Assisted Conceptions (and all the bits in-between) Volume 11

[vallinnapod]

I really hope I haven't missed someone else starting this!

Hi just been reading messages from the last couple of weeks and wanted to post for Londonsupertrooper
I was in the same position as you with a 10 year old and secondary infertility. New partner but the problem was with me with fsh at 13 and Amh was 0.25
We started ivf when I was 41 ( I could have been referred on NHS up to age 42 but doc said 8 month waiting list. Went privately and did IUI, then first IVF I didn't respond to drugs so abandoned and thought that was it but tried again and got 6 eggs - perfect one was put back in but got bfn. Next attempt only got 2 eggs both of them fertilised and both went back in. I had a beautiful healthy baby boy named Connor 6 weeks ago, just before my 43rd birthday. Odds were really against us but it worked out - if this one hadn't worked I would have considered the donor route but I had to try first with my own.....

Hello to everyone else and sorry for the essay but hearing others success stories when I was feeling desperate kept me going so I hope this helps...

Don't stop believing

Hello from my holidays

Not great here. I know it has only been a month but I am pretty down about the miscarriage at the moment. I don't want to go through IVF and potential failure and potential miscarriage again but desperate to give Ds a sibling IYSWIM?

Anyway. Done the provera. Will start pill tomorrow.

Just very, very sad. Wish I could stop counting the weeks pregnant I would have been.

Vallina sweetie so sorry you're down. It's totally understandable. But previous mc doesn't mean problems next time - I have proved that.

The whole AC thing is so tough emotionally, physically and mentally. But women are strong. We are strong. And capable of amazing things.

Hang on in there.

DSB

Hello Ladies,

Thanks again for the welcome and the information.

weller thanks for popping in and sharing your experience.

I have only just resigned myself to look into IVF and possibly even donor eggs. I went throught the rage and unfairness stage and the why me tirade. I guess you can say that I made peace with my body for not giving me DC2. But this thread has brought me luck and miracles do happen. I hope you do not mind but after TTC for 13 cycles & been diagnosed with secondary infertility , I have got my BFP yesterday. I still can't believe and it seems unreal. I'm not accepting the BFP until I pass the stage where I had my miscarriage 2 years ago. So roll on to week 9!

Best of luck to you all in your TTC journey.

LST xxx

Hello I just wanted to pop back in to see how everyone is doing, I lost this thread, Sunny hope the twins are doing well and getting bigger every day.
Weller congratulations on the arrival of Connor.
Vanilla sorry to hear about your loss, take care of yourself.
I just wanted to say that this time last year I started IVF will donor sperm with less than 20% chance of success a year later I am a very happy mummy of a 4 month old little boy, he was born 6 weeks early and spent 3 weeks in SCBU but he is now doing very well (and huge!) don't stop believing

Hi all, been away for a little while but i keep checking in on news. It is a year to the day exactly that we had our egg retrieval and I still remember just how tough the process was. Our beautiful little girl is napping upstairs, fifteen weeks today, so dreams can come true. Don't stop believing!

LST wow that's amazing news - understand you will be cautious during the early stages so fingers crossed for you.

Just popped in briefly to say hello to all you lovely ladies!

We're giving it another go with donor eggs and have been given a fertilisation date of 10 October - exactly two weeks short of a year since our last attempt.

Fabulous to hear all the success stories from those of you who were going through the process around the same time as me last year.

LST congrats that's brilliant news.

Hey Frosticle, great to hear from you. I've got everything crossed for you and your next cycle.

Big hello to old buddies Beginning and Mini

Waves to everyone else. Hope everyone is doing well.

DSB

Sorry, big hello also to old buddy Weller... These sleepless nights kill my concentration?

Just popped on to wave at pocket often wondered how you were doing. So pleased for you.

To everyone else DSB

I'm here to roar Vall on: come on, sweetheart, you can do this. Now is the time to breathe deeply and silence the demons in your head. Here, have these, they're very expensive:

Oooh, Frosticle, good luck. What happened last year? Are you with the same clinic? Are you having embryo monitoring? Are they taking the embryos to five days? Is your DE IVF in this country? Sorry for the inquisition, I'm 18wks pregnant with my first baby after DE IVF in the Czech Republic.

Pram, 42, 18+5

Deffo don't stop believing!

Many thanks, Pocket and Prambo!

What will be, will be! I feel optimistic about it but let's see how it goes. Everything is going v smoothly so far.

Prambo, congratulations on your pregnancy!!! Re last year's DE, everything seemed to be going well right up until the 20 week scan when a number of serious heart defects were detected which couldn't be fixed. Ultimately, our little one's life wasn't viable. As she grew bigger her heart wouldn't have been able to cope and she would have struggled then died. I had the pregnancy terminated at exactly 5 months. It was a heart-breaking decision - terribly, terribly sad - but I believe the kindest thing to do. That was in March. I had to wait a few months for my body to recover before trying again but to reach the top of the waiting list at the clinic. The UK clinic we used last time have sent through 3 potential matches which - to our minds - weren't good matches so we decided to go to Spain, to get things moving. Yes, we're using embryoscope and I'm interested to see how that goes. Did you use that? How was it? The clinic will do either 3 or 5/6 day transfer.

I have a wonderful, naturally conceived, 8 yr old DD from a previous relationship and I so want a sibling for her (even if they won't be genetically related!).

Come on, Vall, let's do this together!

Big congratulations London - believe it and enjoy it!!

Oh, Frosticle, how tragic I am so, so sorry for your loss and I'm also sorry I forced you to recount your story on here. Please accept my apologies. I automatically assumed your last IVF effort must've produced a BFN. So sorry.

Yes, we paid extra for the embryoscope and our embies were taken to day five. I am still utterly astounded that this worked for us and massively grateful. I wish you the very, very best of luck, Frosticle

Thanks for the cheer squad Prambo, oh, and the well expensivo flowers

Frosticle so good to hear from you. Heres to hand holding. I feel I will need a lot of it, don't know about you?

Really wobbly here. Want tp get started but almost dreading a result either way. A BFN would be devastating, but a BFP would be so fraught.

Totally expected, Vall, of course you are scared either way. This is largely out of your hands so make sure you are doing stuff to fill your mind with good and positive things. I largely know how you feel: when I flew to the Czech Republic for my DE IVF it was with great trepidation that it wouldn't work. The money had been loaned to us by my dad and there was no more to come. At 42 years-old I had no more chances and the pressure I felt was massive. DE IVF is hugely successful (as you know) but you mustn't fear what could happen after a BFP. That shit will drive you crazy and is spectacularly unhelpful. One day at a time. We are here for you

Sorry, Vall, I'm waffling about DE when yours is normal IVF but the sentiment is the same.

Dear Bugsy how totally lovely to hear from you. Thank you for your kind words - I got there in the end. I've often wondered how you are honey. What's going on with you? Pm me if you'd rather as I'd love to know how you are x

Frosticle, I'm holding your other hand my love

Hi all

Sorry I've not had much contact - work had been keeping me pretty busy of late. So good to see the group is so busy and some of our lovely ladies are stopping by.

val frosticle I completely know how you feel - onthenone hand putting yourself forward for that BFP could be magical especially this side of Christmas, but constantly lingering is the pain and heartache of another BFN. But my loves - dig deep it could be your time and look how many of our ladies are reporting back with their babies in their arms.

Congrats LST you must be over the moon.

Waves to all xx

Lucky, where are you up to right now? Any firm plans made?

prambo official answer - 'going with the flow'
We can start the mock cycle for our double donor round in Czech on my next period and then the actual double donor round in November. We've decided if we are ready - we will go for it, if we are not we will miss that month. So either pre or post Christmas we will be Czech cycling. We are taking the pressure off and keeping it all low key. After all if we go for a double donor there is no real rush at 35 we figure!

But in all honesty we haven't given up the hope of our miracle so its nice to be trying natrually again as we know stranger things have happened to IVF couples!

Lovely attitude. Please keep us involved, I would love to be cheering you on (if that's not too much pressure!)

Don't Stop Believing, Lucky, this is your best chance yet

Thanks prambo. I shall be keeping up to date with all the lovely ladies here and hoping some magical mirracles come this way for us all :-)