TTC after recent mc - Thread 2

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Hi everyone - I've started the new thread as our original one is nearly full.

I really hope that this is the one where we all get our BFPs and don't have to experience any more heartache.

We love Room on the Broom. DS2 was wittering on about a "whoosh in the window" for ages and I couldn't figure out what he was on about. Eventually worked out it was the Halloween witch in the sweet shop - "the witch tapped her broomstick and whoosh they were gone" so whoosh=witch.
Tough situation babyjames. So hard to hear about unwanted babies when it's all you want. Hope you are ok.

Anyone else who has been caught by the witch (or perhaps that should be "the whoosh") joining me for a tonight? And why is there not a emoticon?

Sorry for everyone who's been visited by the witch. Considering poas myself later to see if I get a BFN - some indication of what my scan will show tomorrow, i'm rather despondent about it and think they'll say that it's still not clear. If you have a ERPC does that mean you can't ttc for a while?

and messtins no AF for me obviously but I'll join you in a :)

no in the house :( I have chocolate though so all is not lost!
FX all is clear 2mor Kittybump

Just checking in with you all as MN has chucked me off the 'threads you're on'!

Hi to all the new faces (names..) so sorry you're all here. I'll go back and catch up on all your stories in a bit x

baby, messtins, posy, betty and munchin sorry that the witch got you . FX for you all for December! I think I'm going to poas on Tuesday if she hasn't got me too, but not holding out much hope so expect I'll be joining you in the Dec 2ww. Symptom spotting is rubbish when I'm so symptom free that I can't even imagine any!

kittybump hope scan goes as well as it can tomorrow

lol that's bloody hard. I hope your friend is understanding if you feel you can't cope.

Messtins to you and all fellow ladies caught by the whoosh !!!

That must have been hard babyjames trying to be objective and its all you want.

Hope scan is clear kitty bump. I had an erpc and was told your good to go once bleeding has stopped. But hopefully you won't need it.

Peanut sometimes it's the time you have no symptoms that you get pg. fx.

KittyBump - I was also told after my ERPC that I could try as soon the bleeding had stopped... so we did. And the ERPC genuinely wasn't too bad for me physically - not too much pain/bleeding etc. FX the scan goes ok though and you don't need one.

to all the ladies that the witch got. I had a small glass myself last night despite 2ww - DH disapproved because he's convinced I'm pregnant. I am not so sure, but we'll see.

Good luck at the scan today KittyBump.

Sallys, hope your DH is right!

to all those currently being visited by the witch, fingers crossed for everyone in the 2ww.

Hope everyone has a good weekend, anything exciting planned?

Good luck KittyBump

Sallys when are you due to POAS? I'm in the 2ww too, T-Nov 18th. And I bet you enjoyed that glass I may have had a couple of glasses in the last week myself... but am only in week 1 so refuse to feel guilty. Is that really bad of me?!

Horse quiet weekend for me, have DSS staying tonight, which is always fun. May feed squirrels in park tomorrow if not too cold

What's everyone else up to?

Do you know that "exercise" to relieve stress, where one lies back and thinks of their toes, really concentrating on making them relaxed, then the foot, (focusing totally on nice, stress-free relaxed foot), then the ankle (completely absorbed by thoughts of calm, relaxed, ankle), the calf (100% experiencing loose, not clenched, soft calf), the thigh ( mindully concentrating on the floppy, loose, stress-less thigh), ect...sometimes with relaxing music in the background, sometimes with a nicely scented candle or oil burning? I swear I have started doing that for symptoms- lying back- do my toes feel pregnant (no...), do my feet (no...), do my ankles (no, and some women do have symptoms in their ankles- like Sybil in Downton), do my legs (no....) and upward....the only thing I feel is some twinges on the lower right hand side and I think this may be a UTI, not pg.... Obsessing, much?

Ah echo thanks for reminding me about that relaxation exercise I might try that! I never had many pg symptoms with my pg that resulted In DD or my mc; hope you don't go to crazy from symptom spotting :)
Well the news from my scan is crap - still the same as last week. I got really upset though it wasn't too surprising as I did a hpt this morning and it was very positive. they've sent me away for the weekend to decide what I want to do, I think I'm going to try the taking the tablets option. Good luck for anyone testing soon x

Sorry to hear that, Kitty. I had medical management for my recent miscarriage. "Taking some tablets" is another of their little euphemisms - you need to insert them up near your cervix with a tampon, 24 hours apart. I did the first one in hospital and they monitor you for an hour or so then did the second one myself at home. I had quite painful contractions so I'd ask for some more hefty painkillers because paracetamol did not cut the mustard (and I've had 2 children with just G+A). It did get rid of my retained products though - I was rescanned about 4 days later and got the all clear. It did take 3 weeks after that for my HPT to be negative though....

Sorry your scan was rubbish, Kitty. Hope whatever you decide to do is as gentle on you as it can be.

BraveLilBear I suspect I will break down and poas on Monday - I will be 10 dpo then which is probably a bit early to test, but I have had a fairly short LP so I would be expecting AF then anyway... unless the mc has changed my cycles.

Just received my 12 week scan date info through the post, phoned them up & they were very sorry that no one had noted that I phoned & told them, but it's still made me feel like utter shit. :(

Sallys, I use the internet cheapy tests & got my faint mc bfp at 9dpo so fingers crossed Monday brings good news!

Brave, ooh squirrel feeding, our weekend will be very similar to yours! We've had crap/busy few weeks so looking forward to just doing nothing.

Sorry your scan was rubbish Kittybump, hope you have a nice relaxing weekend & are able to get a negative hpt asap. x

Thank you horse! The scan thing is just horrible, so sorry. I try as hard as I can to forget about how far along I would have been, it's really hard to have reminders like that.

Oh Horse that's terrible! I'm so sorry they did that .

At least they had the decency to apologise.

Hope the squirrels/general other (friendly) wildlife, cheer you up a bit.

Thanks for all the condolences and sorry for your crap time horse what a fuck up - i'm glad they apologised.
I'm definitely thinking medical management is the option for me (assuming it doesn't all kick off over the weekend). Thanks for the warning messtins it sounds so much more dignified in the leaflet! Did you go for tablet straight away or further down the process? I can just imagine that I will take weeks to get a BFN too after how long my natural mc has taken! Maybe if I just think I won't be ttc till the new year it'll be easier to deal with.
Hope you all have a lovely Friday evening

I kep thinking of those of you who are in the limbo-land of waiting for an MC to finish- I feel really sad thinking about that time- ruined my already soggy summer. You are so brave to be planning TTC. I hope thinking of the future makes the present more bearable.

Had a lovely- ish Friday evening. The five star spa down the road is so desperate for business that they are selling monthly memberships, for the cost of a massage. People who avail of the offer can use the facilities: showers, sauna, turkish hamman (sorry that is def the wrong spelling), vitality pool, heated stone loungers, relaxtion area with herbal teas and all the latest magazines. So I got a membership and spent TWO hours there. But when I was reading the magazines, a little local publication was there and it had a really sad article about a child with a rare form of cancer, so I was bawling away in the luxury bathrobes, on the special relaxing bed, surrounded by all the lovely candles and water features, trying to hide my tears from the five star guests who probably paid a lot more than I did.

Hi, I haven't been around much, nothing to add really. I mc'ed properly last weekend, lost the sac on Monday, the bleeding has tailed off to almost nothing now, but still getting a big strong line when I poas so I must still have quite high levels of hcg. I'll do another test next Friday, hopefully the line will be fainter. Keep feeling upset even though I pretty much know that it was a blighted ovum so no real "baby" there to mourn, I'm still sad, and having flashbacks to seeing the miscarriage "products" etc every few minutes. I know it'll get better but right now this is shit. I told mil that I was still getting a bfp and she said "we'll you probably haven't lost it then!" All hopeful, and I had to tell her that I'd held the sac in my hand, there was no way it was still there. It got me all upset, I've had to tell a few people this week that I've lost it, and be all bright and cheery and "oh well, we can try again!" When really I just want to be sad and not have to care about their sodding feelings.

Sorry for the rant! Hopefully in a couple of weeks I should get a bfn, maybe af, and then be able to join in this thread properly.

Oh James it is shit, don't apologise for feeling bad. Mine was the same, blighted ovum too and the fact there wasn't a baby has helped me a lot but it doesn't stop the sadness about the 'mental baby' you had (can't think of a better way to put that sorry!). I had to talk about it to my GP yesterday and I just broke down even though most of the time I'm ok.
My MIL doesn't even talk to me about it - I know she cares as I've heard her asking DH how I'm doing when she phones but doesn't even manage a general 'how are you?' when she sees me. At least once you've had the cheery 'we'll try again' chat with people they will probably never mention it again!
Do you have to go back for another scan?

Thanks kitty, I haven't got another scan booked but I'm thinking about booking one just to check it's all gone, I want to move on from this!

Anyway, sorry for being a downer, good luck to everyone ttc or in the tww, I hope to be joining you soon!

James I think it's definitely worth booking another scan. Just for your own peace of mind. It's also a line in the sand, that's it's 'over' (from a clinical point at least).

Kitty hope this week you get to move forward a bit and that you're managing to relax.

Hi all
James I believe there is something to mourn anyway as in your heart it was a baby. I had a PUL and there were times I thought the pg was only real in my head but I still had to mourn my baby if u see what I mean.
Well I got a smiley yesterday and had DTD night before and then amazingly did it again yesterday! We never do it everyday. Today DH is hungover so prob no chance of it happening again. I'm quietly hopeful. What do u all think!?

Lol in October I got a smiley and that month only DtD that day (well, twice - turns out DH likes gadgety sciencey TTC) and fell pg. keep it up for the next couple of days