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Assisted Conceptions (and all the bits in-between) Volume 11
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vallinnapod · 03/12/2012 20:30
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wellerbabe ·
29/09/2013 08:31
Hi just been reading messages from the last couple of weeks and wanted to post for Londonsupertrooper
I was in the same position as you with a 10 year old and secondary infertility. New partner but the problem was with me with fsh at 13 and Amh was 0.25
We started ivf when I was 41 ( I could have been referred on NHS up to age 42 but doc said 8 month waiting list. Went privately and did IUI, then first IVF I didn't respond to drugs so abandoned and thought that was it but tried again and got 6 eggs - perfect one was put back in but got bfn. Next attempt only got 2 eggs both of them fertilised and both went back in. I had a beautiful healthy baby boy named Connor 6 weeks ago, just before my 43rd birthday. Odds were really against us but it worked out - if this one hadn't worked I would have considered the donor route but I had to try first with my own.....
Hello to everyone else and sorry for the essay but hearing others success stories when I was feeling desperate kept me going so I hope this helps...
Don't stop believing 
vallinnapod ·
29/09/2013 20:57
Hello from my holidays 
Not great here. I know it has only been a month but I am pretty down about the miscarriage at the moment. I don't want to go through IVF and potential failure and potential miscarriage again but desperate to give Ds a sibling IYSWIM?
Anyway. Done the provera. Will start pill tomorrow.
Just very, very sad. Wish I could stop counting the weeks pregnant I would have been.
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Pocket1 ·
30/09/2013 05:51
Vallina sweetie so sorry you're down. It's totally understandable. But previous mc doesn't mean problems next time - I have proved that.
The whole AC thing is so tough emotionally, physically and mentally. But women are strong. We are strong. And capable of amazing things.
Hang on in there. 
DSB
wellerbabe ·
02/10/2013 12:00
LST wow that's amazing news - understand you will be cautious during the early stages so fingers crossed for you.
Frosticle ·
02/10/2013 23:18
Just popped in briefly to say hello to all you lovely ladies!
We're giving it another go with donor eggs and have been given a fertilisation date of 10 October - exactly two weeks short of a year since our last attempt.
Fabulous to hear all the success stories from those of you who were going through the process around the same time as me last year.
Pocket1 ·
03/10/2013 04:35
LST congrats that's brilliant news.
Hey Frosticle, great to hear from you. I've got everything crossed for you and your next cycle.
Big hello to old buddies Beginning and Mini
Waves to everyone else. Hope everyone is doing well.
DSB
prambo2thereturn ·
03/10/2013 15:55
I'm here to roar Vall on: come on, sweetheart, you can do this. Now is the time to breathe deeply and silence the demons in your head. Here, have these, they're very expensive: 
Frosticle ·
03/10/2013 19:39
Many thanks, Pocket and Prambo!
What will be, will be! I feel optimistic about it but let's see how it goes. Everything is going v smoothly so far.
Prambo, congratulations on your pregnancy!!! Re last year's DE, everything seemed to be going well right up until the 20 week scan when a number of serious heart defects were detected which couldn't be fixed. Ultimately, our little one's life wasn't viable. As she grew bigger her heart wouldn't have been able to cope and she would have struggled then died. I had the pregnancy terminated at exactly 5 months. It was a heart-breaking decision - terribly, terribly sad - but I believe the kindest thing to do. That was in March. I had to wait a few months for my body to recover before trying again but to reach the top of the waiting list at the clinic. The UK clinic we used last time have sent through 3 potential matches which - to our minds - weren't good matches so we decided to go to Spain, to get things moving. Yes, we're using embryoscope and I'm interested to see how that goes. Did you use that? How was it? The clinic will do either 3 or 5/6 day transfer.
I have a wonderful, naturally conceived, 8 yr old DD from a previous relationship and I so want a sibling for her (even if they won't be genetically related!).
Come on, Vall, let's do this together!
Big congratulations London - believe it and enjoy it!!
prambo2thereturn ·
03/10/2013 23:12
Oh, Frosticle, how tragic 
I am so, so sorry for your loss and I'm also sorry I forced you to recount your story on here. Please accept my apologies. I automatically assumed your last IVF effort must've produced a BFN. So sorry.
Yes, we paid extra for the embryoscope and our embies were taken to day five. I am still utterly astounded that this worked for us and massively grateful. I wish you the very, very best of luck, Frosticle
vallinnapod ·
04/10/2013 10:44
Thanks for the cheer squad Prambo, oh, and the well expensivo flowers
Frosticle so good to hear from you. Heres to hand holding. I feel I will need a lot of it, don't know about you?
Really wobbly here. Want tp get started but almost dreading a result either way. A BFN would be devastating, but a BFP would be so fraught.
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prambo2thereturn ·
04/10/2013 12:10
Totally expected, Vall, of course you are scared either way. This is largely out of your hands so make sure you are doing stuff to fill your mind with good and positive things. I largely know how you feel: when I flew to the Czech Republic for my DE IVF it was with great trepidation that it wouldn't work. The money had been loaned to us by my dad and there was no more to come. At 42 years-old I had no more chances and the pressure I felt was massive. DE IVF is hugely successful (as you know) but you mustn't fear what could happen after a BFP. That shit will drive you crazy and is spectacularly unhelpful. One day at a time. We are here for you
Pocket1 ·
04/10/2013 19:10
Dear Bugsy how totally lovely to hear from you. Thank you for your kind words - I got there in the end. I've often wondered how you are honey. What's going on with you? Pm me if you'd rather as I'd love to know how you are x
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prambo2thereturn ·
05/10/2013 12:59
Lovely attitude. Please keep us involved, I would love to be cheering you on (if that's not too much pressure!)
Don't Stop Believing, Lucky, this is your best chance yet
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