TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

[woody17]

Hi everyone - I've started the new thread as our original one is nearly full.

I really hope that this is the one where we all get our BFPs and don't have to experience any more heartache.

Yes, it is so important to not put life on hold- that's another reason why I have given myself just two more months- I think I could become too obsessed.

After the MC in August, I bought 50 cheap HPT- planning to test every Friday till the HCG was gone, then keep on, every Friday till BFP, but somehow I have peed too often and now only have one left! So I am holding out to POAS, but the ovulation calender says I should have started AF on Wed., now it's Friday- no AF. Little stabs of pain around right ovary..how long should I wait?

Blimey echo! 49 tests since August??? That's pretty impressive!!!!!

Hi echo

When did you last do one?

Hello gang, been a busy bear today (no, I'm not the one with the bad eye, but may have been in the past )

Thundercats had an early mc/cp at 5+2 mid October. First time TTC - overjoyed when we caught first time. Distraught when that didn't pan out. Now gripped by AF pains and just waiting for her to show up. There's absolutely no way it could be pre-pregnancy anymore, tis carbon copy of 'normal', even down to nausea. My body is howling with laughter at me, most unfairly. Yet to see AF's ugly face as it were, and I'm worried that while I'm being calm and strangely detached now, I'll be upset later as memories from last month fly back.

Anyway. That was a bit me me me! Sorry

Pink crash - youch! Blimey, it's all going on. Fx you're on the mend now.

Lol awesome on Iceland, crap re plane poo (ahem) and very bad re raid. Hope all are well.

Messtins Amsterdam sounds fab, so glad you had some couple time. Sounds like you have a wise approach - plus the sod's law element is bound to kick in and send you a happy, healthy baby the minute you make other plans!

Happy Friday everyone else - non-pgers enjoy the tonight and pgers enjoy being pg

Hi all,
wasn't somebody poas today? Hope you had good news!
I'm out of hospital had the ERPC at 9am and finally got out just after 5pm, all went well and they reckon they got everything so that's good.
Very jealous of the trips away messtins and lol I could do with a break but whenever i really think about it it seems too much like hard work (don't fancy sharing a hotel room with DD!).
So, now to wait for my BFN...

Hi thundercats not really a mc from me but 3 chem pregs so GP referred me for recurrent mc. I felt a bit of a fraud coming on this thread but everyone has been so welcoming.

Really sorry you are here.

Evening all.

bear I'm sure your body isn't really laughing at you, it's just trying to get its shit act together to get back on the TTC case. If you're anything like me, it'll be your brain that's causing the trouble, mine is terrible for winding me up.

when, really sorry about the cps- that doesn't make you a fraud at all as I understand it, absolutely horrible horrible to go through once, let alone 3 times. I hope they're helpful at the appointment.

So I have had some and some [wheres the emoticon for takeaway?] and am hoping for looking forward to a long sleep tonight. Have had bad stomach aches and other digestion cramps this evening (sorry if tmi), am assuming it is hormones adjusting or something.

Hi girls!

Well, the witch got me eventually! Knew the b*tch would find me Out for Nov, in for a Christmas BFP. The only Christmas present I'm more likely to get by wearing stockings rather than hanging them by the chimney...

As a side note, because I was always on the pill/implant, this is the first time I've ever, EVER had PMT. And oh my word, I'm a psycho when my own hormones are allowed out to play! Spent yesterday and today crying, sulking, screaming, and convincing myself that my ovaries had spontaneously combusted and would never work again because I was overdue but no BFP. And then AF showed up and made me feel a right numpty . Glad she's here though, at least it looks like the PCOS isn't going to be the issue I thought it would be, at least as far as cycle regularity goes.

Hi thunder sorry you're here xx

Mess Hamsterjam sounds lovely, and as you say there is no such thing as a wasted shag . Good idea making babyfree plans, I realised when I read your post that all my plans have revolved around when I'm likely to be pregnant/have a baby, which I realise is a natz psychotic. Resolving to make plans minus the baby factor so I can look forward to something no matter what!

lol ahahaha I hope you didn't hog the toilet for the whole flight! Enjoy Iceland!

pink hope you're ok after crash!

kittybump glad you're out and all went well, hope you're not waiting long for BFN x

And hello to everyone else, sorry if I missed you - I've given up scrolling up and down and can't remember what everyone's been saying, but hope you're all doing ok xxx

Name changer here (the one who would be having foals).

After getting my scan date through last week, and having to phone them & let them know I'd already told them I've mc-ed...I got a phone call today reminding me of my midwife appointment tomorrow (luckily DH took the call), one more thing & I'm going to complain to PALS or whoever, it's fucking me right off. :(

Echo, when did you last do a test? I'd give it until Monday at the earliest. Fingers crossed for you. x

for yorkshire & bear, sorry your body is laughing at you.
Glad you're out & all went well Kitty, hope you get a bfn soon!

Mess, glad you had a lovely time in Amsterdam & made future plans!

We've got a holiday booked for Sept, so in my mind I really have that set as a date I'd like to be pregnant (but not ready to drop) for! Infact I'd be upset if I weren't pg by then.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend!
Lol, hope your flight wasn't too toilet based.

I was actually laughing at lol's response to my last posting. I did buy 50 tests. I was unhappy with the treatment at my hospital( more of that to follow) but the tests were SO cheap that the control line does not even appear sometimes. I only have one left, unless some are secreted around the place-I had a few storage places-like an alcoholic hiding bottles-and will wait till Monday as thunder has advised to use it.

DH and I planned to go out to dinner tonight, but he thinks we should cancel. The city is full of people protesting. The protests are on because of our local hospital where a woman died when her requests for a termination were not granted. I told him the protesters have a just cause, and are probably peaceful

Cancelling dinner, joining protest

Hi all
Quick hello from Iceland.
Poo update . Not done it on plane (phew) but needed to have a massive poo as soon as got to hotel. Very romantic!!
All seems kind of normal now. Freezing here!!! Off to see northern lights this evening.
Hope everyone is doing ok x

Hope the lights play ball and appear - I'd love to see them one day.

Hi all, been reading back over Iceland, Amsterdam, scans, protestors, poas addiction and massive poos! (Lactulose is your friend, top tip)

I've had a shit week, won't bore you with it but it's been uber stressful. And exacerbated by a sodding plethora of crappy signs of being really run down since the mc. I'm pale, washed out, I have a cold and a cough, I've had two coldsores at once, two mouth ulcers, and a stye in my eye! all those things are going/gone now but I don't think I've ever felt as unattractive as I have this week!

And yet somehow we've dtd twice this week (the bag on my head helped lol) which is a bit naughty as we've only just got a bfn, bleeding has been gone about a week. I don't know if we're "trying" or not, I'm not using the ov sticks, I guess we're just doing what we want and seeing what comes of it. I'm feeling much better about the mc this week, it isn't as raw, I'm not thinking about it half as much and I don't actively feel sad or flat. I suppose the lack of pg hormones is helping with that, I feel ready to try again now.

Kitty how are you doing?

lol congratulations on your poo :) hope you got to see some lights x
echo how was the protest? And well done for joining in, it's 2012 and a woman cannot choose to have an abortion - madness.
james I'm good thanks :) few twinges every now and again and teeny bit of bleeding but all in all good. DH made me a lovely dinner for when I got home and we're having a quiet weekend (translation - no visit from the inlaws!). The nurse who discharged me said no sex for 4 weeks, when you look through this thread (and others) the range of advice we are given after mc is laughable. Still on the fence about whether to try straightaway or not, decided to poas for BFN on 26th as this will be 10 days post ERPC (totally arbitrary amount). Hope you all had a good Saturday x

Morning! Did see some lights but not as defined as I was hoping. Damn BBC for putting images in our mind. We might decide to go again tomorrow as the forecast is clear skies.
Woke up at around 6 as I had a very clear dream of a frer with a bfp!!!!! Gosh that freaked me out!
Have a good Sunday everyone
Ps James good news on the naughty shag. Why not?!!!!

Morning all,

Hi yorkshire, at the stockings analogy (or whatever the right word is...too early for me)

echo, good luck for poas tomorrow.

gary, ouch, that really stings getting those appointment reminders. Very organised booking a holiday for next September though! Where are you off to?

Hi james, sorry you've been feeling so rough. Were you advised a certain amount of time before 'trying' again? My doc said after one cycle but we were thinking of doing the same as you- once the bleeding has stopped just DTD and enjoying it! and seeing what happens.

kitty glad you're feeling alright and are being looked after. Why did the nurse choose 4 weeks I wonder?! Mine just said until the bleeding stops otherwise there's a risk of infection. I poas yesterday hoping like an idiot for bfn but no joy, even on a crappy test.

lol - at least you saw some! Sounds great. well done on the poo too When is poas day for you?

Does lactulose help bloating/trapped wind cramps and discomfort?

Lactulose is just a stool softener, makes it totally comfortable to go. I'm not sure if it would help with trapped wind, I've heard windeze is very good for that though.

The only thing with "shagging at will" (Poor Will) is that I won't know when I'm late, or when to legitimately poas if I do think I may be pregnant again.

Oh ok

Did you get any tell tale symptoms last time you got bfp, james? Mine was sore boobs so I reckon that would be my clue. Otherwise I'd probably just give it a good few weeks since ERPC.

Poor Will indeed. Nobody really deserves to be shagged at. By so many people as well...

what a mental image! Poor will.

To be honest I didn't get many strong symptoms with this last pregnancy as it was a blighted ovum, so I never got any ms or anything. My earliest symptom was feeling a pulse around the womb area when I was lying down on my back quietly. I don't normally get that so I attributed it to increased blood flow and therefore activity down there! Then I had a feeling of fullness/pressure there, and bloody loads of trapped wind, which was nice. I eventually got the occasional stabby pain in my boobs after a few weeks, then they got a bit tender, but then that all wore off again when I got the mc. I did get very tearful and smell sensitive early on, I actually ripped my dp's smelly trainers off and threw them out the front door as the smell was knocking me sick

I did an opk earlier just to know where I stand as we have dtd every day for past 3 days (to be fair we hadn't done it for two months! Not normally this prolific!) the opk had no line at all so I doubt anything will come

er, I don't think anything will come of all the early shagging. Bit of an unfortunate post too soon there!

Well it's good either way then by the sounds of it. Enjoy the shagging and if you get no af (or you see some more shoes flying out of your hand through the front door) for a good few more weeks, test then. And if af does come, that's no bad thing as you'll know where you are then?

I have a new friend. He's called mr deflateze. .

We'll have to rename you thunderpantsarego hope you feel better soon!

Yeah, won't have any idea where we stand for a few weeks but that's ok, it's just nice having a break from worrying about it all.

Yeah, maybe it'll be my pants flying out the door next....hmm nice thought

I hope to join you not literally in not knowing in the next few weeks. Must try to switch brain off and not think too much. At least Cheistmas and new year is a good distraction!

Despite reading all of the above, I can't remember if anyone might be testing about the same time as me? Bout the 25th-ish.. Not very good on my dates.
I say might because I will try not to until a week later, but at least here I can make my confession when I do waste a couple of clear blue digitals long before then.

The stockings thing make me laugh too! Hope everyone's doing ok despite what's being thrown at them. Shoes, pants, stools!