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TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

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woody17 · 08/10/2012 08:28

Hi everyone - I've started the new thread as our original one is nearly full.

I really hope that this is the one where we all get our BFPs and don't have to experience any more heartache.

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messtins · 18/10/2012 14:23

Smile waves at Wooly

IBelieveInPink · 18/10/2012 16:13

Hi all. Looks like I will be joining you soon. Am currently in the middle of a mc, and as it my first one, not sure how long it will take etc. but we want to TTC as soon as possible.

Wow this baby making business is hard isn't it.
I may lurk for a little bit until I'm ready to be brave again, but just wanted to say hi.

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woody17 · 18/10/2012 16:27

Hi Ibelieveinpink - really sorry that you've had to join us. Hope you are getting support in RL. I've found that this thread has really helped me - most people that I know in RL have never had a mc and it's helped to have people to talk to on here who understand.

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful · 18/10/2012 17:01

pink I think I remember you from the conception threads. So very very sorry. Look after yourself.

Lolcbcblemonlime · 18/10/2012 17:32

Oh no pink I remember you too. Sorry u find yourself here hun. We are a lovely bunch though.

YorkshirePeanut · 18/10/2012 19:04

Hi pink, so sorry you've ended up here. Lurk away, post when you're ready - venting is good! Treat yourself gently xxx

IBelieveInPink · 18/10/2012 19:30

Thanks all. I will be sure to join in as soon as I can. Really appreciate your kind words. Times like this you realise how lovely people can be.

messtins · 18/10/2012 19:50

Hi Pink I'm sorry you are joining us Sad , not a club anyone wants to be in, but we are here whenever you are ready to try again.

littlepinkfizz · 18/10/2012 21:19

Hi fellowpink ,yes I recognise you too from another thread. You will find plenty of support and hugs here. Take it easy and lurk away Wink

AlmondFrangipani · 18/10/2012 21:44

Hi Girls!

Sorry I havent been around much. Was getting a bit obsessed with MN so thought I better ween myself off a bit. Hoping I have missed some BFP's??

Sorry to the newbies who have joined.

So my last cycle was completely messed up! Ovd on CD17 then got my AF on CD 25 which only lasted 2.5 days which was very short for me (they used to be 6 days) and was v light. Had a freak out as I realised I had a 9 day luteal phase which I read (Dr Google) makes it hard to get/stay pregnant. Been trying to be more positive this cycle - on CD14 now. We've been DTD regularly (almost EOD) since CD9. Not had any Smile so looks like it may be another WTF cycle. How many of these can I have??!!

Woody fingers crossed for you poas!
Yorkshire glad the acupuncture worked!! I had been having it for my migraines and it seems to be helping! My physio (who does the acupuncture) has inadvertently become my counsellor as I had to sign a form that said 'are you actively trying for a baby'. So then blurted out all about the mc and now it seems like every week we talk about it or something related! Random but seems to be helping.
Lol how are you? Where are you in your cycle?

janiewoozle · 18/10/2012 22:02

thanks yorkshire i heard back from the acupuncturist and she advised she could bring me in for a chat and see how it goes - although she recommends once a week x 4 weeks, then once every other week then once a month which sounds pricey. hope tomorrow goes well with your friend. my best friend is 22 weeks pg and i know she was having her 20 week scan around about when i had my D&C and i just realised that she probably didn't want to tell me about it. it is tough on both sides i guess. but if the friendship is strong then you know that each other will be there for each other through everything - good and bad.

unfortunately, in the meantime i heard back from the hospital where i had my d&c. i opted to have the cells tested after the op as this can give any results of problems etc. and they have told me it was a Molar pregnancy - simply explained as similar to a mole on the skin but in the uterus. they advise that its extremely dangerous to TTC for at least a year as they have to continually test to ensure that all traces of the last pg and cells have gone :( i've been in such a state since as i have my heart set on TTC again as soon as i get a positive on my ovulation tests :( i live in belfast but have to register with a hospital in london as it's quite rare and there's a 20% that chemotherapy would be required as treatment. i'm totally devasted and now panicking that it will take longer and things might never happen

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful · 18/10/2012 23:08

janie I'm so sorry about the molar pregnancy. A friend had this a few years back it is very treatable but horrible to give up a year of ttc.

Really sorry

janiewoozle · 19/10/2012 07:51

thanks whenshewasbad

i haven't slept a wink. we were heading away for a hotel break this weekend as a little treat after the MC and i was feeling really positive but now i'm just in a total state of despair. emotional rollercoaster doesn't come close.

Lolcbcblemonlime · 19/10/2012 07:51

Hi almond!
Long time no see!
I'm ok. Was really down when af arrived last month and felt very sorry for myself but have now picked up the pieces.
I'm on 8 dpo trying and failing not to get my hopes up too much this month. I've decided not to test until I'm late, if I get to that point, to avoid heartache. So I might test Sunday morning or even Monday.
Where are you on yours? How are you feeling?

messtins · 19/10/2012 08:02

janie I'm so sorry about the molar pregnancy. I know a few people from MC boards who have been through this and it has turned out ok for all of them, but prolonging the tests and worry and delaying TTC again is just awful. I hope you are still able to enjoy your weekend, but can understand this has just knocked the stuffing out of you again Sad

janiewoozle · 19/10/2012 08:37

Thank you messtins you're right, the stuffing has been totally knocked out of me. I'm normally a really positive person but I just can't bring myself to be that way. God knows how I'll get through work today Sad where's the fast forward button in life when you need it x

YorkshirePeanut · 19/10/2012 08:41

Oh janie that sucks. On the one hand thank goodness you did get the test done, but totally get that you just want to try again. So unfair. When will they let you know if it was complete or partial? I really hope no chemo is needed. I had a quick google (as you do) and nhs website says if no chemo needed then you can try to conceive again once your hcg levels are back to 0 which could be as soon as 2 months. Not trying to second guess your consultant but don't give up hope!

janiewoozle · 19/10/2012 09:18

thanks yorkshire i know i'm glad i opted to have the test done after the op - at least i know. i'm dreading getting the call from the team at the hospital so i am making a little list of questions i should ask them in case i get all flustered and sad. i'm trying to stay positive but it's just been such an up and down couple of months.

i think i need to have something to look forward to / take my mind off it - hate my job so i think if i can try to look for new work then at least my mind might concentrate on something else for a while. and holiday...a really good long holiday. To make it worse, my boss (who is well aware of MC etc.) came in this morning and his daughter was caught on being drunk at the weekend (she's nearly 17) and he started saying 'i'll tell you one reason you don't want kids....' i just thought it was the most insensitive thing ever. aaaaaaaarrrrgggghhhhh!!!!

sorry rant over x

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woody17 · 19/10/2012 09:51

Hi almond - good to hear from you. The wtf cycles are so frustrating. I've recently started having acupuncture - I feel like it's helping me.

Hope you are ok janie. I think you are right about the strength of the friendship though. I'm really sorry to hear about the molar pregnancy and having to wait to ttc. I hope you are getting lots of support in RL. Your boss sounds very insensitive. I wonder if it might help having some kind of adventure booked - is there something that you've always wanted to do that you wouldn't be able to if you were pregnant or perhaps with small children? Trek the Inca Trail? Scuba dive on the Great Barrier Reef? Climb Kilimanjaro? It's totally different but I had about a month in Australia about a month after my first mc - we'd booked if before I fell pg but it definitely helped me come to terms with what had happened.

Well, I'm still feeling nauseous (think it's getting worse), really tired and boobs are still sore and tender all over and aching/throbbing. Going to poas on Sunday/Monday. Looking back, I never get a BFP early - it's always at least on the day that af is due so for once, I'm not going to waste money doing it any earlier!

lol sounds like we might be poas together!

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janiewoozle · 19/10/2012 10:06

thanks woody you must know me well! i'm thinking work here for another few months, save like hell and then go on an adventure. come back, settle down and hopefully things might go our way. my boss actually just pulled me in to the meeting room just now and apologised as he could see i was already upset. i told him about the test results and had a bit of a breakdown. he told me to head out for an hour and get a coffee or go for a walk just or see if i can get an appointment with the doc to talk it over but i'm just going to battle on through as if i go out now i might never come back!

i'm so excited for you POAS! you better all get BFPs to get me through this!!!! fingers crossed for you all - i want to hear lots of news of sore boobs and morning sickness please!! in the meantime, i will be drinking copious bottles of red wine and eating rare steaks and goats cheese on your behalf for a year! xx

AlmondFrangipani · 19/10/2012 10:07

Janie very sorry to hear about the Molar pg. Fingers crossed Yorkshire is right. I have been trying to take a similar attitude about sorting out a few other things in my life (sounds like we have the same boss Wink). Applying for a uni course and getting a new house. Holidays may be on the back burner for awhile though!

Lol I really hope this is your month!! I am on CD15 now. No smiley on the opk yet (can you miss them?) but had quite a lot of watery CM. I am hoping that I ov soon and that my luteal phase is a bit longer than last month! It was a bit of a shock getting my period so early (especially as I bought 200 not quiet but you know what I mean pg tests ready for poas!).

Woody glad the acupuncture is helping. I think I may try some more as I really liked the little bit I have had. Fx for you too!

janiewoozle · 19/10/2012 11:26

almond yes sometimes bosses are great and sometimes they are monsters. i think the guilt set in with mine and he just gave me an envelope with 40 euros in it and told me to get some nice wine with my dinner while we away on our hotel break this weekend. so maybe not all bad. but i still want to leave!

thanks for all your kind messages girls, i don't know how i would get through this morning without MN! it's one of those things that you just can't talk to everyone about so this is a lifesaver / sanity saver right now!

MunchinMango · 19/10/2012 17:17

So sorry Jainie to hear about your molar pg. I'm sure you'd just like to draw a line under the whole mc and move on and this latest news isn't letting you. Fx you won't need any treatment. But as others have said plan something big to look forward to. Enjoy your weekend break.

Good luck to lol, woody and anyone else poas at weekend. We are long overdue another batch of Bfps.

Hello to everyone else and hope yous have a nice weekend.

Lolcbcblemonlime · 19/10/2012 17:59

Hi all. I'm not poas until a week on Sunday so woody first. I still have an eternity to go Sad before I can even think of poas.
Jen I've never heard of molar pg before. Sounds very sad. When will you hear for definite?

scaredmummy2B · 19/10/2012 19:15

Hey girls my scan this morning confirmed no heartbeat booked in for a d and c tomorrow :-( will be my 3rd mc in ten months x

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