BFP straight away(!!!). Very mixed feelings as it has happened so quickly after MC and need to wait until early scan at 7 weeks till I can even let myself be excited. In a state of shock right now!! Will be testing again in a few days to double check!

To all TTCers I'd recommend taking the Pregnacare Conception supplements as it seems to have worked both times!! best wishes to you all

Hi to LCR77 (and congratulations) and flower ((unmumsnetty hugs)) just about allowed on this thread I think
I lost a baby at 8 weeks in September which had taken a year to concieve, it's even more heartbreaking when it has been difficult to get even as far as a BFP. I have taken so many conception supplements over the last 18 months I rattle - I don't think they make a blind bit of difference (though obv the folic acid is a good idea) - sorry LCR77 you just got lucky! Hope it goes well for you this time round.

Hello all. I'm back again. Although I never really left did I, didn't have time. Mc last night. Looks like the devils at clearblue were right about me!
So, counting this as cd1? Does anyone know, because I was only 5 weeks this time, does that mean it is more like a normal af for my body, and can I start trying again straight away?
Wow this sucks.

Hello to Flower and any other newbies I have missed (sorry, am on phone so can't see names)

brie great to hear you getting on so well! Not long now, almost time to breath a sigh of relief and enjoy it :).

Oh pink, that sucks. Poor you. Does that mean it was a chemical pregnancy? Sorry I don't know about whether it's CD1 or not but makes sense to count it as such?

How are you doing?

Hi to everyone else.

tins, what happened with af?

Hey all,

Pink so sorry to hear that. I would definitely count that as cd1. Are you still bleeding? As long as you're not still bleeding I can think you can get on again with ttc if that's what you want to do...I'm pretty sure that's right unless someone knows otherwise?