TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

[woody17]

Hi everyone - I've started the new thread as our original one is nearly full.

I really hope that this is the one where we all get our BFPs and don't have to experience any more heartache.

Medusa thanks for posting that blog - I really liked some of the memorial ideas on there. Pity we can't send a general link to the what to say and what not to say to everyone we know!

scared hope you are ok today and that your friend was supportive yesterday.

baby thanks for the reminder about baby loss day. Sadly I know too many people in real life and in cyberspace who will have been lighting candles. I like your quote too.

suzy hope your dream turns out to be prophetic. I'm here hoping my last 37yr old egg is a good'un so know how you feel. I know in my heart a month can't make much difference but it sounds better.

Hi suzy the tests are just blood tests. I haven't had them taken yet as I need to get dh down to the path lab as well (he is away at the moment). Best of luck at your appointment, I hope your dr is more knowledgable than mine. He was a junior who just wanted to get the tests booked and sign me up for a trial.
I have an app booked for 6 weeks time to review the results.

missmedusa I had a day 21 progesterone test. Levels were 56 (I think, definitely in the 50s though). That seems ok. My gut feeling is my progesterone levels aren't the issue because I only start bleeding days after the pregnancy tests have gone negative.

Hi can I join please on tww after mc last month really hoping to get BFP again

Welcome ginger. Sorry about mc. Have u any kids? Hope u feeling ok. You seem positive enough!

Welcome ginger

Hi ginger sorry to hear about your mc. We are all in the same boat here so you will have plenty of support.

Hi everyone - have just been catching up on the thread since I got back from Rome last night. Had a lovely time - I absolutely love the city.

So, I am CD26. Still have almost constant nausea (apart from when I eat) and very sore, tender boobs. The tenderness has now spread from being almost under my arms to my entire boobs. They hurt all the time and are tender to the touch. The only time that they have been like this before is when I was pg the first time. I have tested by only had a BFN. Hoping it's just too early. I'm going to test on Saturday but as this is a wtf cycle, who knows what's going to happen. I have allowed myself to completely get my hopes up and I'm not sure how I'm going to take it if I don't get a BFP.

yorkshirepeanut are you going to continue with the acupuncture? I had another session today - I always feel really positive after it. I totally agree with your hatred of the phrase - "at least you know you can get pregnant". I also hate "just relax and it'll happen" and "it'll be worth the wait when it happens".

babyjames I thought that my dad (who's a dr) would be sceptical about the acupuncture but he wasn't at all - he was saying that in China, people have operations just using acupuncture for pain relief etc.

kittykat hope you're having a brilliant time in Egypt!

Sorry that af arrived posy

Hope you are doing ok scared

Hello quinandthem it's hard all the waiting, especially when it feels like everyone around us is getting pg. I think that it's after 3 mcs that the dr will refer you for tests. I try to really cut back in the 2ww - a nutritionist advised 1-2 glasses of good wine a week, preferably with food.

Hi janie - sorry that you've had to go through all of this.

when that's disappointing that the junior dr didn't seem to know his stuff. Hope that you get the test results back soon.

Fingers crossed that you get a BFP soon suzy

Hello gingerpanther - sorry that you've had to join us on here but it is a really nice and supportive thread. Hope that the 2ww goes by quickly for you.

Hi girls. Been a hard/strange couple of days this end. I rotated this week from postnatal ward to antenatal. I thought it would be easier than being on postnatal, but I've really struggled. A lady phoned up today while I was working on MAC (maternity assessment centre) at 12 weeks, with cramps and bleeding. It beyond broke my heart that I couldn't even help her (we don't take anyone under 14 weeks at that unit) and I had to send her elsewhere, I could hear how much she was trying not to cry on the phone and couldn't help remembering me doing exactly the same thing. Hung up and then fell apart a bit, which was hard because nobody at work knows about the mc so I got some funny looks. I hope this gets easier .

On the plus side, I think I'm sure AF has finally arrived. It's still not as heavy as a normal period, but it's a period. Have reset my eggtimer and am now CD2 I think, roll on shag week! Fx for a normal cycle length this time round....I'm feeling hopeful of a BFP for Christmas hope you're listening Santa

ginger welcome, sorry about your mc. Hope your 2ww is fruitful!

yorkshirepeanut that must have been really hard, especially as you can really empathise.

I'm not glad that af has arrived for you but glad that you know where you are in your cycle. Fx for Christmas BFPs!

Hi woody crossed posts with you! Rome-envious in a big way, glad you had a fab time. Am crossing all that is crossable for a bfp for you soon! Yep, going back to see acupuncturist tomorrow. Af arrived a few days after she prodded me last time, so lets see what she can do about stimulating ovulation! I'm so sceptical normally, but currently I would drink moonbeams and dance naked in the woods at midnight if I thought it would help with conception...

Thanks for the warm welcome everyone :) it was mc #3 :( but now actually ttc (well more than we were lol ) :) after the unplanned bumps now much better situation to ttc and after discussing it with OH for and in answer to your question lol no kids yet

Hi Ginger and welcome.

Yorkshire it must be really hard dealing with pregnant ladies at the moment, especially if they are going through problems (though maybe that's better than having to deal with the ones sailing through without a care in the world?). I'm sure your ability to empathise helped that woman - hope she is ok.
Yay for AF at last and CD1 and a new start though!

We'll all put a BFP top of our Christmas list - FC, get your act together...

Is there any poas on the horizon for us ladies?
Woody think you are next!

Yes, I was going to test Saturday/Sunday but I've been using this pregnancy test timing calculator

www.countdowntopregnancy.com/tools/pregnancy_test_calculator.php

This says that I'm not due until Monday. When I put in the dates of my two other pregnancies, it fits with those and when I was getting BFNs and BFPs so I might wait until Monday now.

I agree with you YorkshirePeanut - I'm willing to try anything!

I'm testing Monday too. (If af stays away).

Are you still getting symptoms Woody. I feel really sick but I think I just have dds stomach bug.

Yes when feeling really sick - think it's getting worse and my boobs are tender all over - they are so painful when I touch them and kind of ache all the time as well. This has been spreading.

FX for both of us on Monday!

yorkshire that would be tough on the heart strings. i've had 2 people telling me they're pg since i came back to work on monday and that's been tough enough. how long did you wait after MC to go for the accupuncture? i am really tempted to give it a shot and i found a place just near my house where they do it and specialise in ladies cycles / fertility issues etc. i had my d&c a fortnight ago and i've stopped bleeding but with my cycles before MC being 50 days, i know this one could be longer so wondering if it might help speed it up a little bit.

very excited to hear about the POAS ladies!! got everything crossed for you!! xx

janie I had acupuncture less than a week after I started bleeding with my last mc.

thanks yorkshire i wasn't really sure if it would be too soon but i think i'll try to get booked in for next week. i'll try anything!

Hi everyone, thought I'd pop in after posting on the miscarriage board (waves at Messtins) and thought I'd ask here too. Had a mc on 26 Sep and am now waiting for cycle to return to normal. My dilemma is whether to ttc before AF returns or wait until one normal cycle. I am 41 so time is of the essence but am prepared to wait if this increases the likelihood of a successful pg. Is your body physically ready to conceive again so quickly after a mc? Does anyone have any experience of this? Of course, this might all be hypothetical anyway, assuming that I get a BFP again...

Hi Wolly - I have two friends who got pg right after their mc. It really depends on how along you were when you miscarried. if it was a chemical pregnancy and you were, say, only 5 weeks along then I'd imagine you'd be good to go asap....whereas if you were much further along and closer to 12 weeks, I imagine it would take a while to get ovulation starting again (your hormones sometimes take a while to drop back down to normal) and maybe the body does need a break.

I always figure - why not give it a shot!? (that's me at 42 talking... desperate times and all that!)

sorry, I mean wooly....

Thanks suzy, I was almost 11 weeks. I think DH will put his foot down if we mc again and want to call it a day, so I desperately want it to work next time (as does everyone in this situation I know!) as this will probably be our last attempt.

janie I went to try and sort my cycle out, it was CD75 (about) when I finally went for acupuncture, after having been ignored by the doctor. That was a week ago, AF arrive a couple of days after seeing her. It could be coincidence of course, but I'm going to see her again today and will see if she can now do something to improve chances of ovulating and successful implantation. Irritatingly with acupuncture, you never know if it really worked, only if it doesn't work! I don't think there's a right time to start having it, if I'd known I were likely to have such a crazy WTF cycle I would have gone sooner. Poor you having all those announcements - I can deal at work because it's work, but friends' pregnancies are a totally different kettle of fish! My friend is coming round for coffee this pm, we were 3 weeks apart and she's now 24 weeks pregnant. Going to be hard to see her bump, but she's had her own bad times, she had a stillbirth at term two years ago and a healthy baby since so I guess it's karmic swings and roundabouts...

messtins it's actually easier dealing with the nice normal pregnancies, they give me hope for what could be! Especially when you see in their notes that they've had previous losses but gone on to have a normal pregnancy. The only ones that get me down are the ones who've never had anything but healthy pregnancies and babies, moaning about indigestion or stretchmarks or just being sick of being pregnant. I know I should be professional, but I just want to tell them to shut up and be bloody well grateful!! (I don't. But I would like to )..

woolly I think I posted something on the last thread about this, but there's no evidence that outcomes are worse if you ttc straight away as long as you've been on folic acid at least 3 months - I looked into it very thoroughly! WHO and NHS guidelines (to wait 3 months) are based on absolutely nothing other than them wanting you to have a regular cycle so they can date the pregnancy easily. Go for it!

Hi wooly sorry that you've had to join us here but it is a lovely thread and I think it helps having someone to talk to who has been through similar experiences.

I've been pg twice and mc both times. I had first mc in July and fell pregnant again in September with an af in between. We've ttc immediately after both mcs, once the bleeding has stopped. It just felt like the right thing to do. EPU and Dr said we could start again right away. There is also a study that has shown that if you get pg again in first 6 months after a mc, you are less likely to mc again.