Those waiting to ttc... (slightly pointless thread)

[LoveYouForeverMyBaby]

We're ttc #2 in dec and I know it's a really silly thing to get excited about, but just started taking folic acid and feeling very excited about it!

Sorry for the pointless thread.

tigerseye sorry you have your AF today but you could look at it like its one less AF to get through before you ovulate and get your bfp. Every AF you get (and hopefully that will be the last one for 9 months!) is one step closer to your bfp as it means you're only two weeks away from ovulating.

This is true! I did idly wonder earlier if this might be my only one for a while. But think that is wishful thinking!

Had a great chat with my mentor at work today she suggested some very interesting alternative roles within the same firm that would not require such crazy hours and allow me more flexibility for DD (I am worried I am missing out on her childhood and also thinking about future DCs) but I should still get same sort of pay... We shall see!

Off topic: saw doc about my hair falling out and am having blood tests done although he thinks it might be post traumatic stress related (had a really tough first half of 2012 with job still new and moved house and family stuff)

Evening all :-) How nice to get home before 7pm - thought I'd get on the computer to do some work (post-grad exam in January) but somehow drifting back here like usual! MadameLeBean sounding good about your job.

Bridget I loved your petit filous story... I thought you might blame it on your dog - my parents' pooch goes mad over licking out the yoghourt pots!

Fingers crossed AF doesn't come next week but either way going to try and stay strong, not test too quickly.

By the way if anyone (like me) just feels like curling up under a blanket (sympathetic hug going to tiger-eye) check out some of the 'funniest things in labour' type of threads - had me in tears with laughter, excellent medicine!

Off to scourge the fridge for something edible so I don't have to go back out into the horrible weather... oh yes and then back to study of course :-S

I would like to join too but not sure when I will be able to start ttc. Cycle a bit all over the place atm following 2mmc.

Marking place. Be back later.

Evening all,

Hello Sunshine and Witches :)

I always understood that the best way to conceive is just to have sex every other day apart from when AF is visiting. Then there is always sperm around when you ovulate. I used to temperature test before I got out of bed, which worked, you do have a temp spike at the right time, which I can't remember when that was now, but with the Boy now I'm certain I wouldnt be able to remember when he wakes, which is usually four am

madame, your chat with your mentor sounds good!

tiger hope you feel better soon

flowers, did you find something tasty to eat? I think I might have some tea and toast before I go to bed early and hope I might not get an early wake up tomorrow, if this goes on, DS will be an only as neither DH and I have any energy to DTD!!!!

Hi everyone,
Welcome sunshine and witches.

Sore lip, I am not moving you off the list yet!
Like Bridget said, it's good you can talk about your ups and downs with your oh.

I was enjoying bedtime with my 2 dd's today, and thinking they are great! I don't really need another one, do I? But loved watching my older dd play with a 2 yr old after school, too.

Laptop, I recommend a website called fertility friend for ttc info. You don't have to get too involved in charting if you feel it would be too much, but you can use the program to record your dates.

Hope everyone didn't get a blast of rain to fight through on their way home tonight. It's horrid out there!

Witchesbrewandbiscuits so very sorry to hear of your 2 mmc Life can be shit sometimes

I love your nickname - makes me nostalgic for Halloween and all those smileys with black hats on.

Right, I'm going to have to rattle through this message as I need to get busy with a glue gun

Bridget. . . Can you recommend an app?

Hope the glueing goes ok!

Hello to Sunshine and Witches!

Weather's horrible here too. Luckily I got out of work a bit early and managed to get home before the rain got too bad.

I can't really imagine myself as a mum yet either. It's not that I don't want to be, but that it's a really really massive leap to take. The most I've been responsible for looking after up to now is my cat (and budgets at work, but they're easier than cats or babies...) and it's quite scary to think a tiny little person will be completely dependant on me.

DP started making baby name lists the other night. Scary.

LOL I reckon I'm past the twice-nightly stage too!

Thanks for everyone's supportive words. I have treated myself to a decleor facial serum followed by Neals yard night cream. My skin feels all plumped. AF takes her toll, perfect skin for months then 2 days off the pill and ping! Threatening to go spotty.

Better go to bed, the dog is grumpy because of the stormy weather and his evils are getting annoying now. As if the weather is all my fault...

Hee, hee, good old loopy lurcher. Silly owner, don't you know it is your fault!

Daft dog here keeps sitting by the kitchen door 'asking' to go outside. She doesn't need a wee, she just wants to bark loudly at the neighbour's rattling gate. She thinks she's so very brave...

Good night all x

Thanks for the warm welcome everyone! :D TTC is so frustrating isn't it, it's so ironic that u spend so many years trying to prevent pregnancy and believe a boy just has to look at u funny to nearly knock u up!Lol... I'm having a very anxious month at the minute, we r using the withdrawal method as contraception at the mo ( sorry if TMI) but my LP is now 2 days later than normal and I'm either stressing I'm infertile with a messed up irregular cycles or that I'm pregnant. Obviously the later wud b my favoured choice! But it's great being able to share this stuff on here otherwise I might drive my poor husband to divorce! Lol

P.s tigers and Bridget ur comments about ur dogs made me lol, thanks x

Gosh Sunshine, I'd say you are definitely in 'time to test' territory. fingers crossed for you.

if you're just having a longer cycle than normal, don't worry, that can happen for all sorts of reasons and is rarely a sign of anything being wrong.

Hi all, still no internet at home but hopefully it'll be up and running tonight. Still - must resist spending every free minute trawling MN and obsessing over TTC. I go back and forth- some days I'm really excited and spend hours looking up names and working out potential dates for trying, testing, announcing, due.. then other days (particularly when DD is acting up) I wonder why on earth I want another one. I can empathise with you Sorelip sometimes on the worst days I think "Noo I can't do this again!". I try to remind myself that another child will have a completely different temperament and that there are some things I will know better next time.

The original plan was to have a relaxed attitude - more stopping-trying-not-to-get-pregnant than actually TTC but I'm pretty sure that's already gone out the window before we've even started. I like the idea of having some pretense of control over this conception - DD was unplanned. I still think I'll try to avoid the ovulation tests, cm checking and temp taking as I think it will stress me out and scare my DH. I will chart my cycle though as it will probably be useful if getting pregnant takes time. We can spend the first couple of months DTD every day/other day then take a more directed approach after that if needed.
The funny thing is I think my libido has gone up just at the thought of TTC!

Paintedcat I was 23 when I had my DD so pregnant at 22. It did feel strange to be the youngest at my post-natal group as I hadn't thought that being in my 20's would make me a "young mum" all the other mums were mid 30s - early 40's. I don't think I've ever felt judged for my age and I've since met a lot of parents my age and younger.
There's always talk about the 'right age' to have children but it's such an individual thing.

Welcome more newbies! I do love this thread (did I say that already?) Its great to read about other people waiting and very exciting to read about people already trying - it helps me look forward to January

sunshine poas and update us! We're on full ttc mode at the moment and not feeling as excited as i was when I first started the thread. Feel anxious, scared of secondary infertility, worried. Not having a great day today. Need I someone to give me a stern talking too and tell me I'm being stupid!

Sorry you're having a bad day LoveYouForever I'm afraid I'm not very good at being stern.. Just try to relax and enjoy your "bonus month". Have some nice baths with your DP, maybe share a bottle of wine and pretend the DTD is just for the pure fun of it. It's natural to feel anxious I think we'll all have worries and wobbly moments.
What is it that is worrying you the most about TTC?

Hello all and newcomers, good to see some more excited mums to be in the room....but my news is that last night, having started to get down and dirty, DH negated ANY opportunity at all of conceiving by ramming a johnnie on almost as soon as he had a stiffie...which was most confusing as I thought we'd discussed everything and had agreed to get on and TTC. Evidently not. So, I think I need a couple more months of brainwashingdiscussing the merits of having three children before I can officially say I'm TTCing...so please push me back to February 2013 on the TTC list and I'll follow your BFPs with joy until it's my go. Half heart broken but still positive that I will one day have a newborn in my arms (belonging to me).

One other question, what on earth is an AF?

Mythreeknights sounds like you and your DH have experienced some crossed wires. Did you get a chance to talk about it afterwards? Maybe he just forgot or fancied some sex just for fun.. Either way I hope you manage to uncross those wires soon [Smile]
Also AF is short for Aunt Flow

Hey all,

sorry for my going to bed early grump last night, feeling so much better though for it!

Mythreeknights sorry to hear about the crossed wires with your DH, am sure you can persuade him given time!

Hope you are feeling more positive LoveYourForever, why do you think that you might have problems conceiving? Am sure you don't have too long to wait till you get that BFP.

Paintedcat once you get your BFP you'll have nine months to get used to the idea and having your baby in your arms makes everything worthwhile I promise, I think in part it's why there is nine months conception, it's a big thing to get your head around...

Sunshine, if you POAS, hopefully you'll get the result you want!

Hope everyone has had a good day, I've been on annual leave and have written most of my xmas cards, had a wander round town and generally have a relaxed day

Right LoveYouForever time for some tough love