TTC#2 - very exciting!! anyone want to join??!

[sweetju]

Hi! I am due my period in the next few days (I hope! that's a first ;)) then I will officially be ttc! Very exciting times...

So I thought I would start a nice friendly thread so we can go on our ttc journey together!!

I have been taking folic acid when I remember the last few weeks or so and came off the pill a few months ago.. I'm not entirely sure of my cycles yet, but think I'm due thurs or fri..

So come say hi! x

London I've have a similar fantasy - in it I suddenly finding out I'm pregnant and the first trimester is already over, and I've been blissfully unaware and doing all sorts of stuff I would have been too scared to had I have known.

In it, I love the look on people's faces (especially Mr Hairy's) when they find out.

It must have been hell on earth waiting to find out if your precious last pregnancy was viable. I know I am so incredibly 'lucky' that everything went wrong relatively quickly, and obviously, and I didn't need any medical intervention.

Bridget no medical intervention was required for me. The bleeding and spotting sort of gave it away and I had to have a scan at 6 weeks. I was told go home and wait for the miscarriage to start. And that if I hadn't miscarried by a certain date then I would need to go to hospital to get it done. I miscarried a day before the date I was meant to have the procedure.

In many ways I think TTC is the easy bit for me. By that I mean little stress and no worries. I know that as soon as I get the BFP all my worries will surface and I will be on tenterhook to see whether I can get past a certain date and x number of weeks pregnant.

A friend of mine had to have IVF. When the eggs where implanted she was told to go home & rest for 2-3 weeks. She took a month of work and didn't move from her sofa. The only exercise that she did was her finger when changing the TC channel! Somehow I don't think that we can get away with this every 2 weeks can we?!

And apologies in advance if there are any typos. I generally type without proof reading my post!

Hi Bridget its been abit Of a relief finding out I'm further and not long till my next scan, it's sO scary I no I'm on edge but tbh in quite lucky my do owns his own buisnesses and he doesn't want me to work, which at a time like this is bliss. And tbh she was the second physcic I had seen never believed in it but thinking back to the woman I seen in Blackpool said a few things that have do far come true, soo just waiting for the other half to come true lol.
And. I sometimes wish that I wasn't such A physco path and didn't monitor everything and realised I Was pregnant like 4 months down the line saves all the worry,and today we went and applied for our wedding paperwork so in 16 days I'll b 3 to start booking dates wooo xxx

London you are absolutely right - no matter how stressful ttc can be it does not compare to the anxiety I'll feel once I (fingers crossed) get another BFP.

The 48 hours or so between my December BFP and the time I started bleeding were awful - the anxiety was overwhelming. It probably sounds crazy - because I was truly gutted it didn't stick - but in a strange way it was also a relief. I sort of felt like I could breathe again.

How are things looking for next month? Will your overseas trip scupper things, or are the dates ok after all?

kbaby - a wedding too! Now I am completely as Mr Hairy is dragging his heels on that one (I think he has weird ishoos)

Hope everyone else is doing ok this week. I can't believe it is only Tuesday, I'm already looking forward to the weekend.

Hi bridget! The prognosis for this this month b'dancig is looking good . The overseas trip has been postponed but only once I agreed to go.... I really do have a weird boss!
I have set a reminder on my phone to get up earlier on certain days next week so I can use the OPK, and if I get my smiley face then we will DTD in the morning - hence getting up earlier. I think that romance no longer figures in this equation!
bridget, what are the issues with Mr Bridget for not wanting to get married? If this is too personal to talk about then ignore my question.

kbaby whoop whoop for getting married! This is turning to be a truly fabulous start for 2013 for you. Any idea of when you'd like to be married? Before or after having the baby?

Right, I must get back to work. I wish you all a great day ahead!

Thanks London well b4 the baby hopefully but finding something to fit nicely while I'm a lump will be hard lol but want to get it out the way tbh, and be ready for fingers crossed when my next rascal joins the clan. I no its finally looking up thank god thought things were never going to go right, I think this year is going to surprise all of us before you no it you'll all be moaning about sickness and be well and truly pregnant ;-) and b4 I go London how are you finding the smileys? Because loads of people I no using them switched to the cbfm to save money. Was just wondering if you had tried it I personally brought one used it gave me false negatives but I still Beleive it's a decent machine as my aunty and sister both fell v quik with it even after having the depo.

Hi Bridget oh Beleive me it's took a while for me to get him here lol they certainly do drag there feet, and keep in hope I'm sure at one point I Was in coo coo land lol is make Beleive it was all going to happen but it will. Xxx

Afternoon second-timers, hope all is well on this cold and frosty day.

Just allowing myself one post whilst I eat my lunch - then I've got heaps of stuff to do.

Hmmm, London, I think there are a lot of different reasons why Mr Hairy isn't keen on tying the knot. A big factor is the cost as I think he feels under pressure to have an expensive 'do' (lots of his peer group really pushed the boat out). We certainly haven't got a big pot of savings to dip into. My family is also massive and it would cause no end of trouble if even the most distant relative didn't get invited.

On the emotional side of things; his parent have very odd living arrangements even though they are married and I don't know if that has had an impact. He is also an intensely private person so I think the idea of publicly declaring his love makes him feel very uneasy.

He is also a stubborn bugger who is always happy with the status quo (as his attitude to a potential DC2 illustrates).

I don't doubt his commitment to Mini Bridget and I though. We jointly own the house, I'm the beneficiary of his life assurance, pensions, will etc.. and he generally works his arse off to benefit us as a family. He just seems to have a huge mental block at the idea of getting married.

Anyway, I hope all of the above is true and it's not really that he just doesn't love me enough

p.s. might have to pick your brains later about the smiley face OPks too.

p.p.s Glad the work trip is off for the time being - your boss seems rather strange.

Kbaby Great news from you!

London good your trip can be made to fit your needs

Bridget Mr HB sounds very committed to you. Do you think he could be persuaded into a trip abroad / quick visit to the register office with just the 3 of you maybe 4 ? Might take the pressure off all round.

Quick update from me: did my weekly weigh-in today and have lost 1lb this week which I'm happy with! Last week was the kick start. Onward and upward.

Bridget I?m sure Mr Hairy loves & cares for you & mini bridget. The issues you have described are probably why he is reluctant to get married. Especially when he feels that he has to keep up with peers in terms of wedding type, size, venue etc. I was actually going to suggest what fridge recommended in her post above. How about a quiet wedding with just the immediate family present?

kbaby I have been using the Clearblue digital ovulation sticks (no monitor) for all of my TTC journeys. I find them pretty accurate and it does say that the surge is detected 36-48 hours before ovulation. I did have a wobble when others were suggesting to test at 2pm or 10pm etc. I did that too but came to the conclusion that it didn?t matter anyway. When I tested at different times as recommended by others, I got my smiley OPKs at 6am, 2pm and 10 pm so I just carried on testing in the morning as usual. And plus it?s more comfortable than testing at others times as you cannot pass urine for 4hrs before testing.

Fridge very well done on your weight loss! I?ve actually managed to lose some weight too since joining slimming word in mid-November. It?s slow but it?s heading in the right direction. And for the first time in 6 years I?m now in the overweight category for my BMI?.? I am no longer obese ? yay! How much weight do you need to lose? You ahve told me before but I can't remember...

Bridget My boss is not odd at all. He is trying to make my working environment very uncomfortable for me so that I leave! We haven?t got a lot of work in the UK and most of my jobs are from overseas especially the Middle East. In his own twisted way, he wants me to take up the job that I was offered in the ME but I declined as it meant that I only see my DS for less than an hour a day. Since then he?s being very difficult and generally unpleasant but in a very subtle way . I hate him but needs must and I just take whatever he dishes out. I?m praying that I get pregnant quickly so that I can day dream about the baby and my maternity leave!

Just bumping - for some reason this thread went AWOL for me. I had to find it using the search tool.

London thanks and well done on your weight loss too!

To get back to 'goal weight' I need to lose another 3 stone... I'd feel a lot happier if I could lose a stone to start with, as then I can get back to wearing lots of clothes that don't fit at the moment! However, in line with your 'only overweight' achievement, I am now just 'obese' instead of 'ridiculously obese' or whatever the category is Slow and steady is the healthiest way, right?

Your boss sounds annoying. Let's hope he gets an upways/sideways/different workplace move himself - these things can happen..

Just watching out for snow now. It's falling here but waiting to see whether it's enough to cause a 'snow day' tomorrow.

fridge I need to lose a similar amount of weight as you. I have however set my own target weight at Slimming World and I'm about 1 stone and a bit away from that. My target weight is the same weight that I was when I found out that I'm pregnant with my DS & I'll still be in the overweight category for my BMI.

Whereabouts in the country are you? I'm in Surrey and so far we have no snow. It's predicted to snow tomorrow though. My DS is so looking forward to that.

bridget you are quiet today. I hope that all is well with you.

Evening Fridge and fellow thread-ers,

London and Fridge - well done on the lost pounds < hangs head in shame and admits to not losing an ounce yet >

I think eventually Mr Hairy and I will go down the very small wedding/just pop to the register office route but I shall just have to wait patiently for his proposal. Given how he feels about it, it absolutely has to be his idea. I also want that one romantic gesture, given he has yet to do any.

Funny chap really; he will do lots of things to show he cares, like buy my favourite pickles or do the ironing I planned to do later, but he'd never even think to buy me flowers or write a loving note. Sometimes I just want a teeny bit of the mushy stuff too.

London you have my sympathies, your work situation sounds really difficult. Good on you for sticking at it though.

No other news really. We may have snow tomorrow (Mini Bridget is hoping I'll be pulling her home from school on the sledge), I can feel a painful spot brewing on my chin ( nice ) and Mr H still isn't home from work. It is going to be touch and go whether I can persuade him to DTD later.

Verdict still out on the clearblue smiley OPKs - had a weird random smile on CD 12 which I couldn't repeat all day and my cheapies were giving negatives too. Negatives the next day. Then lots of smiley faces on CD 14 (couldn't resist multiple testing...felt like I was passing an exam)

When I was scanned with Mini Bridget the sonographer wrote "high BMI" on some notes. I was and asked her did she mean me or the baby? (I considered myself a 'normal-ish' size 14/16 at the time). She meant me

Where in Surrey are you London? If you can say without outing yourself.

Bridget pour a glass of wine and have it waiting for his return? Where in your cycle are you now, I've lost track? (I love the internet. Where else could you ask this stuff? )

London I am in the north west. Just been to peek outside and while it was snowing earlier when I returned home, it's stopped now and I can't see any on the ground. So boo to the idea of a snow day tomorrow, but then again I'd already arranged to work from home and therefore can make a big pot of coffee and stay by the fireside. Win win I think. My guess is that The Daily Snow Express and others have got a bit carried away with their predictions.

Bridget From what I remember you do not have that much weight to lose do you? To put it into context my BMI is just under 30. My target is to get my BMI to around 27. My GP informed me that I can carry on with SW even when I fall pregnant so in theory I should carry on losing weight safely. Albeit it?s only 0.5-1lbs loss per week but still, it?s better than nothing.

Did you DTD with Mr Hairy? Are you ovulating now? My faithful smiley OPKs have been OK so far (touch wood). Have you tried other brands?
By the way, are you also based in Surrey? I?m near Guildford.

Fridge I hope that decaffeinated coffee that you are drinking? I have cut down my caffeine to one cup of coffee a day and moved down to decaffeinated tea. Tastes horrible but hopefully I?ll get used to it. Your working from home sounds idyllic. I?m at work now and it started snowing ? with heavy snow predicted for later on this morning. I?m getting worried about driving & picking up my DS from school.

And very well done for moving down the BMI category ? it?s a hard slog isn't it? Are you exercising at all?

Morning all - Snowing here too!!! Mini Bridget sooo excited on the way to school. Bless her cotton socks, she sang Christmas songs all the way to school and declared that this was "the best Christmas ever!"

No action whatsoever with Mr Hairy last night - poor chap was just too knackered. He didn't get home 'til gone 11pm. I was a bit gutted to be honest as I'd gone to the effort of shaving my legs! This month has been a write-off to be honest. I'm trying to think of it as a testing my OPKs month rather than a ttc month.

I'm theoretically entering the 2ww about now - but realistically there is nothing to wait for (except AF).

Fridge I'm from the North West - grew up in the town famous for making hats and now home to the hat museum. Would love to move back to the South Manchester area but it's never going to happen. Mr H lurves the Souff and his work is very tied to London too.

London I am really not that far from you...just further east (I'll PM you as I'm paranoid)

Fingers crossed with the driving and the snow. I think schools may shut early around here today..

School has texted/emailed to say that "if we are concerned about weather conditions we may collect our children from 1.30pm"

The thing is, I'm not really that concerned as we don't have to drive and I can pull Mini B home on a sledge if needs be. However, there is no way in the world she is going to want to stay in school if half her class are leaving early.

Hmmm, I guess she's getting a half day today...

Same here Bridget. Not sure whether to pick up DS or leave him there.

I'm home now and taking the rest of the day as annual leave. Sigh, I so didn't want to start taking annual leave so early in the year.

It's terrible here near the midlands they advised us that it would be easy sending kids to school, but picking them up might be harder, so I decided to keep my dd of today snuggled up watching rio in the sofa it looks do cold out.
And to top it of I have been craving peti fleu rice pudding since yesterday but I'm not even going to attempt driving in this weather let's see if I can persuade dp to do it on his travels lol.

Hey London I'd probs go now it can only get worse if you have to drive :-( xxx

The school is only 10mins walk from home. My DH is looking for the sledge but we can't find it :-(

Aww your ok then, not far to walk atall. I hate snow and my dd wants to make a snowman I might try brave it later lol. Yep the kids love the sledges in this weather. X

London that is annoying..I'm resigning myself to picking DD up.

I sooo hope she doesn't want to play out in the snow though.

I hate to be an old misery guts but I've got cold and damp on the school run, cold and damp walking the dog around the heath and I'll get cold and damp picking her up again...I really don't fancy getting cold and damp playing outside too.

I hover around 12 and I'm 5ft 6 - so my BMI is just over 27. I could do with weighing 11 stone really to be just inside the healthy zone.

I'm my own worst enemy really I can feel the difference it makes to my prolapse when I even put on a couple of lbs. I really don't know why that alone doesn't motivate me into action

I'm very much a size 18 but, when there have been threads on weight/dress sizes on mumsnet, other people with similar stats have been in much smaller sizes!!! I don't understand it - either I'm a very odd shape or some people are telling little porkie pies.