Gosh so much going on, so many of us having really hard times, it is very moving and hard to read. I just want to make everything ok for everyone.
kleine my lovie, about the IVF that is a big deal to contend with, how are you feeling about it? What sort of stats do your private clinic have? fx for a successful first cycle. Will your work be helpful over time off etc? I'm so sorry about the comment I made a few days ago about luteal phases and conception chances - i didn't know that you'd started IVF previously, I would never have said that otherwise. Was tactless in the extreme and i hugely apologise.
miasmummy thinking of you all lots. There is nothing useful any of us can say, but you are such an inspiration in the way you stand up for your daughter and the strength and love for her you exude. I hope today has given you the verdict you wanted. I think of Mia every time I see a tree with its autumn red/gold leaves (and that's a lot round here!)
blizy I second the others, how difficult to believe the results are all fine and then have further info ... Are they going to retest? Have they explained how much of a problem the low motility is? I imagine it's something that could be very problematic or hardly make a difference depending on severity but don't really know. ((hugs))
moomins wow you're getting there 
How are you feeling now you've passed 20 weeks? As you say, 23 weeks now, so every day from here on is a bonus. fx for another 17 weeks cooking time!!
angel a very happy birthday to little Phebs tomorrow xxx What's your plans?
blue so nearly there now! My top tip is bake a load of choccy brownies and freeze them ready for the postnatal ravenousness.
fan thank you so much for the babyloss thread, harrowing but beautiful.
green I posted on FB too but your Merryn is just gorgeous, such beautiful features and a very wise expression. Well done getting through DS's birthday, you are a very strong lady. Love to you, it must be such a bloody awful time.
We are ok here, very tired tbh, Freya's sleeping badly so we all are! Had our cavity wall insulation done this week and its already making a difference - have turned the heating back off, woop! We are also having a shite financial month - car tax x 2, car tyres had to be changed, exhaust fell off one car so needed fixing, and cat is poorly so already had a £220 vet bill and more to come as he needs a tooth op. Argh. Feel like walking round with tenners stapled to me for people to pick off 
But on the bright side we're getting apples out the garden which are very tasty.