TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

[woody17]

Hi everyone - I've started the new thread as our original one is nearly full.

I really hope that this is the one where we all get our BFPs and don't have to experience any more heartache.

Good luck kitty

Oh, and name changed from HannahJayne -bit more mumsnetty and less spottable IRL since my SIL knows about the mc and is on mn

Hi Girls!

Sorry I've been MIA lately. Hello lots of newbies!

Been having a v tough time at work (evil boss) which has been consuming me. Anyhow DH and I decided to get back TTC as my job hunting is going v slowly and we don't want to delay it anymore. We're taking the 'what will be will be approach'. So CD16 today and having watery CM. No today and usually OV late so fx were in for this month.

Hi almond welcome back!
I'm on 3dpo and seem to be very constipated . Very annoying!

Echo, I'm really sorry to hear you've had to make that decision, fingers tightly crossed for the next two months & I hope that after things end up alright.

Almond, hope work is bearable!

Good luck today Kitty!

Good luck for shagweek posy, we've got a DS free weekend coming up in December so hoping it doesn't coincide with a af!

Good luck testing tomorrow Sally

hope you manage to go soon!

Hi Lol!!! Been thinking of you! Well I should OV next couple if days so we can suffer a bit of the 2ww together! Hate constipation, maybe try some green tea? Sometimes helps...

AWomen thanks. Not really TBH but fingers crossed I get a BFP soon and escape on a very long mat leave!

Thanks horse

Have you been dutifully shaggjng almond?

Thanks brave, yes guilt-free and coffee is definitely an upside!

Almond I hate my job too! Been job hunting months, and each month that goes by that I am not going on maternity leave any time soon doesn't help. That's probably the most depressing part about the no success - I am willing (I suppose) to wait til my body's ready, but I need some way to make my job more bearable! apart constantly being on mumsnet

ps horse we had a DD-free weekend last weekend, and unfortunately ours did coincide with AF! Still managed to get in a cheeky dtd though Nice to have some quality time with your DH to look forward to!

Hi everyone, thanks for all the messages. Well, still in limbo... Had to go in to hospital on Tuesday night to be assured of having a bed for Wesnesday (!) had first lot of tablets at 9.30am then had all 4 other doses at 3 hour intervals and absolutely nothing no bleeding whatsoever. And because the last dose was at 10pm they kept me in again so I am still in hospital :( I'm so fed up, I didn't get to see my little girl at all yesterday and it's the first time I've been away from her. I'm currently waiting to see the doctor to see what she wants to do next. I assumed there would be a scan to check if everything had just cleared up on its own but the junior doctor has told me that the consultant says there is no need for a scan and I will probably go straight to theatre. I'm really not happy about that as I now haven't had any bleeding since Saturday and I think they should check out what is going on before giving me a general anaesthetic! Really do not want to spend another night here. If this ever happens again I will be going straight for ERPC

Kitty sounds utterly rubbish. Sending hugs and hope for something to happen in the right direction soon.

I agree, seems a bit extreme to be put under without a scan first? Have you been able to explain that to them? Everything crossed for you that you get some answers soon - and get home to see your DD soon.

((kitty)), I'm sorry it's such a crappy drawn-out situation you're in right now. Hope the doctor has let you have a scan, and you're not in for another night.
Fingers crossed you get home to your girl soon. xx

posy, af arrived the first day of our honeymoon, and every holiday we've had since then, so I'm assuming she knows when I'm relaxed. Going to try & forget that I have DS free time coming up to trick af into staying away. Ha!

Sympathies to all with shit jobs/bosses. I had to leave my dream job because of my wanker manager. As I think back over it, I wish I whistle blew over what a knob he was but at the time I just didn't have the fight to complain.
Here's to getting a decent job you love soon Almond & posy

lol, how's your bowel today?

Positive OPK's for the last two days here, so we're having a shagtastic time.

Right, now had a scan - still shows remaining tissue so ERPC tomorrow, I think they will let me go home then come back. Waiting to speak with doctor again. Can't wait to go home.
Good luck to all ttc and those poas be it an opk or hpt

Hello everyone,

I wanted to say hi as I don't want to lurk without posting. Had first ever bfp in Sept, but found out we had a mmc at the dating scan. Baby stopped developing at 10 weeks. Had ERPC on Tues. so all pretty new and I am mostly feeling very drained, exhausted actually and rather flat full of self pity but I feel that in time we'll bounce back and are keen to start TTC again soon

I'm sorry to see a few familiar faces in here having had such sad experiences too, but as was pointed out to me by lovely lol, this is a good place to be, with great support and friendly faces.

Anyway I won't witter any more, just wanted to say hi, and send support to all- whatever stage you are at. kitty hope it all goes smoothly tomorrow and they do let you home tonight. Mine was very quick and smooth even though I was dreading it.

Thanks thundercats sorry for your loss, are you waiting foe AF now? I am allowed to go hone :) just waiting to be picked up now, then back tomorrow for 7am! Were you able to go home the same day?

Hi thundercats sorry you had to join us here but you're very welcome. Not just because you have awesome taste in cartoons, either!

I hope you are feeling better soon. Take the time you need to get back on your feet - physically and mentally - and we'll be here throughout.

Kitty great news they're letting you home! Will be thinking of you and your early start tomorrow.

Hi kitty and bear, thanks for the welcomes.

Yes kitty, I had to be in at 8am and I left hospital by half one, and I was the last of the four they did that day. Everyone was lovely, it wasn't scary at all really. The worst bit of it for me was catching too many glimpses of the scan photo that they'd stuck in the file. I didn't need that.

Yes waiting for this bleed to stop and then af.

What stage are you at, bear? Sorry if that's slow on the uptake but all the recent posts of yours I've seen you are just being caring about other people!

Hi thunder

I'm glad you are here with us (not glad on the reason why obviously but u get my point)!
I was about to send you a message asking how everything went. How are you feeling?
Well I'm off to Iceland tomorrow and back on Tuesday.
Bowels worked a bit but not enough so I'm full of shit
Had a most bizarre day. One of the branches I used to manage got raided . Staff in shock etc. I'm really worried about all of them. Nobody hurt but all distressed. Bastards.

Welcome Thunder!

Lol, you know that means you'll need a massive poo on the plane tomorrow? Sexy.
Hope the staff are all ok long term. :(

Kitty, enjoy tonight with your DD & DP, sorry you've got to go back tomorrow.

just starting to think about Christmas here, it's not bloody fair, and I don't really want to celebrate. Going to PIL on the day so MIL can cook whilst I mope & get fat on crap chocolate.

Sorry for the shit times Thunder & Kitty. Hope you are bearing up.

Lol Iceland sounds amazing! V jealous!! We had a break from the DTD but back to shag fest! I'm have EWCM today and we DTD yesterday but no on opk which is weird. Hope ur colleagues are ok.

Posy I feel exactly the same!! I really need that BFP! I went to HR last week as I cracked and don't want to feel forced out. Hopefully that helps in the interim.

Anyone doing anything nice over the weekend??

Hey lol, yeah I'm not too bad, up and down but have managed to force myself out of the pit by being sociable this evening, and it's definitely helped. Wonders though- Iceland?! How wonderful! Northern lights a go-go? Horrible about raid

Hi almond and horse - surely if you're going to get fat on chocolate you should have the good stuff?

at lol having to poo on the plane.

Hi, I've not looked at the thread in ages as we are having a break from ttc till the new year.
Hi to all the newbies, sorry you are here. Hi thundercats really sorry to hear your news.

I have an appointment on 26th Nov re recurrent mc. As I have a dd already the consultant suspects the tests will come back normal and the chem pregs will be unexplained.

Hi when, I didn't realise or had forgotten you have had mc. Nice to see you again but wish it was better circumstances.

How do you feel about the appointment? Would it be good if they did find something wrong so you could know there was some reason behind it, and hopefully find a solution?

hey Fred buddy! Sorry to see you here xx

So, I've not been on here in ages, as after managing to get through mmc and erpc have also been in car crash. Urgh! All okay and has been the (unwanted) distraction I was looking for, but started thinking about getting back to TTC now.

So, was wondering if I could throw out way tmi for someone to advise please? After erpc, I had bleeding for about 2 weeks. That stopped, and earliest af should be due is next week, but started having spotting again. Does anyone know, is this okay or should I be worried? Thank you, wasn't sure where else to go to ask!!

Finger crossing for all those in or starting 2ww, hopefully will be there in a few weeks too! Also, über jels of lol off to Iceland, lucky thing!

Hi pink
I'm not sure re spotting but I suspect it might be ok. From what I gather everyone is different and all sorts of things can happen. I think if af comes early that's a good thing! Are u starting straight away?
Travel this lunch time. Very excited now!!!!

Hi everyone - have been away to Amsterdam with DH for a couple of days so just trying to catch up. Hello, welcome and sorry you are here to thundercat. Pink hope you are ok after crash, and I wouldn't worry about spotting in a WTF cycle if you feel otherwise well, hormones will be all over the place.
Lol have a fab time!

Had a great few days in Amsterdam though it already feels totally surreal as I'm back at work today. Not great timing wrt TTC but nice to have some couple time nevertheless. Practice makes perfect . We also had time to talk about future plans, so have made some plans for next year that do not include a new baby, if there is one then we'll be delighted to shelve them, but I'm trying not to put life on hold in case it never happens.