Agree with breezy on the pre-seed, doubly so with the applicators not being anywhere near enough. You used to be able to buy separate applicators apparently, but can't anymore :( I only suggested conceive plus because brown was due to ovulate RSN and I don't know anywhere you can buy pre-seed in a store, I've only ever seen it online.
mollie Welcome, and again so sorry for your loss. Like brown if finances permitted I'd be doing IVF tomorrow, having come this far and done so much including SO, with nothing working so far. Unfortunately it's a huge expense but if your finances do allow, it might be worthwhile pursuing.
breezy Loving the 'wtf cycle' expression! I'm having one of those myself right now :( due, I think, to the maca I've been taking for the past 5.5 weeks - or at least, if it's not that, I haven't got a clue. I got strong cramps all evening at 8dpo and again, a bit lighter, 9dpo. And started getting all hopeful, like you do, thinking possibly implantation pains. Bbs were moderately sore, but then I often get that from ovulation anyway, so that isn't an indicator. However, 10dpo yesterday, as well as cramps I started spotting, and this morning the bbs are no longer sore at all - not even a bit. So I can only assume this means AF is coming some 4 days early - WTF indeed! :( If it weren't for the bbs having completely stopped hurting (remember I'm not on pred, so no masking of symptoms) I might still hold a little hope, but bbs that hurt and then stop generally means progesterone levels dropping - and that can only mean imminent AF.
I'm p*d off as I didn't read anywhere that maca could give you early AFs. Will be doing some more research; I will continue taking it for another month as apparently it's an adaptogen, so perhaps my body just needs to adapt to it. But if I get another early AF that'll be my trial of maca over! 
Just out of interest, what is Create's success rate for 'older ladies' with their natural IVF when compared to, say, ARGC or Lister's figures for 'older ladies', does anyone know?