Frosticle and beginningofthejourney - thanks or your comments on the donor side of things. We are finding it a mine field of new info to get out heads around .
Beginning - can I ask which bank you found your uk donor? I have to say we are completely overwhelmed with where to start with all this donor search. It feels like starting the ivf journey from the beginning! When you know very little.
Our clinic use a US donor bank - the concern we have is what if the attraction of a biological father in the US makes a stroppy teenager even more likely to go off and look for their biological father (wed plan to be open you see about being a donor child)
Also we see there are so many options about seeing photos of childhood and now, audio recordings of their questionnaire answer. Whilst we do not have a need to 'see' the donor (at least we think we don't) what would be best for our child if later down the line they know and knew we could have accessed photos to share with them.
My god - deciding to accept going with a donor seems hard enough but when you're RealIse the choices - it's overwhelming.
Our clinic offer a matching process where the present 5 but they don't give half the background info which is available on other reputable bank sites.
Beginning how did you go about deciding? I can't help but feel if we don't do our research and consider all the options, this is one of the most important decisions we will make in our child's life. So we need to properly weigh up all the options.
Desperate to talk to others who have taken the sperm donor route to make sense of it all - overwhelmed is probably the right word for us right now!!!